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"No one can change!"
    #14461417 - 05/16/11 10:47 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

Was talking with my dad the other day. Even though I am middle-aged, parents cannot seem to let go of being parents. He felt it necessary to address a weak area of my life. (Shocking, right?)

Then he continues with great anger, "You will never change! No one ever changes!" :mad2:

I counter PSP-style, "Well dad, if no one is capable of change and that is human nature, then whence comes all the anger at the way things are?"

(OK, so I didn't actually say 'whence'... :tongue:)

*LONG SILENCE*

Me: "OK, I will call another time."

*CLICK - BZZZZZZ*


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #14461429 - 05/16/11 10:51 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

Parents just don't get it man, and they never will.


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #14461575 - 05/16/11 11:24 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

I'm 30 and still not making the bed.  :shrug:

Wow, that's first time I've ever seen my current age written down.  Getting old.

Anyway, I think people can change...but it has to come from a deeper level than the conscious.  Not many things can affect that level of being IMO.


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #14462471 - 05/16/11 02:40 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

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OrgoneConclusion said:
Was talking with my dad the other day. Even though I am middle-aged, parents cannot seem to let go of being parents. He felt it necessary to address a weak area of my life. (Shocking, right?)

Then he continues with great anger, "You will never change! No one ever changes!" :mad2:

I counter PSP-style, "Well dad, if no one is capable of change and that is human nature, then whence comes all the anger at the way things are?"

(OK, so I didn't actually say 'whence'... :tongue:)

*LONG SILENCE*

Me: "OK, I will call another time."

*CLICK - BZZZZZZ*




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And never known your face
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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #14463157 - 05/16/11 04:49 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

Wait... parents can't change either so it's a wash, right? :yesnod:


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4) We need a smaller, less-intrusive government.


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: Diploid]
    #14463727 - 05/16/11 06:21 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

My pops gave me a 'one shroom' rating. :sadyes:


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #14464008 - 05/16/11 07:12 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

My Dad's ultimate argument for when we have fights is "You came out of my peener."

I think it's important to keep in mind that your parents see you as the vehicle for all their failed ambitions.


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #14464443 - 05/16/11 08:18 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

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My pops gave me a 'one shroom' rating. :sadyes:




Tough Love.


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: LunarEclipse]
    #14464481 - 05/16/11 08:23 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

of course people can change, that's just silly. we're changing all the time.


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: g00ru]
    #14465384 - 05/16/11 10:57 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

The issue wasn't whether a person can change or not. The OP was pointing out the contradiction between belief and behaviour, i.e. if you believe someone can't change, then why get upset when they don't.

But who knows whether Pops thought OC couldn't change or perhaps was attempting to get a polar response of "Yes I can change, Dad!" He probably wasn't expecting the response he got. I of course am just having a guess at people's intentions. But I'm never really surprised by the tactics people use to try and manipulate each other into doing things they want the other person to do.


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: Mufungo]
    #14471679 - 05/18/11 03:45 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

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Mufungo said:
I of course am just having a guess at people's intentions. But I'm never really surprised by the tactics people use to try and manipulate each other into doing things they want the other person to do.




No doubt.  I try to change people I have never met saying things I would never say in real life online.  It opens up all kinds of possibilities that really don't exist.


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: LunarEclipse]
    #14472212 - 05/18/11 09:04 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

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It opens up all kinds of possibilities that really don't exist.




I vote this for Quip of The Month. :thumbup:


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #14477861 - 05/19/11 10:37 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

I thought this was real


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: viktor]
    #14505371 - 05/24/11 04:36 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

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My Dad's ultimate argument for when we have fights is "You came out of my peener."

I think it's important to keep in mind that your parents see you as the vehicle for all their failed ambitions.





You nailed it. And OC's dad really means, "You'll never change into ME," so that he can die with the illusion (one of Ken Wilber's Atman Projects) that he has immortality in having cloned himself into his son. But OC probably isn't a reflection of his dad in his dad's eyes. So, like a lot of people, a child who just refuses to give up his own identity in order to insure the illusory continuation of a parent is just gonna be no good. In my case, I didn't reproduce myself, so no grandchildren for my late father - a further compounding of the illusion of personal immortality. Essentially, parents who rail against our failure do do their will are suffering from their own infantile God-playing. So, even if I have been an asset to society, not a detriment, I didn't meet my dad's expectations from the age of 13.


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Re: "No one can change!" [Re: MarkostheGnostic]
    #14506046 - 05/24/11 06:42 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

In another conversation, he called me a 'selfish son of a bitch' because I failed to attend my grandmother's funeral years ago. I explained that we all do what we want. "I don't!" he responded. "Why not?" I asked. "Because sometimes we have obligations."

Summation, he is afraid what other people will think, so does what he thinks they want him to do to be accepted. I was selfish for not doing what he selfishly wanted me to do and playing an expected role.


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