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OfflineChellePepper
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Do you believe in soul mates?
    #14323308 - 04/20/11 04:29 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

There was a mention of soul mates in another thread.  I wanted to start another thread because that one had been taken off course enough.

I feel I've met my soul mate. And I didn't believe in that sort of thing until recently.

I use to be of the "no marriage" "no kids" ME FOREVER mentality. My little brother is a gay man with no intention of marriage or children and we decided that we would get one of those old plantation homes in the country and live out our lives enjoying men and dodging commitment bullets left and right. Don't get me wrong, I liked exclusive relationships, as I wasn't a fan of whoring about, but I liked to change them up every year or so. I've had two proposals from men in my lifetime and never accepted. Just wasn't interested in the whole one man forever deal. After we couldn't lure men in anymore with our wit or looks, we would start a lovely garden and keep it up until we couldn't bend over anymore. At that point, I'd rather have my brother sitting beside me telling me to keep my old lady farts to myself rather than some old wrinkled-ball man trying to do my dusty vag.
We have a HUGE very supportive family and we take care of each other, so I wasn't concerned about becoming a hopeless invalid. I can't tell you how many aunts and uncles I've set with / cooked diner for / played cards with over the course of my life. Seemed like a good life to me.

That was what I wanted from my life.  I just wasn't interested in marrying.  For the most part, honestly, men bored me. I was beginning to think I was just a narcissist who loved herself too much to give myself to anyone.  I'd dated all types. Musicians, professors (he was also a millionaire), working class, lower class, good guys, bad guys. I had fun with them and I really liked some of them.  But no one that made me want to give up my future with myself. lol.

When I met my love, everything changed. I met him on a bus, completely out of the blue and unexpected. We talked for hours. When he got off the bus, I got this insane smile on my face and warmth flooded my body.  I knew something was different.

Now, when he touches me, it soothes my soul.  No matter what kind of day I am having, he calms me.  When he kisses me, it takes my breath away for a second. 

We fight sometimes, for sure. But we always find a middle ground. Each of us have qualities or character strengths that the other lacks. I feel like a complete person.

I am aware of the oxytocin/chemical love argument.  However, why, at 30, hasn't anyone else turned this one in me if thats the case?

What does everyone else think? Share your "soul mate" story if you want.


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: ChellePepper]
    #14323386 - 04/20/11 04:46 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

I thought I had actually found mine,  I had previously been in a 6 year relationship with someone I almost married and took a break from dating for awhile and then had some random experiences with dating but nothing lasted.  Then when I wasn't looking someone came into my life that lit me up and complimented me in ways I never had imagined.  Unfortunately, in life some experiences are only temporary before these people are removed from your life again.


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: ChellePepper]
    #14323425 - 04/20/11 04:55 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

im tripped out so .....

all energies are equal and opposite except .......


GRAVITY

why trip ?

some would say to have a good ride.

but then some of us actualy touch on the other side or perseption
or what ever you wish to call it.

"I have light beings walk beside me" or what ever it was :smile:
no disrespect have experianced :smile:

I am far from a religous person and yes I belive I think much like
your self.

too much I have seen and done in my life.

but ....

yes I still belive as do you.

its not a place nor a time its everything.

and were all part of it and when it fits there is no choice :smile:

is it fate laughing at us or past meeting.

who knows ?

it does exist and is something than many wish for yet dont even
know they want it.

I am glad for you sister it makes me feel happy to know of others
that have found the most important thing they may ever find in there
life.

how do you explain the truth of what you speak to people that
are worried about image and self.

so yes I belive in soul mates and a great deal more as well.
for to belive in a soul mate you must first belive in a soul.

the question then truly is what is a soul :smile:

my answer would be the gravity of your thoughts feeling and actions.
the gravity of those that are felt by others.

only creatures with a soul can have a soul mate.

hence why I call you sister :smile:

after all what is tripping about.

maby one day but im not looking I think thats the key.


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: ChellePepper]
    #14323445 - 04/20/11 05:00 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

yes ive had a long relasionship that I thought was it.

but it was based on need rather than soul.

the first step is to know what your soul is I think.
or even to know that you have one.

this is very different from a book telling you how to belive.

remeber its the book also that tells us how to act :smile:

I wait.

either here or there I care not.

there are many paths.

thankyou for starting this thread chellepepper.


