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is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently?
#14578380 - 06/08/11 06:09 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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So I found this message that my girlfriend of a year had sent to another guy. She met him 3 weeks ago and began hanging out with him quite a bit.
Here are a few highlights from the letter:
"I fell for you hard and I didn’t expect that at all and I feel dumb even saying it. The reason I got upset was because I didn’t want to get hurt. I realized I care so much about you and I don’t know for sure how you feel about me. I didn’t want to end up to be some girl you used just to fuck, and I realize now I was being irrational."
"I am so fucking sorry for how I treated you. You don’t know how terrible I have felt since I said those things to you. I never meant to make you feel like shit, I never meant to put you down, and I have never meant to make you feel less than amazing"
...So I confronted her about it, told her I'm leaving and moving her out of the house and she says that at one point in our relationship she was unhappy with us, and never actually had sex with him. She says "falling for him" was in a friendship sense.
It doesn't add up to me. As invested in the relationship I have been for the last year, and as much as I love her and want so bad to believe her... It just seems like there is no way around it. 
It cut deeps, she is my first love.
What are your opinions? Is there any way you think what she is saying is true?
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#14578402 - 06/08/11 06:23 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: So I found this message that my girlfriend of a year had sent to another guy. She met him 3 weeks ago and began hanging out with him quite a bit.
Here are a few highlights from the letter:
"I fell for you hard and I didn’t expect that at all and I feel dumb even saying it. The reason I got upset was because I didn’t want to get hurt. I realized I care so much about you and I don’t know for sure how you feel about me. I didn’t want to end up to be some girl you used just to fuck, and I realize now I was being irrational."
"I am so fucking sorry for how I treated you. You don’t know how terrible I have felt since I said those things to you. I never meant to make you feel like shit, I never meant to put you down, and I have never meant to make you feel less than amazing"
...So I confronted her about it, told her I'm leaving and moving her out of the house and she says that at one point in our relationship she was unhappy with us, and never actually had sex with him. She says "falling for him" was in a friendship sense.
It doesn't add up to me. As invested in the relationship I have been for the last year, and as much as I love her and want so bad to believe her... It just seems like there is no way around it. 
It cut deeps, she is my first love.
What are your opinions? Is there any way you think what she is saying is true?
People who are just friends aren't worried about getting hurt or being just seen as another gal he'd FUCK.
For my experience in relationships I think that people tend to minimize the damage they've done by making things look like they weren't so bad as they really were, she probably fucked him, otherwise she wouldn't be having that kind of conversation, or probably when she told you that they were just friends she meant fuck buddies, and telling you that she was unhappy w/the relationship comes as a mean of trying to justify something done wrong without taking the blame.
I'm sorry man but there's no possible good reading of that situation.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: pouihi]
#14578413 - 06/08/11 06:31 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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It's hard bro, but she's lying to you. It's not what you are hoping for but its the truth. It has lying woman written all over it.
There's no other interpretation of that letter. And you don't "fall for someone" as friends, that just doesn't make sense.
Doing the right thing in your case now is to get the fuck out of the relationship NOW before you regret it years later when she cheats on you again.
TRUST ME man... its not going to be easy but you'll be happier down the road.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578416 - 06/08/11 06:32 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Get past it- forgive and let go. 
Girls fuck. Face it man, if she wasn't horny, she would not have fucked you in the first place.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Dave Bowman]
#14578430 - 06/08/11 06:38 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Synthettek said: It has lying woman written all over it.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Doc_T]
#14578443 - 06/08/11 06:45 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I consider myself a recently-deemed specialist on female lying, after dating a habitual liar for nearly 2 years. She's lying her face off to you man. I know that sentence doesn't make sense if you think about it technically but the point is she's lying. Try keeping her around just to fuck if you can manage to do that while you're out pursuing other bitches in the mean time. When you find one stop talking to the cheating slut you used to date. It's the way to goooooooooooooooo
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Cloud9]
#14578444 - 06/08/11 06:45 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yuuup, she's fuckin someone else, bro...So sorry
Cut your losses and know that you deserve better.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14578450 - 06/08/11 06:49 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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It is going to be so shitty moving her out. God damn, I just cant deal with this stress anymore. Its breaking my heart 
Thanks for the feedback guys.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578458 - 06/08/11 06:52 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: It is going to be so shitty moving her out. God damn, I just cant deal with this stress anymore. Its breaking my heart 
Thanks for the feedback guys. 
It'll suck but you HAVE TO DO IT. I typed it in caps becuase its important. TO lose the first love is a painful thing, but eventually you'll look back on it and laugh at how dumb you were for dating her.
Learn from this: acknowledge the qualities she possessed that you liked, the ones she posssessed that you didnt like, and apply that next time you're seeking out a girlfriend.
Dont let this situation ruin you. A similar thing happened to me at the end of HS and I've had an inherent mistrust for my girlfriends ever since. Dont let this happen to you!
