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Does Everyone Cheat?
#14317030 - 04/19/11 12:12 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Really, In my group of long-term friends I can think of many who cheated on long-term 'it isn't okay to fuck other people' lovers in the next room from myself. It seems to be the norm.
Am I the only one who hasn't cheated? Over the age of twenty-five at least and also in North America?
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: numonkei]
#14317048 - 04/19/11 12:15 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I cheated on one "girlfriend" when I was like 13, but I don't really count that.
I think cheating is hands down one of the most disrespectful things you could EVER do to another person. If you want to go fuck other people, at least have the decency to tell your partner that you're no longer interested. Why keep the charade going? Why hurt someone else like that? I've been cheated on and it's a horrible feeling. I wish my gf at the time would have broken up with me before going out and being a cunt
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: numonkei] 1
#14317057 - 04/19/11 12:16 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I've never cheated. I think that Cheating is despicable
I would never want to be cheated on, It's the most disrespectful thing you can do to some that you "care" about.
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I've cheated on my ex before, I still feel horrible about it and wouldn't do it again.
But i can't do anything about it now, but just take it as a lesson learned.
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: numonkei]
#14317084 - 04/19/11 12:20 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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everyone who can does
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: numonkei]
#14317087 - 04/19/11 12:20 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Never cheated. But I've only been in two serious relationships in my life.
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Also, less the 'I got drunk and fucked someone else, but am willing to come clean about it' cheat, as opposed to the 'hey, I love you, lets get a place together while I fuck someone else while for a few months...you get to hear about it from a complete stranger later' kind of cheat.
Just spoke to an old lover, typing that paragraph above made me feel better. Was definitely still in the right.
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: Anthony917]
#14317146 - 04/19/11 12:31 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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zgbzgb1 said: everyone who can does
This.
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Anthony917 said: If you want to go fuck other people, at least have the decency to tell your partner that you're no longer interested. Why keep the charade going? Why hurt someone else like that?
I think most people who cheat don't have any intention of doing so. I bet more often than not they just happen to meet someone else that they really click with and then they give in to their natural impulses.
I think it's fucked up to keep a long affair going on the down low, but sometimes cheating just makes sense. I should also mention that I've never cheated on anybody, but I've also never been in a LTR. I have fucked two women who I knew had boyfriends, but I didn't know the guys.
Really we just need to be more honest about our sexuality as a society. Cheating has always happened and always will, I'm sure there's a small percentage of people who are mentally strong enough to not do it, but I bet they're the exception, not the norm.
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: uber_aj]
#14317156 - 04/19/11 12:33 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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monogamy is quite the custom for an animal of a social nature, which herds not all men.
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: uber_aj]
#14317160 - 04/19/11 12:34 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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uber_aj said: I'm sure there's a small percentage of people who are mentally strong enough to not do it, but I bet they're the exception, not the norm.
Kind of like the percentage of people who can turn down a slice of cheesecake because they're watching their weight?
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: numonkei]
#14317179 - 04/19/11 12:37 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Closest I got to cheating was me and my GF were taking a "break" and I hung out with an old friend from highschool. We got high and drunk in her dorm and started kissing. I felt so bad about it, I told my GF about it, which was a huge mistake. Then I had to hear about her suspicions constantly afterwards.
Now, if I'm in a relationship that I want to stay in, I watch who I spend time alone with. Just because I don't want anyone thinking anything like that.
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: uber_aj] 1
#14317186 - 04/19/11 12:38 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Really we just need to be more honest about our sexuality as a society. Cheating has always happened and always will, I'm sure there's a small percentage of people who are mentally strong enough to not do it, but I bet they're the exception, not the norm.
I strongly disagree. It's not that hard to say "no, I won't fuck you cause I already have a girlfriend". It's not like you have to have incredible willpower. Maybe you just can't resist the pussy?
IMO it is never OK to cheat. Cheating, is, in effect, ending your current relationship. So, why not just end it before you fuck the other chick?? If you don't respect the person enough to tell them, then you're just a dirty bastard.
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: Anthony917]
#14317226 - 04/19/11 12:47 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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No. I don't cheat.
Its kind of double edged as you get older too. On one hand, after you've been in a relationship for a long time and have kids and such, you risk a lot more for cheating. On the other hand, the longer you go, the more potential there is for boredom.
I'd be curious to see what the Jersey-Shorification of america's youth has done to the rate of cheating.
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: numonkei]
#14317231 - 04/19/11 12:48 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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If you truly give a shit about your girlfriend/wife, knowing how much cheating on them would hurt them should be more than enough to keep you from doing it.
People who can't control themselves....
