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Offlinedumlovesyou
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Why first love?
    #1490118 - 04/24/03 05:39 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Everybody says first love you never forget. I start thinking that it is so. I can't really figure out why.
I guess you always remember your first trip, your first day of school, your first kiss or something, first time of having sex.
My dilema is why(at least I) are we so addicted to the first person we fall in love? It's been so long(2 years) since I broke up with that girl, but I still have it in my mind. The thought of her, just can't get out. Can any experinced guy answer this? Thanks in advance!


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Re: Why first love? [Re: dumlovesyou]
    #1490243 - 04/24/03 06:19 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

First loves are very difficult to let go of. It's often very hard to let go of something you have invested so much time in at a young age... I'm assuming your first love was at a young age. Your first love will be the measuring stick for all future relationships until the day you find someone who you have a love for that eclipes your first love. As you get older, you will find it easier to not linger on things of the past. As long as you linger on past romances you're just basically standing still.

Anyhow, years down the road, when you find a woman and fall in love and your past romances are all but forgotten, you will still have a special place in your heart for your first love. She marks the moment in your life in which you realized that there was just so much more to life.

Occasionally I run into my "first love." I have no romantic intrest in her, I am happily engaged to a woman I love more deeply then I ever loved her. But for some reason, when I see her, she take's my breathe away. I can't help thinking about all our memories and all the emotions I first experienced with her. But, she will never mean more to me then that... just a bundle of special memories.


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Re: Why first love? [Re: djd586]
    #1491441 - 04/25/03 12:49 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Wise words. That pretty much captures anything I would have posted. In a few years from now, despite the pain (it fucking sucks!), you will be much wiser and view this as a tremendous learning experience. Wisdom... now that's something to look forward to!


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Re: Why first love? [Re: djd586]
    #1492110 - 04/25/03 06:58 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Thanks for your words. Seems like I must get over it. :smile:
I was young and I still am, :laugh: But 2 years have passed.. and it's still like few weeks. :smile:


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Re: Why first love? [Re: dumlovesyou]
    #1492114 - 04/25/03 07:04 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Whatever shoking expirience you have for the first time it leave an imprint in your brain.


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Re: Why first love? [Re: cleaner]
    #1492216 - 04/25/03 09:14 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

I fell in love for the first time when I was 14 years old.. 7 years later me and the girl still talk, and every once in a while we'll get together and just snuggle up and watch a movie... It's really nice...
We still tell each other we love each other, even though we hardley ever see each other, in fact, sometimes we won't talk for months at a time, but this girl will always have a special place in my heart..


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Re: Why first love? [Re: nubious]
    #1492367 - 04/25/03 10:32 AM (14 years, 4 months ago)

Well, 1st of all , I'm a female, but I must add that I feel exactly the same, which means its really not a matter of gender.
Now, my 1st serious relationship, was also my 1st love and my 1st sexual experience, and this guy was older than me in 5 years, ( I was 17 and he was 22 when we started dating).

I fell inlove with him with all my heart, and I still love him today, although Im also inlove with another fella. its just that this emotion towars this guy, will never dissapear and I guess I will always have room for him in my heart. Yet I know for sure that I dont want him anymore, he doesnt even attract me that much nowdays. but I sure hope I'll be able to have that strong emotions for some1 in the future like ive felt towars him.
(im inlove now, but this love will never reach the legs of that 1st pure and strong love).


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Re: Why first love? [Re: Loriiii]
    #1493719 - 04/25/03 05:18 PM (14 years, 4 months ago)

  Now, that we are in the Philosophy forum, may I ask if there are certain substances in our brain that are used in such a manner(for the first time) that they are depleted? I mean, some kind of ireversible reaction? :laugh:


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Re: Why first love? [Re: dumlovesyou]
    #1495012 - 04/26/03 03:11 AM (14 years, 3 months ago)

I'm almost 20 and I've never been in love. I don't get it and am really struggling with that fact (and myself). Pain or no pain, "its better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all".

Bone-R


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Re: Why first love? [Re: TheDude]
    #1495855 - 04/26/03 02:38 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

love is probably the most formidable thing i have ever encountered in my 18 some odd years. i am in it right now (my first), and have been for over a year now. it is extremely frightening to be young, and yet have someone who you feel so much for, and that you know feels the same way toward you. whatever may happen, i know i will never be able to forget this girl for as long as I live.

i think it's natural for us to cling to our firsts....especially when they feel so right. i guess we have to just learn to move on once it ends (if it ends). it could take years to do that - and that's ok as long as you're not totally depressed or anything. remember it for what it was worth - and that's a lot - and move on to other and hopefully better things. *so much easier said than done....good luck, chap


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