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mellowparty
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Stagnant existence
#14359928 - 04/27/11 08:03 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I dont go out, I dont go to shows, concerts, parties, gatherings, raves etc. (In fact I've never been to a rave). I stayed home for my 21st birthday didnt do drugs nor drinking (same on 20th). For NYE I stayed home and only drank some cider plus weed. I have no real friends where I'm at and socializing in general.
I go to work 2-3 times a week and the rest of the time I spend in my bed either studying or wasting time on the net. I have a hobby but thats about it. I dont really do drugs apart from the occasional toke. I dont feel particularly bad about it and I'm not complaining. Im just curious if I miss out on anything.
How does having a life feel like?
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A non-adventurous life is boring and like you've mentioned, stagnant. Moving no where. If you're ultimately content with your conditions, then just sit back and do what makes you comfortable and not experience new things. New experiences can often contain unfolding in an unknown direction. If i were you i'd take a look into myself and ask 'is this all it, even for now?'
Nope.
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koraks
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Im just curious if I miss out on anything.
You only miss out on those things you'd rather do than the things you do now. You can't do everything, so everyone 'misses out' on some things, except if they don't experience it as missing out, then they're not really missing out. They're just doing other things. So it basically just comes down to the question: do you feel like there's anything lacking from your life? If so, go after it. Make a friend, get him/her to take you to a party/event, make new friends, get them to take you places, and before you know it, you're in the center of an expansive network of friends
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Sounds like my lifestyle atm bro. The only thing that gets me out of the house is college and my part-time job.
I miss friends when I don't have them and don't want to socialise when I do have them. I like chilling with them smoking weed but I hate being tied down by plans so it seems like I'm being anti-social when I don't wanna be with them.
I like being tbh. I don't get overly depressed when I don't see friends/family for a long time. I'm generally happy with my lifestyle, though I know most people wouldn't be.
Meh.
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mellowparty
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Re: Stagnant existence [Re: koraks]
#14360014 - 04/27/11 08:30 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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koraks said:s. So it basically just comes down to the question: do you feel like there's anything lacking from your life?
Yes, this:
  
and this:
  
All I really want to do is psychedelics in nature (or any of them separately). Problem is I don't get much free time with uni and work and other shit thats going on.
As for new friends, I dont think I can just meet like-minded people out of nowhere. IME making new connections always happens when I least expect it. The people I communicate with on daily basis are just boring me to death. Apart from the fact that we do the same course or work at the same place we have nothing else in common 
To sum it up most people suck and I'm not interested in them. I want more and nature walks. Oh, yeah and I live with my gf so Im not missing much there
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I like chilling with them smoking weed but I hate being tied down by plans so it seems like I'm being anti-social when I don't wanna be with them.

Thats pretty much my case. Id much rather stay at home vegetating while smoking a fat joint instead of going out to the pub with mates spending a shitload of money on beer or some shitty idea like that.
What do you think about chilling with 1-2 friends at home, doing pretty much nothing apart from smoking and searching for tunes or other entertaining shit on the net?
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aww we sound alike. unfortunatly life has recently thrown many obstacles in my face, some medical, some legal. i have also been immersed in a new restoration hobbie that is pretty demanding, takes up most of my free time, and acts as an excellent anti-drug. you are not alone. these past few weeks have been the most sober & sobering weeks of my life. but atleast im learning things. coping skills, managing stress and dealing with reality sober. i have successfully tapered myself out of benzo withdrawl rather quickly, still trying to manage major drug cravings. if you ever want to socialize send me a i enjoy your company on here
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mellowparty said:
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I like chilling with them smoking weed but I hate being tied down by plans so it seems like I'm being anti-social when I don't wanna be with them.

