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Was I wrong?
#14455883 - 05/15/11 11:57 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Who is in the wrong?
Basically I've been seeing this guy for a few months now, we're not in a formal relationship; we've never really defined ourselves as anything or talked about it, but he once said he was growing "fond" of me though... We see each other around 3 times a week, he sleeps over at my place and usually fucks me well.
But the problem is that I have a very high sex drive (nymphomania?), and when he comes over and says hes too tired to fuck me I get a little pissed off, but usually can get over it quickly.
So the current situation is that he slept over on Thursday night (fucked me too), then Friday I bought him breakfast and we spent the day together drinking beers on his porch with his friends and when he ran out of cigarettes he said that if I lent him money (35$) to buy more cigarettes and beer then he would eat my pussy and fuck me from behind. So I walked home to get the money for him. That night he said he was too tired to fuck me but said he would do it the next night (Saturday).
So Saturday (last night), he comes over and still won't fuck me. He pays the 35$ back though, and complains about the fact that I have no alcohol or drugs. So this pisses me off and I sort of give him the cold shoulder when we're sleeping, but then during the night I give up because I like the feeling of his body touching mine. Anyways, this morning we go out for breakfast and I guess I was still pissed at him... We didn't really talk much over breakfast but he said he could see contempt in my eyes and that me giving him the money for sex was like prostitution, to which I replied that atleast prostitutes follow through with their end of the deal... So then we leave and he says "text me when you get over it" and walks away.
Should I just swallow my pride?
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h00ligaN
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what a little bitch! just sayin "when you got a job to do you gotta do it well!" na, fuck him. he'll probly give ya goofy lookin soft skulled babies..
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Sleepwalker
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It sounds like he might be gay.
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DoDahDay
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Re: Was I wrong? [Re: h00ligaN]
#14456007 - 05/15/11 12:31 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Almost sounds like he is using the sex to control you. Did you make this sex craze thing vocal to him? If you did then this is exactly what is going on.
Unfortunately, I have never had this problem(not wanting sex...ever!) but this dude must be some sort of pussy magentic and can get it when he wants...from...another source?
What draws you to this man anyway? Doesnt sound too appealing at this point. Growing "fond" sounds more like "I will have sex with you when I want and that is about it" AKA: you are not important to me other than for sex. A "booty call" would be a proper title. Dont be a booty call. Please. Find someone else that likes to "fuck" you and not give you shit about not having drugs. In other words, someone that truely likes you for you and will spend time with you because you are you.
Geez! You speak in such a vulgar manner about "the act". Not very lady like.
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Oweyervishice said: It sounds like he might be gay.
yeah if a gal gave me a couple bucks to eat her out (like the op) I would go get me some ginger... make some ginger tea, and crank up my sex drive up another notch-BAM!
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do you live in Denver?
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h00ligaN
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Re: Was I wrong? [Re: DoDahDay]
#14456248 - 05/15/11 01:24 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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dude when you gotta get your pussy fucked and your behind eat you gotta do what you gotta do..
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Oweyervishice said: It sounds like he might be gay.
^^this. or theres something rank about your vagina.
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Re: Was I wrong? [Re: s0nny]
#14456316 - 05/15/11 01:41 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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you are throwing yourself at him too hard. Leave him alone and wait for him to come to you. He thinks you are a tool and he's got you right where he wants you
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DoDahDay
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Whats with all the anonymity?
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Re: Was I wrong? [Re: DoDahDay]
#14457054 - 05/15/11 03:48 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Seen a guy act like that when the girls vagina is too loose or smells bad.
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Re: Was I wrong? [Re: DoDahDay]
#14457148 - 05/15/11 04:00 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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DoDahDay said: Whats with all the anonymity?
no idea
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You got me. Hahaha, very funny. Guess I was asking for that one.
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Re: Was I wrong? [Re: DoDahDay]
#14457450 - 05/15/11 04:50 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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ditch the guy.... there are lots of guys who enjoy fucking... I let shit like this go to long with my ex-girlfriend. We finally split up. It got to the point that to her, I was a sex fiend, and to me she was a frigid bitch. Not a good ending, and she's still living here until the end of the month. I love her, but refuse to be in a long term relationship without sex. We all have our needs...... (except for my ex)
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I wish I was a pussy magentic
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Re: Was I wrong? [Re: AUX]
#14458766 - 05/15/11 08:16 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I had a girl once like this. All she wanted to do was stay in the bed and get it on. It was ok for the first week or two, but then it started getting in the way of other activities that I also enjoyed; i.e. outdoors, mushrooms, etc. So long story short, she started getting pissed at me too cause I wanted to have time to basically live instead of fuck all the time. And by all the time I mean 4 and 5 times a day. Sorry, if you can't deal with before bed or after we wake up, your loss. The rest of the day is mine.
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if your making his dick sore its understandable.
as much as guys like to talk about how much they will/can have sex dick gets sore after being hard for so long. 4 5 times a day is just way to much for extended periods of time.
