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Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent
#14398982 - 05/04/11 09:19 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I've been faitfully married for years and have kids and have never cheated on my wife. I've toed the line, and have been strongly attracted to others, including female friends, but have never made out with or had sex with anyone else. But lately, when I see women in public I have strong desires immediatley and an image of them moaning in passion from orgasm as I make love to them flashes instantly in my mind. I have a strong affinity to promiscuous women, in fact, I find girls with few morals and no sexual standards to be a turn on. I wanna be one of those guys in a 100 man gang bang or bukakke film. I want to do things a married man is forbidden. But I don't want to lose my family either. I've often thought about getting castrated so I dont have to deal with these things. I'm at a loss. Dont know what to do. I'm beginning to understand why strip clubs were invented, why men cheat, and why women leave their husbands.
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Sleepwalker
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14399012 - 05/04/11 09:30 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Get your wife in on the whole thing. Have an orgy or something. Not with ONE HUNDRED MEN necessarily...
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koraks
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14399041 - 05/04/11 09:38 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Dude, get yourself a dirty low-down hooker once in a while
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LZip
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: koraks]
#14399228 - 05/04/11 10:25 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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just curious..what age did you get with your wife? Were you with many girls before her??
My first time having sex ended up being with a girl I had a serious relationship with. Next person I was with, I was also in another serious relationship with. I was always in a serious relationship, so I also had that desire with being with random girls that I saw in public. When I was single for about a year, I went on a bit of a wild streak (which I wanted), but then got tired of it and wanted to settle back down.
I have a theory that everybody has a need to have a wild streak in their life..and am glad I had mine before I was married. I have a feeling you were with/got married to your wife at a somewhat young age and didnt have a chance to be with many girls before her.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: LZip]
#14399342 - 05/04/11 10:51 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Been with her since I was 18, am now 33. Have sexed only a few girls before her.
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#14399391 - 05/04/11 11:06 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Cheating is never the answer. I suggest you and your wife communicate together about your sex life. Something is missing if you are looking at other women for sexual pleasure.
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Sleepwalker]
#14399420 - 05/04/11 11:12 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
Oweyervishice said: Get your wife in on the whole thing. Have an orgy or something. Not with ONE HUNDRED MEN necessarily...
This. Not a hundred, maybe start by swapping with another couple.
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Doc_T]
#14399476 - 05/04/11 11:26 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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this works for a bit, then tension arises when people start deciding to have feelings and wanting to do shit un organised by the group, then it cheating.
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[quote]KristiMidocean said: Good now thats clear.WHO FUCKING CARES. If I am fat u all keep pointing it out like its suppose to be a secret.LIke u really have nothing better to do then make fat jokes. If o know its like I do I know yall can come up with NEW AND BETTER SHIT . This shit is old and boring . I left in the first place cause this shit got boring not because of the fat jokes . Fat jokes dont bother me but seriously its old[/quote]
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Psychoslut] 1
#14399482 - 05/04/11 11:27 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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He's already having the feeling and tension. Having partner involved on equal basis means it's not cheating, by definition.
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Doc_T]
#14399505 - 05/04/11 11:34 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Maybe just try spicing up things in bed with your wife?
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Psychoslut
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: TrustYourSelf] 2
#14399508 - 05/04/11 11:35 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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yeah, he should just eat some m&ms from her butt.
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[quote]KristiMidocean said: Good now thats clear.WHO FUCKING CARES. If I am fat u all keep pointing it out like its suppose to be a secret.LIke u really have nothing better to do then make fat jokes. If o know its like I do I know yall can come up with NEW AND BETTER SHIT . This shit is old and boring . I left in the first place cause this shit got boring not because of the fat jokes . Fat jokes dont bother me but seriously its old[/quote]
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Psychoslut]
#14399830 - 05/04/11 12:45 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Always a great first step, IMO.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Doc_T]
#14400361 - 05/04/11 02:52 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Things cooled down on the bedroom dept after admitting to her that I was sexually abused as a child. In hindsight a bad idea. But atm I really really want to experience another woman. Make her cum. Etc.
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Psychoslut
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14400454 - 05/04/11 03:09 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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troll.
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[quote]KristiMidocean said: Good now thats clear.WHO FUCKING CARES. If I am fat u all keep pointing it out like its suppose to be a secret.LIke u really have nothing better to do then make fat jokes. If o know its like I do I know yall can come up with NEW AND BETTER SHIT . This shit is old and boring . I left in the first place cause this shit got boring not because of the fat jokes . Fat jokes dont bother me but seriously its old[/quote]
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Psychoslut]
#14400579 - 05/04/11 03:31 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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No
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potgrrl
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14400719 - 05/04/11 04:04 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Things cooled down on the bedroom dept after admitting to her that I was sexually abused as a child. In hindsight a bad idea. But atm I really really want to experience another woman. Make her cum. Etc.
Have you had therapy to deal with your sexual abuse?
I kind of get the feeling that perhaps you see "validation of your worth as a man" tied up in the physical pleasuring of women...
This is hugely dangerous, don't ignore it. Go talk to a professional who you can trust won't judge you, and who you can be 100% honest about your thoughts with. If you don't take action to deal with this, you're going to end up divorced.
Note: It'll be easy for your wife to find another man to support her and be a father role model to your kids. But not many women will want to have a long term relationship with a man who is flirting with things that look like sex addiction, especially with promiscuous, unstable people who may threaten your, and your partner's, health and physical/financial safety.
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Edited by potgrrl (05/04/11 04:06 PM)
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14401285 - 05/04/11 06:24 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Take it from personal experience, the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
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ZenXi6
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Anonymous #2]
#14401340 - 05/04/11 06:37 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Speak to your wife about all your desires, perhaps it'll go badly at first.. but fuck it, she needs to know and eventually she'll appreciate your honesty.
It's dishonesty and lack of communication that hurt the most, the truth just has a nasty sting to it sometimes... so we avoid it a lot, it seems.
Speak to her.
And perhaps seek therapy of some sorts for the sexual abuse..
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14402271 - 05/04/11 09:27 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Things cooled down on the bedroom dept after admitting to her that I was sexually abused as a child. In hindsight a bad idea. But atm I really really want to experience another woman. Make her cum. Etc.
There was a short run of sexual abuse in my family, and let me tell you that there's nothing wrong with sharing your worst life stories with the person you've decided to spend your life with. Keeping that shit inside grates on your mind, and she should be understanding enough to give you the support you need.
I was involved with a girl that told me her first sexual experience was forced. She asked me to be gentle, as pain or forcefulness brought her back to that place (and this was after two dates!). I understood, and we both found pleasure as I understood what she had delt with and took care to make her feel comfortable.
Short of it: tell her everything (or as much as you want), and explain that it doesn't ruin your sex life, its just something unfortunate that happened.
Best of luck
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Re: Having a strong desire to be a sexual delinquent [Re: Treefeeler]
#14402764 - 05/04/11 11:02 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Your talking about going down a dark road.... Guess what? It ends in your head being fucked up more then ever along with your life and wife's life. SO be careful how you approach this. But like i said it will end badly if you follow this path.
18 is a young age to get married. I was out banging girls then and all the way up till now (23). But you have entire different situation. Responsibility, but that was YOUR path. You chose that.
SO you need to bring this up with your wife. Not say you want to fuck other women, but say what would you think about maybe getting together with another couple, and it should be a couple. Plant the seed in her head first and see how she reacts over a week or so. Then maybe bring it up even stronger.
Basically just see what she thinks. She might be cool with it.
be careful..
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