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EternalCowabunga
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Taking things too seriously
#14523919 - 05/27/11 10:34 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I just got home from a little get-together. We were playing a video game.. a Fighter game.
Whenever my brother started losing, he started cussing and getting upset. He has always been this way. We used to play against each other all the time and he'd end up throwing his controller at the screen, hitting me with his controller, or breaking the controller.
He had to take a time-out tonight because he was so upset.
I believe it's partly a matter of projection. He needs to win so badly that he believes the person he is playing against also takes this seriously and will.. take much pride? I think you know what I mean.
I believe one day he will learn not to invest so much into a game.
I take certain things too seriously myself. For example, making a good impression on people. I guess?
Anyway. Just wanted to share.
Thanks.
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Maybe he's just a sore loser. Personally, fighting games are extra frustrating. (coming from a sore loser)
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FINE YOU IMBECILE; SUFFER!! IT IS YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE HURTING. NOTHING IS DETERRING YOU FROM ATTAINING THAT OF WHICH YOU INHERENTLY CRAVE. YOU HAVE LET THEM TAKE OVER YOUR MIND, YOU ARE NO LONGER IN CONTROL, YOU NEVER WERE.
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EternalCowabunga
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Yeah, I would agree with that title.
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EternalCowabunga said: I just got home from a little get-together. We were playing a video game.. a Fighter game.
Whenever my brother started losing, he started cussing and getting upset. He has always been this way. We used to play against each other all the time and he'd end up throwing his controller at the screen, hitting me with his controller, or breaking the controller.
He had to take a time-out tonight because he was so upset.
I believe it's partly a matter of projection. He needs to win so badly that he believes the person he is playing against also takes this seriously and will.. take much pride? I think you know what I mean.
I believe one day he will learn not to invest so much into a game.
I take certain things too seriously myself. For example, making a good impression on people. I guess?
Anyway. Just wanted to share.
Thanks.
Strikes me as similar to people on the philosophy forum who become unhinged if someone disagrees with them or points out an alleged flaw in their claim. The whole thing seems kinda ugly and juvenile: like the person is at the mercy of their most base and impulsive emotions.
Interesting topic.
I like your discussion of why he does this. Makes me wonder about why some people have such a big problem with others disagreeing with them on this forum. I figure, like your brother, they have a need for validation. My guess is that the reason this is often observed int he more mystical or 'conspiracy theory people' is that the interactions on this forum tend to point out the dissonance between reality and their world view, with the emotional reaction you'd expect: exactly the same phenomena as the christian having a fit when the bible is pointed out to be contradictory, silly.
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EternalCowabunga said: I just got home from a little get-together. We were playing a video game.. a Fighter game.
Whenever my brother started losing, he started cussing and getting upset. He has always been this way. We used to play against each other all the time and he'd end up throwing his controller at the screen, hitting me with his controller, or breaking the controller.
He had to take a time-out tonight because he was so upset.
I believe it's partly a matter of projection. He needs to win so badly that he believes the person he is playing against also takes this seriously and will.. take much pride? I think you know what I mean.
I believe one day he will learn not to invest so much into a game.
I take certain things too seriously myself. For example, making a good impression on people. I guess?
Anyway. Just wanted to share.
Thanks.
Becker mentions this in his book. This is classic.
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aaah.. the nerd rage  nothing funnier than that. encountered so many of them over the years and i thank them all for giving me further gratification for providing the spanking.
don't know what game you were playing but if you haven't got on that new mortal kombat, you're wasting time
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: jivJaN]
#14525334 - 05/28/11 08:10 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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yeah it's all about what winning means to the person.
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: zoomfan]
#14526229 - 05/28/11 12:28 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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is this a maxim i ought to take seriously?
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: andrewss]
#14526629 - 05/28/11 02:21 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Haha Jivjan.. as a matter of fact it was the new Mortal Kombat game
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i had a feeling 
watch this with your bro
and then watch the finals. winner won 10 thousand dollars just a few weeks ago.
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I'm embarrassed by the amount of game controllers I've broken getting frustrated playing video games. Especially games like Maddden or Halo or C.O.D.
I had to quit playing those games for that reason. It sucks because most of the time I had so much fun playing those games but it was costing me too much money buying a new controller every few months.
I think it has a lot to do with competition. I mean if you look at it life is basically just one big competition for most people.
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Life is one big competition. All of nature is one big competition.
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EternalCowabunga said: I just got home from a little get-together. We were playing a video game.. a Fighter game.
