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Anonymous #1

The negatives outweight the positives in my life
    #14543232 - 05/31/11 10:49 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

and it feels like every day is a chore.
I don't have a lover, I don't have any true friends. My friends are all depressed losers. Girls don't like me because I'm naturally ugly, there's no hiding it. I'm stuck in a job I hate and all I have to look forward to is drugs, materials and my unrealistic dreams for the future, like someday finding love or wealth.
Feels bad man.
Feels bad man indeed
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I'm considering suicide again. Why not? Life's a bitch, man. Too much fucking work. I'm curious about what awaits me on the other side. I'm full of angst and self loathing and I find myself wondering, what's the point of all this damn work, why not save myself the time. No one besides my family would care if I offed myself.


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14543270 - 05/31/11 10:57 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

Why don't you just distract yourself by making new friends and trying new activities? Just try to stay positive because dwelling on the negative doesn't help matters. my boyfriend of 5 years just broke up with me a couple of weeks ago and I still feel like shit but keep myself distracted with positive outlets. Things will get better! Feel better. *hugs*


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: rational]
    #14543319 - 05/31/11 11:05 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

People avoid me, I think it's the way I look. I can't understand why anyone would want to be friends with someone like me, I have nothing going for me, nothing exciting or interesting. My whole life is a routine. I've tried that positive outlook thing since I was a depressed little kid and things never change, I've  had enough.

Lateley I've been considering either killing myself or making a drastic change in my life by leaving everything/everyone familiar behind and becoming homeless in a new city or something like that


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14543335 - 05/31/11 11:08 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

do the work for yourself bud, not for others. accomplish for yourself and be proud. yes lifes a bitch, but thats part of the beauty... the realization of 'yea.. this sucks, and why should i take this bitch seriously if she (life) sucks...? because im not gonna let her fuck me, and im gonna maintain my pride and have fun; play along with life' that realization in itself can do wonders. the contradicting thing is.. of course... that the main point is not to follow my advice, but rather your heart  (dont set this as a goal), youll aight :wink: :thumbup:


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14543384 - 05/31/11 11:19 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

Instead of becoming homeless in a new city you could try WWOOF. It seems like a good way to get away from it all for a while.


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: rational]
    #14543393 - 05/31/11 11:20 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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Why don't you just distract yourself by making new friends and trying new activities? Just try to stay positive because dwelling on the negative doesn't help matters. my boyfriend of 5 years just broke up with me a couple of weeks ago and I still feel like shit but keep myself distracted with positive outlets. Things will get better! Feel better. *hugs*




That is terrible advice (although good-intentioned). He doesn't need new activities or friends to gloss over his pain, he needs to fucking DEAL with his pain. New activities are good and all, but he needs to deal with his pain, not ignore it by staying busy or anything.

Also, how do you know that things will get better? You don't even know the guy, or his situation, so how do you know things will get better? And don't tell him to "feel better", he should feel however the hell he's feeling.

I'm sorry, I don't mean to be an ass to you, but that SAME mentality is what destroyed me. The same "just be happy" mentality ruined me. It's often well-intentioned, but it's TERRIBLE advice.


OP, I've been there before. It's a terrible place to be. The best advice I have is to get help...REAL help. See a therapist. Let people around you know what's up. Don't hold things in. Don't just try to ignore/mask the pain by using drugs, staying busy, or anything like that. You're in a pretty fucked up place and you need to DEAL with it. Go see a shrink. Shrinks help a lot, if you find the right one. Give a shrink a few sessions to see how it helps you, but realize some really don't care. And there's some that care, but they don't really "click" with you. Find one that works with you.

Don't be afraid of anti-depressants either.


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: lifeinallday]
    #14543423 - 05/31/11 11:29 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

"People avoid me, I think it's the way I look." People don't avoid you because of the way that you look, they avoid you because of your low self-esteem and depressive attitude. Nobody wants to be with a buzzkill. If you exude confidence people will want to be around you. "and my unrealistic dreams for the future" - that's an example of you not having self-confidence. You need to believe in yourself and in your dreams! You need to deal with yourself, rethink your outlook on life, make a plan, and THEN try to meet new people and pursue your dreams.


