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Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much!
#14492214 - 05/22/11 12:49 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm currently on probation, and will be until october. I love marijuana. It's great. I love psychedelics even more.
My girlfriend also loves them both, and she partakes quite a bit. As much as I would if I weren't on probation. It's begun to suck a little lately. I feel like I can't quite connect with her when she's high all the time and I'm sober. Should I confront her about it, or just deal with it till I'm not on probation anymore!?
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: bholzer]
#14492228 - 05/22/11 12:52 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Well. How long are you on probation? I'd tell her, even if it was just for another week. You're supposed to share a lot with your SO, even things that might produce conflict.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: Shroomerited]
#14492236 - 05/22/11 12:56 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Shroomerited said: Well. How long are you on probation? I'd tell her, even if it was just for another week. You're supposed to share a lot with your SO, even things that might produce conflict.
Another 5 months  That's true, I just like to avoid problems that don't need to be an issue. But i'm thinking it has been more of an interference lately 
We're really close and I know it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world, I just hate being a buzzkill if not necessary, ya know?
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: bholzer]
#14492255 - 05/22/11 01:00 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Tell her how you feel but don't pressure her to stop if she doesn't want to. Imagine if the tables were reversed, I don't know about you but I would hate for someone to pressure me to stop puffing. 5 months is such a short amount of time it'll be over before you know it.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: bholzer] 1
#14492266 - 05/22/11 01:04 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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So when you are both stoned you are on the same level.
When you are sober and she is high you are annoyed.
look to your self and figure that one out.
In other words get over it, you just saw what you where just blinded by with pot and pussy.
Still worth it?
Let her smoke.
Not worth it.
Bail.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: muistrue]
#14492277 - 05/22/11 01:06 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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FractalDust said: Tell her how you feel but don't pressure her to stop if she doesn't want to. Imagine if the tables were reversed, I don't know about you but I would hate for someone to pressure me to stop puffing. 5 months is such a short amount of time it'll be over before you know it.
Exactly, I would never force her to stop something that is important to her, cause I know I wouldn't want to give it up either. And the months already have gone pretty quickly.
I thought about just diluting for all of my tests and continuing to smoke, but it's not worth the risk, and the break has been pretty pleasant. I had forgotten what it was like to be sober for more than a few days at a time.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: 4runner]
#14492281 - 05/22/11 01:08 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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anunnakian said: So when you are both stoned you are on the same level.
When you are sober and she is high you are annoyed.
look to your self and figure that one out.
In other words get over it, you just saw what you where just blinded by with pot and pussy.
Still worth it?
Let her smoke.
Not worth it.
Bail.
I wouldn't even say annoyed, it's more of a distance sort of issue.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: 4runner]
#14492285 - 05/22/11 01:09 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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This is something other than just her smoking weed. What is it about her ingesting substances and you not that's untenable? Is she annoying when she's high? Are you annoyed by the fact that she can get high but you can't?
Try to be specific please.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: bholzer]
#14492287 - 05/22/11 01:10 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Maybe eat some shrooms together once a week to recalibrate your souls.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: bholzer]
#14492290 - 05/22/11 01:12 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I didn't read your post; What does that mean, it's a distance sort of issue?
Please be more clear.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: muistrue]
#14492297 - 05/22/11 01:14 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Humility said: This is something other than just her smoking weed. What is it about her ingesting substances and you not that's untenable? Is she annoying when she's high? Are you annoyed by the fact that she can get high but you can't?
Try to be specific please.
I mean, I am a little jealous, but that's not the issue. It's like when she's high and I'm not, we're in two different worlds. (Duh) And that just makes it difficult to communicate. It would never be enough to split us apart because we've been together forever and have a baby girl together, I was just looking for some advice to kind of get us to be able to connect even when she is high.Quote:
FractalDust said: Maybe eat some shrooms together once a week to recalibrate your souls. 
We're actually planning a nice trip while camping soon, maybe it'll help. We always manage to have some pretty intense bonding experiences while tripping.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: bholzer]
#14492298 - 05/22/11 01:15 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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"Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much"
If you used lube she wouldn't smoke so much.
Thats all I could think of when I read the title.
You should suck it up and worry more about getting yourself out of trouble and less about how jealous you are of your GF getting stoned. If she really wanted to help you through probation, she'd quit with you and be supportive.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: bholzer]
#14492303 - 05/22/11 01:16 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I hear ya, it can be tough, but you are actually now seeing the relationship from another perspective.
My wife sometimes gets crazy drunk and all I can do is . Then I realize, that was me at another time.
You really need to talk to her and say hey, (insert heart felt talk).
Don't go the route of an ultimatum, if you even think that bail now.
If she is not willing to ease off the high, then she/you have other problems.
If she is willing to say talk about it, and maybe try and cut back, that is the best you can do. And if it happens.. oh yeah sounds like a keeper.
If she is not willing than there are most definitely other issues, and drugs are not it.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: 4runner]
#14492307 - 05/22/11 01:18 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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lil_demented said:
"Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much"
If you used lube she wouldn't smoke so much.
Thats all I could think of when I read the title.
You should suck it up and worry more about getting yourself out of trouble and less about how jealous you are of your GF getting stoned. If she really wanted to help you through probation, she'd quit with you and be supportive.
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anunnakian said: I hear ya, it can be tough, but you are actually now seeing the relationship from another perspective.
My wife sometimes gets crazy drunk and all I can do is . Then I realize, that was me at another time.
You really need to talk to her and say hey, (insert heart felt talk).
Don't go the route of an ultimatum, if you even think that bail now.
If she is not willing to ease off the high, then she/you have other problems.
If she is willing to say talk about it, and maybe try and cut back, that is the best you can do. And if it happens.. oh yeah sounds like a keeper.
If she is not willing than there are most definitely other issues, and drugs are not it.
Sound advice. Pretty self-explanatory stuff, I just like to get outside opinions. Thanks for the input.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: bholzer]
#14492374 - 05/22/11 01:46 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I think being drunk is extremely different from being high on cannabis.
And I think being high on cannabis, especially if you smoke regularly, is one of the least socially debilitating substances.
I can't imagine me being high or a girl I'm with being high messing up my vibes, ever. If anything it'd have more to do with the personality of the person than the weed in them.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: Humility]
#14492398 - 05/22/11 01:52 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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All forms of inebriation fit into this scenario.
But you are right, it has nothing to do with drug "X". It is all about the person, relationship, or personality.
I wont ever say I am right in this talk. I will say I have been with the same person for almost 10 years. The only thing you can do is open up a path of conversation. If you can't do that.....
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: 4runner]
#14492415 - 05/22/11 02:00 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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It can have plenty to do with the drug. Alcohol and heroin and methamphetamine are extremely thorough mind altering substances and being sober around someone that's heavily intoxicated on any of those drugs would be a challenge or at least significantly different from interacting with them sober and cogent.
LSD and Shrooms would be even more mind altering than alcohol or heroin or meth.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: Humility]
#14492492 - 05/22/11 02:29 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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eat her box, post pics.
That is all.
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Re: Girlfriend just seems to smoke too much! [Re: CaptainAhab]
#14492526 - 05/22/11 02:47 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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What is it about her being stoned and you not that is a problem?
details man!
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