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NWlight
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My friend died today.
#14604358 - 06/13/11 02:39 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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He tripped and fell in front of a moving car, died of brain hemorrhaging.
I've never known anybody that died my whole life.
This was my first year at college and he was one of my best friends that I met this year.
I don't know how to feel. It's only been about 20 minutes since i found out. I keep going between feeling completely normal and crying hysterically.
people, i'm desperate here. It's too late to wake anybody up and i wont see my girlfriend until tomorrow.
Please help me cope with this somehow.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604366 - 06/13/11 02:42 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Fuck man that's awful. Damn.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604370 - 06/13/11 02:43 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Drinking helps soften the pain sometimes...
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604381 - 06/13/11 02:48 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. That sounds like a horrible twist.
I agree with above poster, might help to get some alcohol.
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NWlight
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Humanwine]
#14604388 - 06/13/11 02:50 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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i have 2 warm beers in my backpack. its a start. thank you for reminding me. wish i could give him the other one.
idk why but i think itll make me feel better to type some stuff even if nobody ever reads this.
he was a super nice guy. a good friend. he helped you out if you needed help. He went to my college to be an architect, he really wanted to design stuff and he was good at it.
I wish i wouldve been available to hang out with him more when he texted me and i blew him off sometimes if i was busy. i guess thats normal even between friends but it makes me feel like shit now knowing i gave up an opportunity to hang out with him.
he always did like having a beer at the end of the day, I guess i'll have this warm corona in his honor. god i feel horrible.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight] 2
#14604408 - 06/13/11 02:54 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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It is impossible to try and make sense of random tragic events like these.
It is probably not that apparent at this moment, but there will be some good to come out of his death.
My only advice is to hang in there and remember that he was "blessed" to have known you before he was gone and you were "blessed" to have gotten to know him and be his friend in his last days here.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604413 - 06/13/11 02:56 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm sorry. He was one of your best friends in college. Remember that he brought good into your life and early on in college.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604437 - 06/13/11 03:02 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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It's never too late at night to cry on someone's shoulder over a tragic loss.
You'll get the same kinda call some day. Make it if you need it.
Sorry to hear of your loss. Sounds like a great guy.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Adden]
#14604517 - 06/13/11 03:34 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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those two beers helped a little bit, At least I'm finally a little tired. thank you everyone for your support. life is so short.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Adden]
#14604522 - 06/13/11 03:37 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Omg, I got teary with this little story. I'm sorry to hear bro, really sorry. People come and people go, but the times spent with him have changed you as a person. I hope you don't keep feeling sad when you think of him, just be happy that you were lucky enough to know such a guy. I wish you best of luck, and try to comfort his family and other friends also, life is rough.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604528 - 06/13/11 03:40 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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That's horribly tragic.
I'm sorry to hear...
what was the guy like? what did he like to do?
Let me know him and he can be a part of me...
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604543 - 06/13/11 03:49 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
Drinking helps soften the pain sometimes...
WTG 
NWlight, my condolances with your loss. Losing close ones, or even not-so-close ones, always is difficult. Its important to remember him as he was, and have him live on in your mind.
I recommend you to go to the funeral service, as this provides a degree of closure.
Please eat well and sleep well in the days to come, and take a good brisk walk if you feel empty. These things will give you strength.
Its perfectly normal to bounce around between hurt and seeming unaffectedness, its your minds way of coping, do NOT feel guilty about periods of not feeling it and dont get lost in the periods you are overcome with grief. You'll overcome this.
On the first night, if you absolutely can't sleep thats fine, but the nights thereafter you should get rested.
Its important to DEAL WITH THIS and not hide from the feelings, or they will linger.
remember him as he was, and dont spend too much thought on how he went, it seems pretty merciful.
What I personally believe is that nobody dies a second before their time, and looking closely at their lives you could often see in retrospect that the time has come. I also believe your essence, the snippet of cosmic code that is the core of your being, is eternal, and destined to reincarnate forever in every possible way - life eternal.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Shins]
#14604554 - 06/13/11 03:55 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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His name was Preston, he was a junior in college
Studied architecture and was going to graduate in one more year, he was very good at it. He was a good smoke buddy but a better friend, and came to stop by my place whenever I was feeling down. I met him because he ended up being the roommate of one of my friends from high school.
