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CosmicJoke
happy mutant
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Loc: Portland, OR
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parenting
#1433714 - 04/06/03 03:35 PM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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being a parent is tough i seem to have became something of a surrogate father to a man twice my age.....for one, kids are expensive, i'm not sure if i can afford this one. and, he's disabled, so he really can't even earn his keep. aren't you supposed to have kids in order to have somebody else do your chores? and i give him cigarettes, fattening snacks, exc. whenever he asks for him, when he probably should be on a diet of applesauce and crushed pears..... sometimes you start to wonder, what's the friggin' point of having them again?
-------------------- Everything is better than it was the last time. I'm good. If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. It takes a lot of courage to go out there and radiate your essence. I know you scared, you should ask us if we scared too. If you was there, and we just knew you cared too.
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mntlfngrs
The Art of Casterbation
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Having kids is nothing like caring for a disabled elder.
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CosmicJoke
happy mutant
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probably not, i'm being facetious, sometimes i just question "what makes me compassionate?" on a whole, it's worth it, without a doubt, but on occasion it can be testing.
-------------------- Everything is better than it was the last time. I'm good. If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. It takes a lot of courage to go out there and radiate your essence. I know you scared, you should ask us if we scared too. If you was there, and we just knew you cared too.
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gnrm23
Carpal Tunnel
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testing mettle tasking metal tasting meddle tracking middle ...
-------------------- old enough to know better not old enough to care
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PsillyFishy
fella trippa'
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Re: parenting [Re: gnrm23]
#1441500 - 04/09/03 12:24 AM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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With children abilities are continually growing. You learn to respect simplicity and naivety. With elderly thier abilities are continually decreasing. You learn to respect complexity and experience.
Children and elderly "earn thier keep" by teaching us about the fragility of life.
Hang in there, and let the man have his pleasures....he is not a child. You will be glad that you did when he is gone.
-------------------- psychadelic phishing in the rye grain fields...
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CosmicJoke
happy mutant
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it's becoming more difficult, it's becoming more obvious that he's a paranoid schizophrenic. it's sad, but it's wearing on my nerves, some of his accusations are so wildly insane that i'm ready to shove my fist down his throat. i'm contemplating spending a couple hundred to put him up at the YMCA for a month....giving him a g'luck and handshake and wiping my hands of it all...... ugh.
-------------------- Everything is better than it was the last time. I'm good. If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. It takes a lot of courage to go out there and radiate your essence. I know you scared, you should ask us if we scared too. If you was there, and we just knew you cared too.
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TheEggman
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well that wouldn't be a very mature thing to do. and are paranoid schizophrenics not human too? I mean, truly, there is very little (actually nothing) that separates your life from his. what makes you so important?
-------------------- Peace and love, Tim.
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gnrm23
Carpal Tunnel
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hmmmm... well, there ARE social service agencies in place to assist the mentally ill... some underwritten by the government, & some by private (often, but not always, religious) groups... and there is only so much one person can do... this is not a one-fits-all bailout, but... sometimes you must examine the "costs" (and i am not talking here only monetary) to you as an independent human being... how much psychic wear & tear are you willing to invest in a given scenario (and is there a possibility of a successful resolution? & does this person have a binding call on your attention? blood bond, karmic debt, brotherhood of fire, whatever???) truly, some friendships (or whatever the correct word here is) are "toxic" and whatever the problem is, it will not be resolved, and will eventually result in the draining/destruction/burnout of one, or of both, parties... ~ if this seems a bit hard-hearted, well, sorry, folks... i will still feed the hungry, shelter the homeless, clothe the naked... but maybe not 24/7 with no end in sight... i dunno... ~ ... well... don't ask ...) ~ good luck with your conundrum... ~ ~
-------------------- old enough to know better not old enough to care
Edited by gnrm23 (04/10/03 05:12 AM)
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CosmicJoke
happy mutant
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Re: parenting [Re: gnrm23]
#1445213 - 04/09/03 11:34 PM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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namaste^23, my friend.
my blessings, cj.
-------------------- Everything is better than it was the last time. I'm good. If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. It takes a lot of courage to go out there and radiate your essence. I know you scared, you should ask us if we scared too. If you was there, and we just knew you cared too.
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