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Wow, I really suck at sex
#14310712 - 04/18/11 07:34 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Between anxiety and cumming too fast and a combo of both, I fucking suck lately!
My girlfriend and I have been together 6 years, never really had a GREAT sex life, but it's been on par I suppose
The past 2 years Ive been taking sleeping pills on work nights about 2 hours before I needed to crash out. Well, when we would attempt to have sex, it was within this time and I could rarely get it, or keep it up. SO, fail boat there.... Then I started taking vicodans for a while and more or less, same problem.
Anyhow, in the midst of all this failing, it got in my head. "Wow, dude, you kinda suck"
There have been a few times recently where I'll be getting her in the mood, and then this thought hits my mind and I just go soft...Then in the middle of getting her horny I gotta tell her that I cant do it tonight  So, she's getting pissed, Im getting worried and nobody is getting off. This happened a few times somewhat recently...
THEN, on top of that, when we actually get to having sex, I have such a hair trigger now that I cant even get her to orgasm ...Im pretty sure she hasn't gotten off in over 3 months (at least during sex)
A lot of the issue is that she cant get off on the bottom, she needs to be riding me, while this is hot and everything, I cant control myself and BAM!, I need to come
This whole experience lately has really got me down and (honestly) concerned.
I just really hope she's getting herself off in the meantime...
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Oh yeah...Should we/I try sex on X or some other drug? Would that help?
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Cherk
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learn how to fuck; im sure she will be glad to help you if you ask before she dumps you
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Re: Wow, I really suck at sex [Re: Cherk]
#14310728 - 04/18/11 07:40 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Helpful!
I would argue the issue is in my head, not my pants...but yeah, I dont want to be left over this
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elliev
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Re: Wow, I really suck at sex [Re: Cherk]
#14310732 - 04/18/11 07:41 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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indeed
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STIKAROUND
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Thats a shameful situation but dont be discouraged. Ive been with my girlfriend for 3 years. I know it sucks when you blow off too soon what help me is excercising (running and weight lifting). If you really want her too get off beat off twice before your next session with her. Then before you guys do the funky stuff eat her pussy like no other. Make it your goal to please her because if not someone else will so make sure your the best for her. As far as the ED what I do is kind of funny but I wear a hair tie around my junk to keep the blood in and it helps too.
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Re: Wow, I really suck at sex [Re: elliev]
#14310744 - 04/18/11 07:45 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I could see if this was some new chick and had trouble, but fuck man! Ive been doing this with the same chick for 6 years now without issue..
Given, I really lover her a lot and she has a pretty banging ass body  Im a fucking mental case...lol...
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Re: Wow, I really suck at sex [Re: Cherk]
#14310749 - 04/18/11 07:46 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Go down.
Also, meds cause real troubles. Consider changing meds or adjusting doses, with doctor input.
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Re: Wow, I really suck at sex [Re: Doc_T]
#14310773 - 04/18/11 07:52 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I love munchin some box, believe me...But (and even before we hooked up) she's told me she just doesnt like that ...
Ive it a few times with varying degree of intensity, she still says "no thanks"...Thinkin I'll keep trying..
The only way she ever gets off is when she's on top, riding cock...I learned this early on in 2005
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Anonymous #1
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Thinking about dosing .2 g of MDMA a piece and going to town this weekend...maybe that'll knock something loose
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STIKAROUND
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Doc could very well be on to something the meds plus the stress from work is more than enough to make evan the most testosrone driven tennager flacid. So X out the meds and stretch and go dive in that pussy...
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Re: Wow, I really suck at sex [Re: STIKAROUND]
#14310846 - 04/18/11 08:18 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Doc is always right...
I need to change my thought processes though, I already believe Im going to fail before I even tap datass...
I know guys have problems, but can chicks get off on Ecstasy?
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Doc_T
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Work stress is a big deal. A weekend away, with or without drugs, is a good idea.
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Re: Wow, I really suck at sex [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#14310932 - 04/18/11 08:41 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: THEN, on top of that, when we actually get to having sex, I have such a hair trigger now that I cant even get her to orgasm ...Im pretty sure she hasn't gotten off in over 3 months (at least during sex)
A lot of the issue is that she cant get off on the bottom, she needs to be riding me, while this is hot and everything, I cant control myself and BAM!, I need to come
This whole experience lately has really got me down and (honestly) concerned.
