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Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips?
#14294961 - 04/15/11 10:41 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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So i was with this girl, we were in love, and together for over 2 years. I loved this girl to death, everything about here. I am not ready to move on, but have too because she does not feel the same anymore. She feels like she was only with me because it was normal towards the end and broke it off. She has deleted me from Facebook in order to help me get over her. So theres a start, i will stop talking to her for now, but still will in the future because she was a badass friend anyway. I just don't want to feel this pain anymore, i still love her, and could see myself spending the rest of my life with her. Sadly, this is no longer an option. So i must get over her. I must get rid of the pain that subsides deep inside of my heart. Everything i see reminds me of her, everything i do reminds me of her. She has hurt me, and i feel pathetic for shedding my tears for her. But i do, i haven't eaten in 3 days, i have cried profusely, and just don't care if i live or die. i need help from my fellow shroomerites, anything will help, tips or anything.
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
#14294974 - 04/15/11 10:45 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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tip #1. life > women.
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
#14294975 - 04/15/11 10:45 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Homeboy, it fucking hurts, I know...I caught my ex of 5 years with my good buddy...I used coke and crack, I dont recommend that method, only made shit worse, way worse.
Id go to the doctor and try to get some benzos for nighttime and then in the meantime exercise more/some. Do a hobby, fishing, reading, model cars, whatever it is that you do...Just do not turn to drugs to mask this, you gotta face it....the benzos just hekp at night when you're alone.
Look up an old buddy and make some new friend, get out and do shit.
Remember, misery loves company...
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: shLong]
#14294978 - 04/15/11 10:46 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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EXERCISE
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: shLong]
#14294981 - 04/15/11 10:47 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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time.
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: collie man]
#14294995 - 04/15/11 10:54 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Summer is coming up so i will try and do whatever i can to keep busy all the time. I do have a bunch of books i could read also. I'm going to chill with my friends today, that i haven't hung out with in forever. I need to start exercising more.
I certainly do need benzos for night, lying in bed alone, i have nothing else to do but think. ANd there is only one thing that crosses my mind. Same with being in class too, i can't stand sitting in class and my mind wants to day dream, again my mind only wonders to one thing, her. Time to keep busy i suppose.
I don't know what i'm going to do, i loved her touch, and being around her. And the sex too. She was my dream girl. Just perfect with everything. It's going to be hard to find a girl like that again if i even do.
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
#14295018 - 04/15/11 11:04 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Everyday will get easier man...it'll take a long time, if at all, but with each day it gets a small percent better.
Just curious, where do you live? If you dont wanna answer, are you near WI/IL?
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: shLong]
#14295036 - 04/15/11 11:08 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Nah, I live in Texas. I sure hope it gets better. To the point where I am not depressed/ will cry all the time. I was so deeply in love with her, I doubt that love will subside completely.
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
#14295052 - 04/15/11 11:11 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
legit27 said: So i was with this girl, we were in love, and together for over 2 years. I loved this girl to death, everything about here. I am not ready to move on, but have too because she does not feel the same anymore. She feels like she was only with me because it was normal towards the end and broke it off. She has deleted me from Facebook in order to help me get over her. So theres a start, i will stop talking to her for now, but still will in the future because she was a badass friend anyway. I just don't want to feel this pain anymore, i still love her, and could see myself spending the rest of my life with her. Sadly, this is no longer an option. So i must get over her. I must get rid of the pain that subsides deep inside of my heart. Everything i see reminds me of her, everything i do reminds me of her. She has hurt me, and i feel pathetic for shedding my tears for her. But i do, i haven't eaten in 3 days, i have cried profusely, and just don't care if i live or die. i need help from my fellow shroomerites, anything will help, tips or anything.
post pics of her....
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
#14295058 - 04/15/11 11:13 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Just keep your chin up and get out and do shit, it gets so much worse when you're just sitting around thinking about it. Everybody goes through it, and even though you dont see it now, you'll look back and be glad it happened...but, I know, it doesnt seem like that now
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: shLong]
#14295063 - 04/15/11 11:15 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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and if you gotta, cry.....
