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confused....
#14502459 - 05/24/11 01:10 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I love 2 girls. One of them is my girl, the other is our best friend. I can't tell either of them because I'm afraid they will both hate me. But it's tearing me up inside. I shroomed today and thinking about it almost made me lose my mind. What do I do?
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Harri


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Tell them that you love them both
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Joolz


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Re: confused.... [Re: Harri]
#14502496 - 05/24/11 01:19 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Pick one and stop being greedy? Personally, I'd stay with the one you're with now and look up the other one assuming you and the first one don't work out.
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ShadowHagi
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Re: confused.... [Re: Joolz]
#14502577 - 05/24/11 01:40 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Or maybe you just love them for them. If your wanting to just fuck the 2 girls thats kinda a bit different...good luck.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: confused.... [Re: Joolz]
#14502587 - 05/24/11 01:44 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Its not a matter of choice. I would not love our friend if I could but she is making it very hard for me not to. Part of me thinks she knows what she is doing. I wish I could not love her, it would make my life a lot easier.
I've been with my girl for a while and things are getting complicated. Our lives are beginning to take conflicting paths. We are willingly going to go separate ways sometime soon. I love her but it is for the better. But I can't be with our friend because I don't want to hurt my girl like that. Here's the thing, I'm not looking for sex from this girl, I just want to be around her and to hold her. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to fuck her brains out but I'm more attracted to her sexy mind than her sexy body. I'm very afraid that everything is going to fall down around me and I feel like its becoming completely out of my control.
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Joolz


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The clear choice is to cut ties with the current girlfriend since she is leaving. Then, once she's gone, hookup with the friend. I am also young and believe in a free to date anyone world, regardless of the past (within reason). I don't think "she is my exes friend" is good enough to keep two people from possibly falling in love. Or at least having a good time with each other.
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Re: confused.... [Re: Joolz]
#14502915 - 05/24/11 05:12 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Joolz said: I don't think "she is my exes friend" is good enough to keep two people from possibly falling in love. Or at least having a good time with each other.

Indeed. My ex and I just broke up, I loved the shit out of her but we were growing apart, too many arguments, and she just wasn't the person I fell in love with. I had always gotten along with her roommate and thought she was just as cool as my ex and way more down-to-earth. So, after my ex and I split I started fucking her roommate. Who knows where things will go from there but it just felt right. I thought maybe I should have felt bad but I've come to realize that I really don't and if I ever wanted to get over my ex I needed to stop living my life trying to please her, because she was the one that gave up and left me. I couldn't go on doing/avoiding things because I thought it might piss off or hurt my ex. I'm glad I came to that realization because shit is just fantastic at the moment, and I don't even know who or what my ex is doing right now and that doesn't really bother me. So, IMO, if things aren't salvageable in your current relationship and you KNOW it, which you really do know deep down whether you acknowledge it or not, then call it what it is and give the friend a chance. If you love her just as much as your GF and she loves you back then you really have nothing to lose. Oh and also, if you do still really care about your GF, then you will either tell her the truth or let her go. She will find out eventually, whether it be via your emotions or your tongue. There is no feeling more horrible than knowing the love of your life no longer shares her heart with you alone.
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Jufin


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Anonymous said: I love 2 girls. One of them is my girl, the other is our best friend. I can't tell either of them because I'm afraid they will both hate me. But it's tearing me up inside. I shroomed today and thinking about it almost made me lose my mind. What do I do?
You probably want her because you can't have her and she's really hot.
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Re: confused.... [Re: Jufin]
#14516889 - 05/26/11 06:26 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Nah, its way more than that (although I'm sure that is part of it). Her mind is sexy, I love the way she thinks. We sit around and have philosophical conversations for hours. Most people I can't even have a 5 minute conversation with before I'm bored and she is the same way, yet we have incredibly intriguing conversations whenever we talk. I can't help but smile every time I see her. She lifts the fog that has been surrounding my life as of late. I know I've been spending too much time with her but I can't, every aspect of my life puts us in close proximity. I have more to say but I must go for now.
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Jufin


