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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: skiddy]
    #14359991 - 04/27/11 08:22 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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That's so fucked up! Fuck that kid praying on a 16yo I'd would kick his ass



I mean.  the kid's 19.  She's 16.  I'm not sure if you remember back to your sophomore/junior year --- but most of my female friends were dating someone AT LEAST that old at that point in time.

Think about a 16 year old girl. 

Now think about a 16 year old guy.





now are you really surprised the females are choosing older males?  16 year old dudes are awkward, immature, terrible in the sack, and covered in acne


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14360067 - 04/27/11 08:46 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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Title pretty much explains it. I've been dating my gf for 5 years. My sister is only 16 my gfs brother 19. They started dating recently and it's really frustrating. They are both extremely immature and there's no way it will work. I disliked her brother for many reasons before they started dating which makes it worst.





I agree, let's ban all the relationships between imature people. This way, bye bye humanity. :bye:

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They don't seem to understand at all why we would have a problem with them dating.




And you're surprised because people don't let you run their lives? :rofl2:

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Obviously there relationship conflicts with mine because I have to hear complaints from both side about how bad it is.




Obviously this happens because you listen to them rather than ingnoring.

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They had no interest with each other until they both got out of a bad relationship and all the sudden out of nowhere wanted to get together.




Fascinating! You mean they hooked up only in the moment they became interested in each other? Who does that!? :wow:

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I feel it will make things real awkward when they break up after doing things they will certainly regret. Being around them with family is hard to deal with, especially since there very affectionate in public, and it's embarrassing and gross. We used to spend a lot of time with them and they still push to but it's really just not possible for me to get past the whole mess and have things like they were




It seems that you're the only one who has a problem with the current situation. However, you don't understand that, since this isn't their problem, they don't feel motivated to change it.

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After dating 5 years I felt like this kid was like my brother in-law even though I don't care for him much. Am I somehow wrong however for being against there relationship? The parents seemed to not be to surprised but like I said they are extremely immature so the parents aren't surprised by much they do, but it does confuse me that they don't seem to quite understand my anger with my sister and expect me to get over it.




This is just ridiculous! You can't get butthurt because other people choose to date.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: skiddy]
    #14360402 - 04/27/11 10:18 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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That's so fucked up! Fuck that kid praying on a 16yo I'd would kick his ass





agreed. at his age it not dating its praying. i remember makin fun of those old ass kids who stuck around highschool even after they graduated and dated young ass girls. They were losers who couldnt get girls ther own age. bottom line. It does not mater what any of us think. 19 dating 16= statutory rape however u slice it.

Leave condoms around? Gross. Shes his sister and shes 16. A mere child. Its fine to be nonchalant about sex, but only with adults. I stand behind my recommendation.


At the same time thers not much you can do about ur sis. you could tell ur rents but thad b snitching. i duno bro, violence is sounding prety good still.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: scrantonstrangler]
    #14360474 - 04/27/11 10:36 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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you could tell ur rents but thad b snitching.



lolololololololoolololol you sound so redicuous.



to imply taht his concerns for his sister's well-being are legitimate but at hte same time, not worth him breaking the uber-l33t code against 'snitching'

laughable.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: memes]
    #14360507 - 04/27/11 10:45 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

obviously your sisters well being is not in direct quarrel. hes not a known rapist/ murderer is he. Cuz then yes, by all means tell ur rents. However you have to weigh the options. Telling your parents might change the dynamic of you and your siblings relationship, resulting in the possibility she might not tell you anything from this point on. It ur rents, not the fuzz.

in its literal tense i would agree with you meams, but i was trying to subtly imply the above


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: scrantonstrangler]
    #14360581 - 04/27/11 11:08 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

My best friend and his brother are dating sisters.  My best friend is dating one girl and her sister is dating my best friend's brother.


I think it's a little awkward but I won't say anything.




RP, think about it this way.  Maybe HE doesn't like you dating his sister either.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: scrantonstrangler]
    #14360591 - 04/27/11 11:10 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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That's so fucked up! Fuck that kid praying on a 16yo I'd would kick his ass





agreed. at his age it not dating its praying. i remember makin fun of those old ass kids who stuck around highschool even after they graduated and dated young ass girls. They were losers who couldnt get girls ther own age. bottom line. It does not mater what any of us think. 19 dating 16= statutory rape however u slice it.