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: numonkei]
#14317252 - 04/19/11 12:52 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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never cheated myself, I cant say the temptation wasnt frequently present but I never acted on it
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: Anthony917]
#14317253 - 04/19/11 12:52 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Silversoul said:
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uber_aj said: I'm sure there's a small percentage of people who are mentally strong enough to not do it, but I bet they're the exception, not the norm.
Kind of like the percentage of people who can turn down a slice of cheesecake because they're watching their weight?
More like the percentage of people who could turn down a hot, home-cooked meal while totally fucking stoned and hungry.
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Anthony917 said: I strongly disagree. It's not that hard to say "no, I won't fuck you cause I already have a girlfriend". It's not like you have to have incredible willpower. Maybe you just can't resist the pussy?
How often do you actually have to say that? I bet if it was as many times as the average girl has to down the advances of guys trolling for ass, you might slip now and then.
Let's say your g/f hasn't put out in a while, maybe she's gained a little weight, or started an addiction you don't like, or maybe you've just been arguing a lot lately. You've been fairly horny, and then you meet a girl who dresses in that perfect way, looks slightly better than your current g/f, perhaps she's a little more intelligent, you find out through innocent conversation that she shares all the same interests as you. Then lets say she knows exactly how to turn you on and makes a move...
I don't believe you'd shut her down. I'm not calling you a liar, I just don't believe that some sense of morality would stop you if the conditions were right.
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: Anthony917]
#14317281 - 04/19/11 12:56 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I was in a LTR for almost two years and even after all that time I would never cheat on someone I'm in a relationship with. It's the single biggest violation of trust in a situation where trust is of the utmost importance. I feel that if I'm in a relationship that it's because I want to be, and if I were sleeping around on my girl that means I probably don't want to be in the relationship any longer.
I'd break up with the girl before cheating on her, even if that's fucked up it's less fucked up than cheating on someone and playing them for a fool and acting as if nothing happened. I couldn't live with the guilt and I would always live in fear that she would find out if I ended up doing it.
All of that said, however, I can't say I understand what the feelings and emotions that occur when you cheat on someone is like to experience. I'm sure there's a rush of some sort and some people spend their lives searching for a rush like that. I still think it's just fucked up to do that to someone, especially someone you love .
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: uber_aj]
#14317319 - 04/19/11 01:05 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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uber_aj said: More like the percentage of people who could turn down a hot, home-cooked meal while totally fucking stoned and hungry.
More like people who are stoned and hungry and can turn down fast food when they've got a home-cooked meal waiting for them at home.
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: uber_aj]
#14317359 - 04/19/11 01:12 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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uber_aj said:
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Silversoul said:
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uber_aj said: I'm sure there's a small percentage of people who are mentally strong enough to not do it, but I bet they're the exception, not the norm.
Kind of like the percentage of people who can turn down a slice of cheesecake because they're watching their weight?
More like the percentage of people who could turn down a hot, home-cooked meal while totally fucking stoned and hungry.
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Anthony917 said: I strongly disagree. It's not that hard to say "no, I won't fuck you cause I already have a girlfriend". It's not like you have to have incredible willpower. Maybe you just can't resist the pussy?
How often do you actually have to say that? I bet if it was as many times as the average girl has to down the advances of guys trolling for ass, you might slip now and then.
Let's say your g/f hasn't put out in a while, maybe she's gained a little weight, or started an addiction you don't like, or maybe you've just been arguing a lot lately. You've been fairly horny, and then you meet a girl who dresses in that perfect way, looks slightly better than your current g/f, perhaps she's a little more intelligent, you find out through innocent conversation that she shares all the same interests as you. Then lets say she knows exactly how to turn you on and makes a move...
I don't believe you'd shut her down. I'm not calling you a liar, I just don't believe that some sense of morality would stop you if the conditions were right. 
I would turn her down without even thinking twice. Maybe you have questionable morals
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Re: Does Everyone Cheat? [Re: uber_aj]
#14317378 - 04/19/11 01:15 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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uber_aj said:
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Anthony917 said: I strongly disagree. It's not that hard to say "no, I won't fuck you cause I already have a girlfriend". It's not like you have to have incredible willpower. Maybe you just can't resist the pussy?
How often do you actually have to say that? I bet if it was as many times as the average girl has to down the advances of guys trolling for ass, you might slip now and then.
Let's say your g/f hasn't put out in a while, maybe she's gained a little weight, or started an addiction you don't like, or maybe you've just been arguing a lot lately. You've been fairly horny, and then you meet a girl who dresses in that perfect way, looks slightly better than your current g/f, perhaps she's a little more intelligent, you find out through innocent conversation that she shares all the same interests as you. Then lets say she knows exactly how to turn you on and makes a move...
I don't believe you'd shut her down. I'm not calling you a liar, I just don't believe that some sense of morality would stop you if the conditions were right. 
I'd get her number, break up with my gf who never put out and was getting fat, then bone her guilt-free
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