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#14578464 - 06/08/11 06:54 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Man, I'd be pissed. Not only for the fact that she was unfaithful - that can be forgiven under some circumstances - but she obviously thinks you are a fucking moron. If a girl tried to lie to me like that, I'd be so insulted that it might be time to spam her nudes on the internet.
There's a huge difference between unfaithful and disloyal. You can be unfaithful and still be loyal to your partner, but she's neither.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Sillicybin]
#14578468 - 06/08/11 06:58 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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You'll be able to look back and yourself in a little while...and you'll see you put a lot of stress on your shoulders for nothing.
It'll hurt bad for a little while, but just wait til it feels good, when you meet someone better..
then ....sweet and sour
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578471 - 06/08/11 07:00 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Bro you are lucky you found out at all and that it was only a year in. Sometimes it takes a looooooooooooooooooot longer for the bad side of people to come out.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14578478 - 06/08/11 07:02 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thanks for all the kind words guys. I really appreciate it. I feel so delusional because I am so in love with her and want to believe her so badly. I need time to clear my head and grasp what just happened because it is to overwhelming.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578481 - 06/08/11 07:04 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Just dont start blaming yourself, she wasn't worthy, fuck her, sorry, but fuck her!
Get some rebound tang if you can and you'll feel a little better...just dont jump back in to another relationship for a while
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14578491 - 06/08/11 07:07 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said: dont jump back in to another relationship for a while
This is crucial.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578493 - 06/08/11 07:09 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: Thanks for all the kind words guys. I really appreciate it. I feel so delusional because I am so in love with her and want to believe her so badly. I need time to clear my head and grasp what just happened because it is to overwhelming.
Yeah. I agree with schlong. DOnt get too wrapped up with overanalyzing this. If she's your first love, you're probably young. And young girls dont know what they want, and go from dick to dick accordingly.
Just try and forget her, and move on.
Step 1: move her out of your house, and BREAK OFF COMMUNICATION.
dont do that xdumb shit where you keep in touch and try to be codial and friends and stuff. that just keeps her in your head. get her out!
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14578496 - 06/08/11 07:09 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said: Just dont start blaming yourself, she wasn't worthy, fuck her, sorry, but fuck her!
Get some rebound tang if you can and you'll feel a little better...just dont jump back in to another relationship for a while
Probably a good idea. I need time to just relax, breathe and be ME for a while. But fuck. Everything I worked for and believed in for a year.. Just gone.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578506 - 06/08/11 07:13 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: It is going to be so shitty moving her out. God damn, I just cant deal with this stress anymore. Its breaking my heart 
Thanks for the feedback guys. 
It hurts like hell but the faster you solve this the faster you'll be ok. My first one was a huge cabrón, I ended u finding out he practiced cheating as a sport. Never got to move in with him, but we were together for about a year and a half/two, and I'm very fond of loyalty and truthfulness, I got really upset to have dedicated myself to that person who didn't have any respect for me. I have to say I really didn't care for relationships for the following years. And now am in a relationship for almost 2 and take things very calmly, do not take things for granted ever.
I hope you all the luck, this processes are usually not easy to deal with.
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zaq.xsw0 said: Thanks for all the kind words guys. I really appreciate it. I feel so delusional because I am so in love with her and want to believe her so badly. I need time to clear my head and grasp what just happened because it is to overwhelming.
Don't indulge this. You could even give her the benefit of the doubt if it had happened in given circumstances and she would show regret, not lie to you and writing love letters to him, she's involved with that person and not for a moment thought of you while doing it, plus I don't think she'd have any problem doing it again.
Get out of that situation before allowing you to get even more involved, that person won't bring you any good, if that's not the kind of relationship you're looking for.
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zaq.xsw0 said: But fuck. Everything I worked for and believed in for a year.. Just gone.
Dont think about it like that.
Think "Thank god this happened. I could've wasted 3 years! Maybe even 5 years!"
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#14578512 - 06/08/11 07:14 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: But fuck. Everything I worked for and believed in for a year.. Just gone.
Dont think about it like that.
Think "Thank god this happened. I could've wasted 3 years! Maybe even 5 years!"
"I could have lost my car. And my house!"
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: pouihi]
#14578513 - 06/08/11 07:15 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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That is so true. Thanks for all the kind words. I need to start life on a fresh page and never regret.
It just amazes me how in love and invested I was with her and she was OK with herself while going out with this other guy.
Makes me sick.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: memes]
#14578518 - 06/08/11 07:16 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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meams said:
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zaq.xsw0 said: But fuck. Everything I worked for and believed in for a year.. Just gone.
Dont think about it like that.
Think "Thank god this happened. I could've wasted 3 years! Maybe even 5 years!"
