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LoveOverAll
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Meeting your girls freinds/ family
#14385068 - 05/01/11 09:01 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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We just started dating and in a month i will be at one of her friends party for her kid, plus talking to her family.
I'm awful at this, im always quite and strange, and when i do talk its not usually about weather or sports or eateries, it crazy shit like mushrooms are amazing, Government is corrupt, shit like that, how the hell does a person make it?
Im afraid this amazing girl will move on from a guy who is weird when it comes to talking to others.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: LoveOverAll]
#14385073 - 05/01/11 09:02 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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that sucks
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: Gibson33] 1
#14385085 - 05/01/11 09:03 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Sounds like you have a month to practice small talk.
Go talk to random people about random shit. Not like you're crazy, just like you like to talk. Go to the mall and talk to people about their shoes.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: Doc_T]
#14385251 - 05/01/11 09:31 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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^^ agreed Pick 2 or 3 normal subjects that interest you and read about them in your spare time so you'll be in the know.
Most Americans don't wanna hear about how much their government sucks.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: lil_demented]
#14385264 - 05/01/11 09:32 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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lil_demented said: Most Americans don't wanna hear about how much their government sucks.
Or anything else negative. Find something nice to say about something nice.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: lil_demented] 1
#14385278 - 05/01/11 09:33 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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go up to her mom and dad and say, "i'm banging ur daughter, nice to meet you".
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Cars. An intrest in drag racing, or any kind of racing, will make you appear normal and manly. Just avoid Nascar, cause then you'll just look like a
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: lil_demented]
#14385369 - 05/01/11 09:46 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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^^^ yep. Cars, sports. A reasonably dim view of current events. Try not to look like you know too much about any one thing, even mycology. Nobody wants a 20-minute dissertation on why mushrooms are the future.
Politics is touchy but can be a good fallback topic- I'll sometimes ask people what they think of Teddy Roosevelt. Every has heard of him and nobody hates him.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: Doc_T]
#14385411 - 05/01/11 09:51 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I'm not a fan of the Roose
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: lil_demented]
#14385445 - 05/01/11 09:56 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Bullshit. I'm talking Teddy, not FDR. How can you not love him? He's as squishy as the toy bears named for him.
And yet he was a badass who makes chuck Norris look like a pussy. TR had a boxing ring installed in the White House so he could *fight foreign leaders hand to hand*. That's some badassery right there.
And he was a war hero. And there's a funny story about him being Secretary of Navy too.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: Doc_T]
#14385475 - 05/01/11 10:00 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I know, he was great, just wanted to push your buttons.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: Doc_T]
#14385531 - 05/01/11 10:07 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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talk about how cool jobs and working hard are. also that you are highly educated and ambitious. anything short will make it seem like
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: SlashOZ]
#14385542 - 05/01/11 10:09 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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SlashOZ said: talk about how cool jobs and working hard are. also that you are highly educated and ambitious. anything short will make it seem like 
Great advice here. Make yourself look like a go getter. Don't make shit up though. Cause then you'll have to remember it later and that never works out.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: lil_demented]
#14385545 - 05/01/11 10:09 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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lil_demented said: Don't make shit up.
This is k3y.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: LoveOverAll]
#14385564 - 05/01/11 10:11 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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theblackhole said: We just started dating and in a month i will be at one of her friends party for her kid, plus talking to her family.
I'm awful at this, im always quite and strange, and when i do talk its not usually about weather or sports or eateries, it crazy shit like mushrooms are amazing, Government is corrupt, shit like that, how the hell does a person make it?
Im afraid this amazing girl will move on from a guy who is weird when it comes to talking to others.
im feel like im almost exactly the same, except for the girlfriend part. im gonna take notes on this thread.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: lil_demented]
#14385571 - 05/01/11 10:11 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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i agree with the not saying anything negative. what you should do is turn the conversation from you to them. people love to talk about themselves if you act like you will listen." oh where did you guys get this painting" "where was this picture taken?" "so i hear you work in ______?" "oh i like all kinds of films, have you seen the latest___film? what did you think?" "so i heard the other day someone say they didnt like mexican food, what do you think of mexican food" "i cant cook but i love good food, what about ya'll?" "is that record player? what kind of records do you have?" "oh im doing all right, thanks for asking, how about you, i heard that [___ got into college] or [you just renovated the kitchen] or [you are planning a trip to____] or[ ANYTHING ABOUT THEIR LIFE THAT THEY WOULD WANT TO TALK ABOUT"
learnt to listen. best way for people to like you. they ask questions but they dont really want to hear about you or anyone else.... sad truth ive discovered.
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: lil_demented]
#14385598 - 05/01/11 10:13 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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lil_demented said: I know, he was great, just wanted to push your buttons.
And there's a conversation.
What do you like best about TR? You know he got shot during a speech, and then finished the speech with a bullet in his chest?!?!
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: lil_demented]
#14385619 - 05/01/11 10:16 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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talk about aliens 
or talk about mj
best advise though is as follows -be boring at first -then use your hands (this is a must bc most anxieties are hand related) -dont use run ons -be negative and then follow up with positives -in closing use a word like "awesome" and "damn good"
make up a story or tell a real one, i liek this one (tho it may not be too good for you)
so me and my cousin were drinking the other day (negative) last thursday actually (positive) i dared him to clime a light poll (negative) you know those things they put on light pulls for the workers to climb (hand use here like your climbing) (very positive) so my cousin climbed it (shake head) (negaitve) he finally got to the top and started waving at me (positive) then all the sudden fell from the top and broke his leg in 2 places (point on your leg were he broke it) (positive and negative) he was screaming in pain pointing at his leg (negative) he looked like a sad puppy (negative) he looked helpless (negative)
it was so DAMN FUNNY!! me and my buddies laughed for hours and hours (positive, positive)
keep it balanced and talking is actually hilarious bc people will never find out what youre doing, its actually depressing
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How are you meeting them? Like, what are the circumstances, are you going out to eat, is there a BBQ...you know what I mean?
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Re: Meeting your girls freinds/ family [Re: LoveOverAll]
#14388399 - 05/02/11 12:41 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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So when you guys are out with a group of friends say dennys or a concert or what have you, and its a cool crowd, not one weirdo, you have your life of the party controls the shots and then you look around and notice theres always that one person that looks like they just aint having the same experience. What do you honestly think when that happens?
And thanks for the ideas thus far, its actually giving me background and support.
The first people party is her friends kids, im probly gonna be the only 25 yo without a kid.
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