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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: IamMatt]
#14599919 - 06/12/11 08:52 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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IamMatt said:That happened to a friend of mine he caught his girlfriend cheating on him and the broke up and he was still on the lease so he had to stay for 3 more months while she constantly brought guys home and shit.
Same thing happened to me. She cheated on me and we had no other place to go so we lived together for another 4 months after the breakup till the lease was up. Only while she was bringing other guys home to fuck, I was bringing other girls back too. Was such a fucked up situation.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: ifoundwaldo]
#14599945 - 06/12/11 09:03 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.
Hm. So if she admits she was lying to you for a LONG time, who is to say she will not do so in the future?
I'm all for second chances, but a compulsive liar is a compulsive liar. (And a slut is a slut.)
True man, but I don't know.. I want it to work so bad and I have faith that she can change if I put it all out there and she is able to finally stop being in denial. Guess I have too much faith in people sometimes
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14599948 - 06/12/11 09:03 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.

You really don't get it do you? She doesn't care about you, she cheated on you, fell in love with someone else, and is DEFINITELY going to cheat on you again.
Have fun!
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: pwnasaurus]
#14600542 - 06/12/11 12:13 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.

You really don't get it do you? She doesn't care about you, she cheated on you, fell in love with someone else, and is DEFINITELY going to cheat on you again.
Have fun!
Dude..I want to believe differently so badly.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14600565 - 06/12/11 12:16 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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You could interpret it as all a big unfortunate misunderstanding. Most of us interpret it differently though. Still, its your battle, your choice to make. Don't let us push you either way, just listen and decide for yourself. This is the internet, we could all be wrong.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14600572 - 06/12/11 12:18 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.

