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My friend died today.
#14604358 - 06/13/11 02:39 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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He tripped and fell in front of a moving car, died of brain hemorrhaging.
I've never known anybody that died my whole life.
This was my first year at college and he was one of my best friends that I met this year.
I don't know how to feel. It's only been about 20 minutes since i found out. I keep going between feeling completely normal and crying hysterically.
people, i'm desperate here. It's too late to wake anybody up and i wont see my girlfriend until tomorrow.
Please help me cope with this somehow.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604366 - 06/13/11 02:42 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Fuck man that's awful. Damn.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604370 - 06/13/11 02:43 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Drinking helps soften the pain sometimes...
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604381 - 06/13/11 02:48 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. That sounds like a horrible twist.
I agree with above poster, might help to get some alcohol.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Humanwine]
#14604388 - 06/13/11 02:50 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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i have 2 warm beers in my backpack. its a start. thank you for reminding me. wish i could give him the other one.
idk why but i think itll make me feel better to type some stuff even if nobody ever reads this.
he was a super nice guy. a good friend. he helped you out if you needed help. He went to my college to be an architect, he really wanted to design stuff and he was good at it.
I wish i wouldve been available to hang out with him more when he texted me and i blew him off sometimes if i was busy. i guess thats normal even between friends but it makes me feel like shit now knowing i gave up an opportunity to hang out with him.
he always did like having a beer at the end of the day, I guess i'll have this warm corona in his honor. god i feel horrible.
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#14604408 - 06/13/11 02:54 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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It is impossible to try and make sense of random tragic events like these.
It is probably not that apparent at this moment, but there will be some good to come out of his death.
My only advice is to hang in there and remember that he was "blessed" to have known you before he was gone and you were "blessed" to have gotten to know him and be his friend in his last days here.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604413 - 06/13/11 02:56 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm sorry. He was one of your best friends in college. Remember that he brought good into your life and early on in college.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604437 - 06/13/11 03:02 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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It's never too late at night to cry on someone's shoulder over a tragic loss.
You'll get the same kinda call some day. Make it if you need it.
Sorry to hear of your loss. Sounds like a great guy.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Adden]
#14604517 - 06/13/11 03:34 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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those two beers helped a little bit, At least I'm finally a little tired. thank you everyone for your support. life is so short.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Adden]
#14604522 - 06/13/11 03:37 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Omg, I got teary with this little story. I'm sorry to hear bro, really sorry. People come and people go, but the times spent with him have changed you as a person. I hope you don't keep feeling sad when you think of him, just be happy that you were lucky enough to know such a guy. I wish you best of luck, and try to comfort his family and other friends also, life is rough.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604528 - 06/13/11 03:40 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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That's horribly tragic.
I'm sorry to hear...
what was the guy like? what did he like to do?
Let me know him and he can be a part of me...
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604543 - 06/13/11 03:49 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Drinking helps soften the pain sometimes...
WTG 
NWlight, my condolances with your loss. Losing close ones, or even not-so-close ones, always is difficult. Its important to remember him as he was, and have him live on in your mind.
I recommend you to go to the funeral service, as this provides a degree of closure.
Please eat well and sleep well in the days to come, and take a good brisk walk if you feel empty. These things will give you strength.
Its perfectly normal to bounce around between hurt and seeming unaffectedness, its your minds way of coping, do NOT feel guilty about periods of not feeling it and dont get lost in the periods you are overcome with grief. You'll overcome this.
On the first night, if you absolutely can't sleep thats fine, but the nights thereafter you should get rested.
Its important to DEAL WITH THIS and not hide from the feelings, or they will linger.
remember him as he was, and dont spend too much thought on how he went, it seems pretty merciful.
What I personally believe is that nobody dies a second before their time, and looking closely at their lives you could often see in retrospect that the time has come. I also believe your essence, the snippet of cosmic code that is the core of your being, is eternal, and destined to reincarnate forever in every possible way - life eternal.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Shins]
#14604554 - 06/13/11 03:55 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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His name was Preston, he was a junior in college
Studied architecture and was going to graduate in one more year, he was very good at it. He was a good smoke buddy but a better friend, and came to stop by my place whenever I was feeling down. I met him because he ended up being the roommate of one of my friends from high school.
He was such a happy person, and too smart for his own good. You know how with that 5% of your friends, you have really deep talks about reality and life and the universe and love and how it all fits? Well, he was one of those for me. He was scared of heights, so much so that if we were on the balcony he wouldnt let me sit on it haha because he thought i would fall. He was really good at video games but didnt play them much.
Just, a really nice guy. Everybody was a great person posthumously, but he really genuinely was a great person. He will be greatly missed.
this really is all quite a shock, I know that I will never forget him.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604564 - 06/13/11 04:05 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thank you seeker, I am glad you addressed one issue especially. Inbetween the periods of hysteria when I feel normal and not crying, I feel like a terrible person for not feeling anything, until the pain comes rushing back with a specific memory or if I see a picture of him.
