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smalltownkid096
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How to not care what others think?
#14416140 - 05/07/11 04:41 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Any advice on how to just not care what anybody thinks? sometimes i dont care what anyone thinks and its the greatest feeling in the world
and any tips for speaking infront of a bunch of people? ( i usually get insanely nervous)
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OmnerMG
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Looks like you already know how to stop caring sometimes, now just stop caring all the time. The biggest part is to remember that people don't think about you as much as you think they're thinking about you.
Now the talking infront of people thing is a completely different issue, some people can naturally public speak. While others like myself it takes years or trial and error to be able to talk to any congregation of people. There is a lot of great books on this subject and most colleges offer classes on how to public speak that anyone can attend.
Good luck.
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focus on being in the moment, and you'll see how your concerns about other's opinion of you is really just a silly distraction from what is
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smalltownkid096 said: Any advice on how to just not care what anybody thinks? sometimes i dont care what anyone thinks and its the greatest feeling in the world
and any tips for speaking infront of a bunch of people? ( i usually get insanely nervous)
Treat it like acting. Thats what public speaking is all about. Don't take the shit seriously, but just get into the role. Same goes for most situations.
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: The_Ghost]
#14416250 - 05/07/11 06:24 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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just seriously dont give a fuck. dont worry about what other people will think of you.
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: g00ru]
#14416269 - 05/07/11 06:30 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Any advice on how to just not care what anybody thinks?
Sometimes you have to care unless you want to bring unnecessary consequences upon yourself. We're social creatures and live in a social world. And while I understand the desire to just not give a fuck, it doesn't really seem a viable option IMO. There are however a lot of needless worries that can appear in thought. And it seems reasonable to say that examining thoughts and comparing them to the reality before you, or as guruu said, by staying in the moment, is a good way to sort out what is fitting and what is not. After taking the time to examine your thoughts, you can begin to be much more specific in what sorts of thoughts are working to help you, and what thoughts are hindering/hurting you.
Lots of recent therapeutic techniques revolve around not automatically identifying with thoughts and taking them as representative of reality. And that's because thoughts are not an accurate representation of reality. Humans are prone to exaggeration and the creation of stories that are only very loosely based on something real. For example, believing the thought that others are judging you even when there is very little or no evidence that this is the case can cause one unnecessary anxiety. Checking the thought against evidence can help to bring things back in line with what is happening.
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1. Realize that what others think (unless it's people you love and you're putting yourself in a dangerous situation or something) is entirely irrelevant. It's all about what you think about yourself, and why you believe as you do.
2. I've always been a pretty decent public speaker, the key it to pick a friendly face or two and always maintain eye contact. A good attitude going into the speech, good posture, and speaking slowly, clearly and remembering to breathe help a bunch as well.
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: unam sanctum]
#14416313 - 05/07/11 06:43 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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I think it's better to believe in yourself than to not care about what others think.
The end result is higher confidence, only the former is much more genuine.
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Shins]
#14416328 - 05/07/11 06:50 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Shins said: I think it's better to believe in yourself than to not care about what others think.
The end result is higher confidence, only the former is much more genuine.
exactly, focus on your self, not on others. saying "fuck off" mentally to everybody will make you an asshole, instead just believe in and listen to yourself...you really have no option but to do this if you wanna make it in this world
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: g00ru]
#14416349 - 05/07/11 06:57 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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If you really want to not give a fuck smoke a lot of weed.
I personally hate society, Iv slipped away as best I could. To live in my own world is enough, so I say what I have to and leave
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Wise Toad] 1
#14416441 - 05/07/11 07:40 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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take lots of ketamine, the ego boost will do you some good, think of them as petty sheep, you are their shepherd, lead them
Ego is the best thing for not caring what people think, "who cares what they think, this is my show, its all about me"
works for me
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You just don't give a fuck.
Worst case scenario you get beat up. If that happens you might still kick ass.
Best case scenario... you just don't give a fuck.
Me, I just smoked a few bowls and went ahh....
Fucks are not given.
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: 4runner] 3
#14416580 - 05/07/11 08:39 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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any projection you give to the thoughts of others are coming from your own thoughts.
to stop caring what others think you gotta stop caring about what U think
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Envix]
#14416585 - 05/07/11 09:09 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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true dat
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Envix]
#14416595 - 05/07/11 09:12 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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caught in a hustle- immortal technique
But you make success, nobody delivers your fate Sometimes you give and you take Since prehistoric vertebrates, crawled out of the lakes And thats the truth about life more to do with the ghetto than your car, rims, and your ice 'cuz even though we survived through the struggle that made us We still look at ourselves through the eyes of the people that hate us But ima make it regardless...
a lot of truth to these lyrics , I think of them quite often
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Pscientist]
#14416660 - 05/07/11 09:27 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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FUCK THEM. do your life. go yell in a crowd. get over it. get better. ahhh
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: dshow]
#14416674 - 05/07/11 09:30 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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i actually do care what others think, had that realization on acid. i want to be liked. but 90% of the shit people freak about...simply not worth freaking about. I just want to be understood by others, i feel that desire very strongly.