You really don't get it do you? She doesn't care about you, she cheated on you, fell in love with someone else, and is DEFINITELY going to cheat on you again.
Have fun!
Dude..I want to believe differently so badly.
I know you do, but unfortunately that's just not the case. Nobody, and I mean nobody, would say "I don't just want to be fucked" when they meant it as friends. Does that even make any iota of sense coming from a friend?
Do the right thing man, kick the girl to the curb. It'll probably be the hardest thing you ever do, but after a month you'll be thanking yourself.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Asante]
#14602402 - 06/12/11 06:31 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Wiccan_Seeker said: You could interpret it as all a big unfortunate misunderstanding. Most of us interpret it differently though. Still, its your battle, your choice to make. Don't let us push you either way, just listen and decide for yourself. This is the internet, we could all be wrong.
I totally agree with this, sometimes another perspective can be helpful, but after all that if you still want to be with her, or even believe her, there is nothing wrong with that Maybe you will feel different in the future, maybe you would really regret kicking her out 
Good luck, and I'm sure everyone here would love to know if she fesses up or not!
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14602632 - 06/12/11 07:27 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.
Hm. So if she admits she was lying to you for a LONG time, who is to say she will not do so in the future?
I'm all for second chances, but a compulsive liar is a compulsive liar. (And a slut is a slut.)
True man, but I don't know.. I want it to work so bad and I have faith that she can change if I put it all out there and she is able to finally stop being in denial. Guess I have too much faith in people sometimes
sorry, but it sounds like your the one in denial.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Cloud9]
#14602765 - 06/12/11 07:54 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'm not going to deny that man. No matter how much my gut tells me she has been unfaithful I'm having a really hard time grasping it all.
It is definitely helpful to get a fresh perspective, I just need to make a decision and stick to my guns.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14603245 - 06/12/11 09:32 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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i've been there, and it's a really hard place to be. but your the only one who can really make the call on weather she is lying or not. but we all have experience there, and keep in mind not one person has said "shes probably honest and it's all a misunderstanding". if she was really honest, you wouldn't be in this situation.
but life does go on, as much is shit hurts now and feels like the end of the worl, things will be better again one day.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14604769 - 06/13/11 06:39 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: I am going to put it all on the table tonight. Tell her I know she has cheated on me, and either she has the respect to admit it or to move out tonight. I'll see how I feel from there, the first step is her ADMITTING her mistakes and if she isn't willing to I am not wasting another second on her.
Well, how'd it go?
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Cloud9]
#14604783 - 06/13/11 06:50 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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It definitely is a really hard place to be. It's a shock to the system to have everything you have emotionally invested into another person, just crumbled in a matter of seconds. It is pretty obvious that she is lying and had been seeing this dude while our relationship may not have been at its strongest.
I kept telling her we had to end the relationship, and its really not as easy when you have to move somebody completely out of your house. She does not have a car, she does not have a good place to go besides with me, and I have been nothing but great to her. Why would she fuck that up? I've been nothing but amazing to her in every way I know possible. Of course the night I break up she starts to treat me amazing and my lonely self craves that.
Yet she STILL denies it after everything. How can someone bear to carry the burden of a secret like that, without eventually snapping? I really don't get it.
I know I have to break up with her, a future is really not possible with a cheater - and sadly if she continues her ways she will be alone forever. I guess I am looking for some sort of closure.. I really don't know what the fuck I am looking for to be honest. Breaking up with you are madly in love with, despite everything - isn't easy. I am strongly introverted, and she is my first love.. Hell, she is the first person I've been any sort of emotionally close to. I'm just having trouble mustering up the courage to actually make and accept such a dramatic change in my life.
It is going to be the hardest decision I've had to make in my life up till now, but I know it has to happen.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14604795 - 06/13/11 06:56 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Suck man...sorry
She doesn't respect you. Esp. considering you're the provider and she still had the disrespect to do that. You'll be happier a month from now, trust us, most of us have been there before.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14604807 - 06/13/11 07:03 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said: Suck man...sorry
She doesn't respect you. Esp. considering you're the provider and she still had the disrespect to do that. You'll be happier a month from now, trust us, most of us have been there before.
Thanks for the comforting man. I sure hope so man. I'm just trying to figure out where I went wrong man. She just threw it away with such a fucking stupid decision to cheat on me with some guy she knew for like 2 weeks. I knew something was wrong when her sex drive completely died when she started going out, I just didn't want to admit it to myself.
It is just hard to contemplate a radically different life at the moment. I really don't want to do it, not a single part of me - because I love her to death and as naive as it may be.. I actually envisioned some sort of future with her... but I know that the more I invest.. The harder it will be when my heart is broken in the future.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14604819 - 06/13/11 07:17 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Same thing happened to me 8 years ago or so. g/f who lived with me, no job, no car, started hanging with this one friend of hers. I treated her great, all was well, or so I thought...
I started noticing she didnt wanna fuck anymore, didnt think too much of it. Long story short, she was fuckin around...and now, she's hugely fat, with child, still w/o car and job and a fucking loser 
Looking back, I was crushed, like I wanna kill myself crushed, but now, Im so happy shit happened like it did.
Sort of strange how it goes from suicide to sheer happiness that you're not with her, but IDK 
You'll get past it fine after a bit, trust us
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14604824 - 06/13/11 07:18 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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She was also a compulsive liar too
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: shLong]
#14604837 - 06/13/11 07:23 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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shLong said: Same thing happened to me 8 years ago or so. g/f who lived with me, no job, no car, started hanging with this one friend of hers. I treated her great, all was well, or so I thought...
I started noticing she didnt wanna fuck anymore, didnt think too much of it. Long story short, she was fuckin around...and now, she's hugely fat, with child, still w/o car and job and a fucking loser 
Looking back, I was crushed, like I wanna kill myself crushed, but now, Im so happy shit happened like it did.
Sort of strange how it goes from suicide to sheer happiness that you're not with her, but IDK 
You'll get past it fine after a bit, trust us
Yea man. What is it with some women? Once a guy lets a girl know that he is fully supportive and always there for her, she feels the need to fuck around? How did you end up finding out dude? How long did you date her? Sorry if I'm interrogating, I'm genuinely interested in how things played out though.
Damn dude good thing you got out of that situation she sounds like a wreck. I feel crushed with the contemplation alone of ending this relationship, but I am also sure that I will be happy too with time, but I know it is going to be an intensely painful experience to find that happiness again. The uncertainty is really too much to bear, and a future really can't happen under these circumstances.
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14604841 - 06/13/11 07:25 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: Of course the night I break up she starts to treat me amazing and my lonely self craves that.
this is the behavior of a whore, she's still with you because of what you provide, she sees a little weakness and exploits it to have you continue providing, you're better off giving her $50 and telling her to get out, if you want to continue any sort of relationship it should be based on that.
I left a chick stranded 400 miles from home because of that kind of behavior, when I told her it was time to leave a bar and the 4 guys she's flirting with said that she didnt have to, I told them they were right but if she wanted a place to say or a ride home she may want to consider leaving. she managed to find her way back by the next afternoon, packed her shit and was gone...
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: zaq.xsw0]
#14604852 - 06/13/11 07:29 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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She made a bad move and fucked up. Don't let her use you like some toy, bro. Kick her ass to the curb..
Once she realizes that she made a huge mistake, she'll come crawling back to you.. and that's when you kick her in the face and tell that wench to get the fuck off your property.
Fuck that bitch,
you deserve better
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Re: is there ANY way this letter could be interpreted differently? [Re: Prisoner#1]
#14604853 - 06/13/11 07:29 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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zaq.xsw0 said: Of course the night I break up she starts to treat me amazing and my lonely self craves that.
this is the behavior of a whore, she's still with you because of what you provide, she sees a little weakness and exploits it to have you continue providing, you're better off giving her $50 and telling her to get out, if you want to continue any sort of relationship it should be based on that.
I left a chick stranded 400 miles from home because of that kind of behavior, she managed to find her way back by the next afternoon, packed her shit and was gone
Dude. Thats another thing that really fucks with my head. I keep wondering how much of our relationship was actual love on her part, and how much of it was me being used. I'm such a romantic and sucker for love I guess I just got blinded somewhere along the line.
Damn man care to share about that experience?
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