Yea dude that is very true. Good thing I am getting out while I am now
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Doc_T]
#14578525 - 06/08/11 07:18 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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You could have married her and had kids 
Things could always actually be a lot worst, that's the type of thought you need to have.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578527 - 06/08/11 07:18 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: It just amazes me how in love and invested I was with her and she was OK with herself while going out with this other guy.
Makes me sick.
Yeah it'll make you rage too. Dont overthink it. You'll be stuck dwelling on it for the time being, but that'll pass. Try to surround yourself with people and shit. Keep yourself distracted.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578529 - 06/08/11 07:20 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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She's fucking someone else bro.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578534 - 06/08/11 07:21 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I wasted 5 years (17-22) with the same results. yeah man, be happy it's only 1 year and not 5 of the most prime years of your life...
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: mongo lloyd]
#14578537 - 06/08/11 07:21 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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mongo lloyd said: She's fucking someone else bro.
Already beat ya
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14578538 - 06/08/11 07:22 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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mongo lloyd said: She's fucking someone else bro.
Already beat ya 
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: mongo lloyd]
#14578547 - 06/08/11 07:26 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I just don't get why people have to cheat.
If you're not happy with someone isn't it just simpler to break up and go screwing around whoever you want??
I really don't get these people.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578735 - 06/08/11 08:49 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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She's fucking someone else bro.
This used to be a meme in one of our forums, Remember SA!
Well, I don't know if they did have intercourse but this:
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I realized I care so much about you
this effectively signals the end of your relationship. If they had or were planning a casual shag, who the fuck cares. But this makes what they did or didnt do irrelevant. She fell in love with someone else and that means that you've been #2.
Sorry man, seems its over. You can work around a shallow shag, but once deep feelings are focussed on another, the relationship generally can't be salvaged.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Asante]
#14578828 - 06/08/11 09:23 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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You can interpret that letter in every way you can imagine, but one thing is for sure, she fucked him
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Asante]
#14578850 - 06/08/11 09:31 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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She's fucking someone else bro.
This used to be a meme in one of our forums, Remember SA!
Well, I don't know if they did have intercourse but this:
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I realized I care so much about you
this effectively signals the end of your relationship. If they had or were planning a casual shag, who the fuck cares. But this makes what they did or didnt do irrelevant. She fell in love with someone else and that means that you've been #2.
Sorry man, seems its over. You can work around a shallow shag, but once deep feelings are focussed on another, the relationship generally can't be salvaged.
She keeps on saying she means care in a friend way. I want to believe it so bad but I got to stay strong and move on.
Dude I agree. I would much rather this have been a shallow shag with a possibility of redemption..
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Patlal]
#14578853 - 06/08/11 09:32 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Patlal said: You can interpret that letter in every way you can imagine, but one thing is for sure, she fucked him
Yea dude sadly I can't see a way around it
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14578907 - 06/08/11 09:44 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: So I found this message that my girlfriend of a year had sent to another guy. She met him 3 weeks ago and began hanging out with him quite a bit.
Here are a few highlights from the letter:
"I fell for you hard and I didn’t expect that at all and I feel dumb even saying it. The reason I got upset was because I didn’t want to get hurt. I realized I care so much about you and I don’t know for sure how you feel about me. I didn’t want to end up to be some girl you used just to fuck, and I realize now I was being irrational."
This tells you she liked him. A lot.
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zaq.xsw0 said: "I am so fucking sorry for how I treated you. You don’t know how terrible I have felt since I said those things to you. I never meant to make you feel like shit, I never meant to put you down, and I have never meant to make you feel less than amazing"
In the course of developing a relationship with him, she screwed up and did something dumb.
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zaq.xsw0 said: she says that at one point in our relationship she was unhappy with us, and never actually had sex with him. She says "falling for him" was in a friendship sense.
See above. She screwed up, now she's looking for a fallback. The fallback is you. If the cheating relationship had taken off, she would be gone, but it hasn't, so she's trying to stay.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: badchad]
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Get the fuck out. The bitch is playing you. Like the dude above me said. She had something behind your back, if it worked out she would still be behind your back or you would be gone. Something clearly happened,she doesn't have this person anymore and is now falling back on you. Fuck the bitch.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14579086 - 06/08/11 10:37 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I fucking knew what the song would be before i clicked the video. haha.
Suck though dude. Good luck moving on. Like everyone said, at least it wasn't 3-5 years with a kid and a house or just being on a lease with her where you can't move out. That happened to a friend of mine he caught his girlfriend cheating on him and the broke up and he was still on the lease so he had to stay for 3 more months while she constantly brought guys home and shit.
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IamMatt said: That happened to a friend of mine he caught his girlfriend cheating on him and the broke up and he was still on the lease so he had to stay for 3 more months while she constantly brought guys home and shit.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
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IamMatt said: That happened to a friend of mine he caught his girlfriend cheating on him and the broke up and he was still on the lease so he had to stay for 3 more months while she constantly brought guys home and shit.
F.U.C.K. T.H.A.T. S.H.I.T!
