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Bumm
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How do I overcome a fatal attraction?
#14411678 - 05/06/11 06:14 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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So I have this friend that I am very attracted to, like every time I see her my blood just boils and its hards to stop looking at her. In my eyes she is so beautiful and I honestly cant help striping her down in my mind, and every time she has a boy I get so incredibly jealous that he probably gets to see and touch her naked body. The thing is we are really good friends and we both love it that way. Our personalities match for a great friendship, and we have talked about the matter if we were in a relationship and we both agreed that we wouldn't be that compatible. I mean perhaps we would and we don't know it. I don't think so though and honestly I don't think I wanna be in a relationship with her. My problem is that I am so tantalized and fatally attracted to her I cannot help it. Like I just want to hold, feel and caress her body all over. However, there is no way that I would initiate anything because One,I have the highest respect for her, Two I know she isn't even close to being as attracted to me as I am to her, and Three if we turned into fuck buddies or had a one night stand I think the friendship would suffer in the end. So I need advice, What do I do here? How do I stop myself from being so god damned attracted to her body?
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Caine
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14411690 - 05/06/11 06:15 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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There's no cure but time
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14411691 - 05/06/11 06:15 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Get with someone else.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm] 1
#14411698 - 05/06/11 06:17 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Is she seeing anyone? Yes or no...if no, ask her out. Life's too fucking short to sit there and tease yourself. And guess what, most relationships are gonna go bad at some point anyway, and if you aren't friends afterward, so what? Better than being teased every moment anyway, might as well chance it and go for it.
If you're just wanting to be not attracted to her - then I don't know, masturbate a lot, watch a ton of porn, find a girlfriend??? Other than not hanging around her anymore I'm must not sure what you can do.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14411708 - 05/06/11 06:18 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Get really drunk together one night and ask her why she's so fucking sexy and inform her for the sake of science you two should play hide the weenie.
Kidding, the problem seems insoluble. If may help to remember that if you had her attention and ease of access, you would quickly lose your fascination. I've had a hot friend become a lover and I gradually had issues achieving erection just because I knew the chase was over.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14411717 - 05/06/11 06:20 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Been there, done that. There's no easy answer to that one, dude. I always ended up totally screwing that friendship because I couldn't handle it any longer. I always just ran away, because that's who I am. There are three ways to handle that situation, go for it full pelt, stay friends or run away from her and your feelings. Do what you think it's right.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: sandi] 1
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: wow] 1
#14411833 - 05/06/11 06:46 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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For what you describe she really doesn't seem so in to you as you are in to her. You admit you don't want a relationship with her so you just want to have sex. She doesn't? Not much you can do about it but hanging out with her is not going to help for sure. Sometimes the fatal attraction is just so fatal because in fact you know it's something you can't have, that just makes it so much more desirable.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: pouihi]
#14412054 - 05/06/11 07:33 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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DS THAT SB
also, post a picture of her.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14412730 - 05/06/11 09:47 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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DSHSB
Life is short and men and women aren't meant to be just friends. You shouldn't worry that things will go bad because they are already bad. Sure you might enjoy being friends, but obviously its a source of stress for you. How long do you plan on being friends anyway? If she gets married you might still be "friends" kinda, but the relationship between the two of you will basically be over. So think about it this way, would you rather die a slow and painful death, or a quick and painful death?
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: psilyguy]
#14412807 - 05/06/11 10:01 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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All good answers guys thanks for helping me out. The thing is I basically know a relationship or anything like that is no go. So idk i think i just need to bottle the beast and enjoy her company. The more I think about it I think I just need to tell her that she is a tantalizing goddess of beauty in my mind, leave it as a compliment between friends and establish that i just wanted to tell her shes beautiful and that I am not making a move just getting it off my chest. I mean i have complimented her before may times but I think I just need to get off my chest and tell her how sexy she is. Idk i feel stupid about this thread now, just seems like how I was in high school to afraid to make a move but ive realized now that i dont want to make the move i just want to tell her something and not make the friendship awkward after that
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: psilyguy]
#14412840 - 05/06/11 10:09 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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psilyguy has a good point.
Look here bumm.I have been in this situation like 4 times. Where i had a good friend who was hott as fuck and i didnt even try for it, and yet i liked them sooo much. What happens? well as time goes by somehow-someway you will eventually most likely stop being friends. Its just how life works. You both will not be friends forever. ok?
Besides the obvious of jus maybe getting drunk and talking about it. I suggest also MDMA. If you could somehow convince her to take MDMA with just you alone, that could cause a HUGE breakthrough.