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Shroomerited]
    #14543440 - 05/31/11 11:32 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

Could you post a pic? Dude, living isn't about interaction with others and their satisfaction they get from you and the satisfaction you get form them, it's about satisfying yourself and you coming first, your specific dna only exists once in this universe, your pretty genuine and that counts for alot. fuck anything else that doesnt


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Shroomerited]
    #14543453 - 05/31/11 11:34 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

forgot to mention, been in therapy since I was little, and tried a number of medications too, don't like the side effects. i had a rocky relationship with my parents, they're hardcore Christians and they sent me a lockdown treatment center for 2 years of my life (got caught smoking weed), I spent 2 years in therapy every day and I wasn't allowed to do anything fun and normal until I was released as a legal adult 1 year ago, so needless to say I'm sick of therapy. i harbor alot of resentment towards my parents and I'm an only child too so I'm all they've got. still, they're my parents and i can't help but feel like i owe them not to kill myself...

my job makes me 8 dollars an hour and i'm just scraping by on my own, i come home from work exhausted and with no one to talk to who truly cares

honestly i don't feel my "situation" is all that bad,people have it way worse off than me. more than anything i'm just lazy and I didn't sign up for this, i mean we all die any way so why not take the easy way out


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14543502 - 05/31/11 11:43 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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honestly i don't feel my "situation" is all that bad,people have it way worse off than me.




Again, terrible way to see things. Who cares how worse off other people have it? It sounds like you have some issues, it doesn't matter how big or small they are, you should deal with them.

And yeah, I'd be sick of therapy too (2 years daily? my god, I'd go insane. I just don't have that much shit to say). However, try getting a decent shrink, one that you actually WANT to go to, and one you can tell to fuck off if you want.

Other than that man, try taking some classes at a community college. If you play your cards right, you can do it for next to nothing, and you might be able to get out of your shithole job.

And yeah, by my earlier post I don't mean that getting new friends or activities is bad. It might help a bit, but don't just get them to distract yourself. Your issues will always be there until you deal with them, ya know?


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14543548 - 05/31/11 11:51 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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forgot to mention, been in therapy since I was little, and tried a number of medications too, don't like the side effects. i had a rocky relationship with my parents, they're hardcore Christians and they sent me a lockdown treatment center for 2 years of my life (got caught smoking weed), I spent 2 years in therapy every day and I wasn't allowed to do anything fun and normal until I was released as a legal adult 1 year ago, so needless to say I'm sick of therapy. i harbor alot of resentment towards my parents and I'm an only child too so I'm all they've got. still, they're my parents and i can't help but feel like i owe them not to kill myself...

my job makes me 8 dollars an hour and i'm just scraping by on my own, i come home from work exhausted and with no one to talk to who truly cares

honestly i don't feel my "situation" is all that bad,people have it way worse off than me. more than anything i'm just lazy and I didn't sign up for this, i mean we all die any way so why not take the easy way out




Because life when you get where you want to be is fucking awesome, I had a terrible depression last year, felt like i was losing my mind, attempted suicide a couple times and got committed to a mental hospital, a few intense dmt and various psych trips later aswell as a little dab in dissociatives and I ahve been feeling great, the sun and the sky is beautiful, the world is just too beautifal to not witness it and end it.


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #14545051 - 06/01/11 09:59 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

If I may weigh in, I think your idea of leaving it all behind and moving somewhere brand new is a fantastic idea, in fact this is exactly what Ive been saving $ to do for awhile now. I'm not sure how long Ill remain in MN, but sometime over the summer Ill be leaving everything I know and all my securities in the dust.

Save up a bit of money first I'd say, but fuck it man, start a new chapter of your life. There are lots of shroomerites down in Phoenix, we can all be some high ass ugly motherfuckers together :super:


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14546961 - 06/01/11 05:31 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: EntheogenicPeace]
    #14547716 - 06/01/11 08:02 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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Just try to stay positive



Try?.. didnt anyone take anything from Starwars, let alone personal reasoning.. Trying is simply an attempt without conviction, or an inability, without previous understanding of ones inability.. It's sadly an excuse.. "Of I'm trying, I'm trying to feel positive :frown:" - Try not, do or do not..

