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ventt
#14511577 - 05/25/11 07:41 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Sorry but I have to vent and everyone on here has such good advice and are super nice. So here it goes. I broke up with my x. But I'm still crazy in love with them. I justfelt like we needed space. Causeall we did was argue. And everything just went to shit. We both need to mature more and just grow the fuck up. I hang out with someone else. But deep down I want to be with my ex in the end. And Idk why.
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dr_gonz
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Joolz


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You don't want your ex, you want YOUR IDEA of your ex.
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Re: ventt [Re: Joolz]
#14511670 - 05/25/11 08:09 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Joolz said: You don't want your ex, you want YOUR IDEA of your ex.
Exactly. Right on point.
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rational


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How long were you with your ex? I was with mine for five years. I wouldn't advise moving on so quickly, I just don't think it would accomplish much. I still love my ex very much and I'm not interested in being with anyone else. I don't know, if you miss your ex talk it out with her and work it out if you can
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rational said: How long were you with your ex? I was with mine for five years. I wouldn't advise moving on so quickly, I just don't think it would accomplish much. I still love my ex very much and I'm not interested in being with anyone else. I don't know, if you miss your ex talk it out with her and work it out if you can
2 years. And I don't wanna be with them right now. But I can see myself growing old with them. I know I still love my x with all my heart. But they wont talk to me anymore so maybe that's the sign to move on..
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I_was_the_walrus
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You just miss her. Its part of the process. Give it time, lots and lots of time...Kinda sucks, but it does get better. Eventually shell be the last thing on your mind, and when you do think about her, youll laugh that you had these thoughts in the first place.
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Anonymous #3
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Everyone keeps saying "she" when referring to this persons ex, but the OP never specifies... just out of curiosity, are you male or female, OP?
It's kind of scary how similar you sound compared to my ex... mine is saying the exact same thing.
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I_was_the_walrus
eggshells



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Well seeing how as the shroomery is like 99% male, the odds are kind of on our side with that assumption.
That, and girls tend to move on a lot faster. Guys will pretty much throw themselves at your feet if youre a single chick. It really helps with the process. Guys dont really have that luxury....so they end up here venting.
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backinblack
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rational said: How long were you with your ex? I was with mine for five years. I wouldn't advise moving on so quickly, I just don't think it would accomplish much. I still love my ex very much and I'm not interested in being with anyone else. I don't know, if you miss your ex talk it out with her and work it out if you can
2 years. And I don't wanna be with them right now. But I can see myself growing old with them. I know I still love my x with all my heart. But they wont talk to me anymore so maybe that's the sign to move on..
is there more than one, sounds like the ex is a couple?
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bonnahoo
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How mysterious! We need answers!
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Anonymous #1
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Anonymous said:
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rational said: How long were you with your ex? I was with mine for five years. I wouldn't advise moving on so quickly, I just don't think it would accomplish much. I still love my ex very much and I'm not interested in being with anyone else. I don't know, if you miss your ex talk it out with her and work it out if you can
2 years. And I don't wanna be with them right now. But I can see myself growing old with them. I know I still love my x with all my heart. But they wont talk to me anymore so maybe that's the sign to move on..
is there more than one, sounds like the ex is a couple?
No I just didn't feel like stating the sex of my x
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JesusGoneRogue


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why not? i dont see why thatd be a problem. you're a completely anonymous person on the internet.
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JesusGoneRogue


Registered: 10/24/10
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and when was the last time you saw him?
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Anonymous #1
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Few months agoo.
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JesusGoneRogue


Registered: 10/24/10
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and he refuses to talk to you?
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Anonymous #1
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Yepp
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JesusGoneRogue


Registered: 10/24/10
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and this ex of yours wouldn't by any chance happen to post here at the shroomery would he?
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Anonymous #1
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Nah
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dummy
I am you and what I see is me


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OP
I was in a similar situation... do you happen to be female? well my girl did what you did to me, felt the same about me, for the same reasons. all it did was help get us back together because we missed one another.
so i loved this girl and for months i was searching for an answer as to why it would not work out with us. i found what so far has been sufficient for me and i'll share; a large part of it comes down to your personalities.
people with very similar personalities tend to have more peaceful and harmonious relationships. but we're naturally drawn to our opposites. there is a theory that says this is the case because our opposite will bring out our weakest traits. we seek out our opposite to learn and to grow. if you want to be with this guy you guys are really going to have to commit, 100%, to learning how to communicate. learning about each other and how you think.
relationships aren't really supposed to be all fun and games you know? you've probably been together upwards of two years and now shit is starting to peculate from under all of the forgiveness and lenience you once had. thats ok, its life. you want to marry this guy? does he want to marry you? i suggest counseling. if not, just forget about it. thats what i'm trying to do ... meh, it's bitter sweet.
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