Home | Community | Message Board


This site includes paid links. Please support our sponsors.


Welcome to the Shroomery Message Board! You are experiencing a small sample of what the site has to offer. Please login or register to post messages and view our exclusive members-only content. You'll gain access to additional forums, file attachments, board customizations, encrypted private messages, and much more!

Shop: Kraken Kratom Red Vein Kratom   Original Sensible Seeds Bulk Cannabis Seeds   North Spore Injection Grain Bag   Unfolding Nature Unfolding Nature: Being in the Implicate Order

Jump to first unread post Pages: < Back | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | Next >  [ show all ]
InvisibleshLong
Male User Gallery


Registered: 03/04/10
Posts: 25,330
Loc: 'sconsin Flag
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: pouihi]
    #14295199 - 04/15/11 11:47 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

pouihi said:
Above all you mustn't loose your self-esteem.



Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineAnthony917
why dont we do it in the road
 User Gallery


Registered: 05/14/09
Posts: 3,243
Loc: Earth
Last seen: 12 years, 3 months
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Dunno]
    #14295208 - 04/15/11 11:48 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

man I was in a similar situation, and all I can say is give it time.
Everybody says that, but it's true, time heals ALL wounds.

Idk how recently you broke up, but it sounds like it wasn't too long ago. Instead of trying to FORCE yourself to get over her, you need to just let it happen. Eventually your feelings will fade. If you try and force it, it's not going to work. Trust me.

I was with my ex for about 3 years, we broke up and she got pregnant with my buddies kid about 2 weeks later. I never got to really say goodbye or deal with my leftover feelings, and it fuckin sucked. I fell into this crazy cycle of dosing shrooms & mdma & smoking all day every day and it was just bad news. It's been about a year and a half and I can FINALLY say that I am ready to move on. That seems like a looong ass time to wait, but it gets better along the way, and everyone is different.

It's tough when you have someone like that who you went through SO MUCH with, and you feel a deep loving connection to.

I am going to tell you that no matter how shitty you feel right now, pretty soon those feelings WILL go away. They just will. As time passes you will become less and less attached to what you had, and you might even come to enjoy some aspects of being single. My last breakup and the past year and a half have taught me more about myself than I ever thought I'd learn.

Just tough it out man, things will look up :thumbup:

Also, there's no point in wallowing in your pain. Look ahead, to the future, to the rest of your life, and you will see that even though this girl was incredibly important to you, in the grand scheme of your life, she's just another girl.

Quote:

legit27 said:

I don't know what i'm going to do, i loved her touch, and being around her. And the sex too.
She was my dream girl. Just perfect with everything. It's going to be hard to find a girl like that again if i even do.




Dude you can't think like this. This is NOT TRUE!!! Thinking that this girl was the "one" that there's no one else out their like her, that she was somehow extra special is NOT TRUE! Trust me dude there are plenty of awesome chicks out there who I'm POSITIVE will treat you just the same if not better than this girl did. I know it seems like the end of the world, but you gotta keep your head up and stay positive. There's no point in being sad, because it will only breed more sadness.

I know exactly what you mean when you say that every time your mind drifts it goes back to her, and that's going to happen for a while. At night when you're laying in bed, of COURSE you're going to think about her. Don't use drugs to mask these feelings or help you cope with them. I tried that, and it only drives the feelings deeper into your subconscious when you repress them.



--------------------
Prisoner#1 said: I got my ass kicked by a 9yo when I was 17
Trippin? Click Me




What is life? I'm tired of life...

Edited by Anthony917 (04/15/11 11:53 AM)

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineMoronicus
smokehousebacon.
Male


Registered: 05/13/09
Posts: 4,430
Last seen: 11 years, 4 months
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: blazenn]
    #14295243 - 04/15/11 11:54 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Just tell yourself there are more chicks out there, hell..you can probably find a better one and of course, you're gonna tell yourself 'But there isn't one like her out there...:sad:'. Trust me, there is.. :sun:


--------------------


BACON RANCH, FUCK YEAH


A post about m00nshine

Anonymous #6 said:
Yes, it is. The shine stands for his job title, which is Shoe Shiner, the moon stands for the time he comes out to be a nigger, which is best suited for the negroid camouflage.

