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potgrrl
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Re: Dumped her... [Re: dummy]
#14290461 - 04/14/11 02:34 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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dummy said: no you're right. its really easy to try to put the blame on her.
Breaking up is okay. It doesn't mean either of you are wrong, have problems, are screwed up, or anything else under the sun.
Sometimes the mix just doesn't gel. That's okay, it's fun to experiment in the mean time
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TrustYourSelf
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Re: Dumped her... [Re: dummy]
#14290568 - 04/14/11 02:53 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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dummy said: no you're right. its really easy to try to put the blame on her.
A relationship is a 2 way deal. But if you can't trust her, how would it ever work? Even if you forgive her will you forget when she hurt you?
I don't know the whole situation. But you should know how things felt, and how things feel. Sometimes it just isn't going to work.
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MushroomTrip
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Re: Dumped her... [Re: dummy]
#14291056 - 04/14/11 04:12 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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dummy said: ya it happened when we were broken up.
So perhaps you need to clarify why you accused TTT of not understanding your otherwise complex situation. 
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so sure she had every right to do what she did.
When, in fact, you own her?
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but all the while we were broken up she was stringing me along tellling me she'd love to stay friends.
How this implies her not making out with other people, only you know. 
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i finally got tired of being her 'friend' so i stopped talking to her. a week after that we got back together.
Lovely. So, while you weren't a couple anymore, she had the nerve of making out with someone else. Then, you get back together, everything is fine for a while, and then you suddenly remember that you need to bring up bad stuff from the past. She is honest enough to tell you she made out with a guy while you were broken up, and you dump her. Sounds to me like you were just looking for reasons to punish her for the fact that she broke up with you in the first place, and, since you had supposedly forgave her for that, you needed another reason credible enough.
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what really upset me isn't the act of making out while broken up, but that she couldn't admit to me that she did that.
Wait, but I thought she did tell you she made out with another guy. Were you expecting her to tell you this as soon as you got back together, as if she owed that to you? Perhaps you would have also liked a full report of each time she pooped all that while.
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Humility
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Man I read halfway through this shit and started getting depressed as hell.
If you really honestly care about someone you're going to be thinking about them like yourself and you aren't going to make decisions that are going to rip them up inside. That doesn't mean you forsake your own feelings and needs.
OP - I highly recommend you leave this girl alone. Anyone you're there for who isn't there for you when you need them isn't worth keeping around.
Furthermore,leading you on about a guy she's attracted to (LOL WE LOVE TO TALK WITH EACH OTHER) is unacceptable behavior. Really though, you shouldn't have asked and to be honest this is a mild behavior, as many others have mentioned.
In general I think there's a low probablity of broken-up couples to successfully get back together for prolonged periods of time (3-5+ years)
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