Happened to me, except she didnt cheat on me, we just had a bad breakup. booooooo for common leases
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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I realized I care so much about you and I don’t know for sure how you feel about me. I didn’t want to end up to be some girl you used just to fuck
Well pardon me, I don't mean to aggrevate your hurt but.. Thats a really really low thing she's been doing, and now she's flat out lying about it, I feel.
The One.. wouldnt do that to you. And would you (prepare to) cheat on the person you consider The One?
Loneliness can be worse when together but both not really there, know what I'm saying?
But YOU must make YOUR decision. We are a helpful bunch here, but through the internet. This is a choice of the heart and YOU must make it either way, we can just offer opinion here.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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You know what you have to do. While it will hurt REALLY bad, it is the only thing you can do. Because if she cared so little about you then and so little about you now, she doesn't really care for you and isn't the one for you. Let some other guy mess up his life with her.
Just don't make the mistake of being blinded by your love for her that you do something you will regret 10 years later when you lose way more.
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F.U.C.K. T.H.A.T. S.H.I.T!
Lol got that right. I'd rather live in the streets.
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That place woulda stank to high heaven from all the pussy I woulda brought home. I would have made sure all the bitches I brought home were screamers too.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: joe666]
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God I feel so confused. She has been trying to convince me that she never fucked him and that "used just to fuck" was meant to say that she did not want to end up being someone who befriended her with the sole intention of getting into her pants.
I am still with her and so confused. Thinking about messaging the guy and asking but things might get ugly. I told her she had to delete him from her contacts and never see him again.
It is fucking hard to just end a relationship that you have invested so much in to emotionally!
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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Dude, she's playing you like a new guitar, bro.
THERE IS NO OTHER WAY TO INTERPRET THAT LETTER.
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ifoundwaldo said: Dude, she's playing you like a new guitar, bro.
THERE IS NO OTHER WAY TO INTERPRET THAT LETTER.
My mind wants to believe otherwise so badly. Do you think contacting the dude would be a good idea? Only problem is i don't see a reason why he WOULD tell me if he had.
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ifoundwaldo said: Dude, she's playing you like a new guitar, bro.
THERE IS NO OTHER WAY TO INTERPRET THAT LETTER.
My mind wants to believe otherwise so badly. Do you think contacting the dude would be a good idea? Only problem is i don't see a reason why he WOULD tell me if he had.
He's almost 100% going to lie to you too. And this will just stir up more drama in the whole situation.
It's your call though. If you think it will somehow bring you closure. I don't see how it will though.
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ifoundwaldo said: Dude, she's playing you like a new guitar, bro.
THERE IS NO OTHER WAY TO INTERPRET THAT LETTER.
My mind wants to believe otherwise so badly. Do you think contacting the dude would be a good idea? Only problem is i don't see a reason why he WOULD tell me if he had.
He's almost 100% going to lie to you too. And this will just stir up more drama in the whole situation.
It's your call though. If you think it will somehow bring you closure. I don't see how it will though.
You are right. He has absolutely no reason to be honest.
I just want to know the truth. I'm blinded by love man.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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Don't feel bad, dude. I wasted three years. She didn't cheat on me, but we stayed in the relationship, because it was comfortable.
Just forget it and move on. Life goes on.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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Sorry for the double post, but she has already contacted the guy to tell him you might try to message him, and she has told him what to say to you. You are best getting out of the relationship now, because it will hurt much worse a year from now and so on.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Sundrop]
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drewo said: Just forget it and move on. Life goes on.
nothing else is necessary. carry on.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: nglsnv]
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God such a huge change is so difficult to even contemplate. And actually going through with it... Thats a whole other story
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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zaq.xsw0 said: God such a huge change is so difficult to even contemplate. And actually going through with it... Thats a whole other story 
Dude if you don't break up with her and get her the fuck out you're going to be her bitch for the next 20 years
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: pwnasaurus]
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yea it's been a few days now, and sounds like your not going to man up and actually do it. it needs to be done, or just submit to being her bitch for the rest of your life.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: pouihi]
#14591429 - 06/10/11 04:36 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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she fuckin someone else brah
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Cloud9]
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I haven't taken the step yet, I'm sill dazed & confused and don't know what to believe or what is best for me..
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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My only question is, if she fell for him why is she still with you? I mean, it kinda sounds like she is living in your place, maybe she can't support herself? On the other hand maybe she really does like you, but then why would she lie? I see it a 1% chance that she is telling the truth, but if she is she sounds like kinda a headcase anyway, I mean who would talk like that to a 'friend'?
o and post the whole letter maybe, pics would be great too
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I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.
Hm. So if she admits she was lying to you for a LONG time, who is to say she will not do so in the future?
I'm all for second chances, but a compulsive liar is a compulsive liar. (And a slut is a slut.)
