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I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn 1
#14762640 - 07/13/11 01:39 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Ive heard a milion times that porn is just a male fantasy. Its unrealistic. I think the same thing when a woman talks about romance. Their perfect relationship filled with chivalry and shmoo shmoo cuddle time. Its the opposite end of the male fantasy, when in reality a normal healthy relationship lies somewhere in the middle. Its a little give and take.
My argument, is as a male, I currently feel the balance is unfair. For all the shmoo shmoo cuddle bs Ive put in, I feel I havent gotten my fair share of slutty sex in return. You women are slacking.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: I_was_the_walrus] 1
#14762700 - 07/13/11 01:47 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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loll
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Gotlib]
#14762707 - 07/13/11 01:49 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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I CONCUR.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14762731 - 07/13/11 01:52 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Its like the opposite with my girlfriend. all she wants is sex but hates the relationship part of it, which is what I want
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14762785 - 07/13/11 02:04 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Sex is fun but dont let it dominate your conciousness.
listen to yourself... You feel as though you been cheated out of something, as if your relationship is unfair.
Sounds like you dont really love your other, but instead just like her around for your sensual pleasures and security.
Love is not you put so many tokens in and then you get a prize that makes you happy.
This is a illusion and you will never get the prize your looking for, and you will always feel as though you've never, to quote yourself "gotten my fair share"
dont have expectaions they only lead to unhappyness.
The male body is full of hormones but don't let them get the best of you.
Or this relationship will fail, and you'll wonder why
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: sk8fast] 1
#14762791 - 07/13/11 02:05 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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its teh whole princess, im better than you, im a model BS culture that has come around since disney in the 50's.
get a job, i dont care. just dont fucking expect me to follow you around like a fucking dog and worship you. 1/2 of over-expectant wanabee princesses couldn;t even graduate high school, let alone complete a college course and get a degree.
they have to stop smoking the disney crackpipe and come back down to earth.
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i don't agree. porn is a fantasy sure... but why? that shit is hollow and deprived.
romance... a woman's fantasy? not IMO....
i think this to is a man's fantasy. a much nicer one that the former, but a fantasy none the less.
i believe men look at women more so for the companionship and love that we believe may come from being with one. i believe women look at men it terms of the gains they will receive. for women that may be social, financial, reproductive, or perhaps all of the above.
perhaps i'm jaded.
i'm having a hard time respecting women at this point in my life. perhaps it'll pass.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: dummy]
#14763179 - 07/13/11 03:13 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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I think it depends on the person brah.
My ex was amazing. We had kinky freaky sex all the time and we cuddled and spent so many great times in eachothers company. I fucking loved it dog. I loved cuddling her and staring into eachothers eyes for 20 minutes straight. Holding hands every second of the night when we were sleeping. Smiling and giggling with eachother when there was nothing we should have been giggling about. Taking interest in her girly interests and when she took interest in my hobbies and activites too. That was true love mang.
Too bad it didnt last.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: XUL]
#14763269 - 07/13/11 03:33 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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yeah i've been there... i still see it as a business arrangement. i don't believe women really have hearts.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: dummy]
#14763306 - 07/13/11 03:42 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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dummy said: yeah i've been there... i still see it as a business arrangement. i don't believe women really have hearts.
I can understand why you would say that. I am kind of on the fence with that one. I know they can be heartless. Convince you to open up and that love is real, then BAM, break the same heart they opened up and leave you for another. Then on the other hand.. I do believe there is love that lasts. Finding that love and the right girl is the hard part.
In my most recent relationship I just made sure not to give my heart away. That way it can not be hurt. Thats my way of dealing with it.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: XUL]
#14763351 - 07/13/11 03:54 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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i've been considering that approach. it seems so very unfulfilling. perhaps on the next one when it comes up...
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: dummy]
#14763395 - 07/13/11 04:04 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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I agree walrus
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: dummy]
#14763454 - 07/13/11 04:16 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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dummy said: i've been considering that approach. it seems so very unfulfilling. perhaps on the next one when it comes up...
I agree too. But I am torn when it comes to this issue. Completely surrender your heart to a girl and it will be the most passionate, sexiest, and fullfilling relationship ever! But if she leaves you when you love her the most... well. I personally spent 8 months crying and feeling depressed about it. And I still want her and think about her every day.
Its a tough choice. I would like to open up one day again for sure. Its just so damn hard.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: XUL]
#14763500 - 07/13/11 04:25 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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nightly fucking dreams brah.... fml. wtf. wtf. shit. man... wtf? what good is this?
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: dummy]
#14763544 - 07/13/11 04:37 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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dummy said: nightly fucking dreams brah.... fml. wtf. wtf. shit. man... wtf? what good is this?
say what?
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: XUL]
#14763573 - 07/13/11 04:44 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: XUL]
#14763577 - 07/13/11 04:46 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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I get what dummy is saying, My girl left me because she only wanted sex but I wanted a relationship. It is nonstop constant torture knowing you will never see the one you love again.
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: sk8fast]
#14763617 - 07/13/11 04:55 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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sk8fast said: I get what dummy is saying, My girl left me because she only wanted sex but I wanted a relationship. It is nonstop constant torture knowing you will never see the one you love again.
Amen brotha.
But Eventually that torture fades. I still think bout my ex every day, but not as much as I did 5 months ago. I expect that 9 months from now she will be a distant memory. By the time I am 27 I will probably have all but forgoten her. Damn, it actually feels great to say that!
SHIT THAT FEELS GOOD!
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: XUL]
#14763630 - 07/13/11 04:58 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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The appeal to me has only been in sex, dont think iv ever loved any of them so no pain came of it
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Re: I think romance is just as unrealistic as porn [Re: Wise Toad]
#14763670 - 07/13/11 05:06 PM (12 years, 6 months ago) |
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Me and my ex split 7 months ago, and yeah she still pops into my dreams. Shit sucks.
I dont believe all women are heartless, just most of them. The ones that arent, are usually taken. So that leaves me to pick through a bunch of old used up crazy bitches. Most of which have kids. On the other hand, that just leaves me more time alone to be insanely productive.
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