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shimishimiman
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Seducing old friends
#14390709 - 05/02/11 07:31 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Lately I have been really fascinated by the whole "Art of Seduction" thing, and I have noticed that every time I attempt to actually employ it in appropriate situations, it works like a fucking charm. I think this is mostly because of a combination of the fact that I am just one hell of a charming bastard to begin with, and that when I get drunk I allow women to get WAY closer to me than when I am sober (obviously).
In any case, this coming weekend I have an opportunity to go up to Austin to party with a bunch of old friends of mine, and to see a girl I have been infatuated with for a very long time (I had a short, unsuccessful, and overall disappointing fling with her last year). She is currently in a long distance relationship with some dude who lives in another state, so I am not sure how it would go down if I attempted to put some moves on her.
The reason our fling failed way back when was because I was totally uncomfortable with my sexuality and did not make a move on her when she absolutely wanted me to (also, I was going to school in a different city at the time, so it was also the constant miscommunication and a lack of us fucking each other).
To end this epic digression, what do you guys think? Should I try to hook up with her (seduce her), or just go to the party and not give a flying fuck? A majority of my decision to go to the party is based on fixing the image she has of me because she really means a lot to me and I think I would feel a lot better about myself knowing she felt the same way.
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SteezeMonkey
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Go to the party and when you see her, make good conversation and "bait the hook," if you will. Then walk away and enjoy the party for the rest of the night. Later on in the night she will wonder why you only talked briefly. She will get more intoxicated and begin to lust for you. Here is when you go in for the kill. It's science.
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shimishimiman
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Re: Seducing old friends [Re: STIKAROUND]
#14390917 - 05/02/11 08:05 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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So I shouldn't constantly engage in conversation with her? I forgot to mention the magnitude of how badly I want to make sweet love to this girl - I think about her a lot more than I should and I am kinda clingy when it comes to the idea of her.
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SteezeMonkey
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shimishimiman said: So I shouldn't constantly engage in conversation with her?
Yeah, exactly. Only in the beginning of the night. Act like you don't care what she thinks of you. Flirt with the other girls at the party even. That will get her jealous. Come end of the night--if she isn't all over you then I guess you'll have to make another move since you like her that much. But be patient and confident that she will.
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Also, don't come off too clingy or weird. Fight the urge to be clingy. Casual conversation, but don't be open and obviously trying to fuck this girl. Bait the hook, then come back and swoop it up at the end of the night.
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shimishimiman said: So I shouldn't constantly engage in conversation with her? I forgot to mention the magnitude of how badly I want to make sweet love to this girl - I think about her a lot more than I should and I am kinda clingy when it comes to the idea of her.
Just pretend you hardly know her. Talk with her briefly. Pretend youre having fun and you could care less. Ignore her for the rest of the night. Bump into her later that night, give her some of your time..and she will think youre the king of the fucking world.
You could also take the "intellect" route. Bond with her. Be a man and talk with her. Let her know how you feel. Odds are shes still gonna fuck the hot guy that treats everybody like shit.
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shimishimiman said: So I shouldn't constantly engage in conversation with her? I forgot to mention the magnitude of how badly I want to make sweet love to this girl - I think about her a lot more than I should and I am kinda clingy when it comes to the idea of her.
Just pretend you hardly know her. Talk with her briefly. Pretend youre having fun and you could care less. Ignore her for the rest of the night. Bump into her later that night, give her some of your time..and she will think youre the king of the fucking world.
You could also take the "intellect" route. Bond with her. Be a man and talk with her. Let her know how you feel. Odds are shes still gonna fuck the hot guy that treats everybody like shit.
Good luck 
What he said. Back when I fucked randoms I would usually always employ the "act like a dick" method at parties. And it always worked. I guess because everyone wants to be liked / loved, even subconsciously
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shimishimiman
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I really do not want to keep playing mind games with her. I am thinking that the "intellect" route of just telling her how she makes me feel would be the best thing.
More than likely as the night wares on and I become fairly drunk, I will end up trying to profess my feelings to her...
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Cyclohexylamine
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shimishimiman said: I really do not want to keep playing mind games with her. I am thinking that the "intellect" route of just telling her how she makes me feel would be the best thing.
