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Mello Kitty
Beautiful Burnout



Registered: 12/04/08
Posts: 8,556
Loc: Sanriotown, Harmonyland
Last seen: 7 years, 5 months
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Sobriety & Relationships
#14382180 - 05/01/11 11:40 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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can Relationships handle Sobriety? if your spouse is forced to quit using either legally and/or medically and you continue to keep using? i have habits also (pills & heroin) that i stopped/stopping. but i am still smoking cannabis regularly at the moment i am just not ready to stop fully. my BF was forced to stop both legally and medically.
im noticing he is a lot more motivated and proactive. he wants to do a lot more. he is also thinking ahead a lot and planning all these things and talking them through outloud. this is kinda clashing with me and its causing fights. i am really spacey and flighty it seems like he is now noticing this a lot more. i have been yelled at a few times for being stupid and an airhead especially when im driving.
i have a really short attention span, and i tend to space out and daydream a lot. im also really forgetful. he seems ok with me smoking, and even smoking around him. and he had more patience with me when he was smoking. im just worried that now that he isnt getting high maybe he's going to notice my flaws more and not want me anymore.
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jjdiggincrates
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Re: Sobriety & Relationships [Re: Mello Kitty]
#14382213 - 05/01/11 11:47 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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my girlfriend smokes weed around me and i had to quit 3 months ago and i dont mind for the most part, only alittle envious :p it doesent get in the way of our relationship tho
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shimishimiman
Jaded Optimist


Registered: 03/21/09
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Basically, if he realizes that you are holding him back, he is going to leave your ass. You shouldn't be a burden upon your lover, not unless he thinks you are worth the burden.
Just don't get bent out of shape over this, it sounds like he is trying to get his shit together and it sounds like you don't want him to. You should support his ambition.
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