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IamMatt said:That happened to a friend of mine he caught his girlfriend cheating on him and the broke up and he was still on the lease so he had to stay for 3 more months while she constantly brought guys home and shit.
Same thing happened to me. She cheated on me and we had no other place to go so we lived together for another 4 months after the breakup till the lease was up. Only while she was bringing other guys home to fuck, I was bringing other girls back too. Was such a fucked up situation.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: ifoundwaldo]
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.
Hm. So if she admits she was lying to you for a LONG time, who is to say she will not do so in the future?
I'm all for second chances, but a compulsive liar is a compulsive liar. (And a slut is a slut.)
True man, but I don't know.. I want it to work so bad and I have faith that she can change if I put it all out there and she is able to finally stop being in denial. Guess I have too much faith in people sometimes
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.

You really don't get it do you? She doesn't care about you, she cheated on you, fell in love with someone else, and is DEFINITELY going to cheat on you again.
Have fun!
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You really don't get it do you? She doesn't care about you, she cheated on you, fell in love with someone else, and is DEFINITELY going to cheat on you again.
Have fun!
Dude..I want to believe differently so badly.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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You could interpret it as all a big unfortunate misunderstanding. Most of us interpret it differently though. Still, its your battle, your choice to make. Don't let us push you either way, just listen and decide for yourself. This is the internet, we could all be wrong.
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You really don't get it do you? She doesn't care about you, she cheated on you, fell in love with someone else, and is DEFINITELY going to cheat on you again.
Have fun!
Dude..I want to believe differently so badly.
I know you do, but unfortunately that's just not the case. Nobody, and I mean nobody, would say "I don't just want to be fucked" when they meant it as friends. Does that even make any iota of sense coming from a friend?
Do the right thing man, kick the girl to the curb. It'll probably be the hardest thing you ever do, but after a month you'll be thanking yourself.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Asante]
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Wiccan_Seeker said: You could interpret it as all a big unfortunate misunderstanding. Most of us interpret it differently though. Still, its your battle, your choice to make. Don't let us push you either way, just listen and decide for yourself. This is the internet, we could all be wrong.
I totally agree with this, sometimes another perspective can be helpful, but after all that if you still want to be with her, or even believe her, there is nothing wrong with that Maybe you will feel different in the future, maybe you would really regret kicking her out 
Good luck, and I'm sure everyone here would love to know if she fesses up or not!
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.
Hm. So if she admits she was lying to you for a LONG time, who is to say she will not do so in the future?
I'm all for second chances, but a compulsive liar is a compulsive liar. (And a slut is a slut.)
True man, but I don't know.. I want it to work so bad and I have faith that she can change if I put it all out there and she is able to finally stop being in denial. Guess I have too much faith in people sometimes
sorry, but it sounds like your the one in denial.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Cloud9]
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I'm not going to deny that man. No matter how much my gut tells me she has been unfaithful I'm having a really hard time grasping it all.
It is definitely helpful to get a fresh perspective, I just need to make a decision and stick to my guns.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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i've been there, and it's a really hard place to be. but your the only one who can really make the call on weather she is lying or not. but we all have experience there, and keep in mind not one person has said "shes probably honest and it's all a misunderstanding". if she was really honest, you wouldn't be in this situation.
but life does go on, as much is shit hurts now and feels like the end of the worl, things will be better again one day.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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Well, how'd it go?
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Cloud9]
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It definitely is a really hard place to be. It's a shock to the system to have everything you have emotionally invested into another person, just crumbled in a matter of seconds. It is pretty obvious that she is lying and had been seeing this dude while our relationship may not have been at its strongest.
I kept telling her we had to end the relationship, and its really not as easy when you have to move somebody completely out of your house. She does not have a car, she does not have a good place to go besides with me, and I have been nothing but great to her. Why would she fuck that up? I've been nothing but amazing to her in every way I know possible. Of course the night I break up she starts to treat me amazing and my lonely self craves that.
Yet she STILL denies it after everything. How can someone bear to carry the burden of a secret like that, without eventually snapping? I really don't get it.
I know I have to break up with her, a future is really not possible with a cheater - and sadly if she continues her ways she will be alone forever. I guess I am looking for some sort of closure.. I really don't know what the fuck I am looking for to be honest. Breaking up with you are madly in love with, despite everything - isn't easy. I am strongly introverted, and she is my first love.. Hell, she is the first person I've been any sort of emotionally close to. I'm just having trouble mustering up the courage to actually make and accept such a dramatic change in my life.
It is going to be the hardest decision I've had to make in my life up till now, but I know it has to happen.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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Suck man...sorry
She doesn't respect you. Esp. considering you're the provider and she still had the disrespect to do that. You'll be happier a month from now, trust us, most of us have been there before.
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shLong said: Suck man...sorry
She doesn't respect you. Esp. considering you're the provider and she still had the disrespect to do that. You'll be happier a month from now, trust us, most of us have been there before.