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleLegend
RIP Sasha
Male


Registered: 03/29/10
Posts: 28,336
Loc: TX Flag
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Moronicus]
    #14295552 - 04/15/11 01:09 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

I think she's already found someone else, and i think that may be why she broke up with me. :mad2:


--------------------
No sympathy for the devil, keep that in mind.
[url=
]Buy the ticket, take the ride. [/url]
Are you lost?

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleLegend
RIP Sasha
Male


Registered: 03/29/10
Posts: 28,336
Loc: TX Flag
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
    #14295665 - 04/15/11 01:35 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Story about us:
We had a normal relationship ups and downs, we had our fights, but we also had our good happy times. But recently we had been having some troubles, she was getting sort of distant. I found out that she had told a friend that she just didn't see a future with me anymore and that she just thought of me as a friend, so thats why she broke up with me. (which was last tuesday, i think) So i was coping well, i was still going to talk to her and be friends, things would have been just fine. The next day she called me and told me that she had made a mistake and loves me, this and that. So that friday i had asked her to be my girlfriend again. Which was a mistake, i know, but i trusted her, and i've made mistakes before too. I had a great day with her that saturday too, and went and saw my sick grandmother and see my baby cousin. We made plans for this weekend, that we were going to see a drive in movie, and the next weekend that we would go somewhere for my birthday.
But then Wednesday we got into a fight. Not a bad fight, but we didn't talk on thursday much. And when i got home from school i looked on facebook to find out that she had deleted me from her friends list, and deleted all of the pictures of us and a changed her relationship status to single. I try to talk to her all i get was a text saying "i feel like i'm with you because its normal" which is what she said last time. She wont talk to me, or answer my calls.
All i've gotten from her was that she doesn't want to talk to me, and we are broken up.


--------------------
No sympathy for the devil, keep that in mind.
[url=
]Buy the ticket, take the ride. [/url]
Are you lost?

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlinebiff
Boom
Male


Registered: 06/23/09
Posts: 1,860
Loc: america
Last seen: 6 days, 5 hours
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
    #14295687 - 04/15/11 01:40 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

legit27 said:
I think she's already found someone else, and i think that may be why she broke up with me. :mad2:



Been there. Little over a year ago. There is sound advice in here man. look into it. Best thing I can say is go on with your life and keep busy. Live your life to the absolute fullest.

It was the best feeling in the world when I got a call from my ex on my bday(she dumped me on my bday 2010) and I told her what i've been up too. I could feel the regret through the phone. It was a nice bonus. Not to mention all the cool shit I've done the past year that would have NEVER been possible with her around.

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Invisibles0nny
a poinsettia in poison rain

Registered: 01/31/11
Posts: 2,246
Loc: Always Missing
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Dunno]
    #14295710 - 04/15/11 01:44 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

Dunno said:
sleep with her mom...



:thumbup:


--------------------
let go or be dragged

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlinepouihi
Mary Jane Doe
 User Gallery


Registered: 01/04/11
Posts: 2,384
Last seen: 1 year, 10 months
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: s0nny]
    #14295805 - 04/15/11 02:06 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

legit27, how old is she?? somethings you mention seem really immature...
anyway... that's usually worse to know at the time, but (although you like her) it can always help you see she was dishonest with you.

She breaks up with you (knowing it would hurt you), next day wants to get back, next day won't even talk to you, does she actually know what she wants or does she only want to fool around??
I don't mean to offend by it sounds like she's being a huge bitch with you, and you probably deserve better than that.

You have to think in yourself first and lookout for your wellbeing, and be extremely careful with those "relapses" as they do no good for you.


--------------------


"If the doors of perception were cleansed everything would appear to man as it is, infinite."

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineeloC
It All Comes From Within..
Male User Gallery


Registered: 02/14/11
Posts: 394
Loc: Shpongle Land Flag
Last seen: 11 years, 9 months
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
    #14295853 - 04/15/11 02:15 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Go get laid!:thumbup:



:trolldance:


--------------------
:header:
Signature Credit : CosmicFool

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleLegend
RIP Sasha
Male


Registered: 03/29/10
Posts: 28,336
Loc: TX Flag
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: pouihi]
    #14295867 - 04/15/11 02:18 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

It does seem immature doesn't it? I haven't mentioned ages because i don't want to look down upon because of being young. But she is 18, i'm turning 19 in a couple of days.


