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Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids?
#14588736 - 06/10/11 01:43 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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What is the rush? To each their own but their will always be worries but meeting someone at a park with her kids and her friends with their kids that I used to know somewhat before. That whole social scene and lifestyle and what I would have to conform to, the trade off and to keep everything legal, it's hard to want that for me.
Better than a man than a woman I guess, the time frame is longer and all the p.c. fucks I don't want to hear it. But it feels like relenting to the system and conforming. Suburbia and the whole system. Does anyone else feel an aversion to this or an accepted part of joining the society of this construct?
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relatioship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14588746 - 06/10/11 01:50 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm only 25 and I have been off and on with the same woman for a little over 10 years now (we now live together, but have before and split in the past) and we've reached a level of commitment that feels very real and permanent and I'm happy with it. Add 20 years and a couple kids and I don't feel like I would have any problem with it. If you do decide to live that lifestyle just make sure it's the right one and you've ventured other avenues enough to be confident that it is right for you.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relatioship and kids? [Re: Nezzy]
#14588780 - 06/10/11 02:05 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yes, to each thier own, I could of had a kid at 22 and I'd be paying child support now. But if you are in love and make a strong family it's a wonderful thing I suppose. If it works for you, I wish you the best.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relatioship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14588785 - 06/10/11 02:08 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yeah, we've decided not to have kids until we're both ready and willing and have the means to give them everything we didn't have.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14588993 - 06/10/11 04:06 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well I will tell you theres many health risks to you and the child, the older you get.
Personally, I dont want kids. But something deep down wants the joy of being a father. I think its just instinctual. Seems everything about having a kid is just trouble. From the woman youre with, who you may or may not be with forever, to waking up every few hours for the first few years, to the screaming and crying and tantrums...to expensive doctor visits, to school everyday and on and on. And then what? This kid grows up to be some fucking emo twit that hates his parents and everything about you? Theres so many variables from a to z, and I honestly dont think I have the patience for any of it.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14589079 - 06/10/11 05:30 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I_was_the_walrus said: Well I will tell you theres many health risks to you and the child, the older you get.
Personally, I dont want kids. But something deep down wants the joy of being a father. I think its just instinctual. Seems everything about having a kid is just trouble. From the woman youre with, who you may or may not be with forever, to waking up every few hours for the first few years, to the screaming and crying and tantrums...to expensive doctor visits, to school everyday and on and on. And then what? This kid grows up to be some fucking emo twit that hates his parents and everything about you? Theres so many variables from a to z, and I honestly dont think I have the patience for any of it.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14590214 - 06/10/11 11:56 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I_was_the_walrus said: Well I will tell you theres many health risks to you and the child, the older you get.
Personally, I dont want kids. But something deep down wants the joy of being a father. I think its just instinctual. Seems everything about having a kid is just trouble. From the woman youre with, who you may or may not be with forever, to waking up every few hours for the first few years, to the screaming and crying and tantrums...to expensive doctor visits, to school everyday and on and on. And then what? This kid grows up to be some fucking emo twit that hates his parents and everything about you? Theres so many variables from a to z, and I honestly dont think I have the patience for any of it.
That's a YES for me.
Whats the point of having kids????
What possible enjoyment do you get from then when your working half the fucking time for them??????

It is far to invaluable and to have my freedom than anything else in the world.
In a world that is always changing, I see a family as an obstruction to my freedom to change.
I've seen to many families stuck in a changing world and most parents end up taking on most of the negative emotions/pressure/shrinking freedoms.
Like for example, say you don't love the mother of your children anymore?
Bite the bullet.
Or say you loose your job and can only get a minimum wage job?
Bite the bullet, you have to work two jobs.
Or say you have had a change of heart and you have an overwheling desire to learn about different cultures, travel, study, etc etc?
Bite the fucking bullet, you have kids!!!!
Man, my freedom is worth more than any kid could ever offer me!!!
Plus if I want to spend time with some bratty kids, I'll just volunteer to be a big brother.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#14591509 - 06/10/11 04:55 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Plus if I want to spend time with some bratty kids, I'll just volunteer to be a big brother.
Ditto. Either that, or adoption. Why bring more useless people into the world, when theres already so many that dont even have a family?
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14591640 - 06/10/11 05:24 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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My thoughts exactly.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14591650 - 06/10/11 05:26 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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"This kid grows up to be some fucking emo twit that hates his parents and everything about you? Theres so many variables from a to z, and I honestly dont think I have the patience for any of it."
Well put man, made me
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14591750 - 06/10/11 05:46 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I will not be adding a ball and chain to my ankle at any time in my life. I'm not bringing in more people to a populated world, and my views on relationships do not comply with the typical "fall in love, get married and forget the world" mindset. Fuck that shit.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: dr_gonz]
#14592008 - 06/10/11 06:41 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Anon.? Seriously?
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14592737 - 06/10/11 09:02 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Kids freak me out, and it is this reason that I do not ever want to have a family
As far as a committed relationship I'm cool with that
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14599144 - 06/12/11 01:40 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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answer to question:
yes... yesyesyesyesyesyesyes
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14599155 - 06/12/11 01:43 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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answer to question:
yes...
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14599535 - 06/12/11 05:25 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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my uncle had 3 kids when he was 18 and then had four more when he was 65. Isnt that fucked up?
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: Psychoslut]
#14601766 - 06/12/11 04:04 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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My dad had five kids then got divorced after 18 years of marriage and married a women 30 or so years younger than her and had 3 kids. Visiting them and talking to his wife she wasn't open to having more kids with him because of his age and the financial problems it could cause.
The fucked up thing, and she is hot and in her 30's, is that she insinuated that she would be open if my dad died of marrying me and having me to help raise their kids and of course making more with her.
There is no fucking way.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14601980 - 06/12/11 04:51 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Looool crazy fuckin people. I know a few girls that started having kids when they were like 16. Now they wait tables...and thats pretty much it. Now, Im not questioning their happiness. Im sure life is just grand. Im just hoping to accomplish and experience a little more than having kids and living in an apartment.
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: I_was_the_walrus]
#14603229 - 06/12/11 09:29 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Theres something scary in thought of dying all alone and forgotten in a nursing home. Marriage and family provides people who love you.
Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years and we are both nearly 30. She wants kids soon and I dont really. In someways it would bring alot of joy but it would also bring alot of problems.
There are pros and cons to every situation
The world can be a pretty fucked up place sometimes and whilst I live comfortably in a good part of the world in 20 years time the world will be a very different place. Do I want my kids to be in that situation?
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Re: Could you live into your 40's without a commited relationship and kids? [Re: timelapses]
#14603341 - 06/12/11 09:58 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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