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I can't understand why anyone would want to be friends with someone like me, I have nothing going for me, nothing exciting or interesting.




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People don't avoid you because of the way that you look, they avoid you because of your (outlook) low self-esteem and depressive attitude.




As you think, so shall you be. You get what you give..

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You need to believe in yourself and in your dreams! You need to deal with yourself, rethink your outlook on life, make a plan, and THEN try to meet new people and pursue your dreams.




I think everyone understands this inherently..no? but there is that word try again..


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honestly i don't feel my "situation" is all that bad,people have it way worse off than me. more than anything i'm just lazy and I didn't sign up for this, i mean we all die any way so why not take the easy way out




=Well- you're definitely on the right track to figuring this all out then...

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Again, terrible way to see things. Who cares how worse off other people have it?



This only makes sense on how you are looking at it.. I think of this quite often myself, and it actually gives me encouragement, and appreciation for life..
Of course, when you're depressed, it's never easy to see from that side of things..

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The best advice I have is to get help...REAL help.



Seek Help!(exactly like what you're doing here, but go further, seek more!)

Take that drive you have right now, that brought you here, that made you doubt wanting to commit suicide, and go with it to the extreme. You've already admitted to yourself all these negative things in your life.. Now find someone who does care and admit it to them..

Drug counseling is actually a great place to start (and is usually free!), considering one of the major things bringing you a sense of ease is drugs.. It's not to say you have to stop using, but these people really understand issues of Addiction, and Depression- and many of them have been there themselves..
Find someone who cares! :o

Seek help.. if you have any qualms about it- feeling like you dont want to burden others with your shit, or that you 'should' be able to handle this yourself (don't should all over yourself either, it makes a bigger mess >.>)
let go of them! You are already nearly willing to let go of life, so these things will be a piece of cake comparatively..

I too have been powerfully depressed, have said nearly the exact things you are.. And I'll tell you from experience, there is always another door, and another light..

I often had wanted to just pack up as little as possible, and find a cave somewhere and leave society.. Or as you say, just hitchhike to somewhere new and start again.. (i even practiced living on nil, so I'd be more prepared if I was to just up and leave and have to be homelessness)

Go for it! If you really feel that intense.. (something tells me, you'd rather there be a different way through this negativity.. And besides, even if you move somewhere else, these internal issues will most likely follow you there, and appear in new guise, requiring you to deal with them there too- But! You may meet people, or experience things that will catalyze you out of this rut in these new places.. but don't expect it to solve the problems.. or I preferably call them- Challenges.. Change your words and you can change your world..:wink: )

But by all means, if you wish to leave this plane, do so.. If you have nothing really to leave behind, no one to really miss you, or responsibilities that many depend on.. then by all means.. I'll see you on the otherside sometime :wink:

But for me, it was asking for help, seeking out people who cared, (they were incredibly easy to find surprisingly enough.. Our culture has a lot of systems in place to help/assist/care for the depressed, because it is so rampant here..)
And trying a few different entheogens.. (DXM was my antidepressant for a while..)

Know! That there is nothing wrong with taking a substance to ease/tranquilize/meditate an issue- FOR A TIME... To allow one to get back to a practical actionable perspective.. Be(a)ware though..

All the good vibes I have, your way..
Just making a decision on what you want to do, will give you a sense of control and confidence.. And allow you to move in whichever direction you choose..


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14548332 - 06/01/11 10:10 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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People avoid me, I think it's the way I look. I can't understand why anyone would want to be friends with someone like me, I have nothing going for me, nothing exciting or interesting. My whole life is a routine. I've tried that positive outlook thing since I was a depressed little kid and things never change, I've  had enough.