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don't listen to these fools!
girl ill fuck you 6 hours a day!
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Anonymous #1
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Thanks for the input. All I was asking for was once everyday or once every two days... I don't think my vag smells or that its very loose, I even shaved it recently...
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Anonymous said: you are throwing yourself at him too hard. Leave him alone and wait for him to come to you. He thinks you are a tool and he's got you right where he wants you
Yes I can see that now thanks
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I don't know if it's really about who's at fault so much as a problem that you're not 100% sexually compatible. I have a far higher sex drive than my bf, and I've gone many a night being so horny that it hurt, and sad that he wouldn't touch me.
Anyway, since you're not in a relationship with him, it's probably a good time to call it quits and look for someone who can keep up better in bed.
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You should just break up with him and meet up with me. I'll do a full day of sex for 35 dollazzz.
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BadAssPterodactyl said: I have a far higher sex drive than my bf, and I've gone many a night being so horny that it hurt, and sad that he wouldn't touch me.
I know exactly what you mean, my girl's sex drive is much lower than mine. It is a little reassuring to know that I'm not alone and its not sex exclusive.
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Yea great advice, Im going to text him that if he cant meet my basic needs , as I do whatever I can to meet his, its not going to work.
I mean Ive done things for this guy like dress up as a schoolgirl for his fantasy and lend him money for cigarettes... and fucking guy cant even fuck me once every two days or follow through with his word...
its like waving candy infront of a kid and telling them they cant have it
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Right? She's damn sexy and dresses really sexy (she's how I always imagined the girl from Scarlet Begonias is) and everything she does is so fuckin sexy, from getting changed to falling asleep. She'll be grinding up against me in bed but she says she's "just cuddling". It's like she doesn't even realize she's teasing me. I wish I got laid more than once a week, or even that we'd have a 2nd round when we do fuck. Lately, I've been trying to suppress my sex drive... not something a 20 year old should have to do.
Oh well, I guess I'll have to settle for walking down to the elementary school in a bathrobe and exposing myself to 3rd graders instead.
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Edited by Anonymous (02/07/13 12:06 PM)
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Anonymous #1
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He does have some douche qualities but mostly hes a good guy
Basically I texted him that we both have needs; I make an effort to meet his, and that hes waving crack infront of a crackhead
to which he replied that he didn't think I could compare sex to crack in terms of addition/withdrawl but that he was wrong
So I might see him tonight but thanks for the advice anon 5, I will have to try and balance the power dynamics
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Anonymous said: Did you ever have sex more than once a week? If yes, then it's not incompatible sex drives, she's losing interest. Let me guess, you're not the most take charge guy when it comes to sex, and she turns you down often and you get miffed (rightfully so) and try to hide it but sometimes it comes out and/or you argue about it? This comes off as needy, girls hate neediness and it just turns her off even more.
When you do have sex is it good? If not, get better that could also help. There are other ways than more sex to get better at sex, kegel exercises, change/improve your techniques, just offer something different and exciting.
Maybe try surprising her, pinning her against the wall, throwing her on the bed etc. This is all assuming your frequency of sex has diminished and didn't always suck, I feel for you, once a week is impossible for a 20 year old.
We've been together for 3 1/2 years and the interest has never really been there. She loves me but she has never seemed particularly interested in sex. This is frustrating because I'm a good fuck and I want more opportunity to make use of my skills. Also it is frustrating because we hang with her friends, they want to fuck me, I go to school and girls want to fuck me, I go to parties and girls want to fuck me, I'm an attractive guy with game and most girls that I meet want to fuck me. I have easily fuckable pussy around me most of the day but I love my girl and I refuse to cheat on her. I run things in my scene, everywhere I go it feels like everyone knows me, I get everything I want because I MAKE it happen. Everything except laid, which is frustrating because her low sex drive is completely out of my control. I don't need drugs, I don't need money or fake friends that want to make what is mine theirs. I just need to fuck!
I've tried the surprising her thing but she gets REALLY put off by random sex. God damnit writing this right now is pissing me off. Yesterday she was being all flirty with me grabbing me all over my body, we both had somewhere to go in like 30 minutes so I'm like "let's have some you n me time before we have to go" to which I get the usual response later. Later comes around, she's stoned as fuck and passes out, once again I'm not the least bit surprised, just frustrated and hurt. It makes me feel unattractive and sexually useless. Honestly, I don't even WANT to initiate sex anymore because getting turned down hurts and it seems like every time I want to hook up she turns me down. I get so horny that I can't go out and do things. I really have no idea what to do.
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Anonymous said: Did you ever have sex more than once a week? If yes, then it's not incompatible sex drives, she's losing interest. Let me guess, you're not the most take charge guy when it comes to sex, and she turns you down often and you get miffed (rightfully so) and try to hide it but sometimes it comes out and/or you argue about it? This comes off as needy, girls hate neediness and it just turns her off even more.
