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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Icelander]
#14522094 - 05/27/11 04:42 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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love can and will only set you up to be taken advantage of
Edited by Lallafa (06/09/11 05:38 AM)
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: DieCommie]
#14522149 - 05/27/11 04:52 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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DieCommie said: I was with my wife for 7 years before getting married. It was great, and I thought that marriage would change little. I was wrong. After getting married our relationship got stronger, we got closer and it was just better all around.
There is something about taking an oath in front of your respected friends and family that does something. I think it is similar to having a goal vs having a goal that is written down. Though the difference seems moot, in practice the difference is great.
you never hear about the couples that live happily ever after bc they fade away off the screen.. it happens a lot
i would love to get married one day. idk if it will happen. i will seek it if the chance arises im having to much fun right now though
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Lallafa] 1
#14522218 - 05/27/11 05:06 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Lallafa said: im getting married on december 12 2012. i hope it changes nothing about the way either of us feel-
wish me luck!
Of course it doesn't when you are getting married but imo wanting to be married is a warning sign in and of itself. Imo it shows a lack of trust and I know you're sure to disagree. But really there is no logical reason to marry anyone unless it is financial. Many marry thinking it will hold them together in tough times but now divorce is just too easy.
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Icelander]
#14522253 - 05/27/11 05:16 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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i personally try to be nice, but most people you meet are lying snakes wearing friendly facial expressions. never trust those who take refuge in "innocence" or religious faith because most of them lie about the past, they lie about their future intentions, but whats worse, they sometimes actually believe their own lies...
sad state of affairs, in the heads of those monkeys w/ tools
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Lallafa]
#14522348 - 05/27/11 05:36 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm calling bs on that one. Are you saying you can't give her a ring without marrying her?
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Icelander]
#14522481 - 05/27/11 06:01 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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-------------------- my tax dollars going to more hits of acid for charles manson
Edited by Lallafa (06/09/11 05:45 AM)
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Lallafa]
#14522510 - 05/27/11 06:07 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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If you were to listen, which you won't, I might be saving you from a world of future long term hurt.
Most of my work here goes unappreciated.
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Moonshoe]
#14523656 - 05/27/11 09:45 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Moonshoe said: If two people love one another, what does getting married add to their relationship that was not already there?
And if they stop loving one another, does not the fact of being married simply complicate their parting?
What does marriage add to human relationships?
A priest?
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: LunarEclipse]
#14523673 - 05/27/11 09:48 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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And a business license.
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Icelander]
#14523682 - 05/27/11 09:50 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Icelander said: And a business license.
Yea monkey business. Then the lawyers have to step in and take their third.
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: LunarEclipse]
#14523694 - 05/27/11 09:52 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I think not marrying and having rug rats is the main reason I could retire in my mid fifties.
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Icelander]
#14523710 - 05/27/11 09:55 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Icelander said: I think not marrying and having rug rats is the main reason I could retire in my mid fifties.
I had carpet beetles in my mattress a while ago and thought they were bed bugs. Even took one to the local ag extension. Kind of embareassing although I got to keep the mattress.
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: LunarEclipse]
#14523727 - 05/27/11 09:58 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Good substitute for children
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Moonshoe]
#14524276 - 05/27/11 11:48 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Moonshoe said: If two people love one another, what does getting married add to their relationship that was not already there?
And if they stop loving one another, does not the fact of being married simply complicate their parting?
What does marriage add to human relationships?
It adds the advantage of a joint tax return. It reduces the amount of capital gains tax that one has to pay on the sale of your home. But if all you want to do is assure some financial security for your Lady, then have a will written up that bequeathes all of your assets to her. Put a diamond ring on her finger and engage her (like I have for 15 years). Though, for the financial aspects, I'm thinking of marrying on 11/11/11, at 11:11 am if possible. Hey, I'm a mystic after all, what can I say?
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Lallafa]
#14524317 - 05/27/11 11:54 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Lallafa said: damn dude, buzz kill X 1000. why ruin my fun?
beware of the snake
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Icelander]
#14524351 - 05/28/11 12:00 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Icelander said: I think not marrying and having rug rats is the main reason I could retire in my mid fifties.

Like you NEED to reproduce. Like I need to. Like the planet NEEDS more humans. Egoegoegoegoegoegoegoegoegoego...........................
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Had I reproduced I would now be regretting all the damage I had inflicted on them. For me that's the biggest issue. I seriously doubt anything but dogs could benefit from living with me. I actually do pretty good with dogs.
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Icelander]
#14525177 - 05/28/11 06:43 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Marriage serves hamburgers and french fries. That doesn't sound right. I think its because marriage isn't something that serves, its an idea.
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: Icelander]
#14525187 - 05/28/11 06:46 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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"Had I reproduced I would now be regretting all the damage I had inflicted on them. "
A lie you tell yourself to stave off any imaginary regret you might inflict on yourself for not having any.
"I seriously doubt anything but dogs could benefit from living with me."
Another lie you tell yourself to justify living alone and to stave of similar imaginary regret should you leave open the possibility mentally.
"I actually do pretty good with dogs. "
A lie you tell yourself. I don't know why but I'm just going for the theme here.
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Re: Does Marriage do more harm than good? [Re: xFrockx]
#14533494 - 05/29/11 10:47 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Icelander said: Most of my work here goes unappreciated. 
Now you're starting to sound like Diploid. 
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xFrockx said: "Had I reproduced I would now be regretting all the damage I had inflicted on them. "
A lie you tell yourself to stave off any imaginary regret you might inflict on yourself for not having any.
Why do you assume that he's lying to himself?
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xFrockx said: "I seriously doubt anything but dogs could benefit from living with me."
Another lie you tell yourself to justify living alone and to stave of similar imaginary regret should you leave open the possibility mentally.
Or, maybe, he's lived a long enough life to have a pretty good idea about whether a dog or a human would benefit from living with him.
What do you mean by "stave of similar imaginary regret"? Where did he indicate that he had any sort of "imaginary regret"?
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