Lateley I've been considering either killing myself or making a drastic change in my life by leaving everything/everyone familiar behind and becoming homeless in a new city or something like that



Try and meditate and find bliss in just being here without having to have those things or people. Since you dont have those distractions in your life now is a prime spot to travel within. Just focus on Being Love and not having to get it from outside, I might suggest Be Love Now by Ram Dass. Honestly though, to find love in just being and happiness in the moment does not require any type of "good looks". Ive never had a girlfriend, but what works for me is finding happiness in this moment. I realized I was tired of having this never ending pull to get something that was always out of reach similar to you, thats when I decided to work on letting go of feeling that I need to have those things to make me happy. You can change the way you think and change your perception and experience in this moment, dont think suicide is the only way to change your experience of now. Talking to us is a great first step and shows you have energy to find what works for you. The other advice people have been saying is great, just understand there is more than what your thinking mind is processing now and putting any effort in...which your already doing is a step in the right direction. I wish you nothing but the best, and I know you can create a perspective shift. If nothing else, just travel man....leave all your shit behind and see what happens. Try going to some yoga classes at a real yoga school where the focus is yoga and you will see those people dont care what you look like or who you are. There primary focus is loving this moment and accepting it and everything it contains. Go there and feel it for yourself.


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: EntheogenicPeace]
    #14548701 - 06/01/11 11:49 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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You seem to dwell on....



practically everything. im sorry to be brutal, i dont mean to come across as an ass, but you always have an excuse ready for whatevers throw at you... the past is the past bud... the beatles said it 'Let It Be'. maybe listen to more music :shrug:


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: FunkMasterShroom]
    #14548990 - 06/02/11 01:09 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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Again, terrible way to see things. Who cares how worse off other people have it?



This only makes sense on how you are looking at it.. I think of this quite often myself, and it actually gives me encouragement, and appreciation for life..
Of course, when you're depressed, it's never easy to see from that side of things..





I see it this way. If you get an ear infection, it doesn't matter that other people have cancer, you still need to deal with your ear infection.

Granted, an ear infection in the grand scheme of things isn't that big of a deal, but still DEAL with it.


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Shroomerited]
    #14549141 - 06/02/11 02:06 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

Heck yeah! But I'm sure-as glad I don't have cancer XD That just brightens my day to think about it.. (and i've seen what cancer can do X.x)


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: FunkMasterShroom]
    #14549184 - 06/02/11 02:23 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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Heck yeah! But I'm sure-as glad I don't have cancer XD That just brightens my day to think about it.. (and i've seen what cancer can do X.x)




I'm just saying that it IS good to have perspective, but don't think that just because other people have worse problems that yours are any less valid.


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14549221 - 06/02/11 02:43 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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or making a drastic change in my life by leaving everything/everyone familiar behind and becoming homeless in a new city or something like that




that is much better, better yet go to another country!


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: desant]
    #14553687 - 06/03/11 12:06 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

As you can see I've not yet pulled the trigger... I'm too weak and indecisive...
something is standing in my way... this anger, energy and pathetic shred of hope that things will change... my whole life i've searched only for validation and people push me around, call me ugly and I've become convinced I'm ugly, born flawed and stuck this way... I fucking hate myself and it feels awful to live like this, it's painful... I'm a goddamn hermit, a monster in people's eyes... i don't know what i did to deserve this, i guess i'm just unlucky... I wish I was handsome and women hit on me and everything could be easy but these are the cards i was dealt... i wish people could see past appearances and see me for who i truly am inside... but something tells me i was born this way with this body and this mind for a reason, and i should deal with it...

anyway... thanks for the support, you've given me some hope for humans and myself...
I'm still making up my mind on what to do, whether to end it all or start anew and find something I'm passionate about...

what do you folks think occurs after death? an after life, a blank slate? or eternal nothingness?


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14553833 - 06/03/11 12:47 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

How bad do you wanna find out? haha.. If you find any near death experiences credible then there is a light you're drawn to, if your ready you may merge with it, back to the one mind. Or maybe you choose to reincarnate because you want to help people, or maybe you have no choice because you still cling to things, so you are born into a life based on you current karma.

You already have the answers to begin formulating a solution to your current state of suffering. Sure your a good guy in there somewhere, But he's a coward! He's convinced you that you are all these things.. You've concentrated so deeply on these thoughts that they manifest a refection of your inner state into you outer world..

We are what we think.. we are all co creators of this universe and don't realize the power we have.

Sure you may not have an attractive appearance, but look at it this way, there are many superficial people out there who are not going to change, they are so concerned with their outward appearance that they project their own insecurities onto you, that is all. But by you wanting to be around them, this is your projection your wanting of acceptance to be seen with them, to be held in their light, so to speak.