Thanks for the comforting man. I sure hope so man. I'm just trying to figure out where I went wrong man. She just threw it away with such a fucking stupid decision to cheat on me with some guy she knew for like 2 weeks. I knew something was wrong when her sex drive completely died when she started going out, I just didn't want to admit it to myself.
It is just hard to contemplate a radically different life at the moment. I really don't want to do it, not a single part of me - because I love her to death and as naive as it may be.. I actually envisioned some sort of future with her... but I know that the more I invest.. The harder it will be when my heart is broken in the future.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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Same thing happened to me 8 years ago or so. g/f who lived with me, no job, no car, started hanging with this one friend of hers. I treated her great, all was well, or so I thought...
I started noticing she didnt wanna fuck anymore, didnt think too much of it. Long story short, she was fuckin around...and now, she's hugely fat, with child, still w/o car and job and a fucking loser 
Looking back, I was crushed, like I wanna kill myself crushed, but now, Im so happy shit happened like it did.
Sort of strange how it goes from suicide to sheer happiness that you're not with her, but IDK 
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She was also a compulsive liar too
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shLong said: Same thing happened to me 8 years ago or so. g/f who lived with me, no job, no car, started hanging with this one friend of hers. I treated her great, all was well, or so I thought...
I started noticing she didnt wanna fuck anymore, didnt think too much of it. Long story short, she was fuckin around...and now, she's hugely fat, with child, still w/o car and job and a fucking loser 
Looking back, I was crushed, like I wanna kill myself crushed, but now, Im so happy shit happened like it did.
Sort of strange how it goes from suicide to sheer happiness that you're not with her, but IDK 
You'll get past it fine after a bit, trust us
Yea man. What is it with some women? Once a guy lets a girl know that he is fully supportive and always there for her, she feels the need to fuck around? How did you end up finding out dude? How long did you date her? Sorry if I'm interrogating, I'm genuinely interested in how things played out though.
Damn dude good thing you got out of that situation she sounds like a wreck. I feel crushed with the contemplation alone of ending this relationship, but I am also sure that I will be happy too with time, but I know it is going to be an intensely painful experience to find that happiness again. The uncertainty is really too much to bear, and a future really can't happen under these circumstances.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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zaq.xsw0 said: Of course the night I break up she starts to treat me amazing and my lonely self craves that.
this is the behavior of a whore, she's still with you because of what you provide, she sees a little weakness and exploits it to have you continue providing, you're better off giving her $50 and telling her to get out, if you want to continue any sort of relationship it should be based on that.
I left a chick stranded 400 miles from home because of that kind of behavior, when I told her it was time to leave a bar and the 4 guys she's flirting with said that she didnt have to, I told them they were right but if she wanted a place to say or a ride home she may want to consider leaving. she managed to find her way back by the next afternoon, packed her shit and was gone...
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14604852 - 06/13/11 07:29 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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She made a bad move and fucked up. Don't let her use you like some toy, bro. Kick her ass to the curb..
Once she realizes that she made a huge mistake, she'll come crawling back to you.. and that's when you kick her in the face and tell that wench to get the fuck off your property.
Fuck that bitch,
you deserve better
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Prisoner#1]
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zaq.xsw0 said: Of course the night I break up she starts to treat me amazing and my lonely self craves that.
this is the behavior of a whore, she's still with you because of what you provide, she sees a little weakness and exploits it to have you continue providing, you're better off giving her $50 and telling her to get out, if you want to continue any sort of relationship it should be based on that.
I left a chick stranded 400 miles from home because of that kind of behavior, she managed to find her way back by the next afternoon, packed her shit and was gone
Dude. Thats another thing that really fucks with my head. I keep wondering how much of our relationship was actual love on her part, and how much of it was me being used. I'm such a romantic and sucker for love I guess I just got blinded somewhere along the line.
Damn man care to share about that experience?
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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The quicker you get her out of your life, the sooner you will heal.
Fuck that depressing shit, either man up and kick her ass out and find someone better, or deal with this hurt for the time being.
You're hurting yourself at this point.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: NewWavePeace]
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NewWavePeace said: She made a bad move and fucked up. Don't let her use you like some toy, bro. Kick her ass to the curb..
Once she realizes that she made a huge mistake, she'll come crawling back to you.. and that's when you kick her in the face and tell that wench to get the fuck off your property.
Fuck that bitch,
you deserve better
Hell man. She wont even be able to crawl back. Im getting the first plane ticket the fuck out of here for a few months. I am only in this area because I was so in love that I was willing to sacrifice a lot to come down here so we could live together. I really love her that much man. First cut hopefully is the deepest, because this is going to fucking hurt.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: MadSeasonAbove]
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MadSeasonAbove said: The quicker you get her out of your life, the sooner you will heal.
Fuck that depressing shit, either man up and kick her ass out and find someone better, or deal with this hurt for the time being.
You're hurting yourself at this point.