--------------------
No sympathy for the devil, keep that in mind.
[url=
]Buy the ticket, take the ride. [/url]
Are you lost?

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineQueen Sarah
Stranger
Registered: 04/15/11
Posts: 2
Last seen: 12 years, 10 months
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: eloC]
    #14295917 - 04/15/11 02:26 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

"She has deleted me from Facebook in order to help me get over her." - No, she deleted you so she can move on and you need to do the same.  Do not try to contact her under any circumstances and eventually you will be able to move on.

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleLegend
RIP Sasha
Male


Registered: 03/29/10
Posts: 28,336
Loc: TX Flag
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Queen Sarah]
    #14295920 - 04/15/11 02:27 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

Queen Sarah said:
"She has deleted me from Facebook in order to help me get over her." - No, she deleted you so she can move on and you need to do the same.  Do not try to contact her under any circumstances and eventually you will be able to move on.



:thumbup:


--------------------
No sympathy for the devil, keep that in mind.
[url=
]Buy the ticket, take the ride. [/url]
Are you lost?

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleLegend
RIP Sasha
Male


Registered: 03/29/10
Posts: 28,336
Loc: TX Flag
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
    #14295979 - 04/15/11 02:37 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

I think she just wants to have lots of sex, with different guys, do drugs (even though she's addicted to pain killers and i was the only thing keeping her off them) and just not care about anything.
she changed a lot in the last couple of months, i don't know why. But it happened. I miss what was, not what is now.


--------------------
No sympathy for the devil, keep that in mind.
[url=
]Buy the ticket, take the ride. [/url]
Are you lost?

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlinepouihi
Mary Jane Doe
 User Gallery


Registered: 01/04/11
Posts: 2,384
Last seen: 1 year, 10 months
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Queen Sarah]
    #14295997 - 04/15/11 02:39 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

yeah... usually when one ends a relationship, and says they're doing something for YOUR sake, it's not, it's for their own... same as the famous "It's not you, it's me"...

But that just goes to show you how asshole she's being with you.

Well she is immature, and even probably a bit immature for her age, if not immature, bitchy at the least.
It's normal that you have an idealistic image of her, and when you get out of that intoxicated state you'll end up having a realistic image of her, seeing things as for example we see them, and that she was in fact an ass with you.

Fortunately for you, you are indeed young, which mean more for you, because now you have plenty of time to made up for wasted time!!

Are you already in any University?


--------------------


"If the doors of perception were cleansed everything would appear to man as it is, infinite."

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleLegend
RIP Sasha
Male


Registered: 03/29/10
Posts: 28,336
Loc: TX Flag
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: pouihi]
    #14296023 - 04/15/11 02:44 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

community college at the moment. Just getting the basics out of the way.


--------------------
No sympathy for the devil, keep that in mind.
[url=
]Buy the ticket, take the ride. [/url]
Are you lost?

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Offlinepouihi
Mary Jane Doe
 User Gallery


Registered: 01/04/11
Posts: 2,384
Last seen: 1 year, 10 months
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
    #14296153 - 04/15/11 03:11 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

you see? you still have a lot ahead of you, lots of new people to meet, lots of places to go, you just have to be open to new experiences.

As it has been said, regarding girls you now think she was the one, you think that she couldn't be more fit, but have you ever though that maybe that goes because you haven't met better yet?

That eventually you might come to know someone that's even better than her, that doesn't change their mind sooner than their panties?
a bit more honest, sincere, respectful, etc...


--------------------


"If the doors of perception were cleansed everything would appear to man as it is, infinite."

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleEpilson Lyrae
Armed with hammers
Male User Gallery


Registered: 04/07/09
Posts: 5,561
Loc: Woody Creek
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: pouihi]
    #14296167 - 04/15/11 03:15 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Ignore her. It will drive her nuts.