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Do you find that she changes her opinions to fit in with yours, and generally follows the way you think?
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Re: confused.... [Re: Jufin]
#14519286 - 05/27/11 03:59 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Jufin said: Do you find that she changes her opinions to fit in with yours, and generally follows the way you think?
No, that sort of shit pisses me off. She is a free-thinking, mind expanding, beautiful hippy girl. She always speaks her mind and always has an opinion backed up by an intelligent point of view. She isn't afraid to prove me wrong or piss me off. Our conversations are very witty and sarcastic, constant mind games all of the time. And I fuckin' dig it. I also know that I'm caught in one of those mind games and I can't see very clearly the powers in play around me.
See, the thing is, her guy friends all go head over heels for her because she has such a bubbly, open personality. She's never trying to get with them though because they aren't the types of guys that she digs. Part of me feels like I am no different than any of them (other than she is probably my best friend). The other part of me realizes that I am one of the most unique, wild individuals that many people have ever met. She is always talking about the traits of her perfect guy and they describe me fucking perfectly. Making sexual innuendos with me all the time. Saying how my girl needs to fuck me more because beautiful people our age are supposed to fuck a lot (among other reasons). And talking about how she really needs to get laid. She says all of that around my girl and when she's not around, except the underlined bit which obviously wasn't around my girl.
I know I am emotionally unfaithful but things with my girl are coming to an end soon I've realized. I am unhappy when I'm around her.. She holds me emotionally hostage over the littlest shit and it drives me crazy. I get laid once a week, twice if I'm lucky. I try not to get excited about sex when she gets flirty because I know its a sham and I'm not gonna get laid. When I do get laid, I don't even really enjoy it all that much because I've normally spent the previous half hour trying not to get turned on. I'm currently trying to find my own place to live and I'm going to try out being apart from her to see how it is. If we just spend too much time together, that should fix things... and if it doesn't bring the spark back I must say I'm done. Whether or not the other girl feels the same way about me as I do about her, I won't continue to suffer in this stalemate. I know I can pull any girl that I try.. except for this girl because she keeps me confused, I can never figure out what she is truly thinking behind those mischievous eyes.. and if my girlfriend doesn't make me happy anymore and she barely wants to fuck, I don't see why I should stick around.
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Cyclohexylamine
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Jufin said: Do you find that she changes her opinions to fit in with yours, and generally follows the way you think?
No, that sort of shit pisses me off. She is a free-thinking, mind expanding, beautiful hippy girl. She always speaks her mind and always has an opinion backed up by an intelligent point of view. She isn't afraid to prove me wrong or piss me off. Our conversations are very witty and sarcastic, constant mind games all of the time. And I fuckin' dig it. I also know that I'm caught in one of those mind games and I can't see very clearly the powers in play around me.
See, the thing is, her guy friends all go head over heels for her because she has such a bubbly, open personality. She's never trying to get with them though because they aren't the types of guys that she digs. Part of me feels like I am no different than any of them (other than she is probably my best friend). The other part of me realizes that I am one of the most unique, wild individuals that many people have ever met. She is always talking about the traits of her perfect guy and they describe me fucking perfectly. Making sexual innuendos with me all the time. Saying how my girl needs to fuck me more because beautiful people our age are supposed to fuck a lot (among other reasons). And talking about how she really needs to get laid. She says all of that around my girl and when she's not around, except the underlined bit which obviously wasn't around my girl.
I know I am emotionally unfaithful but things with my girl are coming to an end soon I've realized. I am unhappy when I'm around her.. She holds me emotionally hostage over the littlest shit and it drives me crazy. I get laid once a week, twice if I'm lucky. I try not to get excited about sex when she gets flirty because I know its a sham and I'm not gonna get laid. When I do get laid, I don't even really enjoy it all that much because I've normally spent the previous half hour trying not to get turned on. I'm currently trying to find my own place to live and I'm going to try out being apart from her to see how it is. If we just spend too much time together, that should fix things... and if it doesn't bring the spark back I must say I'm done. Whether or not the other girl feels the same way about me as I do about her, I won't continue to suffer in this stalemate. I know I can pull any girl that I try.. except for this girl because she keeps me confused, I can never figure out what she is truly thinking behind those mischievous eyes.. and if my girlfriend doesn't make me happy anymore and she barely wants to fuck, I don't see why I should stick around.
Dump your current girl man. In a relationship you are supposed to be happy. If you aren't happy there is NO point in continuing. Even if you have deep feelings for the person still its not enough.
Who knows, maybe this girl will be the one for you, she sounds pretty sick. Intelligent girls are always a ++. However either way even if she is not, its time for the current one to go.
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Harri