The other strategy i want to give you, is get a girlfriend. somewhat hot (compared to her) This girlfriend is only for the sake of trying to get the girl that you really like. Selfish and somewhat cruel i know. But this will allow you to get a hot girlfriend easier. Heres what i mean when you have your eyes on another prize, getting that other hot girl will be easy because you wont give a fuck about her. Anyways back to the strategy. Once you get this hott girlfriend it will show the girl you like that you get girls on her level. Plus she will be jealous. You dont want to look like a scum bag so dont hit on the girl you like directly obvious while your with another girl. but kinda make hints. Break up with the hott girl. Because you werent "into her" or "feeling it". Then with the memory of you dating a hott girl in her mind. Make a move. ok brosky?
oh almost forgot, if you get this hott girl, make sure you treat her like a fucking queen and make it look like you guys are having so much fun. Do this in front of the girl you like. Tell her your taking your GF here and there and blah blah blah. The girl you like, will want to see how good it really is.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: dshow]
#14412907 - 05/06/11 10:26 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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dshow said: psilyguy has a good point.
Look here bumm.I have been in this situation like 4 times. Where i had a good friend who was hott as fuck and i didnt even try for it, and yet i liked them sooo much. What happens? well as time goes by somehow-someway you will eventually most likely stop being friends. Its just how life works. You both will not be friends forever. ok?
Besides the obvious of jus maybe getting drunk and talking about it. I suggest also MDMA. If you could somehow convince her to take MDMA with just you alone, that could cause a HUGE breakthrough.
The other strategy i want to give you, is get a girlfriend. somewhat hot (compared to her) This girlfriend is only for the sake of trying to get the girl that you really like. Selfish and somewhat cruel i know. But this will allow you to get a hot girlfriend easier. Heres what i mean when you have your eyes on another prize, getting that other hot girl will be easy because you wont give a fuck about her. Anyways back to the strategy. Once you get this hott girlfriend it will show the girl you like that you get girls on her level. Plus she will be jealous. You dont want to look like a scum bag so dont hit on the girl you like directly obvious while your with another girl. but kinda make hints. Break up with the hott girl. Because you werent "into her" or "feeling it". Then with the memory of you dating a hott girl in her mind. Make a move. ok brosky?
oh almost forgot, if you get this hott girl, make sure you treat her like a fucking queen and make it look like you guys are having so much fun. Do this in front of the girl you like. Tell her your taking your GF here and there and blah blah blah. The girl you like, will want to see how good it really is.
Too bad I am not that good looking of a guy. I don't let it discourage me cause i break through with my personality and being funny and working on my appearance, but the hot ones usually just shrug me off at any attempt to mingle. But Ill try it, if I can find a hot chick haha
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14413004 - 05/06/11 10:51 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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look at it this way man. Your not caring about them. Use that personality to find them and talk to them. and get them interested. You not caring.. will do the rest. They will be like WTF? im Hott? .. when someone doesnt care, the other one likes them more. You show interest but you NEVER admit they are hott or pretty, or any of that shit (cuz they already know it) so you never give them that
at least try it man. dont you want this girl? I hope this shit works out. Your life would be extacy.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14413457 - 05/07/11 01:25 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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i'll just leave this here.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: JesusGoneRogue]
#14414282 - 05/07/11 08:54 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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JesusGoneRogue said: i'll just leave this here.
holy lmfao
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14414355 - 05/07/11 09:19 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Bumm said: The thing is we are really good friends and we both love it that way.
obviously this is untrue
just tell her she needs to get nekkid
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Prisoner#1]
#14414481 - 05/07/11 10:07 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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fuck bein friends with females. try to get with her. if it goes well, awesome, if it doesnt, one less thing to worry about.
i was in a "similar" situation to you, OP, and i had to just tell her to fuck off cause she ended up being a stupid bitch who was in love with a guy who beat her.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Ajaxx]
#14414485 - 05/07/11 10:07 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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fuck her mom.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: s0nny]
#14414519 - 05/07/11 10:22 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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With another fatal attraction
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: dshow]
#14414584 - 05/07/11 10:44 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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dshow said:
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JesusGoneRogue said: i'll just leave this here.
holy lmfao
Haha fuck off but this did make me LMAO
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14414739 - 05/07/11 11:23 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Bumm said:
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dshow said: psilyguy has a good point.
Look here bumm.I have been in this situation like 4 times. Where i had a good friend who was hott as fuck and i didnt even try for it, and yet i liked them sooo much. What happens? well as time goes by somehow-someway you will eventually most likely stop being friends. Its just how life works. You both will not be friends forever. ok?
Besides the obvious of jus maybe getting drunk and talking about it. I suggest also MDMA. If you could somehow convince her to take MDMA with just you alone, that could cause a HUGE breakthrough.
The other strategy i want to give you, is get a girlfriend. somewhat hot (compared to her) This girlfriend is only for the sake of trying to get the girl that you really like. Selfish and somewhat cruel i know. But this will allow you to get a hot girlfriend easier. Heres what i mean when you have your eyes on another prize, getting that other hot girl will be easy because you wont give a fuck about her. Anyways back to the strategy. Once you get this hott girlfriend it will show the girl you like that you get girls on her level. Plus she will be jealous. You dont want to look like a scum bag so dont hit on the girl you like directly obvious while your with another girl. but kinda make hints. Break up with the hott girl. Because you werent "into her" or "feeling it". Then with the memory of you dating a hott girl in her mind. Make a move. ok brosky?
oh almost forgot, if you get this hott girl, make sure you treat her like a fucking queen and make it look like you guys are having so much fun. Do this in front of the girl you like. Tell her your taking your GF here and there and blah blah blah. The girl you like, will want to see how good it really is.
