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donteatasians


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Unconditional Love
#14326825 - 04/21/11 08:59 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Have any of you ever tried to develop a feeling of love for someone who symbolized everything “evil” for you? Someone who, just the thought of, made you physically sick. This was something I went through a few years ago and doing so has proved extremely beneficial to me. The people who I dealt with in my daily life; the lazy ones I picked up slack for, judgmental ones irritated me, the pricks who harassed others for laughs, were no longer people I had to tolerate or put up with. Dealing with people I despised was no longer a challenge, I didn‘t despise them anymore. Regardless of who they were I honestly felt love for them. I didn’t necessarily like the things they did, but they all at some point challenged me to overcome aspects of my self that weren’t productive for me. Arrogant and judgmental people who infuriated me helped me see that my own frustration came from a similar attitude of superiority. I was judging them and felt the need to “correct“ them. Lazy people pushed me to examine my own lack of effort and how I felt entitled to more co-operation from them. I was capable of pulling more weight but felt it was unfair when I wouldn’t have to if they applied themselves. I started to just accept that something needed to be done and took responsibility regardless of weather it was “supposed” to be mine or not. Cruel people helped me see that I thought I could help everyone. I always felt the need to step in and try to save someone even if they were capable of doing so themselves. I hadn’t even stopped to think of weather they were even bothered in the first place and that I might be making a big deal of a non-issue. Dealing with assholes helped me to learn how to not take things personally and let go of being bothered with what others felt was wrong with me or stand up for myself if needed. The people I had tried to help may have already accomplished this or had a chance to learn how interrupted. I had to come to terms with the fact that sometimes it’s better to just let people deal with their own problems and have an opportunity to grow from them. What all of this has in common is I stopped trying to change people who didn’t want to change. I quit trying to help people who didn’t want help. Many are happy just as they are, if they aren’t they are the only ones who can change themselves. I feel they also deserve enough respect to exist as they want without others trying to force help on them when they don’t want it. I never appreciated people trying to force things on me and finally let go of trying to do that to others. They all came from different places in life, have different priorities and perspectives and deserve to be able to develop themselves as they choose.
Has anybody here genuinely attempted to love someone that represents everything horrible and vile. These people aren’t always the most pleasant but I think doing so reinforces that everything can be taken as a lesson, and every person a teacher.
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teknix
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That is one heck of a task, and very noble and greatly helps to cultivate yang energy.
You have a good outlook on things or should I say inlook, hehe
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teknix
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Can you feel love right now and at will?
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donteatasians


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Re: Unconditional Love [Re: teknix]
#14326975 - 04/21/11 09:51 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Doesn't go away. It's always there.
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teknix
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Have you every tried to move it to your dan tien? It is right below your navel. Element of water that can mold and form to any concentration of energy. It can become a surplus of love for healing.
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donteatasians


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Re: Unconditional Love [Re: teknix]
#14327075 - 04/21/11 10:19 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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To be honest I don't really know anything about chakras and other things of that nature.
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teknix
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That's cool, you don't have to or have to want to.
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Re: Unconditional Love [Re: teknix]
#14329937 - 04/21/11 08:44 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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It sounds like you found your real self the self that you are supposed to be. ALWAYS REMEMBER ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE & LOVE WILL SET YOU FREE!! Listen to the Moody Blues their words of wisdom will touch your soul and help you to understand the meaning of true love. Peace
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the heart of the sun.
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Quote:
timelapses said: the heart of the sun.
yeah!!!
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MyStIcAT
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I view unconditional love as keeping a non-judgemental mind toward everyone i meet and viewing them as equals to myself..
if a person is evil... i'll just avoid them
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Re: Unconditional Love [Re: MyStIcAT]
#14334856 - 04/22/11 07:20 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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MyStIcAT said: I view unconditional love as keeping a non-judgemental mind toward everyone i meet and viewing them as equals to myself..
if a person is evil... i'll just avoid them
seems contradictory you have are supposedly non-judgemental yet judge someone as evil.
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MyStIcAT
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Evil describes someone's nature. People don't really have an evil personality. IF I heard someone killed sacrificed animals, I'd say they are evil. ????????????
I havn't really met many evil people.. but I can tell by certain people's eyes if they're 'bad news'.
I can also tell when they're good news.
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Re: Unconditional Love [Re: MyStIcAT]
#14337051 - 04/23/11 04:16 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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MyStIcAT said: Evil describes someone's nature. People don't really have an evil personality. IF I heard someone killed sacrificed animals, I'd say they are evil. ????????????
I havn't really met many evil people.. but I can tell by certain people's eyes if they're 'bad news'.
I can also tell when they're good news. 
the grass is always greener on the other side.
people are made they are not born a certain way. well some but as to being mean or "evil" it's like a dog maybe that bitch was sweet until she got beat. now she bites first.
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