Just dont get it in your head that YOU MUST GET HER BACK...that'll prolong the pain
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: shLong]
#14295089 - 04/15/11 11:21 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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@dunno, they are floating around here somewhere.
@shlong, you are very helpful, I feel like I was blessed to be able to have had 2 amazing years with her. I just wish I could have made more of it, done things to make it better. We went through a lot together. She saw me and helped me when I was going through my hardest times in life. Its just so much change, so fast. I want her to be happy though, and now she will be. I am so glad I was able to have a chance with her. /sorry for the rambling it helps get it off my chest.
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
#14295110 - 04/15/11 11:26 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Keep it coming, I just hope someone else steps in with more useful tips...
It aint easy, but really, is anything?
Man, I was so lost at the time, sitting alone, feeling so sad...Looking back I myself for the torture I put myself through, but whatever doesn't kill ya _______________________________....
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: shLong]
#14295140 - 04/15/11 11:34 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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shLong said: EXERCISE
so underrated. Smoke a fat bowl and go for a nice bike ride or a run.
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Rebirtha]
#14295152 - 04/15/11 11:37 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I haven't smoked weed in 6 months because of anxiety, so we might have to wait on that one.
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Legend]
#14295159 - 04/15/11 11:39 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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well get out a get some exercise either way, the bowl was just the boost of motivation. sitting in front of the computer won't help your emotional state
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Rebirtha]
#14295169 - 04/15/11 11:40 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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sleep with her mom...
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: shLong]
#14295171 - 04/15/11 11:41 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Breaking up with someone that you love is always a bitch brother. And when it happens, it is all consuming and feels like shit. Dude is right when he says that time is the ultimate remedy and really nothing else. What you can do right now though to help you get through is never easy nor is it a complete remedy; that said, exercise is a good option because it will tire you physically and help relieve some of the emotional tension. You can also make contact with some old friends that run in different circles to sort of give you a different perspective. If you have friends that you can visit for a short vacation or something that may help a little as well. It's really easy to want to turn to drugs or alcohol when your heart is hurting but this will only prolong the process and usually ends up bad. This will end eventually but takes some time. It may be impossible to believe but as bad as things feel right now, they will get better and you will become a better person from going through it. Someday you will look back on this and see how you grew and how it made you a better and more rounded person. You just have to take the long view on stuff like this and push through it. I'll be sending you good vibes because I know how bad it feels to be in this situation. Just remember that you will make it and that you will love again and that these feelings will pass. Someday soon you will be awed by something, a gathering or a camping trip or a concert or a sunrise or something quite simple yet profound and you will be grateful for life and the chance to be here and for your life. There's an old saying that "good living is the best revenge." So instead of letting this bring you down, take the opportunity to start living well. Grab all you can from life. Go to see a favorite band or do what it is that makes you truly happy. You'll be alright dude. You just gotta push on through. Good vibes.
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: Rebirtha]
#14295175 - 04/15/11 11:41 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Invite some good friends over and have a barbeque/party. They'll make you feel better, that's what friends are for
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Re: Forcing myself to get over a girl. Tips? [Re: shLong]
#14295178 - 04/15/11 11:42 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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sadly nothing can be said to ease the pain, that's just something you'll get out of your system eventually.
It's a very delicate situation, and all I can say is that when I found myself in it nothing helped more than keeping myself surrounded by people who truly cared for me, that's what you should do, avoid being alone for as long as you can and arrange things to do with your friends, get out a lot and if possible try meeting new people.
You probably should also get rid of every physical thing in your life that reminds you of her, the toughest part will be deleting her from your mind but looking at things that just remind you of moments isn't good at all.
I went through a similar situation about 2 years ago, no eating and bursts of tears and saddest as it may be, cry as much as you like, I think it helps relief the pain. Above all you mustn't loose your self-esteem.
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