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: shroomedalice]
    #14323526 - 04/20/11 05:15 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

Nay, I don't believe in soulmates.

Love is DEFINITELY not all that easy to find.  Lasting love vs short term lust, that is.

But I HAVE found it a few times, enough to know that it's not a one-off thing.

Thankfully :smile:


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: shroomedalice]
    #14323540 - 04/20/11 05:18 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

I dont know man, what happens to me is that at the time I think hes my soulmate but then later on I realize he wasnt.
This guy Im with at the moment seems like he could be it...dont know anymore...


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: potgrrl]
    #14323556 - 04/20/11 05:21 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

props to you for having a supa lovely family chelley :heart:

i believe in soul mates! i jus think you need a strong emotional/physical attraction. i think some people confuse soul mates with platonic love tho  :Awesketch:


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: elliev]
    #14323609 - 04/20/11 05:32 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

Yep, I wouldn't call it that, but yes, someone who is meant for you.  Yes.

I had one once and a long long time ago and I  :header:  :minigun:  :rockets:  :machinegun:  :laser:  :chainsaw:  :flamethrow:  Fucked that up.

High school sweet heart, together for five years.  She won't even talk to me now...


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: elliev]
    #14323685 - 04/20/11 05:49 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

how do you cure platonic love if you are experiencing this with your current partner, instead of true, pure to heart unconditional love for your partner? Is it possible? How?

If there's a will, there's a way... I'm caught in a sticky situation myself :frown:


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: Cursive]
    #14324320 - 04/20/11 08:16 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

Quote:

Cursive said:
how do you cure platonic love if you are experiencing this with your current partner, instead of true, pure to heart unconditional love for your partner? Is it possible? How?

If there's a will, there's a way... I'm caught in a sticky situation myself :frown:




I'm worried about feeling this way in a new relationship.

I don't really believe in soul mates. I've never found one. People often think they find "soul mates" but years later things don't work out.

I don't think people are made for one another. I think we're compatible with an array of people. Maybe i'm wrong? I just haven't seen "soul mates" ever work out, for anyone.


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. [Re: ChellePepper]
    #14324394 - 04/20/11 08:31 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: dr_gonz]
    #14324446 - 04/20/11 08:40 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

Seems like its pretty divided.

Why then do some people touch us more than others?  Regardless of similarities or common interest?

The concept of soul mates was around long before Hollywood.  Like Plato before.


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: ChellePepper]
    #14324458 - 04/20/11 08:43 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

I believe there could be multiple people who you can establish a connection with that would be "soul-mate" like. There are just so many people...so many variables.


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    #14324476 - 04/20/11 08:46 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: dr_gonz]
    #14324485 - 04/20/11 08:49 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

Well, maybe its just me, then.

After 15 years of dating, this is feeling is completely different. And I've had several long-term relationships.


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: ChellePepper]
    #14324496 - 04/20/11 08:51 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

I'm really young. :shrug: I've had feelings for one person so far.


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: ChellePepper]
    #14324503 - 04/20/11 08:52 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

Quote:

TTT said:
I believe there could be multiple people who you can establish a connection with that would be "soul-mate" like. There are just so many people...so many variables.




I don't think multiple soul mates makes sense (i dont think you're implying it does). The whole idea of a soul mate is someone made perfectly for you pretty much. Not just a compatible person.

Quote:

ChellePepper said:
Well, maybe its just me, then.

After 15 years of dating, this is feeling is completely different. And I've had several long-term relationships.




And how long have you been with your "soul mate"?


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: TTT]
    #14324522 - 04/20/11 08:56 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

Quote:

TTT said:
I believe there could be multiple people who you can establish a connection with that would be "soul-mate" like. There are just so many people...so many variables.




^^ This.

You said it better than I!  :smile:


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: potgrrl]
    #14324538 - 04/20/11 09:01 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

I think there is a difference between "feelings" and unconditional love and trust.

From someone like me to go from a self absorbed individual to someone who would give their life for someone, says something about an connection that goes beyond physical attraction or common interests.

I've been with him a year and half.  We've lived together for almost all of that.


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Re: Do you believe in soul mates? [Re: ChellePepper]
    #14324574 - 04/20/11 09:13 PM (10 years, 19 days ago)

Soul mates are only for some

not everyone has a soul mate :shrug:


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