Leave condoms around? Gross. Shes his sister and shes 16. A mere child. Its fine to be nonchalant about sex, but only with adults. I stand behind my recommendation.


At the same time thers not much you can do about ur sis. you could tell ur rents but thad b snitching. i duno bro, violence is sounding prety good still.





That's not statutory rape.  The age of consent is generally 16yo, some states have it lower.  The only thing that's illegal is filming it.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: Maverick]
    #14360765 - 04/27/11 11:57 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

not in my state mavrick. I know a kid whos went to jail for 6 months becaue of him bangin a 16 yr old when he wasnt even 19 yet. he was 18. there is a loophole for parental consent. I hear in the south the laws are diffrent. but here thats straight up rape.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: scrantonstrangler]
    #14361310 - 04/27/11 02:06 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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in its literal tense i would agree with you meams, but i was trying to subtly imply the above



12pt Times New Roman is a tough medium to detect underlying sentiments attempting to be conveyed.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: memes]
    #14361723 - 04/27/11 03:31 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

16 = not a child.
19 = not an adult.

I don't see a problem. I think you're all looking at this number (18) and thinking it has some magic significance. You're saying 19 years olds should date people their own age...16 IS their own age. They're teenagers. That's all I'm saying. If me, at 28, dates a 25 year old, I am perfectly within my bounds to do it, right? Hell, I could date a 35 year old, and you'd probably all be fine with it. If I dated a hot 40 year old, you'd all give me high fives for "cougar hunting." But three years between a couple of kids and you're freaking out?

I dunno. Maybe it comes from the fact my sister was dating a guy who could buy us beer when she was 15 or 16. Both my sisters almost always dated older guys. But 19 isn't older. 19 and 16 isn't gross by any means. If the dude was 25, I could see the issue, but we're talking about a pair of teenagers that could have conceivably met in school.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: scrantonstrangler]
    #14362704 - 04/27/11 06:07 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

I'm in the west dude, Not the south.  So I don't know what loophole you're talking about.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: Maverick]
    #14363023 - 04/27/11 07:07 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

I've gotta agree with all of the people saying that the age gap is pretty much negligible. I've known tons of people with bigger differences in age that had no problems dating.  My mom started dating my dad when she was 16 and he was 22, now they've been married for over 25 years.  It's pretty well known that the maturity of a 16 year old girl is comparable to that of  nineteen year old guy.

I'm not saying it's not ok for op to be irritated by them dating, but just the age difference is not a good reason for it.  He does sound like a douchebag.  Honestly, there's probably not anything you can do to change things between them though.  They'll work it out on their own.  I had a similar thing happen with my sister, they broke up pretty quickly when I didn't say anything at all about it.  Just try to calm down about it.  The more opposition they have the stronger they will fight to stay together, that's usually how it works.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: Shroomerette]
    #14368426 - 04/28/11 05:57 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

Mate you have problems, stay out of other peoples shit and don't pretend it is your own. I hate people like you, always nosing around and causing bullshit.

You cannot control anyone but yourself. You can gently advise, but if you try and control your sister will resent you and go out with someone you hate even more. See the thing is, she is a human with thoughts and feelings and can date whoever the fuck she wants without some nosy faggot bossing her around.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: Jwlst]
    #14369758 - 04/28/11 09:43 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

Jwlst you should select the 'reply to' button so we know you'r replying to RP.  I was confused cuz I was like "wow waht did shroomerette say? D:"


But I do agree with both shroomerette and jwlst, let things play out as they will.  The chance she's going to end up sticking around with the guy for more than a couple years (or even a year) is pretty low, and if they do stick together then maybe your opinion is wrong and he does care about her (why else would you stick around with someone for 2 years?  Sex is a pretty lame excuse when you're surrounded by college girls who have their shit in order and are more appealing, aaah puppy love...)  Things will happen, she's going to have sex with someone eventually, whether it's him or another boyfriend or at some club as a one night stand (if it's sex that's your concern).


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: Maverick]
    #14370541 - 04/29/11 12:10 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

Your all misinterpreting this. I don't like it but I'm not doing anything to fuck it up. That's exactly why I chose to vent on here instead of trying to talk to my sister.

