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AsAboveSoBelow
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BDSM
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i think I want to experiment with this a bit.. ive thought about it for awhile but wasn't sure if i'd like it or not. this girl on okcupid sent me a message saying she wanted to "beat me up" with whips and things, and then she'd let me fuck her afterwards
Regular sex gets so dull after awhile.. its like I need some kind of stimuli like weed to even enjoy myself anymore. I like the teasing aspect of bdsm where you're held back until she demands that you fuck her
i havent seen many bdsm posts here. anyone do it before ?
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Not so much, but I'd probably be open to it, given teh invitation from my girl.
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koraks
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Wiccan_Seeker is into it, me as well, and some others.
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SillyMe
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Re: BDSM [Re: koraks]
#14890374 - 08/08/11 01:36 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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I enjoy it but I'm a sub so beating some guy wouldn't do a darn thing for me although I am probably capable of it if requested. For me, the act of it, as a sub, has as much to do with trust and it does sexual pleasure - and the trust allows me to more fully enjoy the pleasure. That and I like the feel of leather and being restrained.
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bdsm gets the
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brerfox
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im into light bdsm. dont think id enjoy the rough stuff. but i always say try anything once. if you dont like it dont do it again.
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Honestly, I get totally turned on being beaten, whipped, spanked by a hot dominatrix.
Doesnt even need to be a dom. Just any woman that I am initially attracted to.
Be safe tho. Have a safety word. And make sure you trust her. Wouldnt wanna be yelling the safety word and her continuing.....well, maybe. I dont think I'd mind it. LOL
But yeah. Totally fucking awesome.
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PsychoKinesiS
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I'm into some sick perverted shit. I also like heavy bondage and gags.
The only problem with this is you really have to trust someone. It only takes one psycho and you're done...
I've heard total sensory deprivation can make you hallucinate like psychedelics.
The first rave I ever went to had a dom in the side room electrocuting his sub girl during the entire rave and then he continued afterwords in a basement at an afterparty.
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Quote:
brerfox said: i always say try anything once. if you dont like it dont do it again.
This. I'd definitely give it a try if my boyfriend was into it.
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PorcupinesRevenge
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I think some light bdsm could be fun, never tried it though. I think I'd be sub, cause it seems like you'd need a forcefull personality to be dom.
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PsychoKinesiS said: The first rave I ever went to had a dom in the side room electrocuting his sub girl during the entire rave and then he continued afterwords in a basement at an afterparty.
Did she like it?
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Yes. She kept moaning like she was having an orgasm every time he did it all night. She was nuts.
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I enjoy light bondage, ie hang cuffs, soft bed restraints... Discipline is great in roll play, I enjoy it and it brings out the rest in me Choking, spanking, face slapping. Nothing too brutal just light play and it makes for good passion
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its awesome. im not rly one for getting whipped, or tied down but just plain hurting eachother during sex i enjoy very much. imo try it and if u dont like it dont do it again simple as tht u got nothing to lose, u cud only gain stds and tht wud happen whether ur being kinky or not
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Re: BDSM [Re: jebre]
#14912113 - 08/12/11 04:17 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Id try it, but haven't had any freaky partners.
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My current girl is way into it. (She's the sub.) I have to admit it's pretty fun. Whipping, choking, spanking, hot wax, you name it.
Trust is paramount though. I don't think I'd do it with some random girl.
And regular sex is usually good enough for me. I just know that being a little rougher with her turns her on even more.
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I am much more of a sadist. I dont like recieving pain but I do get off choking girls and restraining them. IM A MONSTER!
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millzy


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i'm far from vanilla, but do not fall into the conventional bdsm category. i have my fair share of kinks but am not into the whole leather and chains thing. i say try it out and see if you like it. you don't have to do it again if you don't and you can always tell her to stop.
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Re: BDSM [Re: millzy]
#14919579 - 08/14/11 07:28 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Agreed^ it can't hurt... Unless you want it to
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Beanhead
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Haven't done much else but slight bondage and roleplaying but oh does it add to the fun . Haven't met many girls whom want to though; perhaps I haven't been looking enough . Start working out again if you feel that your libido has been dulled; cut back on the weed smoking.
I'd say start experimenting but if you really want to go deep into BDSM then find someone who you can trust.
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I don't like to mix sex and violence.
maybe it has something to do with being tied up and sexually abused by my baby sitter when I was 5.
But yeah, ropes and handcuffs and shit make me totally limp. Even with someone I trust totally. Wet noodle extravaganza.
Regular sex.... dull???
I don't know what kind of sex you are having but mine is totally fucking awesome, no whips or restraints needed.
If my girl wants to try something though I'll try anything pretty much
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Shroomism said: I don't like to mix sex and violence.
maybe it has something to do with being tied up and sexually abused by my baby sitter when I was 5.
But yeah, ropes and handcuffs and shit make me totally limp. Even with someone I trust totally. Wet noodle extravaganza.
Regular sex.... dull???
I don't know what kind of sex you are having but mine is totally fucking awesome, no whips or restraints needed.