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Jufin said: Do you find that she changes her opinions to fit in with yours, and generally follows the way you think?
No, that sort of shit pisses me off. She is a free-thinking, mind expanding, beautiful hippy girl. She always speaks her mind and always has an opinion backed up by an intelligent point of view. She isn't afraid to prove me wrong or piss me off. Our conversations are very witty and sarcastic, constant mind games all of the time. And I fuckin' dig it. I also know that I'm caught in one of those mind games and I can't see very clearly the powers in play around me.
See, the thing is, her guy friends all go head over heels for her because she has such a bubbly, open personality. She's never trying to get with them though because they aren't the types of guys that she digs. Part of me feels like I am no different than any of them (other than she is probably my best friend). The other part of me realizes that I am one of the most unique, wild individuals that many people have ever met. She is always talking about the traits of her perfect guy and they describe me fucking perfectly. Making sexual innuendos with me all the time. Saying how my girl needs to fuck me more because beautiful people our age are supposed to fuck a lot (among other reasons). And talking about how she really needs to get laid. She says all of that around my girl and when she's not around, except the underlined bit which obviously wasn't around my girl.
I know I am emotionally unfaithful but things with my girl are coming to an end soon I've realized. I am unhappy when I'm around her.. She holds me emotionally hostage over the littlest shit and it drives me crazy. I get laid once a week, twice if I'm lucky. I try not to get excited about sex when she gets flirty because I know its a sham and I'm not gonna get laid. When I do get laid, I don't even really enjoy it all that much because I've normally spent the previous half hour trying not to get turned on. I'm currently trying to find my own place to live and I'm going to try out being apart from her to see how it is. If we just spend too much time together, that should fix things... and if it doesn't bring the spark back I must say I'm done. Whether or not the other girl feels the same way about me as I do about her, I won't continue to suffer in this stalemate. I know I can pull any girl that I try.. except for this girl because she keeps me confused, I can never figure out what she is truly thinking behind those mischievous eyes.. and if my girlfriend doesn't make me happy anymore and she barely wants to fuck, I don't see why I should stick around.
Dump your current girl man. In a relationship you are supposed to be happy. If you aren't happy there is NO point in continuing. Even if you have deep feelings for the person still its not enough.
Who knows, maybe this girl will be the one for you, she sounds pretty sick. Intelligent girls are always a ++. However either way even if she is not, its time for the current one to go.
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Jufin


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You also have to think that if your girl's best friend is hitting on you, how loyal is she going to be in the future? But maybe she is the girl for you.
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Re: confused.... [Re: Jufin]
#14541101 - 05/31/11 03:05 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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Some partial closure... I had a spiritual awakening at a festival with them over the weekend. My girl and I did a whole lot of healing that has needed to happen for a long time. The festival opened her eyes to how amazing and beautiful she is capable of being. I love her a lot and I'm going to continue to try and keep this going. The sexual part still has quite a bit of distance to go but I am not sure how I feel about that yet.
On the both of them, I was shrooming in the passenger seat on the drive back and I realized that I have two very beautiful women in my life who love me immensely. I love them both very much as well and I have noticed somewhat of a free love relationship establishing itself between us. I can love both of them and be okay with it, and I believe they can be okay with it as well. Love is too complicated to be restricted to one person. I believe it is possible for us to share our love with each other and create something absolutely beautiful.
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Joolz


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Lord fucking knows you'd be the coolest guy ever if you managed to have both of these girls fuck and live with you at the same time. I can't even imagine what it'd be like to come home and watch two of my lovers cuddling together in bed watching TV only to have the privilege of getting to get in between them.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: confused.... [Re: Joolz]
#14541885 - 05/31/11 05:53 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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To hell with cool, if I pull this off I won't give a fuck about cool. Or probably anything for that matter. I won't have a care in the whole damn world.
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Vermicelli
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Good luck sir. You described your situation in such a way that I'm rooting for you, which I don't with "I want to fuck her so bad" stories. But when a relationship is not great, adding another person to it usually just raises the stress level.
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