I just really hope she's getting herself off in the meantime...
Get her a gift: Hitachi Magic Wand.
Use it on her as part of foreplay, use it while you're fucking.
I can count on one hand how many vaginal orgasms I've ever had, but if I were to try to count how many clitoral orgasms, I'd need a heck of a lot more hands.
To me, intercourse is more about "fun, pleasure, and HIS orgasm" - it's easier for me to orgasm other ways, during what would be more like "foreplay" to you.
It's important for her to orgasm in your presence, although it doesn't have to happen all the time or anything. It's important because the chemicals released during orgasm include bonding chemicals, and we bond with whoever is in our mind at the time. This is why porn and fantasy can actually distance you emotionally from your RL partner.
So, get a solid, useful, effective 'toy' to use to give her clitoral orgasms, then worry less about what position SHE needs during intercourse to orgasm.
BTW, the reason on top works is because she's grinding her clit into you - she's not having a vaginal orgasm. According to the Kinsey report, a low percentage of women can even HAVE vaginal orgasms - but quite a high percentage can have a clitoral one.
Hope this helps.
Edited by Anonymous (04/18/11 08:42 AM)
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TrustYourSelf
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Doc is always right...
I need to change my thought processes though, I already believe Im going to fail before I even tap datass...
I know guys have problems, but can chicks get off on Ecstasy?
They can but you shouldn't have to be using drugs to get her to orgasm.
If you have a "hair trigger" you should masturbate more often so you don't finish so fast.
If she likes riding you, let her ride you. Some girls love more than anything getting on top and having the guy really grab her by the hips. Do you usually grab her hips? Its a major erogenous zone.
Also don't take sleeping meds / vicodins before you fuck. Take them when you're done fucking.
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you should take a adderal or two like an hour before fucking her. Dont tell her or let her take any, because she will be impossible to get off.
Just take the pills and smash on that ass.
Oh yeah and if you want her to get off just eat her out a hella long time, make her cum and then get on and smash for as long as you can and it wont matter if you dump quick because she already got hers.
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Re: Wow, I really suck at sex [Re: Psychoslut]
#14310985 - 04/18/11 08:54 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Psychoslut said: you should take a adderal or two like an hour before fucking her. Dont tell her or let her take any, because she will be impossible to get off.
Just take the pills and smash on that ass.
Oh yeah and if you want her to get off just eat her out a hella long time, make her cum and then get on and smash for as long as you can and it wont matter if you dump quick because she already got hers.
Stimulants make me completely unhorny & cause temporary shrinkage due to change in blood flow.
Taking drugs just to have sex seems silly for me. I just like having sex. If he jerks off more he won't come as fast, no drugs needed.
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Psychoslut
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actually masturbating sets you up mentally for getting a quick nut because you are not trying to make it last.
he either needs pills or practice or little of both.
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[quote]KristiMidocean said: Good now thats clear.WHO FUCKING CARES. If I am fat u all keep pointing it out like its suppose to be a secret.LIke u really have nothing better to do then make fat jokes. If o know its like I do I know yall can come up with NEW AND BETTER SHIT . This shit is old and boring . I left in the first place cause this shit got boring not because of the fat jokes . Fat jokes dont bother me but seriously its old[/quote]
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Re: Wow, I really suck at sex [Re: Psychoslut]
#14311007 - 04/18/11 08:59 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Psychoslut said: actually masturbating sets you up mentally for getting a quick nut because you are not trying to make it last.
he either needs pills or practice or little of both.
Are you a guy or girl? When i masturbate i have never raced to finish quickly. If you are completely unused to being touched down there you're much more prone to getting off early. If you masturbate regularly sex can actually become unappealing. Guys that masturbate too much can only finish by masturbating. I've had this happen to me before where i would always finish myself onto her. I just finished that way so many times i couldnt finish any other way.
Eventually i stopped jerking off so much and fixed that little issue. No one needs to take amphetamines to have or give an orgasm. Sorry. Masturbation is practice! If you never blow a load the next time you go to itll be faster, no doubt.
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A lot of helpful advice, thanks to all...I think psychoslut was right in how jerking it trains you to get off faster...
Thankfully she's pretty understanding, so we'll get thru this...
It's just that im trying so hard not to fail, that I cannot succeed...I hope
I'll get her some new batteries and calm my ass down...We'll see how she goes...
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