It's just the first person I've ever known who has made that transition into the afterlife, and I want to be happy for his spirit but I feel so much pain and jealousy at the universe for taking him back. I guess I feel a little of everything. But regardless, thank you for your kind words.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604565 - 06/13/11 04:07 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Deep talks, and cheers you up. Few of the many out there in the world. I love deep talks too, and I like people that can be serious and think beyond what we even need to think of. Sounds like a great guy.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604568 - 06/13/11 04:09 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm really sorry to hear this. It is terrible to have to deal with death..especially when it is a close friend or relative. I've lost 4 VERY close friends in the past 6 years..one just last year. I self medicated through the whole week or so of his funeral and visitations. I never got closure. I definitely don't suggest this. I know it is hard to deal with it, but as others have said, you got the pleasure of meeting this guy, and he got the please of meeting you.
Hang in there...I know it sucks, but it is part of life, unfortunately.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604573 - 06/13/11 04:14 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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mate, theres no two ways about it. death is a terrible thing. i wish i could say there was some sort of easy fix for the situation to make you feel better, but to be honest the only thing that makes it better is time and trying to stay positive.
i'd never had any experience with death up untill the past year and a bit either. i've been to 3 funerals in the passed year-year and a half. i lost my father and both of my grandmothers. its fucked.
but what i have learned is that, sure negative and sad feelings will be there, and its natural for them to be there when something as terrible like this happens, but you gotta look back and remember the positive times. thats truth mate. don't look back and think of how bad things might have been and what could have been. look back and think man remember that time me and him were at that party, and this and that. or just funny jokes you've shared, positive things like that. you have to learn to flip a negative into a positive.
Just make sure you take all the time you need to feel better and relax, dont stress yourself too much and just take it easy.
here are some nice tunes to listen to, i hope these help 
Bender · Isolate
Live - Lightning Crashes
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Sundrop]
#14604576 - 06/13/11 04:16 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I have been trying to see the bright side- who'd want to live forever anyways? He's in a better place. Everything that happens was meant to happen exactly as it happened, simply because of the fact that it happened to begin with.
It's weird knowing these to all be true, and yet still feeling like he should still be ok, like if I called him on his phone i would expect him to answer. I guess it hasnt really hit me yet, and im still kind of in shock. thank you drewo and everyone, im glad i was able to hear you guys talk about the subject. I know i'm not alone in my suffering and I will be spending tomrrow with my gf and another mutual friend.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604580 - 06/13/11 04:20 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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thank you, those tracks are helping me break the deafening silence of my single room.
I'm sorry about your dad and grandmothers! I can't imagine losing a family member- im this torn up about a friend i've known for only one year. I will definitely remind my parents I love them tomorrow.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604581 - 06/13/11 04:20 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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You are right. I still scroll through my contacts in my phone and see a couple of my friends there that have passed away (I don't want to delete it, simply because I like to remember them), but it still seems like I should be able to shoot them a text or something like that.
If you need anyone to talk to or anything like that, just pm me. It will be good for you to hang around your girlfriend and other friends. Will you be able to make it to the funeral? I find it helps a lot. I went to all of my friends', minus 1. I was 3 hours away, and I wasn't able to make it.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Sundrop]
#14604590 - 06/13/11 04:25 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I think his parents want the service on the east coast, and I have no money to fly there. I will probably write something for them to put on a table at the reception or call his parents or something... I'm not sure what to do in this situation to be honest. It is going to be so weird waking up tomorrow and seeing the world keep going by, unaware that such a bright star had been snuffed out the day before.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Sundrop]
#14604592 - 06/13/11 04:26 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I had a friend who died of huffing a couple months ago so I feel for you OP. Its not a fun experience
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604617 - 06/13/11 04:39 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thanks NW
I will do my best to remember him.
I'll smoke a J and play some vids in his honor.
My dad is an architect so i will try to appreciate my dad more and what your friend could have been.
I will do my best to remember when looking down from height how he fell from height metaphorically, and i will do my best to appreciate that I have not fallen myself yet.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Shins]
#14604624 - 06/13/11 04:44 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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thank you so much shins, It's these times that reminds us that we are all one human family, thank you for appreciating my friend and paying him final respects. He would be honored. Take a toke off that J for my buddy?
Good night everyone thank you so much for your support. Tomorrow is a new day.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604628 - 06/13/11 04:48 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Take a toke off that J for my buddy?
For sure.
Actually, I will go throw it off of something high and let the universe sort it out.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604763 - 06/13/11 06:33 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you are OK.
Hes in a better place now. Life is eternal and we will all join him soon for we are just a drop of water in an endless sea.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: nice1]
#14604786 - 06/13/11 06:51 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Swim in your emotions, its alot better for you and your mind if you embrace them. Cry, screem, yell, whatever helps ♥
Its all for the good
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Locky]
#14604808 - 06/13/11 07:04 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm sorry to hear this man. Sometimes death comes by way of really random freak accidents. I bet the moving car's driver feels awful.
I would call his parents or e-mail them with a tid bit on their son and how you'll miss him.
