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gerryjarcia
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Dysfunction Junction
#14337346 - 04/23/11 07:50 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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what's your function? 
I've moved back to my "hometown" in the last year (after being away for 5 years). Since returning, i've seen a reoccurring theme with many of my good friends; they have married or are in a serious relationship with some seriously fucked up/co-dependent/dysfunctional humans (these humans happen to be women, but this post isn't about one specific gender).
I often sit back and wonder if it is the "type" of people I am friends with that attract these kinds of relationships? It's like all of these guys want to somehow play the "savior" role in someone else's life and as a result unintentionally (or perhaps intentionally) seek out "fucked up" people who they think they can "help" by being in a relationship with them.
Don't get me wrong, these are super caring, uber compassionate gents. The thing is their wives/girlfriends are often so dysfunctional that i do not like being around them. They've got a lot of personal life issues and inadvertently try to suck me into their personal drama every time i'm chilling with them.
fuckin' sucks.
anyone else have this experience? do you have friends who seem to be a kind of dynamic attractor for dysfunction?
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"We are all intoxicated. We were born into an insane asylum, a world crazy-making. We believe what we see and hear. The real myth is the myth of sanity, of rationality: it's a disease that is eating away at the earth. All the poisons flow from our denial. We deny madness, we forget our crimes, we dismember the corpse, we imprison our children. We need poison to poison the poison, to remember the sacred nature of intoxication, the green body of the young god." ~ Dale Pendell
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fungivore
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I don't have friends. Problem solved.
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I try not to, in fact it's the other way around for me. I usually end up with women who are not cool with any drugs except marijuana and some of them have been pretty religious and even against smoking pot.
I couldnt be with a woman who did hard drugs though. Tried it once with a coke dealer and she was bat shit crazy
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gerryjarcia
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KillerPicklez said: I try not to, in fact it's the other way around for me. I usually end up with women who are not cool with any drugs except marijuana and some of them have been pretty religious and even against smoking pot.
I couldnt be with a woman who did hard drugs though. Tried it once with a coke dealer and she was bat shit crazy
not all of these women are "fucked up" in the drug consuming kind of way (although that element certainly does exist). some of them are fucked up in the "controlling every action of their man" kind of way. basically my friends seek out extremely insecure humans and as a result have to live with all that comes from being in a relationship with someone who lives in fear of life.
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"We are all intoxicated. We were born into an insane asylum, a world crazy-making. We believe what we see and hear. The real myth is the myth of sanity, of rationality: it's a disease that is eating away at the earth. All the poisons flow from our denial. We deny madness, we forget our crimes, we dismember the corpse, we imprison our children. We need poison to poison the poison, to remember the sacred nature of intoxication, the green body of the young god." ~ Dale Pendell
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heroshaman
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Im the same way man , maybe its true about attracting opposites or the same type of person all the time
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Re: Dysfunction Junction [Re: heroshaman]
#14337450 - 04/23/11 08:23 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Its a combo of both the women and the Man- They just play their roles in the relationship, so your friends kinda promote them to act like that. And in lil towns or what not drama is what makes it exciting to them. And they still may be stuck in the Highschool mode if no one ever left the town.
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Re: Dysfunction Junction [Re: heroshaman]
#14337461 - 04/23/11 08:28 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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heroshaman said: Im the same way man , maybe its true about attracting opposites or the same type of person all the time
I wish it wasnt that way. Id love to find me just some cute girl who is into all the same kinda hobbies as me. And at least has to be open-minded enough to allow me my drug experiences (psychedelics).
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