You need to let go from your attachments, this is not you, you are a creative co-creator capable of anything you set your mind to. Your current belief sytem is impeding the flow of life within you.. Let go, stop projecting you insecurities on other people, you can change if you want to, your entire world.. But only you.. we can guide but ultimately this is your journey... Ok captain!

And pick up a kettlebell, give it a few swings, drop the drugs for now you've already learned everything you can from them. You're already going through hell turn it up a few hundred degrees and ride through it, you'll thank yourself and be more disciplined.. Best wishes..


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14553917 - 06/03/11 01:14 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

Why not try the inward path? You wish people could see past appearences, but it seems like you need to do it for yourself first and only. These bodys are nothing to what we truly are, the expansiveness inside. If your considering suicide, why not consider trying to leave all your attachments behind in search of inner peace in this moment. You dont have to kill yourself, when you can just kill the "self" that you are holding onto, this body and all these problems are illusions. There is bliss when you look inward and see beyond it all. Wouldn't you want to try this path and see if it works for you before you end your life? Arn't you curious? Use your money to take you to a tempel and just emmerse yourself in it. Those people dont care about looks the least bit, it is attachment to them. I'm telling you from the depths of my heart, you can let go of all this and find happiness in the moment, in yourself. You like drugs like me....why not take the next step and try and alter your consciousness through lasting means. Im just providing an option that I think can cut right to the root of what is causing you this pain and from my experience has the power to change your life. You are at a point in your life that is described as the darkest before the dawn and in spirituality this point actually is often needed to be reached to take the next step. You really do have a few options, because your mindset you are in now can change. Other options to change your perception, go see a counselor or therapist ( try finding a Neurolinguistic practitioner) if you want, or man even go see a shaman and experience Ayahuasca....travel to peru.  You can change your thought process and perception and find happiness in this moment. Why not try? If your considering suicide you have nothing to lose by doing any of these things....


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: weshroom]
    #14554230 - 06/03/11 04:09 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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I'm too weak and indecisive...



That is totally what it seems like at the time..

But it's something else in disguise..

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this anger, energy and pathetic shred of hope that things will change...




These two things can be and are your allies in this! And now that you recognized them, you can use them..

If your hope is a pathetic shred.. Then use your anger, rile it up, get pissed off at the way things are.. Anger inspires passion, and with that passion you can have the energy to make a change..

I fucking hated at times how incredible shitty my life was a few years ago- How I felt like i got shit on left and right, by people and the world.. It was a miserable time.. and it was my anger that gave me the drive to make a change.. (and admittedly, I'm still learning how to :O )

Acceptance and Validation are two of our Needs as human beings.. I've had a small weight problem my whole life, and when I was younger it kept the girls away.. I had acne all over my face, chest and back- it was constantly painful, and I could barely shower, but not only that, the acne exuded a nasty smell (that I still have to deal with at time- Diet diet diet- Which is also an important factor with mood/depression!) We can be especially crude and cruel the younger we get.. In school inparticular.. I had few friends, and the ones I did, we hung out and stuff, but i couldn't really connect with them... I wanted to end it all, hide in a cave until I reached some kind of satori- and insanely enough, even had fucked up urges to just kill everyone around me at the time.. :crazy2:
Too much awe for me, and later too much for the gf I did find.. She couldnt handle the shit either...

But that bottom.. that last straw.. I couldnt do it.. I couldnt kill anyone, least of all myself.. I had a shred of hope, of desperation, and utter and complete frustration and surrender..

And that's when it began to change..
That's when I began to feel something else.. Anger.. "This isnt Right.. This isnt Fair.. What's going on here..? I don't fucking deserve this.. I deserve better.. I WANT BETTER!"

What the fuck do people know about you?- You realize you have been conditioned, that's the first step to change- Awareness of the Issue..
The perception of what's ugly has been scewed and extremed by our culteral social conditioning.. Beauty comes Truly from within..

It was when I began to Stand up for myself.. See myself standing up for myself.. seeing it.. and beginning to believe in myself.. and then Trusting Myself.. this strange thing called Love started happening.. Love for myself.. And all the love I had ever learned in the past, all the love I had ever recieved, or felt, or shared.. All the intensity, all the Passion, came flooding into me.. and I was able to explode with it.. (in a good way ^^) Idono how loving my life has really been.. but in that moment, I had all of it at my disposal.. and to this day, it continues to flow- I just have to Remember.. (Re-Member.. We are all Members of the Human Species, and we are All equals in the eyes of Spirit.. Remember, and feel that Love.. It can only come from You..)