Theres been some great advice in this thread. You'll be ok. Remember him by embodying what you most admired in him so that what he was will always live on.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604828 - 06/13/11 07:20 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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NWlight said: i have 2 warm beers in my backpack. its a start. thank you for reminding me. wish i could give him the other one.
idk why but i think itll make me feel better to type some stuff even if nobody ever reads this.
he was a super nice guy. a good friend. he helped you out if you needed help. He went to my college to be an architect, he really wanted to design stuff and he was good at it.
I wish i wouldve been available to hang out with him more when he texted me and i blew him off sometimes if i was busy. i guess thats normal even between friends but it makes me feel like shit now knowing i gave up an opportunity to hang out with him.
he always did like having a beer at the end of the day, I guess i'll have this warm corona in his honor. god i feel horrible.
No it's cool, we know how it is. Just remember that shit happens and there's nothing anybody can do about it.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: blujay]
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
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hey... death can be complicated to those who stay, specially the first one you experience. My first were both my parents when I was 6, almost 21 years ago. You feel anger, you feel pain, you feel revolt when you see that life isn't fair. You feel a void inside you that only time will fill. But never ever feel remorse for anything that you didn't do or say when you had the chance because that will only eat you up inside, and believe me your friend didn't want you to live like that. You should honor him by reminding him for the great person he was and the experiences you both went through. Don't find refuge in any drug, people shouldn't be playing with them when they are vulnerable, even alcohol could numb, as well as it could bring the pain even more. My advice, the only thing that doesn't depend on you and will help is time. Celebrate your friends existence and all the good things he was able to make, and all the people he was able to help or just put a smile on their face. Feel free to unburden as much as you wish, and I hope you all the luck you should need coping with this.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: pouihi]
#14607126 - 06/13/11 03:54 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Everyone dies man; everything has a beginning and an end. Your friend is still extant; just not as you might remember.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14607233 - 06/13/11 04:15 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm right there with you man. My buddy died last week making a 6 hour drive home from a show, fell asleep at the wheel. I've been just horribly depressed. He talked to his daughter on the phone just before it happened and she told him to stop at a motel because he was tired but he said he's almost home. RIP Jazz.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Adden]
#14607555 - 06/13/11 05:22 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Dystopia said: It's never too late at night to cry on someone's shoulder over a tragic loss.
You'll get the same kinda call some day. Make it if you need it.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: sam420]
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sam420 said:
Quote:
Dystopia said: It's never too late at night to cry on someone's shoulder over a tragic loss.
You'll get the same kinda call some day. Make it if you need it.
): sorry for your loss. Ill take a toke for you
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I'm sorry to hear that kind of news man. Like everyone said, it's never easy to lose a friend or a loved one, but in time it will always get better. I'm sure he's spiritually watching you express this pain over losing him, and is incredibly happy that you care enough to feel that way about him leaving your life. It sucks that he had to randomly go like that, but everything does happen for a reason, and has a profound effect on the present and future. Just be thankful for him that he did not have to go through the pain of being paralyzed from the neck down and not be able to respond to you like in some cases.
Hang in there buddy, everything will get better in time. I'll toke a little in respect to him and send some happy vibes your way
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there is no way to cope with it just let it all out and remember all the good times you spent with him.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
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I'm sorry to hear that this happened. Such a small accident can have a huge impact. I've lost two friends, one by drowning and other one got run over jaywalking.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
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NWlight said: He tripped and fell in front of a moving car, died of brain hemorrhaging.
I've never known anybody that died my whole life.
This was my first year at college and he was one of my best friends that I met this year.
I don't know how to feel. It's only been about 20 minutes since i found out. I keep going between feeling completely normal and crying hysterically.
people, i'm desperate here. It's too late to wake anybody up and i wont see my girlfriend until tomorrow.
Please help me cope with this somehow.
He blew his mind out in a car... 
Relax my brother. Death sucks but there is nothing to be afraid about or sad about. He has transcended now and you must continue on your spiritual journey. All things must pass. Enjoy them while you have them, but do no become attached. You are everyone anyone, so just relax, reminisce about him, and spread his name and love.
My uncle died one or two years, it was my first time someone who I was close to and really knew died. It's a crazy experience.

Death is nothing to fear, when death is, you are not. But then again... One lives one's death and dies one's life.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: 28064212]
#14613104 - 06/14/11 04:30 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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The body does; the I does not.
The death of the body is a serious experience indeed but it isn't the "end" of everything. Only of select phenomena
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14613284 - 06/14/11 05:03 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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NWlight said: Inbetween the periods of hysteria when I feel normal and not crying, I feel like a terrible person for not feeling anything, until the pain comes rushing back with a specific memory or if I see a picture of him.
don't feel bad about that. its natural. I've had quite a few people close to me die, a few of which were just this sudden and tragic and unexpected. for me, i usually don't feel hardly anything for the first few days. i guess it takes me a while for reality to hit and i really integrate the fact that this person is gone forever. then after a few days to a week the grief hits. on the same day as the death, its very hard to feel the full reality of it and understand the change to your life that comes as a result. it always takes a while to set in for me.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: BoneMan]
#14613312 - 06/14/11 05:08 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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it's the initial shock. although I think people get more used to death as they experience it through life.
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