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meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play
#14313430 - 04/18/11 07:34 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Aside from some spanking, hot wax, etc my sexual experiences so far have been pretty vanilla. Ive fantasized about a diversity of very kinky things for a long time. Someone on here posted a link to a website, fetlife.com and I decided to give it a whirl. Ive contacted and been contacted by a few females who are interested in playing but Im very nervous about the whole thing.
I dont know really what im trying to say here. Ive had these kinks for a long time and am tired of denying myself in partaking in them but at the same time i dont know why I am so apprehensive. I want to explore my sexuality in healthy way. Anyone have any pointers?
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BargainBab
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14313446 - 04/18/11 07:36 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I say do it could be fun!
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Psychoslut
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14313468 - 04/18/11 07:39 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Do it man, just tell the girl this is your first time with this shit but you think its awesome and want to learn.
And be a team player, if she tells you to do something or not, do it regardless if you think its going to suck or not.
If you dont put effort into everything they will think you are lame.
Dont just lay there and be like hey baby put the cuffs on me and suck my dick lol.
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[quote]KristiMidocean said: Good now thats clear.WHO FUCKING CARES. If I am fat u all keep pointing it out like its suppose to be a secret.LIke u really have nothing better to do then make fat jokes. If o know its like I do I know yall can come up with NEW AND BETTER SHIT . This shit is old and boring . I left in the first place cause this shit got boring not because of the fat jokes . Fat jokes dont bother me but seriously its old[/quote]
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Psychoslut]
#14313489 - 04/18/11 07:43 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Do it, report back. It's your duty.
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Psychoslut]
#14313514 - 04/18/11 07:46 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Psychoslut said: Dont just lay there and be like hey baby put the cuffs on me and suck my dick lol.
lol doubt that will work if its dominatrix foreplay shit
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: elliev]
#14313526 - 04/18/11 07:49 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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The one Im going to be seeing isnt a dominatrix but a masochist.
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14313623 - 04/18/11 08:06 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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o....
have fun fucking her with a switchblade against her neck i suppose
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: elliev]
#14314519 - 04/18/11 10:49 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Psychoslut said: just tell the girl this is your first time with this shit but you think its awesome and want to learn.
If the girl is submissive, asking her to teach you or telling her you want to learn how to do it is probably a HUGE TURNOFF. At least it is for me. Sub girls don't usually want to be the teacher. If she is dom or neutral, then there is probably no issue with that approach.
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elliev said: have fun fucking her with a switchblade against her neck i suppose
Now THAT sounds fun.
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Anonymous #2]
#14314778 - 04/18/11 11:34 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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do it... small dose of xaney for the anxiety.. like .5mg
make the call..
doc t already said about duties.
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shroomedalice
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14314986 - 04/19/11 12:11 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I guess its probably safer to meet some one for this kind of stuff online.
especially if the place needs a credit card and account for access.
there is a club for that stuff here called the hell fire club my self im still happy with vanilla
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Anonymous #2]
#14315249 - 04/19/11 01:02 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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Psychoslut said: just tell the girl this is your first time with this shit but you think its awesome and want to learn.
If the girl is submissive, asking her to teach you or telling her you want to learn how to do it is probably a HUGE TURNOFF. At least it is for me. Sub girls don't usually want to be the teacher. If she is dom or neutral, then there is probably no issue with that approach.
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elliev said: have fun fucking her with a switchblade against her neck i suppose
Now THAT sounds fun.
He is hooking up with a chick that is already into a type of sex that he is not used to.
He will be out of his element, she will be in hers. So its not like he can take over everything and teach the pro how to do s&m. She will be the dominating one in this for a short time.
He already told us hes the nervous one, not her.
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[quote]KristiMidocean said: Good now thats clear.WHO FUCKING CARES. If I am fat u all keep pointing it out like its suppose to be a secret.LIke u really have nothing better to do then make fat jokes. If o know its like I do I know yall can come up with NEW AND BETTER SHIT . This shit is old and boring . I left in the first place cause this shit got boring not because of the fat jokes . Fat jokes dont bother me but seriously its old[/quote]
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Psychoslut]
#14315315 - 04/19/11 01:17 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I know, I am just saying that IF the girl is a sub (submissive) his approach of asking for guidance may be a huge turnoff... Yes, it is true that he doesn't know what he is doing, but it is not necessarily her responsibility to teach him unless she signed up for it knowingly. If he is going into this with her assuming he knows what he is doing, and she is a sub, he should watch some videos and read up and be confident when they meet, not timid. If he does something she isn't into, she'll tell him and that will be better than him asking her to hold his hand through it.
But that is just my take on it, having been in similar scenarios.
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Psychoslut
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Anonymous #2]
#14315386 - 04/19/11 01:42 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah he should talk to her about what she likes before they meet so he has an idea what hes up for.
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[quote]KristiMidocean said: Good now thats clear.WHO FUCKING CARES. If I am fat u all keep pointing it out like its suppose to be a secret.LIke u really have nothing better to do then make fat jokes. If o know its like I do I know yall can come up with NEW AND BETTER SHIT . This shit is old and boring . I left in the first place cause this shit got boring not because of the fat jokes . Fat jokes dont bother me but seriously its old[/quote]
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Re: meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14316277 - 04/19/11 09:34 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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You're welcome for the fetlife link
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