More than likely as the night wares on and I become fairly drunk, I will end up trying to profess my feelings to her...
And that will get you no where besides being stuck in the friends zone / rejected. Unless she has a crazy crush on you.
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shimishimiman
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She and I have always had a really confusing relationship with one another. There was a point in time where we were madly in love, but my lack of making a move just ended up in confusing the shit out of the both of us.
Based on the way she has reacted to my presence in the past, especially AFTER our fling kinda went to shit, I am pretty fucking sure she feels as strongly about me as I feel about her.
The only problem is that she probably has her guard up a lot more than I would like her to. But I don't blame her, I have given her plenty of reasons to put up a wall when it comes to me.
I really just want to bring down the wall. I want the confused feelings and idiotic mind games to come to a halt. Fucking her is not as important to me as bringing down her wall.
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shimishimiman said: She and I have always had a really confusing relationship with one another. There was a point in time where we were madly in love, but my lack of making a move just ended up in confusing the shit out of the both of us.
Based on the way she has reacted to my presence in the past, especially AFTER our fling kinda went to shit, I am pretty fucking sure she feels as strongly about me as I feel about her.
The only problem is that she probably has her guard up a lot more than I would like her to. But I don't blame her, I have given her plenty of reasons to put up a wall when it comes to me.
I really just want to bring down the wall. I want the confused feelings and idiotic mind games to come to a halt. Fucking her is not as important to me as bringing down her wall.
Maybe have an adult conversation with her when NOT at a party drinking? Trust me drinking and telling your feelings will equal long and hard fail.
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shimishimiman
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Interesting...
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your expectations are going to fuck your shit, dude. just go there without expecting or planning anything and see how it plays out. best case scenario, you fuck your girl; worst case scenario you get drunk and don't give a fuck. sounds like a win - win to me.
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shimishimiman said: I really do not want to keep playing mind games with her. I am thinking that the "intellect" route of just telling her how she makes me feel would be the best thing.
More than likely as the night wares on and I become fairly drunk, I will end up trying to profess my feelings to her...
I wouldn't do this. She might think you're a total creeper who thinks about her all the time and is totally weird and obsessed with her. Confessing deep rooted feelings while drunk to someone you havent seen in a long time is sexy.
Be natural. Talk to her for a little then seem like you have more important things to do (hit on other chicks).
Eventually loop back to her and see how she reacts. Or shell come to you. Then play it out. You can eventually tell her how you feel. But you need to build attraction or its just creepy.
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Leave her alone she has a boyfriend
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g00ru
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i was in the same damn situation man, this girl ive been crushin on for years finally signaled that she wanted my nuts but i didn't make a move. but then like a week later i did. now we have a sorta thang goin, overall i'm very pleased with the situation.
I'd say, just be around her and try to radiate your sexual seductive energy but don't overtly hit on her if she has a boyfriend. It has to be her decision, if you make an overt move that's kind of being a borish asshole if she's got a dude. but if it's long distance personally i don't give a fuck, that's unrealistic to be monogamous across so much space and time imo
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Re: Seducing old friends [Re: g00ru]
#14425242 - 05/09/11 03:37 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I ended up not going to that party which was probably for the best.
However, there has been an interesting development. She came up in a conversation I had with an old friend of mine about a week ago, and for some reason he took it upon himself to tell her that she "fucked me up." I know this because she brought it up to me while I was texting her about random bullshit last night (also she said she was drunk).
She followed that up with a bunch of "OH BOO HOO, I HOPE THAT ISN'T TRUE WHAT A JERKFACE FOR TELLING ME THAT LOL." I told her I didn't want to talk about it over text and we should discuss it in person over some drinks when she is back in town. She texted me back saying ok that sounds fair, and then immediately afterwards sent another text saying "what I really mean is its now or never." I responded with just lemme know when you are back in town and we'll discuss it then. She hasn't responded back.
What do y'all think? I feel like I should be stoked at how this has played out, but there is also this lingering feeling that the proverbial shit might have really hit the proverbial fan.
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that's good man, it's all on you now, be zen as fuck and STICK YOUR PENIS IN HER
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Re: Seducing old friends [Re: g00ru]
#14426804 - 05/09/11 08:47 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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guruu said: be zen as fuck and STICK YOUR PENIS IN HER
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