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I lost someone without the chance of saying goodbye
    #14313376 - 04/18/11 07:24 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

In the past several years a sequence of events occurred in my personal life and as a result I aborted all contacts with one side of my family (lets call it side A for clarity).

A few days ago I learned that a member of that family side died. I've always maintained a good relationship with that person. I significantly reduced the communication with this family member partly because I moved to another country. A year ago I learned that this person showed open hatred towards family side B. I suspect that my disappearance could have been partly responsible for the deteriorating health conditions of that person.

Anyway I'm not really sure where I'm going with this. I experience a mix of feelings ranging from apathy morphing into sadness and guilt. I feel that if I don't talk to someone about it will have a certain impact on my psychology.

Do you think that trying to repress these events would backfire at some point of my life. For example I do not think I can handle a mushroom trip at the moment as that would totally fuck up my current mental state.


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Re: I lost someone without the chance of saying goodbye [Re: mellowparty]
    #14313696 - 04/18/11 08:21 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

i don't think repressing it would be a good idea cause then it would probably still be in your subconscious, though i'm not a psychologist .

why do you think the disappearance is what caused the death? it's not like sadness can kill someone, sounds like your blaming yourself too much


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Re: I lost someone without the chance of saying goodbye [Re: mellowparty]
    #14313877 - 04/18/11 09:04 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

I lost someone last year that meant a lot to me but I hadn't been very close to in the last few months of her life.

I felt really guilty for a long time. I had so much regret in my heart.

In the end I realized that death happens. I couldn't control it.

Instead of beating yourself up for time lost with the person who passed away, enjoy the time you have with those still alive.

I did a lot of meditation after she died. I still feel the pangs of sadness of not getting a chance to say goodbye but I know that she wouldn't want me to live with regret. So, I live my life to the fullest and spend time with those who matter when I get the chance. Life is short. Make the most of the time you have and the time you have with others.

I hope things get better for you. My condolences to your loss.:heart:


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Re: I lost someone without the chance of saying goodbye [Re: mellowparty]
    #14314186 - 04/18/11 10:01 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

get over yourself


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Re: I lost someone without the chance of saying goodbye [Re: Cherk]
    #14318088 - 04/19/11 03:24 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

Dont be an ass. People really can die from sadness. But its usually married couples that have been together 50 years and one dies, a few weeks later the other dies from nothing explainable besides being grief.

But to the OP, I dont think you had anything to do with your loved one dieing, its not your fault at all.


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Re: I lost someone without the chance of saying goodbye [Re: Psychoslut]
    #14318822 - 04/19/11 06:00 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

getting over myself worked for me when I spent months laying around in the worst pain wanting to die


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