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: g00ru]
#14418552 - 05/08/11 08:06 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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thanks for the advice.
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Envix]
#14418888 - 05/08/11 10:26 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Envix said: any projection you give to the thoughts of others are coming from your own thoughts.
to stop caring what others think you gotta stop caring about what U think
how do you stop caring about what you think?
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: tito123]
#14418914 - 05/08/11 10:34 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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tito123 said:
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Envix said: any projection you give to the thoughts of others are coming from your own thoughts.
to stop caring what others think you gotta stop caring about what U think
how do you stop caring about what you think?
lol i wonder this as well...
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by observing the thoughts dispassionately, and not thinking of them as "you." realize that you are the observer of the thoughts primarily, and that the identity created by thoughts is transitory and illusory
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if you made this thread than its hopeless.
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JesusGoneRogue said: if you made this thread than its hopeless. 
you dont think i can change?
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If you are happy about what you are doing and your not hurting anyone it doesn't really matter what other people think. I watched this grown man with his whole family around him freaking out and standing up and dancing at a led zeppelin cover band (who were actually really good)last night. He shouldn't give a fuck, he was having fun and that is all that matters.
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smalltownkid096 said: Any advice on how to just not care what anybody thinks? sometimes i dont care what anyone thinks and its the greatest feeling in the world
and any tips for speaking infront of a bunch of people? ( i usually get insanely nervous)
start struttin'
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Salomon]
#14420103 - 05/08/11 03:26 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Hate them. If you hate everybody then you will not give a fuck...
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: fbi365]
#14420206 - 05/08/11 03:47 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Just be yourself. It takes mental discipline and perseverance to not let rejection or judgement "get to you." But if someone DOES judge you, especially without knowing you, it is important for you to recognize this as their ignorance of you, as opposed to let it define you. No one knows you better than yourself.
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Satyapriya]
#14420446 - 05/08/11 04:42 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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OP, the only reason you can't hold on to that feeling of not caring what people think is because somewhere deep down you still think it matters what they think. It's just like anything else that becomes truth in your mind. Once something becomes truth in your mind then the rest of you will behave accordingly.
I don't know that you can do anything to make yourself not care besides really not care. I outgrew caring. I still catch myself every so often but it's rare these days. I embrace my own weirdness as well as that of the people I hang with. Which is another thing, the people you're around. Some people may just have that effect on you. I would poison them or cut their brake lines.
Peace!
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Fungal-one]
#14420597 - 05/08/11 05:23 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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the first question you have to ask yourself:
why do you care what others think?
answer: I don't
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Anthony917]
#14420936 - 05/08/11 06:18 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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for speaking in front of others, a small amount of any strong booze will help, not enough to get you drunk, just to take that inhibition edge off.
as for not caring about what others think, I naturally just assume that the opinion of people who aren't important to me is not valued, also if they don't know me they can think whatever the fuck they want if that makes them happy. I'm happy with my life and my choices, I don't feel I have unresolved issues so if others do that is pretty much their problem.
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Re: How to not care what others think? [Re: Envix]
#14420938 - 05/08/11 06:18 PM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Envix said: any projection you give to the thoughts of others are coming from your own thoughts.
to stop caring what others think you gotta stop caring about what U think
Agreed, You shouldn't be judgmental of yourself because that's the root of the problem.
Do what you like and don't judge others or yourself and then you wont have to worry about what others think. Because really, your worries of what other people think are just projections of your own judgements you place upon yourself.
Edited by A Day InThe Life (05/08/11 06:20 PM)
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A Day InThe Life said:
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Envix said: any projection you give to the thoughts of others are coming from your own thoughts.
to stop caring what others think you gotta stop caring about what U think
Agreed, You shouldn't be judgmental of yourself because that's the root of the problem.
Do what you like and don't judge others or yourself and then you wont have to worry about what others think. Because really, your worries of what other people think are just projections of your own judgements you place upon yourself.
thanks, thats some good advice right here
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A Day InThe Life said:
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Envix said: any projection you give to the thoughts of others are coming from your own thoughts.
to stop caring what others think you gotta stop caring about what U think
Agreed, You shouldn't be judgmental of yourself because that's the root of the problem.
Do what you like and don't judge others or yourself and then you wont have to worry about what others think. Because really, your worries of what other people think are just projections of your own judgements you place upon yourself.

Can I call you Mr.Jung?
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not giving a fuck is a weird art to master. its extremely easy. yet most find it extremely hard. by making this thread, you took a step backwards. and besides, why do you give a fuck what i think?
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