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Anonymous #1
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To break up or not to break up?
#14350634 - 04/25/11 06:13 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I've known this guy for some 5 months now, and we've dated the past two. We just recently had sex thursday for the first time, but i feel it was empty.
We have a purely physical relationship, and I thought i might feel a spark between us when we fucked. I was wrong. I don't know whether to stay with him or not. My heart says no to meaningless sex, but my mind says, hmmm, why not?
I want to find someone who i'll truly have a connection with, and who won't think that some of my theories are just crazy. This guy is not stupid, he's just too 'logical' to look at mysticism and spirituality which i find important.
Its further complicated by the fact that we work together. He's ending his job in about a month, and i can't quit cause i need the cash. It might be a relief to break it off with him, but then i'd have to deal with the awkwardness at work, for another month. I pretty much work full time. I'm really at a crossroads here.
Should i stick it out for another month and have meaningless sex (which i know is not as enjoyable as with someone i'd care about) or break it off with him and try to remain on friendly terms at work? Thank you for reading and any advice?
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grimrs
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Re: To break up or not to break up? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#14350688 - 04/25/11 06:24 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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where is the harm in having meaningless sex for one more month? while i think there is a time and place for confrontation it is hard to be in the right if it will then cause a lot mroe problems than it actually solves.
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DungeonMaster


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Re: To break up or not to break up? [Re: grimrs]
#14350715 - 04/25/11 06:31 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Break it off and deal.
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EdgeChaos
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Re: To break up or not to break up? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14350728 - 04/25/11 06:33 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I have done the work thing before and it can be pretty awkward, but IMO saving face is not a good enough reason to continue fucking someone if you don't want to.
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Re: To break up or not to break up? [Re: EdgeChaos]
#14350750 - 04/25/11 06:38 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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if you want a meaningful relationship you need to lay the line down and talk to him- making sure your both on the same page is the best bet trust me
it'll be a bitch of a conversation but needed often sometimes
luck to ya
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Anonymous #1
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Re: To break up or not to break up? [Re: Micawber]
#14350799 - 04/25/11 06:46 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I appreciate the replys. I think i'll break it off tomorrow after work. I hope things go well and we can still be friends.
and micawber- i like that word =)
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Re: To break up or not to break up? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14351126 - 04/25/11 07:31 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: I appreciate the replys. I think i'll break it off tomorrow after work. I hope things go well and we can still be friends.
and micawber- i like that word =)
thanks
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Re: To break up or not to break up? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14351187 - 04/25/11 07:39 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Why not tell him you just want a friends with benefits kind of thing? Nothing wrong with that.
-------------------- No, no, you're not thinking, you're just being logical. ~ Niels Bohr
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