Whenever my brother started losing, he started cussing and getting upset. He has always been this way. We used to play against each other all the time and he'd end up throwing his controller at the screen, hitting me with his controller, or breaking the controller.
He had to take a time-out tonight because he was so upset.
How old is he?
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Poid]
#14531389 - 05/29/11 03:57 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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He's in his early 20's
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Wow, I imagined him being a little kid when I read that. 
He could have a brain tumor called pheochromocytoma, which causes excessive amounts of adrenaline/noradrenaline to be secreted, which may further cause aggression. I heard about this disease on the show House MD, and am only suggesting that your brother may have it because it is a pretty rare/abnormal disease..your brother is pretty rare/abnormal as well if he is in his twenties and throws babyish tantrums over video games.
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Poid] 1
#14531573 - 05/29/11 04:37 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Please poid , explain why age has anything to do with this ? Or the fact that its a "video" game.
I don't see people calling jebron james abnormal for crying like a bitch after a game or a number of other players having a rage fit in the locker room or even fighting other athletes. Thats considered normal ? why? because its more popular ? because they make more money playing the game ? or do you maybe think its requires more effort thus the emotionality is more justifiable ?
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He could have a brain tumor
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: jivJaN]
#14531654 - 05/29/11 04:51 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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jivJaN said: Please poid , explain why age has anything to do with this ?
Usually people outgrow their babyish temper tantrums..that this guy hasn't, even though he's in his twenties, is definitely interesting.
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jivJaN said: Or the fact that its a "video" game.
Hey, I'm not dissing video games, I love them. What I'm dissing is the fact that he gets so upset over video games..totally juvenile behavior. I would think the same thing if he got upset over losing any type of game..I'm dissing his poor sportsmanship, not the games he plays.
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jivJaN said: I don't see people calling jebron james abnormal for crying like a bitch after a game or a number of other players having a rage fit in the locker room or even fighting other athletes.
Me neither, 'cause that shit ain't abnormal at all for athletes, it happens all the fucking time.
I personally think poor sportsmanship is always "dissable", though..I believe that EternalCowabunga's brother's anger is much less justified than the anger/sadness often exhibited by athletes.
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jivJaN said: Thats considered normal ? why? because its more popular ? because they make more money playing the game ? or do you maybe think its requires more effort thus the emotionality is more justifiable ?
It being more popular probably minimizes the magnitude of its tabooness, but the fact that it is a common occurrence is what mainly renders it as being "normal".
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He could have a brain tumor

Why the face-palm? Did you even read the article of the particular type of tumor that I'm speaking about which I provided a link for? It causes aggression, EternalCowabunga's brother is abnormally aggressive..if you can't put two-and-two together on this one here, then that's just too bad for you.
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Poid]
#14532075 - 05/29/11 06:07 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I broke a controller to pieces on two occasions when I was a youngun, not playing someone else though. Video games can be damn frustrating, perfectly warranted.
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Grapefruit]
#14532117 - 05/29/11 06:17 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I still have mini outburts when I play video games, but very rarely..I usually stop myself in my tracks these days when I start to feel angry, but I used to be much more temperamental at times when I was a child (probably because my dad was pretty much always generally angry). A lot of people who were temperamental as children grow out of it by the time they reach their twenties..if such a person hasn't, then something is wrong (some call this "arrested development").
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Poid]
#14532239 - 05/29/11 06:39 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yeah I agree. Death awareness of course also stops the ego fussing over petty things. I lost $500 dollars (and that's not nothing to me) awhile back and I really wasn't fussed, one of the benefits IMO.
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Grapefruit]
#14532272 - 05/29/11 06:44 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yeah, at one point I just realized that getting mad over stupid shit all the time is pointless..I still indulge in anger though when I find it appropriate, but I'm much more picky about choosing my battles.
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Poid]
#14532291 - 05/29/11 06:47 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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This seems to be a benefit of confronting our death anxiety. Good job guys, seriously. It would be nice if all this actually makes our lives better.
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Icelander]
#14532354 - 05/29/11 06:57 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I think it does.
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Icelander]
#14532377 - 05/29/11 07:00 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Why in two years time we'll have fast cash down the line We'll be the three sages who left all their rages Got out of our cages and scammed for decent wages Once up in smoke and to brazil, they'll call us the three mages!
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Grapefruit]
#14532397 - 05/29/11 07:04 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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There's a philosophy freestyle thread on page 4
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Yeah but I'm just too hip for them.
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Re: Taking things too seriously [Re: Grapefruit]
#14532468 - 05/29/11 07:16 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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