If you had a little sister who was being brought home drunk at 16, who's boyfriend was picking her up at 4 in the morning to sneak her out of the house, you would be pissed to. Then you have to still act civil to the kid cause he's family without the relationship he has with your sister. Fuckin chill.

Anyone dissing my opinion here clearly doesn't have a younger sister. Not trying to change anything it's just painful to continually watch her fall for assholes cause they buy her things with there parents money.

I understand staying out of other peoples business but when it's your 16 year old sister unfortunately it is your business, gotta let her make her own mistakes but that doesn't mean you don't have a right to be bothered by it fuck off.

Also clearly age wasn't the problem I had since I made sure to say they are both extremely immature.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14371335 - 04/29/11 06:16 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

Excuse me, but why did you come here?  To cuss us out after we gave you fair advice?  :rolleyes:  You're going to become very isolated from your sister if you keep acting like that.

Clearly you're the one who's immature here.  You've never been drunk before?  I'm imagining you aren't even 21, though I bet you've been drunk before!  She makes her own decisions as well.  He's not forcing her to get drunk.  Quit acting like 2.5-3 years is a big age gap and get over your older brother syndrome.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: memes]
    #14371379 - 04/29/11 06:44 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: Kamoopstinoops]
    #14371634 - 04/29/11 08:17 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

I have no problem with 16yo having sex. or a 19 with a 16. but when it comes to dating... and your out of highschool dating a freshmen...  thats kinda sad.
It would be just like a girl whos 19 dating a 16yo guy... she cant get anyone around her age???

I have no problem with age gaps. I think something like 25yo and 35yo is fine. but 19 and 16  :lol: but they are both immature so i guess it works out!

OP jus ignore it and let her learn! Ive met some 14yo that were clearly worse. doing guys that were 19 if thats even possible.


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: dshow]
    #14371648 - 04/29/11 08:21 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

See when i was 18-20. I wouldnt of ever dated some freshman. But did i bang them? hellz yez. :badslave:

hey it is awkward, would bother me too. but shit what can you do? :shrug:


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Re: My Sister is Dating My Girlfriends Brother [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #14371809 - 04/29/11 09:29 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

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Your all misinterpreting this. I don't like it but I'm not doing anything to fuck it up. That's exactly why I chose to vent on here instead of trying to talk to my sister.

If you had a little sister who was being brought home drunk at 16, who's boyfriend was picking her up at 4 in the morning to sneak her out of the house, you would be pissed to. Then you have to still act civil to the kid cause he's family without the relationship he has with your sister. Fuckin chill.

Anyone dissing my opinion here clearly doesn't have a younger sister. Not trying to change anything it's just painful to continually watch her fall for assholes cause they buy her things with there parents money.

I understand staying out of other peoples business but when it's your 16 year old sister unfortunately it is your business, gotta let her make her own mistakes but that doesn't mean you don't have a right to be bothered by it fuck off.

Also clearly age wasn't the problem I had since I made sure to say they are both extremely immature.




I'm in the same boat, OP. One of my sisters is a stripper, just found out she has a disorderly conduct prostitution arrest apparently related to a mishap in that industry. The other sister dates mental cases and gang bangers. I don't get it, but I can't very well go kick these guys asses. That makes ME the bad guy, and that puts me out of a position of trust where I can dispense advice. If she's willing to trust you, she's willing to listen to you.

I'd forget any chance of the boyfriend being around very long, and even if there is, here's an easy way to do it. Approach her, in private, and say "Hey sis, I know maybe we don't get along sometimes, but I love you and I want good things for you. I want you to know if you ever need to ask anything, or if you ever need a favor, I'm there for you and you don't have to worry about me telling mom or dad."

I think it's good to have someone in your family you trust above all others, because then at least someone knows whats going on. If something were to happen, you'd feel horrible for pushing her away, and that's why I totally relate with your position.

The best tactic is to get yourself in a position of trust, let her know she can rely on you for things, generally just be a brother. Controlling her decisions is obviously not your intent, so you're already off to a good start. Just go from there and be the brother she needs.

Sorry about the sappy post. This little sister shit hits home, lol.


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