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 on forgivness 
#14561895 - 06/04/11 08:47 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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so right now in my life i have a few people left
and the past actions (to say what would add bias) of these people
would make most people mad and hurt
here is the question
is it possible in your eyes,to forgive a person when they continue to
do malicious actions
here is how i see it
its like trying to forgive a thief-when his hand is reaching for your wallet
im very curious what the pubs judges and philosophers think
thanks
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Re: on forgivness [Re: Micawber]
#14561986 - 06/04/11 09:08 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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why not just find new people? life is too short to waste on people who constantly disappoint/hurt you. in either case, life will be a lot better without them.
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Re: on forgiveness [Re: dr_gonz]
#14562034 - 06/04/11 09:21 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
Micawber said:
so right now in my life i have a few people left
and the past actions (to say what would add bias) of these people
would make most people mad and hurt
here is the question
is it possible in your eyes,to forgive a person when they continue to
do malicious actions
Yes, it's possible.
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#14562052 - 06/04/11 09:25 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Re: on forgiveness [Re: dr_gonz]
#14562071 - 06/04/11 09:31 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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sometimes the best way to get over something is to forgive because it stress' you out.
Still if someones a jerk 9/10 even if you dont hang out with them they're going to be a jerk everytime you see them
people are like that
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Re: on forgiveness [Re: Konyap] 1
#14562079 - 06/04/11 09:33 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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forgiveness to me means understanding. If i forgive someone for something, it doesn't mean I support what they did, it means I am understanding enough to understand why they did it.
I am very forgiving, but I never let my guard down
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Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylanfireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Quote:
Anthony917 said:
forgiveness to me means understanding. If i forgive someone for something, it doesn't mean I support what they did, it means I am understanding enough to understand why they did it.
I am very forgiving, but I never let my guard down
thanks man
that's the approach im trying to take
sucha bitch to do though
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Re: on forgiveness [Re: Poid]
#14562204 - 06/04/11 10:02 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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forgive, yet make their wrongs clear.
give them your insight and advice about what you believe is the problem. some disapproval may help initiate a desire to change, which is needed first. then step back and respect their right to change themselves.
i have recently been in a comparable situation- hanging out with people who act like leeches through draining and pessimism and conforming to certain opinions for the sake of gaining my approval while remaining narrowminded. i have stopped hanging out with these people while trying to make it clear to them why i can't be around (them), because when i hung out with them and tried to change them it had a reverse psychology type of reaction. Now that i've left, they're questioning themselves
I havent necessarily abandoned them, just made it clear that i dont support their attitude and that it doesnt have a positive effect on me.
but only they can change themselves, is what ive realized.
so i would say, what a wise treehouse man told me
love many
trust few
always paddle your own canoe
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Re: on forgiveness [Re: wondercat]
#14562238 - 06/04/11 10:10 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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just made it clear that i dont support their attitude and that it doesnt have a positive effect on me.
this sounds like exactly what i need to do thanks
not easy at all though
cest la vie-i guess
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