Too bad I am not that good looking of a guy. I don't let it discourage me cause i break through with my personality and being funny and working on my appearance, but the hot ones usually just shrug me off at any attempt to mingle. But Ill try it, if I can find a hot chick haha
yea really. how are you supposed to just go out and get a hot girlfriend to show your friend that you can attract a girl as attractive as she is. if you can manage to get a hot girlfriend that you're attracted to, why not just stick with her? i mean i guess you could use another woman as a tool to try to spark attraction from your friend and then just drop her if the plan works out. thats fucked up.
but anyway, if your friend usually dates good looking guys, athletic, handsome, confident, etc. and you don't fit that description then I wouldn't recommend pursuing her even just for a fuck.. especially just for a fuck. sexual attraction in the case of one night stands or fuck buddies is always based on physical attraction. we know you find her extremely attractive, but if she doesn't find you attractive its gonna be a painful disappointment to make a move on her, even if she's drunk.
I've seen this happen so many times and chances are she already knows you want her bad. I've watched guys embarrass themselves and go through emotional hell (this was back in high school, mind you) by being "best friends" with a hot girl. everyone knows he wants her. she doesn't want him but genuinely enjoys the attention and close friendship. the girl always ends up dating guys that are pretty much the opposite of him and he gets painfully jealous. sometimes the guy eventually can't take it anymore and either pours his heart out telling her how much he likes or loves her and how beautiful she is and how she deserves a nice guy.. or he tries to just go in and make a move and kiss her.
the girl usually responds with something that starts like: "I don't want to hurt you but..."
I could be wrong, you might get lucky. maybe she secretly likes you too! i just know that when a girl knows how desperately a guy wants her, it usually makes them forget any possible shred of interest they may have had before they knew.. especially if he's known her for months or years and STILL hadn't done anything about it.
I have a group of friends that my girlfriend and I hang out with sometimes. one friend of a friend wants my girlfriend so bad. she stupidly gave him her number because she's nice and wants to make friends (she's not from this country). he texts her all the time, tells her she's beautiful. all this shit. everyone knows he wants her so bad, and no one knows it better than she does. she enjoys having a friend to talk to but she would never hang out with him except for when he's at a party with the rest of our friends. he's basically waiting for us to break up (which isn't going to happen) but the fact that he's super lonely and desperate for her makes him exponentially less attractive in her eyes. he's very opposite from me in almost every way and I don't let it piss me off too much. i know she's mine and its kinda gratifying to know other guys think my girlfriend is gorgeous. she gets hit on all the time when shes out in public alone.
but just to point out how ineffective a method it is to make friends with a girl you like first and then try to get romantic with her when you finally build up the balls. I kissed my girl the first day we met, had sex on the third date and agreed on an exclusive relationship after about 2 weeks. it has happened fast with every girl I've ever hooked up with. if you like her, just go for it. girls hate guys who are too scared and timid to do something about their attraction. when i was in high school i often made the mistake of being friends first and it NEVER worked. not even once. thank god i finally learned my lesson after years of heartbreak and loneliness. your best bet is to try to find another girl to go for, and don't be so damn hesitant next time.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14415266 - 05/07/11 01:30 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Make rabbit stew.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: BoneMan]
#14415405 - 05/07/11 02:01 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Op is fuuuucked
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: The Whale]
#14415412 - 05/07/11 02:03 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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The Whale said: Get really drunk together one night and ask her why she's so fucking sexy and inform her for the sake of science you two should play hide the weenie.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: blissedout]
#14415814 - 05/07/11 03:36 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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blissedout said: Make rabbit stew.
Nobody gets my Fatal Attraction reference. A buncha youngsters, I tell ya!
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: dshow]
#14416020 - 05/07/11 04:15 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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dshow said: Op is fuuuucked
ROFL! And yeah blissedout definitely over the youngsters heads. I know cause I am one and I forgot that Fatal Attraction is a movie. Lol I just used the phrase.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Leanin]
#14418332 - 05/08/11 06:04 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14418339 - 05/08/11 06:08 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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If you can muster up the indecency masturbate to the thought of her. Then you'll likely become less interested.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Caine]
#14418409 - 05/08/11 06:43 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Caine said: There's no cure but time
I don't agree with the other advice. Just be her friend yo! Be the best person you can and since you respect her, it shouldn't be hard. Maybe someday you guys will happen. Maybe you won't and you'll have a lifelong friend to look back and laugh about things with.
Don't ruin it. In time you will move on. Hanging out with other people helps. Focus on yourself for a bit.
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Re: How do I overcome a fatal attraction? [Re: Bumm]
#14418454 - 05/08/11 07:07 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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this reinforces why i dont keep guys as friend I.R.L
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