--------------------
"Freedom is something that dies unless it's used." H.T.
I've come to believe that the heart is the filter of the enlightened mind. Epilson Lyrae

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineSarfix
Mycotic


Registered: 03/21/11
Posts: 107
Loc: Midwest
Last seen: 10 years, 8 months
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: pouihi]
    #14296215 - 04/15/11 03:26 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Dude, your 19 man.  I have a story to tell you... Im in my late 20's now.  I got married when I was 19.  I married a girl because I was with her for awhile and I was dumb...  After being married for four years I find out that she cheated on me numerous times and lied, and just a bunch of dumb childish shit.  When I was 23 we were divorced.  Even though she did all of those awful things to me, I was still really hurt and sad that I wasn't going to be able to have the good times anymore.  But ya know what... I am happy now...  I really have never been happier...  I finally got a chance to go hang out with my friends.  I got a chance to get wasted if I just felt like getting wasted...  I could sit around all night watching the whole back to the future series.  Your 19.  I know it seems like you wanted to spend your life with this chick, but man... just relax a little.  right now is the time to find out who YOU are, not trying to make yourself into someone someone else wants.  Go experience life a little.  There are so many woman out there, when you realize it... like really realize it... well... it will be a good day for you.  There are woman that aren't gonna fuck with you or hurt you.  Woman that are sincere and not only want to be with you, but be your friend too and support you.  Just realize that if it didn't work than it didn't work and take it with a grain of salt.  The next like 6 years will be the times you will learn the most about yourself and where you will start realizing what you want out of life.  Be patient.  Just like when you grow mushies :smile:  Good luck home skillet.  Keep your head up and KNOW that your a good person.  Dont let anything or anyone  bring you down.


--------------------
Turn back Sarah.  Turn back before it's too late.

Tattoo Products for Sterility

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleTYL3R
I'm a teapot User Gallery

Registered: 11/19/04
Posts: 17,493
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: eloC]
    #14296331 - 04/15/11 03:51 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

eloC said:
Go get laid!:thumbup:



:trolldance:





Some say this is the best way...

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflinePeaceMoodie
P.O.P.
Male User Gallery


Registered: 10/17/09
Posts: 169
Last seen: 9 years, 12 days
Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: TYL3R]
    #14296495 - 04/15/11 04:32 PM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Listen To Sarfix, he has the right frame of mind. We've all been there, I just broke it off with my girlfriend of 4 years this past september and after a month or two I felt brand new! Just hang in there, time will heal all.

Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Jump to top Pages: < Back | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | Next >  [ show all ]

Shop: Kraken Kratom Red Vein Kratom   Original Sensible Seeds Bulk Cannabis Seeds   North Spore Injection Grain Bag   Unfolding Nature Unfolding Nature: Being in the Implicate Order


Similar ThreadsPosterViewsRepliesLast post
* What do you dream of? Or what fantasy do you dream of? MOTH 741 5 05/22/04 02:22 AM
by Zero7a1
* Weird Dreams Phluck 2,836 18 01/05/03 10:29 AM
by Little Shroom
* Reality and Dreams "meshing" Trippy Hippy 1,829 7 04/13/04 01:17 AM
by Turd
* Dreams and drug tests. tak 2,106 9 10/31/03 06:58 PM
by tak
* lucid dreams
( 1 2 all )
Waldarbeiter 5,387 32 05/04/03 09:04 PM
by boygenius
* When I Dream a Lot - Some Observations gotmagog 1,152 7 04/14/04 02:23 PM
by filthysock
* Help me dream lucidly!! TODAY 1,062 8 01/16/04 03:47 AM
by TODAY
* my not so pleasant dream... Smack31 872 7 12/10/02 02:04 AM
by JonnyOnTheSpot

Extra information
You cannot start new topics / You cannot reply to topics
HTML is disabled / BBCode is enabled
Moderator: Entire Staff
3,777 topic views. 5 members, 41 guests and 54 web crawlers are browsing this forum.
[ Show Images Only | Sort by Score | Print Topic ]
Search this thread:

Copyright 1997-2024 Mind Media. Some rights reserved.

Generated in 0.033 seconds spending 0.006 seconds on 14 queries.