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sjfrockerdude
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What should I do, Shroomery?
#14304802 - 04/17/11 06:04 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Up until last Wen. I was living with, and desperatly in love with this girl, but I fucked up the relationship and she said she was done. For a good 3 months before we broke up I was noticing that she was slipping away, never really wanted to have sex, ignored me, etc.
Well I saw that and started to freak out, (she was/is the love of my life) I started to try and do more things with her, in turn pushing her farther away.
But I will get to the point of the post. Last night we had a long talk about everything that has ever been wrong with our relationship. She decided that for the relationship to ever work out again that we need to tell each other everything we have been hiding. I was fine, in fact, I was happy to ablidge, not often does a guy get a second chance at something like this. Well she told me a few things, I told her a few things, it was great. Until she told me what she had been doing this last week since we broke up. She said that she had met a guy online months ago (which I already figured) and that after we broke up she cybered with him... about 7 times. All the time telling me that she still loved me.
My question is what should I do. Im not sure if I will ever be able to get the thought of her doing that out of my head. (BTW we met online, then moved in together, so cybering to me is kinda serious) I see that it took a lot out of her just to tell me knowing I could have just walked away. But DAMN that shit hurts.
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mellowparty
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Masturbate and forget about this shit.
Seriously just let go and wait for your brain to accommodate to the lack of endogenous amphetamines, oxytocin and the rest of the molecules that make you feel in love.
Start using heroin perhaps to numb the lack of your love. Not really but its still a viable alternative if you cant let go.
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sjfrockerdude
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: mellowparty]
#14304819 - 04/17/11 06:12 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Thing is, we both want to get together. Its all I want. I just dont know how I can shake the thought of her doing that.
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mellowparty
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How can you both want to get together when she is acting like a bitch?
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sjfrockerdude
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: mellowparty]
#14304826 - 04/17/11 06:16 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, we spent the last 7 hours of last night talking about all the fuckups we've ever had in the relationship. She told me what she had done in hopes that if she was honest, that we could work it out.
But yeah, I can't deny that that was a dick move on her part to even do that in the first place...
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asm0309
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the thing that comes to my mind is how would she have reacted if you told her the same thing? i mean if she expects you to move past this what do you think she would say if the tables had been turned and you had been cybering while you were broke up?
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: asm0309]
#14304858 - 04/17/11 06:38 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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sounds like she's got you by the balls man.. you might as well just cut them off and give them to her to hang on her wall
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: asm0309]
#14304860 - 04/17/11 06:39 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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and if you really care about her and want to be with here your going to have to decide if you can move past this. Right or wrong its in the past and you can either let it break up the relation ship or you can move past it forget about it.
i really only see those two options. I mean you cant hold a grudge if you get back with her about it, yea you can be upset but you cant hold it against her because that will result in option one anyways.
you gotta do whats right by you. sorry kind of a rambling post, just woke up about to head out for work.
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: meatcakeman]
#14304863 - 04/17/11 06:41 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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There's a difference between romance and love. From my experience, the people who have been married for 60+ years stopped being romantic a long fucking time ago. They just agreed to help each other out with life and stick by each other.
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sjfrockerdude
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: Caine]
#14304879 - 04/17/11 06:45 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Just want to say "thanks" for all the advice. It is helping me a lot to at least get it off my chest.
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tk3
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I'm joining the mellow party.
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Brown Fox
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wrong thread lol whoops
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Edited by Brown Fox (04/17/11 08:29 AM)
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elliev
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: tk3]
#14305067 - 04/17/11 08:29 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
after we broke up she cybered with him... about 7 times.
OP butthurt over internet dick internet sex
lol.
unless they hooked up irl
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Edited by elliev (04/17/11 08:31 AM)
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trekie
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: elliev]
#14305078 - 04/17/11 08:32 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Cyber sex what are you 15 and in 1992?
You two were done and well cyber sex doesnt count unless he DSHSB.
Be a man and deal with it. God young people are such fucking pussies .
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: trekie]
#14305095 - 04/17/11 08:38 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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yea i dont see whats the big deal with cyber ssex
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: desant]
#14305124 - 04/17/11 08:48 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
desant said: yea i dont see whats the big deal with cyber ssex 
It's gay, that's the big deal.
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mellowparty
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: PreparationH]
#14305129 - 04/17/11 08:50 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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as long as it provides wet holes its ok in my book
but that never happens atleast IME
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PreparationH
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: mellowparty]
#14305141 - 04/17/11 08:56 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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"What should I do?"
RP
Stop talking to her, delete her number, facebook page, throw out her shit. Time heals this stuff and the best thing to do is not have to see her or talk to her. Worked for me
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mellowparty
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Re: What should I do, Shroomery? [Re: PreparationH]
#14305149 - 04/17/11 08:58 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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LOL I watched the coon for the first time this morning
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