Thats pretty much my case. Id much rather stay at home vegetating while smoking a fat joint instead of going out to the pub with mates spending a shitload of money on beer or some shitty idea like that.
What do you think about chilling with 1-2 friends at home, doing pretty much nothing apart from smoking and searching for tunes or other entertaining shit on the net?
I enjoy doing that. Like you said, going to the pub and spending stupid amounts of money on alcohol doesn't appeal to me at all, especially being surroudned by loud drunk fuckers. I like to be able to have a pleasant conversation with friends. Chilling at home with a couple of friends listening to good music and getting stoned is great.
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hmm a content life can not be a stagnating life.
people who are constantly searching for something "better" in their lives are not content
remember that every moment is the same moment from a different perspective. if you're seein' & experiencing the same thangs and wanna change that, then all you gotta do' is change ur perspective and act accordingly
do not get lost in the time waves
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Re: Stagnant existence [Re: Envix]
#14360070 - 04/27/11 08:47 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Once in a while, you meet a kindred spirit. And those kindred spirits may bring additional kindred spirits, and they might show you avenues of development you didn't know were there, or were achievable for you. All it takes to benefit from that is keeping an open mind to other people.
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Envix said: hmm a content life can not be a stagnating life.
Periods of spiritual development often appear stagnant to me as long as I'm in the middle, but when I look back, I see that I wasn't stagnant at all. It's like walking up a gentle slope. After a while, you notice you can look back on some actual progress, even though it looked like a flat stretch while walking it.
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Re: Stagnant existence [Re: Envix]
#14360083 - 04/27/11 08:50 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Envix said: hmm a content life can not be a stagnating life.
people who are constantly searching for something "better" in their lives are not content
these are good words. i have to remember this.
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Re: Stagnant existence [Re: koraks]
#14360114 - 04/27/11 08:59 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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dude you're golden.
I'm in the same position with a full time job and college. Yeah, I got my friends, I can call up people and go get wasted every night of the week. But I'm laying low while I finish school, trying to focus and stay out of trouble. It's depressing at times, I feel like I'm wasting away my youth, but at the same time I'll feel so much better once I get my degree and can quit my shitty job.
You got a good girl (I'm assuming since you live with her), you're in school, and you have income. Things don't sound so bad, you might consider looking for classmates to smoke with after school, and perhaps expand your friend search from there.
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moar wise wordss
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Things don't sound so bad, you might consider looking for classmates to smoke with after school, and perhaps expand your friend search from there.
My classmates are too anti-drug to smoke weed. They'd black out from drinking but wouldn't touch something as evil as weed There is this gay guy whos a bit more open (says he likes speed and meth). Each time I ask him to do stuff like smoke and chill in the park after school he always makes a shitty excuse of not having time and then he comes the next day saying how he ended up not doing anything He is such a boring twat when it comes to chillin.
I met a shroomerite last year whos in my uni and he was the only person I could have a meaningful and interesting conversation with. Trully a like-minded person Too bad he's not around this year
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sucks.
I don't really talk to anyone I go to school with either I guess.
they should make an eharmony for like-minded drug users.
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mellowparty
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I should start growing shrooms again and go out on a 3-day trip in the woods
   
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Mad_Larkin

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You know that's the right thing to do.
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mellowparty said:
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koraks said:s. So it basically just comes down to the question: do you feel like there's anything lacking from your life?
Yes, this:
  
and this:
  
All I really want to do is psychedelics in nature (or any of them separately).
i can seriously relate. i am working to position my life in such a way as to where i can be surrounded by forests, mountains, streams and lakes while having access to psychedelics. i hope to meet a couple of like minded humans along the way (and i believe i will) to share these experiences with. beyond that, a simple job and some stimulating conversation are all i require for happiness.
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Re: Stagnant existence [Re: koraks]
#14361097 - 04/27/11 01:28 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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koraks said:
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Im just curious if I miss out on anything.
You only miss out on those things you'd rather do than the things you do now. You can't do everything, so everyone 'misses out' on some things, except if they don't experience it as missing out, then they're not really missing out. They're just doing other things. So it basically just comes down to the question: do you feel like there's anything lacking from your life? If so, go after it. Make a friend, get him/her to take you to a party/event, make new friends, get them to take you places, and before you know it, you're in the center of an expansive network of friends 
Sums it up nicely.
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Re: Stagnant existence [Re: The_Ghost]
#14361118 - 04/27/11 01:33 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I'm in a slump right now too. I moved 400 miles away from my family and friends to the SF bay area, and haven't been able to find a job since I've been here, so I have no money to go out to even try and meet new friends. I stay at home broke all the time, and have been getting majorly depressed
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