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Wise Toad


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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14763683 - 07/13/11 05:09 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Productive how?
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Wise Toad]
#14764038 - 07/13/11 06:20 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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I can tell you that I have experienced romance even though it's rare. Just as rare as UPS woman showing up and fucking your brains out.
I wouldn't call them unrealistic unless you have no hope or desire or actively trying to achieve either or. They are just rare and for the lucky.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Wise Toad]
#14764205 - 07/13/11 06:49 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Productive like school. I discovered something else after the split...once I didnt have a reason to go home, I found myself hanging out at work a lot more. More or less just for something to do. Trying to keep busy and not mope. My income went waaay up.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14764534 - 07/13/11 07:55 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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I_was_the_walrus said: Productive like school. I discovered something else after the split...once I didnt have a reason to go home, I found myself hanging out at work a lot more. More or less just for something to do. Trying to keep busy and not mope. My income went waaay up.
Sounds like you should have hung out at work more before the split....
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: greys]
#14765037 - 07/13/11 09:40 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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I agree to a point that the disney vision of romance stirs up a LOT of shit, many of my clients come in spouting off about how it should have been versus the humdrum-ness of how reality bites them in the ass. But there is also the flip-side of how once settling down, they thought their mate would let their freak out and get their freak on. I recommend seeing a middle ground of it and discussing expectations with the partner before getting really serious. Also, as others said, don't treat a relationship as a token reward system; because no matter what, you will always give more into a relationship than you subjectively see coming out of it. This of course isn't an invitation to get abused, but stopping the tit-for-tat arguments with most clients is half my battle on why they're on the couch in the first place. Working on seeing each other in the middle and keeping communication about it (no matter how embarrassing) is more key for it than comparing what is going on to what is being portrayed by the media.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: XUL]
#14765062 - 07/13/11 09:44 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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XUL said: I think it depends on the person brah.
My ex was amazing. We had kinky freaky sex all the time and we cuddled and spent so many great times in eachothers company. I fucking loved it dog. I loved cuddling her and staring into eachothers eyes for 20 minutes straight. Holding hands every second of the night when we were sleeping. Smiling and giggling with eachother when there was nothing we should have been giggling about. Taking interest in her girly interests and when she took interest in my hobbies and activites too. That was true love mang.
Too bad it didnt last. 
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Wise Toad


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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Solemente]
#14765146 - 07/13/11 09:57 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Time to sodomize my vast imagination
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Wise Toad]
#14765180 - 07/13/11 10:03 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Wise Toad said: Time to sodomize my vast imagination
Better put a porno track on with that.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: naturesrevolt]
#14765262 - 07/13/11 10:20 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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You bet I will
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Wise Toad]
#14765671 - 07/13/11 11:38 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Women are greedy, materialistic prostitutes.
The sooner you come to accept this, the sooner you can live in the real world and be happy.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Anonymous #2]
#14765725 - 07/13/11 11:50 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Idk, what you are talking about is an ideal. Porn is some odd sense is an idealization of male sex fantasies. Likewise, romance, as portrayed in movies etc is an idealization of romance. With that being said I disagree with you. I think intese romance exists. I am extremely romantic and I like it. I just don't live in a movie...
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14765732 - 07/13/11 11:52 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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You know, these fantasies don't always divide so neatly along gender lines. There are plenty of women who are into kinky, nasty sex, and plenty of guys who are into cuddly, chivalrous, sweep-them-off-their-feet romance. I definitely fit into the latter category. I've written love songs, bought flowers, cuddled all night long, and enjoyed all of it. So before you tell women that these fantasies are unrealistic, I'd rather they be introduced to guys like me first.
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Wise Toad


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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Silversoul]
#14767002 - 07/14/11 09:53 AM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Silversoul said: You know, these fantasies don't always divide so neatly along gender lines. There are plenty of women who are into kinky, nasty sex, and plenty of guys who are into cuddly, chivalrous, sweep-them-off-their-feet romance. I definitely fit into the latter category. I've written love songs, bought flowers, cuddled all night long, and enjoyed all of it. So before you tell women that these fantasies are unrealistic, I'd rather they be introduced to guys like me first.
once upon a time I was into all of that romance, then it became all about the sex, and finally I just lost interest.
You make some very good points silversoul, its not black and white.
A lot of things can get in the way of a successful relationship beyond the two preferences just discussed, shit can get too complicated too quickly with: friends, drug preferences, work, school, money, interests, lifestyle, marriage, pregnancy, and many other complex choices
I hope to forever avoid them all, not to run away but to find an alternative. I dont want to bring any kids into this hell(my perspective) and I dont want to deal with others on an everyday basis. I spend my time in a psychedelia of sorts and wait for the future, either to be killed by the nightmare that awaits us or to be saved by a technological revolution.
If I can make it that far I will lucid dream for the rest of my days, however long I can extend them
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Wise Toad]
#14767339 - 07/14/11 11:19 AM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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i agree dude, there's definitely gotta be a balance between dirty hot sex and cuddling.
dirty hot sex and THEN cuddling is a nice compromise
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: TigerShark]
#14769156 - 07/14/11 06:43 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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I disagree. I'm a hopeless romantic looking for that one girl who likes drugs and a dude to treat her right.
I found one, but she had two kids by the age of 19. She was probably halfway legit, but the other half is probably just wanting my money or weed.
I find that compromise, balance, and good communication are all necessary. Things like I wanna have sex with my girl, probably once a day. That doesn't mean I'm going to forget about it. I'm probably gonna make it extra special, and go down on her for a long time. Or if she doesn't want extra sexual attention, I'll give it to her elsewhere. Want me to cook a meal? Clean up the house a bit? I have no problem compromising.
I have a problem with finding a girl who doesn't eventually just turn out to be a using bitch. They seem so legit, but maybe I treat them too right. It seems that greed takes over, or something. They just lose sight or never pick up on the love and passion.
Its probably me projecting passion. I'm sure its really just some bomb sex where I, in my head, imagine she's feeling the same way. Sex isn't just sex to me. I make love, I don't have sex.
I'm such a hopeless romantic its sickening.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Joolz]
#14769246 - 07/14/11 07:02 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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You can be a romantic without being stepped on. It involves making a firm stand on not bowing down in complete servitude to your potential mate (which happens alot to romantic people and that's how they end up getting screwed over so much).
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: naturesrevolt]
#14769265 - 07/14/11 07:06 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Oh, I understand this now. I have read a lot since my last relationship, trust me. Its been over a year now of trolololololoing the shroomery, and some of the girl's in Sex and Relations forums have made some damn fine contributions.
I still treat girls ridiculously nice, but I have since understood that you are never to stop standing on your own two feet. I appreciate the thought, really, I do. I just wish I could remember who wrote those fantastic posts about girls and their "shit tests" and such.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Joolz]
#14769290 - 07/14/11 07:13 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Sure, and theres women who dont like sappy love poems and shmooing, and just like freaky sex. They exist, but the balance is not in my favor.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14769345 - 07/14/11 07:28 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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I'm not talking about love poems. I'm just talking about being conscious of your girl and continually doing things for her because you want to.
I find that with the right girl, I'll literally do everything in my power to make sure she feels wanted and loved. But, as I said, I now know some bad signs to watch for thanks to the lovely ladies on this board.
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