I hate to admit it but I think you are right. I need to start thinking with my head and stop thinking with my heart so much. Despite everything I still love her but I can't continue this, because if she used me once.. She will use me again, I see no reason why she would just change.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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How it played out....lol, well, lets see....
we had been dating 2 years at this point
I was 20, she left me for my good friend. I did a ton of coke, self loathing, after his car broke down for good she calls me back up, I shamelessly took her back after all her "Im Sorrys".....Wasted another 2 years of being paranoid and jealous and not trusting a single word she said. She ended up fucking another buddy while I was out of town for 3 days, and they are still together, with a child, no car or jobs and are basically losers.
All in all, I wasted 4 years with this kunt....Now you can understand my concern...
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14604887 - 06/13/11 07:46 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'll guarantee that she doesnt know what love actually is, she certainly cant show it if she's willing to fuck around on you after a year in a relationship
as for the one I ditched, went on a road trip, she insisted on coming along, so I thought ok, one night she wants to go dancing, I figure OK let's do it, get to the bar, danced a little, drank a little, go piss and she's dancing with some dude, no problem, a little later she's hanging out with 4 guys, I walk over there in time to hear her say "oh, he's not my boyfriend" and told her it's time to go... a few months in a relationship, a few months of dating, her dropping hints about marriage and shit... way too soon for that, anyway the guys tried starting some shit when I gave her the choice of be in the truck when I leave or stay, didnt make a difference to me, they followed me out talking shit, I got out the door and one of them grabbed me, I slammed him and told them to stay the fuck out of shit that doesnt concern them, I walked to my truck and drove off, went to the hotel and got my shit and left hers there, drove back home and got a good night's sleep.
women that fuck around arent worth the trouble, even if the one you're with hasnt actually fucked the guy she's still in the process of cheating, based on your original post, I'm pretty sure she already has, the comment about 'just some girl you used to fuck' says she's looking for the next guy to sponge off of
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Prisoner#1]
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Yeah man, that is fucked up that she won't fess up. I know what you mean about being a romantic sucker, I have been like that in the past. I sometimes lie, and can understand that others do too when it comes to certain things, but I would never take it that far and have a hard time understanding how someone could claim to care for you, and still act like that I mean, how low can you get? Honestly its pathetic, and you should feel bad for her, your integrity will give you a chance at finding real love and happiness, where she will probably fuck up everything good she ever gets in life.
I think it is important that you accept the situation for what it is, and move on. I would say to forgive her, but she would have to show some sort of remorse for that to even make sense. You sound like you have some good things going in your life, and she would only bring drama and misery if you were to let her stay.
Hope you haven't caved in already!
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#14605211 - 06/13/11 09:43 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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NewWavePeace said: She made a bad move and fucked up. Don't let her use you like some toy, bro. Kick her ass to the curb..
Once she realizes that she made a huge mistake, she'll come crawling back to you.. and that's when you kick her in the face and tell that wench to get the fuck off your property.
Fuck that bitch,
you deserve better
Wise words said here, heed them well OP. good luck
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
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shLong said: How it played out....lol, well, lets see....
we had been dating 2 years at this point
I was 20, she left me for my good friend. I did a ton of coke, self loathing, after his car broke down for good she calls me back up, I shamelessly took her back after all her "Im Sorrys".....Wasted another 2 years of being paranoid and jealous and not trusting a single word she said. She ended up fucking another buddy while I was out of town for 3 days, and they are still together, with a child, no car or jobs and are basically losers.
All in all, I wasted 4 years with this kunt....Now you can understand my concern...
Damn dude. Its crazy what love can make us do. I'm naturally not a jealous, paranoid or mistrustful person... But after all this I am becoming this. Those 3 words sum up how I have been feeling since seeing that message. Its no way to carry on a relationship. Dude they sound perfect for each other!
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Prisoner#1 said: I'll guarantee that she doesnt know what love actually is, she certainly cant show it if she's willing to fuck around on you after a year in a relationship
as for the one I ditched, went on a road trip, she insisted on coming along, so I thought ok, one night she wants to go dancing, I figure OK let's do it, get to the bar, danced a little, drank a little, go piss and she's dancing with some dude, no problem, a little later she's hanging out with 4 guys, I walk over there in time to hear her say "oh, he's not my boyfriend" and told her it's time to go... a few months in a relationship, a few months of dating, her dropping hints about marriage and shit... way too soon for that, anyway the guys tried starting some shit when I gave her the choice of be in the truck when I leave or stay, didnt make a difference to me, they followed me out talking shit, I got out the door and one of them grabbed me, I slammed him and told them to stay the fuck out of shit that doesnt concern them, I walked to my truck and drove off, went to the hotel and got my shit and left hers there, drove back home and got a good night's sleep.
women that fuck around arent worth the trouble, even if the one you're with hasnt actually fucked the guy she's still in the process of cheating, based on your original post, I'm pretty sure she already has, the comment about 'just some girl you used to fuck' says she's looking for the next guy to sponge off of
Wow man. I can't believe she would act that way right in your presence. That is so disrespectful, but at least you got to see it first hand and not have any uncertainty or mystery about the whole situation!
