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Sex problems?
#14339076 - 04/23/11 03:35 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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So I've been dating this girl for a while, we had vaginal intercourse a couple times when she was on birth control but she got off like a year ago and we never really had money for condoms and she didn't want to fuck without condoms, which is fine, but now whenever we try to have sex it's like impossible to make it work. I can't get it in, maybe it's the angle? maybe she's too tight, I'm not entirely sure what the problem is, but it's causing problems in our relationship (she's getting frustrated, i think I'm handling it well but whatever) and I would it if someone could give me some advice, I've tried loosening her up with fingering her and such things but it just doesn't seem to work.
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I_was_the_walrus
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Does it hurt her when you try to get it in? Tell her you need to try more often. The angle has nothing to do with it. Some angles are easier than others, but if shes wet your dick shouldnt have a problem inching in. Try more positions.
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Big Worm
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maybe you're just not hard?
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Sex problems? [Re: Big Worm]
#14339262 - 04/23/11 04:10 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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She says it hurts her and I don't want to be a dick and force it or anything. Also sometimes when we try I am not at my hardest, It is hard to maintain between her getting visibly frustrated and that I can't feel much through the condom. We have tried it in missionary and when I have recommended other positions she think we need to get the basics down so to speak i guess.
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I've been with girls who found one position uncomfortable compared to another. But I'm really having a hard time understanding this thread.
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Re: Sex problems? [Re: Doc_T]
#14339318 - 04/23/11 04:20 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Doc_T said: I've been with girls who found one position uncomfortable compared to another. But I'm really having a hard time understanding this thread.
i guess it's just been a long time since we had vaginal intercourse and I can't get it too fit and every time it starts to hurt a little she gets all frustrated, I try to talk her through it be she gets more embarrassed and frustrated and I just don't know how to make it work.
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Big Worm
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I guess just start with fingers to loosen it up?
I'm sure that would make it easier.
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1) slow down 2) talk more 3) get her wet, really wet. 3a) go down on her 4) take her from behind. Try doing it in the shower if she doesn't want to do it in bed.
I've got a friend who has a shallow vagina, I guess. In missionary position, especially with her feet up, it's too deep and hurts. But from behind, everything fits just right.
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Re: Sex problems? [Re: Doc_T]
#14339387 - 04/23/11 04:35 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Doc_T said: 1) slow down 2) talk more 3) get her wet, really wet. 3a) go down on her 4) take her from behind. Try doing it in the shower if she doesn't want to do it in bed.
I've got a friend who has a shallow vagina, I guess. In missionary position, especially with her feet up, it's too deep and hurts. But from behind, everything fits just right.
my ex couldn't even take it from behind, it hurt her and was uncomfortable.
Which sucked 
That's one of the top fav. positions too
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Re: Sex problems? [Re: Big Worm]
#14339422 - 04/23/11 04:42 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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This same girl likes to get on top, but she won't sink all the way down because that hurts. Just kind of hovers up and down on the head of my cock, gets me off in like three seconds. Which is too bad, because it's as hot to watch as it is to do.
I'm not even all that long, it just has to do with our relative sizes and geometries.
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Re: Sex problems? [Re: Doc_T]
#14339627 - 04/23/11 05:23 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Alright. thank you guys i will try all that. At the risk of sounding dumber any pointers on making it work from behind?
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I_was_the_walrus
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Re: Sex problems? [Re: Big Worm]
#14339629 - 04/23/11 05:23 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Big Worm said:
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Doc_T said: 1) slow down 2) talk more 3) get her wet, really wet. 3a) go down on her 4) take her from behind. Try doing it in the shower if she doesn't want to do it in bed.
I've got a friend who has a shallow vagina, I guess. In missionary position, especially with her feet up, it's too deep and hurts. But from behind, everything fits just right.
my ex couldn't even take it from behind, it hurt her and was uncomfortable.
Which sucked 
That's one of the top fav. positions too
Same. She was pretty little though. Like a little over 5 foot. I could poke at her cervix with not even half my dick. Anything more and I was poking at her guts. The absolute best position though is probably the reverse cowgirl. Its the best of everything. Comfort, feel, and imagery.
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Doc_T
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^^^ yep. Gives her complete control.
OP, don't be afraid to use some lube too.
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Re: Sex problems? [Re: Doc_T]
#14340013 - 04/23/11 06:48 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Maybe she has vaginitis? For how long did you stop having sex? Maybe she has a hormonal imbalance from stopping birth control pills and she stopped having sex at the same time. Tell her to run some hormonal tests.
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it could be a psychological thang. sometimes girls close up when they're anxious or something. there could be pressure or performance anxiety that she's experiencing after such a long break from sex. my girl has a similar problem, we stopped having sex for a while and now her vagina is tighter than when she first lost her virginity. its so strange.
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It could just be that it is going to hurt the first few times no matter what. Is she small?
Whenever I don't have sex with my gf for more than a week, her vagina is going to get torn a little bit near the opening the next time no matter how dripping wet she is. Make sure she is wet, your dick (or condom) is lubed, and work it in slowly and gently (probably still going to hurt her some).
At least in my case as long as it is done properly, once it is in it doesn't hurt much, and it heals up within 24 hours, and getting in is much easier after that.
For staying hard, if you are jerking off, stop it until you work through this problem.
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some girls can't take a cock in their urethra
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Re: Sex problems? [Re: Cherk] 1
#14350014 - 04/25/11 04:28 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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If the front door is locked, check around back.
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Anonymous said: If the front door is locked, check around back. 
ROFL
Seriously though, eat her out before you try sex. Not only will it guarantee that she's super-slobbery wet down there, but you'll be able to probe around with your fingers and get to know the lay of the land in there.
This is something you should be talking over with her. A board full of strangers can give you some tips, but the best tip you'll get is to talk it out with her. It does sound like you're young and not too experienced, and she is too. It's possible that there is some physical incompatibility (she's small, you're big, whatever) but very often, a closed up vag means a woman is uncomfortable (with herself, or emotionally, or physically, or she has a problem with you, or was raped/molested when she was 12, or whatever) So you're going to need to hash it out with some one on one conversation.
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