He was such a happy person, and too smart for his own good. You know how with that 5% of your friends, you have really deep talks about reality and life and the universe and love and how it all fits? Well, he was one of those for me. He was scared of heights, so much so that if we were on the balcony he wouldnt let me sit on it haha because he thought i would fall. He was really good at video games but didnt play them much.
Just, a really nice guy. Everybody was a great person posthumously, but he really genuinely was a great person. He will be greatly missed.
this really is all quite a shock, I know that I will never forget him.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604564 - 06/13/11 04:05 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Thank you seeker, I am glad you addressed one issue especially. Inbetween the periods of hysteria when I feel normal and not crying, I feel like a terrible person for not feeling anything, until the pain comes rushing back with a specific memory or if I see a picture of him.
It's just the first person I've ever known who has made that transition into the afterlife, and I want to be happy for his spirit but I feel so much pain and jealousy at the universe for taking him back. I guess I feel a little of everything. But regardless, thank you for your kind words.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604565 - 06/13/11 04:07 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Deep talks, and cheers you up. Few of the many out there in the world. I love deep talks too, and I like people that can be serious and think beyond what we even need to think of. Sounds like a great guy.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604568 - 06/13/11 04:09 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm really sorry to hear this. It is terrible to have to deal with death..especially when it is a close friend or relative. I've lost 4 VERY close friends in the past 6 years..one just last year. I self medicated through the whole week or so of his funeral and visitations. I never got closure. I definitely don't suggest this. I know it is hard to deal with it, but as others have said, you got the pleasure of meeting this guy, and he got the please of meeting you.
Hang in there...I know it sucks, but it is part of life, unfortunately.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604573 - 06/13/11 04:14 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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mate, theres no two ways about it. death is a terrible thing. i wish i could say there was some sort of easy fix for the situation to make you feel better, but to be honest the only thing that makes it better is time and trying to stay positive.
i'd never had any experience with death up untill the past year and a bit either. i've been to 3 funerals in the passed year-year and a half. i lost my father and both of my grandmothers. its fucked.
but what i have learned is that, sure negative and sad feelings will be there, and its natural for them to be there when something as terrible like this happens, but you gotta look back and remember the positive times. thats truth mate. don't look back and think of how bad things might have been and what could have been. look back and think man remember that time me and him were at that party, and this and that. or just funny jokes you've shared, positive things like that. you have to learn to flip a negative into a positive.
Just make sure you take all the time you need to feel better and relax, dont stress yourself too much and just take it easy.
here are some nice tunes to listen to, i hope these help 
Bender ยท Isolate
Live - Lightning Crashes
Terra Firma - The Night The Heavens Cried
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: Sundrop]
#14604576 - 06/13/11 04:16 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I have been trying to see the bright side- who'd want to live forever anyways? He's in a better place. Everything that happens was meant to happen exactly as it happened, simply because of the fact that it happened to begin with.
It's weird knowing these to all be true, and yet still feeling like he should still be ok, like if I called him on his phone i would expect him to answer. I guess it hasnt really hit me yet, and im still kind of in shock. thank you drewo and everyone, im glad i was able to hear you guys talk about the subject. I know i'm not alone in my suffering and I will be spending tomrrow with my gf and another mutual friend.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604580 - 06/13/11 04:20 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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thank you, those tracks are helping me break the deafening silence of my single room.
I'm sorry about your dad and grandmothers! I can't imagine losing a family member- im this torn up about a friend i've known for only one year. I will definitely remind my parents I love them tomorrow.
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Re: My friend died today. [Re: NWlight]
#14604581 - 06/13/11 04:20 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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You are right. I still scroll through my contacts in my phone and see a couple of my friends there that have passed away (I don't want to delete it, simply because I like to remember them), but it still seems like I should be able to shoot them a text or something like that.
If you need anyone to talk to or anything like that, just pm me. It will be good for you to hang around your girlfriend and other friends. Will you be able to make it to the funeral? I find it helps a lot. I went to all of my friends', minus 1. I was 3 hours away, and I wasn't able to make it.
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