Quote:

i wish people could see past appearances and see me for who i truly am inside... but something tells me i was born this way with this body and this mind for a reason, and i should deal with it...




There's a funny thing about this kind of stuff- The people that will befriend you, are the ones that Do look past these kinds of things, and are the kinds of people that will be there to the depths.. The kinds one would truly want as a friend..

But even in the shallowest waters.. one can still drown in the beauty of it..


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Why did the chicken cross the road?
To get to the other side.

"Adapt.
Adjust.
Accommodate."

"Professional help is being thought." - Bill Hicks

It would be hilarious... if it wasn't so sad...


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: FunkMasterShroom]
    #14554249 - 06/03/11 04:27 AM (12 years, 7 months ago)

And as for the afterdeath?

I had a DMT experience once-

I was living out the main character from a novel series I love, and had just recently finished at the time. (The Sword of Truth Series)

I lived out his life, all the suffering, and struggle, and challange, and love, and adventure, and passion, the fear and joys.. past the end up the last book, off till I was old and died in bed.. This was totally vivid and real- No fractal kelidiscopes, no visions of beings- just the First Person perspective of living out his life.. After I died, I began to wake up from death, in completely white room (no corners/walls) i was back to myself, no longer the character, but I didnt quite realize I was me yet.. I looked up and there was all my family and friends.. And I was really confused.. I asked them what happened, and they said I had died.. I was like "WTF?" I asked about all the people that died (from the novel life I just lived) and they said it was okay, but then I realized it was just a novel, and I was like "Oh shit.. I really died.." ..i asked them about all of them- All of them, my friends and family I left behind, and they said they would miss me.. But it's okay, because we are all here.. It was the end of time.. The eternal, and the Now.. And everything and everyone that ever is, was or will be was there, partying it up.. And I was home.. then suddenly.. I looked around, as the room faded away, and there I was left in the living room of my friends place, just the two of them still there out of all the friends and family I saw.. Right on the couch where I blasted off- I asked again- What just happaned.. and instead of saying I died..they said I smoked DMT..

Idono what else to to say.. but that was probably the most frightening, and yet comforting experience I've ever had..


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Why did the chicken cross the road?
To get to the other side.

"Adapt.
Adjust.
Accommodate."

"Professional help is being thought." - Bill Hicks

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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14555329 - 06/03/11 12:05 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

Your say that you want to end your life or do something drastic and spontaneous like moving away and becoming homeless or some other impulsive move. Most likely your problems and mindset will follow you wherever you decide to go.

  Most likely you will need to make small micro changes in your thinking patterns, behaviours, and life situation...keeping in mind life will never be perfect and there will be always be people who have it better (and worse) than you have. Changing your life can be a very methodical and tedious process. You may benefit by framing and identifying each area of your life that need improving and then look for solutions. The trick is not to get disillusioned by volume of work needed to solve your problems, isolate each problem and then take small steps towards your goals.


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Re: The negatives outweight the positives in my life [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #14556429 - 06/03/11 04:31 PM (12 years, 7 months ago)

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Anonymous said:
Your say that you want to end your life or do something drastic and spontaneous like moving away and becoming homeless or some other impulsive move. Most likely your problems and mindset will follow you wherever you decide to go.

  Most likely you will need to make small micro changes in your thinking patterns, behaviours, and life situation...keeping in mind life will never be perfect and there will be always be people who have it better (and worse) than you have. Changing your life can be a very methodical and tedious process. You may benefit by framing and identifying each area of your life that need improving and then look for solutions. The trick is not to get disillusioned by volume of work needed to solve your problems, isolate each problem and then take small steps towards your goals.




This. This a million times.

How you think and act determine how you are. If you're a miserable person, your life circumstances don't really matter.

What's wrong? You said you think you're ugly. Go get a haircut, a shave, and start working out. Also realize that it doesn't matter if you're ugly, or pretty, or whatever. Just be you.


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