I agree man, she was in the process.. I made her stop all contact with him, but I'm sure she would still be seeing him on a regular basis if I didn't actually find that message. Its a blessing I found the letter when I did and not have to continue on being paranoid and uncertain about it all.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14605448 - 06/13/11 10:41 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Were replying to this thread for your assistance...most of us have been there before, "blinded by the light", take 2 steps left and you'll see what we mean...Give it some time, but you'll look back on her and say "good riddance"
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14605455 - 06/13/11 10:42 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I wasted ages 17-22 with this chick...You have any idea how shitty that makes me feel....
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moonrockmushy said: Yeah man, that is fucked up that she won't fess up. I know what you mean about being a romantic sucker, I have been like that in the past. I sometimes lie, and can understand that others do too when it comes to certain things, but I would never take it that far and have a hard time understanding how someone could claim to care for you, and still act like that I mean, how low can you get? Honestly its pathetic, and you should feel bad for her, your integrity will give you a chance at finding real love and happiness, where she will probably fuck up everything good she ever gets in life.
I think it is important that you accept the situation for what it is, and move on. I would say to forgive her, but she would have to show some sort of remorse for that to even make sense. You sound like you have some good things going in your life, and she would only bring drama and misery if you were to let her stay.
Hope you haven't caved in already! 
Thanks for the words man. I love her to death and feel sad knowing that she is bound for a shitty life if she doesn't straighten up fast. She has no financial security in any sense and needs to get her own two fucking feet on the floor. I forgive her. She is lost and confused and is going to realize eventually that she IS ruining every good aspect of her life by living deceitfully. I hope the best for her. I really need to muster up the courage to finally accept the change.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14605470 - 06/13/11 10:44 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yea dude, that is definitely way too long to be pushed around. I just cant wait for this mental misery of heartbreak wont stick with me for too long, because despite everything I DO love her more than anything in the world, and thats what makes it so fucking hard
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14605474 - 06/13/11 10:45 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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You already know what you need to do, it's your choice from here. Do it wisely....and be very selfish if need be (after all, she is!)
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
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shLong said: You already know what you need to do, it's your choice from here. Do it wisely....and be very selfish if need be (after all, she is!)
Doing it wisely is another thing I've been thinking about. I really want to leave it on the best note imaginable.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14605502 - 06/13/11 10:53 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sometime though, bro...You need to be an ass to get the point across. Otherwise she'll just start crying and be all "Im so sorry, itll never happen again, i dont know what i was thinking" and then you'll loosen up and cave in.
women are clever animals, beware!
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
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Dude, honestly though. I can't see her even getting to the point of ACKNOWLEDGING that she even did any wrong.
99% sure she will never be able to do it.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
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zaq.xsw0 said: Dude, honestly though. I can't see her even getting to the point of ACKNOWLEDGING that she even did any wrong.
99% sure she will never be able to do it.
You may love her but she isn't long term material. You don't deserve or need a girl like that. Cut your losses before it gets too hard.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14605573 - 06/13/11 11:06 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: Dude, honestly though. I can't see her even getting to the point of ACKNOWLEDGING that she even did any wrong.
99% sure she will never be able to do it.
i don't see how her acknowledgment of her failures of a person will change anything. i know it would make you feel better, but in the long run what good will it do? none, imo. the quicker you distance yourself from this girl the better off you will be.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: nglsnv]
#14605742 - 06/13/11 11:38 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Report back tomorrow after the deed is done for a high five, k?
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zaq.xsw0 said: Dude, honestly though. I can't see her even getting to the point of ACKNOWLEDGING that she even did any wrong.
99% sure she will never be able to do it.
You may love her but she isn't long term material. You don't deserve or need a girl like that. Cut your losses before it gets too hard.
I agree, I ultimately can not see myself with her. But god, if she was just honest didn't have to cheat she would be perfect to me.
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zaq.xsw0 said: Dude, honestly though. I can't see her even getting to the point of ACKNOWLEDGING that she even did any wrong.
99% sure she will never be able to do it.
i don't see how her acknowledgment of her failures of a person will change anything. i know it would make you feel better, but in the long run what good will it do? none, imo. the quicker you distance yourself from this girl the better off you will be.
Acknowledgement might make her realize that she is fucking up her life with this kind of habitual behavior. It definitely would make me feel better, just a sense of closure I guess.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14607185 - 06/13/11 04:03 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said: Report back tomorrow after the deed is done for a high five, k?
I will report back tomorrow. Thanks for sharing your perspective and story man. Feels good to know there are others out there who have been in similar situations and can share the pain.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14607251 - 06/13/11 04:18 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Anytime
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