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Sex Problem
#14511596 - 05/25/11 07:46 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Me and my girl have been together for almost 3 years now and our sex life has plummeted in the past couple months. I think we have had sex 3 times in the past month and it is very frustrating. I am not sure what to do about anything, because we are both in college and live with our parents. When we want to have sex we can't, and when we can have sex we aren't in the mood, or at least one of us isn't.
Lack of sex is causing us to have problems emotionally. I feel like she is drifting away from me when we are together because she would rather sit on the computer than converse with me. I feel like our relationship is turning into a friendship and it completely pisses me off.
She has been a complete bitch to me lately about every little problem she has and keeps blaming everything on me. When I call her out on her neglect of my feelings she throws a hissy fit about how she needs to express her feelings.
I personally hold my feeling in a lot and if she were to hear some of the things I want to say to her it would cause major problems. Everything always has to be her way and she doesn't even see that I am trying to make everything work under our circumstances. How the fuck do I make her care about me anymore?
I feel un-used and used at the same time, but not used in the way that I want. It is hard to distance myself because staying close to her seems like the better option, even though it probably isn't. Everybody wants to fuck my girlfriend cause she is hot as hell, which does not help with my emotions.
There is a lot of back and forth comments, and I am sorry for that. I just don't know how to deal with this shit emotionally.
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vadub
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Joolz


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Re: Sex Problem [Re: vadub]
#14511648 - 05/25/11 08:02 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I feel like our relationship is turning into a friendship and it completely pisses me off.
Your relationship will fail because of this sentence. A relationship (this entire post is purely my opinion and experience) has to be a friendship between two people. You have to realize that you want to be with this person.
Its not becoming an item. You are still two people. You just reserve sexual encounters, feelings, emotions, conversations, and all those great "relationship" things, as two best friends who love each other.
You can't be an item. You have to be two individuals who enjoy each other but are also not dependent. There's a lot going on here. I hope you both can find open mindedness to solve this problem. If not, well, you aren't alone. I've been in this situation.
Sex life falls, arguing, hot gf everyone wants to fuck. Yeah, I've been there. I got out, and I'm much happier. I hope you find peace brother.
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Re: Sex Problem [Re: vadub] 1
#14511680 - 05/25/11 08:11 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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vadub said: Heres my advice and you can do whatever with it. Its not going to get better and it sounds like your both miserable. I did this routine for months when I didn't have to balls to just admit that it wasn't going to work.
I did the same routine. I lived with her at the time. Miserable. Leave while you can. Or, fuck her like a god, and win her vagina back
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Re: Sex Problem [Re: memes] 1
#14511688 - 05/25/11 08:15 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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In my experience, girls often break things off this way -- ignoring the other party, rather than telling them what they want.
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Anonymous #1
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I'll give it a month and if things don't change for the better we should probably at LEAST take a break from each other for a while. We have fun during the day together and such, but I feel like we have probably been spending too much time together all together. She used to be so keen to laying in bed and doing what couples usually do(in our case acting retarded with each other), but lately we don't have that feeling we used to.
point blank... I NEED TO FUCK, I AM GOING INSANE.
Our relationship was never based on sex, seeing as we were best friends for 3 years before we got together. I just think that lack of sex is causing some stress betweens us
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Romance her then dude. Fucking take her to dinner then bust out all the backrubs and neck kisses till she's practically foaming at the mouth for your dick.
When the sex starts to fail, spice it up. DUH!
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Anonymous said: I'll give it a month and if things don't change for the better we should probably at LEAST take a break from each other for a while. We have fun during the day together and such, but I feel like we have probably been spending too much time together all together. She used to be so keen to laying in bed and doing what couples usually do(in our case acting retarded with each other), but lately we don't have that feeling we used to.
point blank... I NEED TO FUCK, I AM GOING INSANE.
Our relationship was never based on sex, seeing as we were best friends for 3 years before we got together. I just think that lack of sex is causing some stress betweens us
Pretty much ditto. Only difference was, we lived together for 5 years. The last year was an obvious downward spiral, with an abrupt end. We grew apart slowly, slowly, slowly. Less sex, less intimacy, less communication. It got to the point where we were like really good roommates....not lovers.
Sooo I wish I could give you advice that would help you out...but Im still tryin to figure this one out myself. Try to keep the flame lit if you can. It goes out pretty fast.
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A month is a long time. Were I in your shoes--and if I had my wits about me (which I probably wouldn't)--I'd want to take a break beginning NOW, if she's unable to tell you what's up.
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Chicks will dump you in their mind weeks/months before they actually do it. She's probably almost to the point of ending it, and she's probably already over you...
Trust your gut man...and jerk it if you have to...or just try and be REALLY charming for a few days and note the response. You'll have your answer somewhere in there
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Re: Sex Problem [Re: shLong]
#14513985 - 05/26/11 07:14 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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shLong said: Chicks will dump you in their mind weeks/months before they actually do it. She's probably almost to the point of ending it, and she's probably already over you...
Yep. my last girl stopped fucking me months before she finally officially ended it. at that point it was a shell of a relationship anyway
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Re: Sex Problem [Re: memes]
#14514431 - 05/26/11 10:20 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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dude your in college and you have a gf?!? your to young for that shit go fuck a bunch of different girls your wasting your time unless you think you guys are going to get married or sumtin which obviously isnt whats going to happen so go enjoy life instead of being tied down.
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You fucked up and loved dem hos. Your in college. Why the fuck are you in a serious realtionship to begin with? Your still young, dumb and full of cum. Use that shit edit: I'm not trying to be mean our sound like a prick, I just saw way too many friends do the same thing in college.guess what? not one of them is with the girl they were sweating in college. plenty of time and plenty of fish brah. peace
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this sounds exactly how my ex and I were in the last 2 months of our time together. She turned into a bitch. And I never did anything to deserve it. I spent my entire summer saving to afford us a vacation and her an engagement ring. It's crazy how fast things can turn around on a couple.
although... Sex isn't everything. Sometimes a couplewill fuck non stop for 2 months and sometimes there will be no sex for a month. We are human and moody. It's life.
if you still love her then forget the sex and spend some quality time with her. That's my advice.
good luck bro
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