If my girl wants to try something though I'll try anything pretty much
I'm with you on this one. It just does not compute. I absofuckinglutely would never want to be restrained. No no no. Maybe I need someone to do it right but the idea of giving up control in sex just freaks me out.
None of the posts here even address what the turn on is. Maybe they aren't sure. I think I could be a sadist and that makes me afraid of going that way. So why do I want to "pretend" to go that way when in fact the choking etc. is LONG there IMO.
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Quote:
LunarEclipse said: None of the posts here even address what the turn on is. Maybe they aren't sure.
I think many are indeed not sure (yet), but I can assure you speaking of 'the' turn on is completely missing the point. There is not one turn on. There's many, and each person has his/her own combination of buttons he/she responds well too. For some people, some of those buttons are associated with the complex of behaviors that we label 'bdsm', but in reality, there's just a shitload of weird stuff that people like to do with/to each other, and some are part of that abstract blob called bdsm, while the rest is categorized differently. But things that tend to pop up often in discussions on what people like in bdsm are domination, submission, pain (inflicting or receiving), the loss or exercise of mental or physical control, the visual aspect of things, etc. The list of things that people like is very long, and the list of things that people do with/to each other is even longer, and the combination of both forms a nearly limitless gamut of sexual identities that often isn't even static within one individual. So attempts to get a clear picture of what 'the bdsm aficionado likes' are pointless to begin with - it's different for everyone.
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Re: BDSM [Re: koraks]
#14925245 - 08/15/11 10:37 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Well OK that's pretty abstract but thanks for explaining. The visual part I would definitely relate to. Perhaps the "problem" is that this whole scene is one that you don't just break into. If my last "GF" the sex addict handcuff girl and I had the least bit of real chemistry maybe I would be getting cuffed spanked raped and whatever else is really on her mind. Still some of the frigid stuff and the cruel mental aspects of her would never allow me to overcome that reality. To get into BDSM would heighten that cruelty but I can't imagine how it would be in a good way. Well I can sort of imagine but one certainly would have to trust someone at least I would to even consider handcuffs on me. Ha ha no way with this last one. I'd be getting it anally and screaming the stop word and she would be cupping and ear and mouthing "what?"
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millzy


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i'm not into pain, bondage or anything like that but am very much into bdsm. it's not all whips and chains and leather. personally i think that's more of a fashion statement than anything.
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koraks
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Re: BDSM [Re: millzy]
#14930301 - 08/16/11 07:43 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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millzy said: personally i think that's more of a fashion statement than anything.
I'm afraid a large part of the bdsm community disagrees with you on that, but if anything, you nicely illustrate the fact that everyone gets something else out of bdsm. But I don't think there are many people in the bdsm community who are not into pain or bondage. I mean, that's a bit of the essence, isn't it?
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Re: BDSM [Re: koraks]
#14930324 - 08/16/11 07:50 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said:
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millzy said: personally i think that's more of a fashion statement than anything.
I'm afraid a large part of the bdsm community disagrees with you on that, but if anything, you nicely illustrate the fact that everyone gets something else out of bdsm. But I don't think there are many people in the bdsm community who are not into pain or bondage. I mean, that's a bit of the essence, isn't it?
i am far too good at inflicting mental pain on myself and others to even consider doing it in a physical way
kidding sort of but not really why make abuse into more of a ritual than it already is?
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koraks
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I wouldn't call the inflicting of pain in a bdsm setting 'abuse' - and I think the ritual is an important aspect for many people. Sure, some people enjoy casual bdsm just like other people enjoy casual sex or a quickie, but elaborate play appears to be a turn-on for many. The anticipation, the slow buildup, the attention you get from/give to the other person.
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Re: BDSM [Re: koraks]
#14932438 - 08/16/11 03:45 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said: I wouldn't call the inflicting of pain in a bdsm setting 'abuse' - and I think the ritual is an important aspect for many people. Sure, some people enjoy casual bdsm just like other people enjoy casual sex or a quickie, but elaborate play appears to be a turn-on for many. The anticipation, the slow buildup, the attention you get from/give to the other person.
Well maybe abuse was a poor choice of words. It has some of the same dynamics though. I am not a huge fan of codependency which is what I see BDSM as having at it's core. But to each his own and the play part and the dress up and even the pain I can see it for sure as being fine until someone gets hurt...
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koraks
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I don't think there's more codependency in bdsm than in any other form of sex, to be honest And people do get hurt sometimes...I only see a problem there if the people involved don't want to get hurt. If they do, well...mission accomplished.
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Re: BDSM [Re: koraks]
#14940897 - 08/18/11 04:49 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Never actually been able to try it, but I'm totally turned on by it. I'd go for it.
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Re: BDSM [Re: koraks]
#14941289 - 08/18/11 08:11 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said: The anticipation, the slow buildup, the attention you get from/give to the other person.
Yes, this exactly.
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i love it when my boyfriend smacks me around a little its hot!!
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I am also a sub in my relationship. Just the thought of him slapping my ass or using a flogger on me turns me on so much. I honestly think the teasing is the best part because once we actually get down to business, it makes EVERYTHING better.
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4year bump.
This demands punishment  (can I get some? )
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