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"awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one"
#14561602 - 06/04/11 07:44 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Someone just told me this and I cant wrap my mind around how it could conceivably be possible. I think it's a grossly false statement that someone told me to make me feel better. Discuss.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14561728 - 06/04/11 08:13 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Why didn't you ask them what the fuck they meant by that.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Icelander]
#14561758 - 06/04/11 08:19 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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I did and they went on about there being a fine line between quirky and awkward and how some people find quirky to be charming if you blur the line a little.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14561862 - 06/04/11 08:41 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well then believe it or not.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14561922 - 06/04/11 08:52 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one"
This is a meaningless statement..anything can be an asset if you make it one.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Poid]
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MisterMuscaria said: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one"
This is a meaningless statement..anything can be an asset if you make it one.
Instead of a nose i have a large deformed penis that oozes toxic puss. How do you suggest i make this an asset?
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: 4896744] 1
#14561953 - 06/04/11 08:59 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sell your story to a medical journal and then join a freak show.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14561954 - 06/04/11 08:59 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: Someone just told me this and I cant wrap my mind around how it could conceivably be possible. I think it's a grossly false statement that someone told me to make me feel better. Discuss.
I assume you are talking about girls here. They may find it cute if you are really attractive, but for the most part it's a negative. Confidence means a lot when trying to attract females.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Poid]
#14561955 - 06/04/11 08:59 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Can stupidity be an asset?
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Icelander]
#14561959 - 06/04/11 09:01 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Icelander said: Sell your story to a medical journal and then join a freak show. 
Touche. I was thinking about it purely from an attraction standpoint.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: 4896744]
#14561980 - 06/04/11 09:06 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: Can stupidity be an asset?
I can't see why not, especially if you make it one.
If you've made something an asset, then, obviously, it can be an asset..that's why the statement "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" is practically meaningless. It's like saying a house can be a place to live if you make it a place to live. Duh! 
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MisterMuscaria said: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one"
This is a meaningless statement..anything can be an asset if you make it one.
Instead of a nose i have a large deformed penis that oozes toxic puss. How do you suggest i make this an asset?
I wouldn't suggest that..but, if you've made it an asset, then it can obviously be an asset because you've made it an asset.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Poid]
#14562080 - 06/04/11 09:33 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Oops I misread your post.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: 4896744]
#14562100 - 06/04/11 09:39 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Damn straight.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Poid]
#14562109 - 06/04/11 09:40 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yeah I guess I dont know what they mean by that then.
It's like saying "You can find a pot of gold if you decide to do that"
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Poid]
#14562116 - 06/04/11 09:41 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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its easy to piss people off with awkwardness though
pissing people off can be an asset
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14562140 - 06/04/11 09:48 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: Yeah I guess I dont know what they mean by that then.
It's like saying "You can find a pot of gold if you decide to do that"
I'm thinking they probably meant to say something like "Awkwardness doesn't have to be a burden, and can actually be an asset." instead.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Poid]
#14562157 - 06/04/11 09:51 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Semantics. Still makes little sense to me.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14562176 - 06/04/11 09:55 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well, IMO, that statement acknowledges that awkwardness is generally undesirable, and basically posits that it needn't be. 
Makes perfect sense to me.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Poid]
#14562184 - 06/04/11 09:58 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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So maybe the right thing to do would be to go ahead and be awkward and not feel shame about the fact that I dont pick up on subtle hints and nonverbal ques?
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14562200 - 06/04/11 10:01 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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That's one way to look at it..another way may be to learn a lesson from awkward moments, such as how to prevent future ones from occurring.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14562774 - 06/05/11 12:14 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: Can stupidity be an asset?
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
#14562784 - 06/05/11 12:19 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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awkwardness as an event in its most basic sense is a function of individuals being confronted by convention deviation that isn't physically violent and is merely psychically aggressive insofar as it demands a reactionary emotional reciprocation to said instance of awkwardness thus they become a part of it and mostly likely discharge it mechanically awkward themselves 
the best take it to a physical level and/or isolate the said bungler
but it depends on your notion of awkwardness and the context, there are at least two distinct types of bunglers, basically made discernible by their intention...
there can be a harnessed awkwardness that panders to the alienated sect of humans that reverse certain values towards memes, the hip artiste or something or comedian asshat, etc and so on a so forth... thus to certain types a certain notion of awkwardness can be made attractive, no?
there are levels of aggressive or intended awkwardness.
basically awkwardness can be good or bad depending on how removed you are from the situations you partake in, and maybe create, or something...
BLAH BLAH BLAH, it depends on the case, but mostly it is a label to an event that is felt uncomfortable for some funny reasons not fully realized by non emotional thought and basically a monkey game for clicked humans to navigate life coherently... one could list some positives and negatives I guess eh... but eccentrics are pretty fun, no?
but the lame bungler without any style is just retarded right?
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: andrewss]
#14562909 - 06/05/11 01:08 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Im mainly talking about the unintentional variety.
Example; a friend and I are standing outside of a convenience store. A gorgeous woman steps out and he says nonchalantly in a creepy voice with a creepy grin stroking the beard that goes down to his stomach "Id like to lick your panties". Then he asks me..."did I just say that or did I think it?"
Im talking about that sorta awkwardness.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14562928 - 06/05/11 01:16 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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this would be not normal circumstances.
which i LOVEEEEE
in that case i would play devils advocate.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14563836 - 06/05/11 09:37 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: So maybe the right thing to do would be to go ahead and be awkward and not feel shame about the fact that I dont pick up on subtle hints and nonverbal ques?
If you are modifying your behavior to "try" to attract a female don't bother. Just be a cocky asshole and they will love you. Whatever you do don't show any vulnerability that is the woman's role. Until they decide to put on the pants and set you straight. Test your confidence as it were. Then whatever you do don't be a man because even though women may say they want that they wear too many pants to be real women.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: LunarEclipse]
#14563911 - 06/05/11 10:00 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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The voice of age and experience.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: Icelander]
#14563943 - 06/05/11 10:09 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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The voice of age and experience.
And it's all talk I didn't really learn a dam thing.
Except maybe leer but don't love.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: LunarEclipse]
#14564091 - 06/05/11 10:46 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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IMO even the best of us rarely learn much.
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: LunarEclipse]
#14565023 - 06/05/11 03:02 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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You've blown my mind.
So be a complete arrogant asshole at first and then turn into a whipped little boy?
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14567520 - 06/06/11 12:11 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: Im mainly talking about the unintentional variety.
Example; a friend and I are standing outside of a convenience store. A gorgeous woman steps out and he says nonchalantly in a creepy voice with a creepy grin stroking the beard that goes down to his stomach "Id like to lick your panties". Then he asks me..."did I just say that or did I think it?"
Im talking about that sorta awkwardness.
Dude, thats just funny. Awkwardness is only bad in as much as you take life seriously. Just roll with it...
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Re: "awkwardness can be an asset if you make it one" [Re: weshroom]
#14567537 - 06/06/11 12:17 AM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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what was funny was exactly how he said it with the pauses and emphasis...
"oh!... hey.......Id like to lick your panties..."
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