When you do have sex is it good? If not, get better that could also help. There are other ways than more sex to get better at sex, kegel exercises, change/improve your techniques, just offer something different and exciting.
Maybe try surprising her, pinning her against the wall, throwing her on the bed etc. This is all assuming your frequency of sex has diminished and didn't always suck, I feel for you, once a week is impossible for a 20 year old.
We've been together for 3 1/2 years and the interest has never really been there. She loves me but she has never seemed particularly interested in sex. This is frustrating because I'm a good fuck and I want more opportunity to make use of my skills. Also it is frustrating because we hang with her friends, they want to fuck me, I go to school and girls want to fuck me, I go to parties and girls want to fuck me, I'm an attractive guy with game and most girls that I meet want to fuck me. I have easily fuckable pussy around me most of the day but I love my girl and I refuse to cheat on her. I run things in my scene, everywhere I go it feels like everyone knows me, I get everything I want because I MAKE it happen. Everything except laid, which is frustrating because her low sex drive is completely out of my control. I don't need drugs, I don't need money or fake friends that want to make what is mine theirs. I just need to fuck!
I've tried the surprising her thing but she gets REALLY put off by random sex. God damnit writing this right now is pissing me off. Yesterday she was being all flirty with me grabbing me all over my body, we both had somewhere to go in like 30 minutes so I'm like "let's have some you n me time before we have to go" to which I get the usual response later. Later comes around, she's stoned as fuck and passes out, once again I'm not the least bit surprised, just frustrated and hurt. It ma
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AUX said:
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Anonymous said: Did you ever have sex more than once a week? If yes, then it's not incompatible sex drives, she's losing interest. Let me guess, you're not the most take charge guy when it comes to sex, and she turns you down often and you get miffed (rightfully so) and try to hide it but sometimes it comes out and/or you argue about it? This comes off as needy, girls hate neediness and it just turns her off even more.
When you do have sex is it good? If not, get better that could also help. There are other ways than more sex to get better at sex, kegel exercises, change/improve your techniques, just offer something different and exciting.
Maybe try surprising her, pinning her against the wall, throwing her on the bed etc. This is all assuming your frequency of sex has diminished and didn't always suck, I feel for you, once a week is impossible for a 20 year old.
We've been together for 3 1/2 years and the interest has never really been there. She loves me but she has never seemed particularly interested in sex. This is frustrating because I'm a good fuck and I want more opportunity to make use of my skills. Also it is frustrating because we hang with her friends, they want to fuck me, I go to school and girls want to fuck me, I go to parties and girls want to fuck me, I'm an attractive guy with game and most girls that I meet want to fuck me. I have easily fuckable pussy around me most of the day but I love my girl and I refuse to cheat on her. I run things in my scene, everywhere I go it feels like everyone knows me, I get everything I want because I MAKE it happen. Everything except laid, which is frustrating because her low sex drive is completely out of my control. I don't need drugs, I don't need money or fake friends that want to make what is mine theirs. I just need to fuck!
I've tried the surprising her thing but she gets REALLY put off by random sex. God damnit writing this right now is pissing me off. Yesterday she was being all flirty with me grabbing me all over my body, we both had somewhere to go in like 30 minutes so I'm like "let's have some you n me time before we have to go" to which I get the usual response later. Later comes around, she's stoned as fuck and passes out, once again I'm not the least bit surprised, just frustrated and hurt. It makes me feel unattractive and sexually useless. Honestly, I don't even WANT to initiate sex anymore because getting turned down hurts and it seems like every time I want to hook up she turns me down. I get so horny that I can't go out and do things. I really have no idea what to do.
same here man, i know how you feel. i stayed with my girl for 7 years through this. She never once thought that it was not normal to have sex only 10 times a year. The whole time talking about how bad she wants to get pregnant, even telling people we were "trying". Instead I am somehow a sex addict/ pervert for wanting to have regular sex. She never sought any kind of help or tried to change the situation in any way. Kinda feels like getting rejected over and over, but they are always there to reject you again.
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ok...who says they're too tired for sex? either 1. he's just not that attracted to you or 2. he's really just that fucking lazy .. either way he's no good ..why do you want all that drama anyways? cut off w/e emotional ties you have with this scrub and find a dude who can actually fuck you right and not make you sacrifice your dignity
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I used to say the same thing about sex. Then, I got this current fling I have. After a few nights of literally fucking for 30 minutes, sleeping for 30 minutes, repeat x5-10, sex can get pretty "eh" for a little while. Generally that only lasts till I sleep a good while, but still.
But we were fucking 5 to 10 times a night. By like 6 or 7 I'd be kinda tired of humping, and all the positions had been exhausted. However, whenever she's clenching onto you and biting into your neck screaming "yes, yes, yes", well, I'll take one for the team and just keep on truckin'.
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