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Spin240
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: AIRDOG]
#14851437 - 07/31/11 12:38 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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AIRDOG said: get a better girl .... and dump that tricky manipulating slut
perhaps ram her in the ass before dumping her??
I have done this and I approve of this message.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: llevitron]
#14851613 - 07/31/11 01:17 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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She'll cheat on you again. Except she'll learn not to tell.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: llevitron]
#14851722 - 07/31/11 01:43 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Heffy said: The one thing I haven't seen anybody mention in this whole thread.....
Did they use protection? Probably like 99% chance no.
What is with people these days?
So if this guy is a sexual predator aren't you worried you both have the clap now?
Have you not even thought about this?
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Heffy]
#14851730 - 07/31/11 01:45 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Its the clap
But who cares?
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: dshow]
#14851745 - 07/31/11 01:47 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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5 pages of talking about feelings, and nobody bothered to consider if this guy infected her with a disease, or worse a child?
OP should care.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Heffy]
#14851791 - 07/31/11 01:56 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Pregnancy is the worst STD.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: pickeroo]
#14851858 - 07/31/11 02:10 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sorry Op. Sounds like a bad scene.
As I see it, both your GF and the guy who fucked her made some poor decisions while under the influence.
I hope that you find some resolution.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: llevitron]
#14851912 - 07/31/11 02:19 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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dshow said: WTF HAPPENED !!!!!!!!
I still don't forgive the guy, though... The dude is like 26 and still parties with highschool girls and shit.... He's looking for one thing and in my case, he got it.... He knew she had a boyfriend, that didn't deter him... he didn't respect that. The guy is a scrawny fucking Facebook whore who is "one of those" who takes mirror pics of himself with his shirt off and shit... I don't like those people to begin with... but he's a predator... the type of male I fucking detest and would have half a mind to beat the shit out of anyway. I've yet to see him downtown other than with my girlfriend the day at Walmart.... but we live in a town of about 6000 people, so we're going to see eachother again at some point. I know it won't solve anything or make the situation much better, but I truly think that when that day comes, I will drop his ass... I'm human.... I still have somewhat of an animal nature in me..... and he fucked me over.... so the way I see it, I've yet to return the favor. And I honestly think it'd make me feel better on some low level.
Thanks for listening, guys... And sorry, again, for leaving you all hanging. I hope this update helps.
Some of the stuff you mention does sound reassuring. However, I think you should be cautious about the kind of precedent it might set. If forgiveness feels good and brings you closer, you might be setting yourself up to go through all this once again.
The graf I quote above is not reassuring. It sounds like this kid could use a talking to. I wouldn't go into the situation with my dukes up or a chip on my shoulder, but I would be inclined to confront him, let him know what you think of his character, and if he doesn't get it, begin to tease him about it. Regularly. Unrelentingly. Let him know who is under whose thumb. Because that fucker had no problem bothering your girlfriend in her workplace after causing you both a lot of trouble.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Me_Roy]
#14852748 - 07/31/11 05:54 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeha, i'd make it a point to tarnish this punk's reputation in your tiny little town.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: memes]
#14855968 - 08/01/11 11:27 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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When I went on a class trip once, my gf went to her best friend's college (a girl) to hang out. One night, they went to a party, and after drinking some time, she woke up in some guys' room she was talking to earlier, but with her shirt off. She was sure they didn't have sex with her. Upon telling me the next day, I demanded she get to a hospital. She did, and it turns out those fuckers (or somebody) put roofies in her drink. Fortunately, they confirmed that nobody had sex with her that night.
On another occassion, she went to hang out with 2 of her old friends from high school (both male). They went out and then drank at the house a while (I didn't go cuz I felt one of her friends was a big douche and because I had work at 6 AM the next day). She decided to sleep there because she drank too much to drive; although, she was nowhere near blackout drunk. She woke up in the middle of the night with one of those friends (coincidently the one who I thought was a douche) ontop of her, trying to stick his dick in her.
I'm not one to go split this guys skull open because I'm not one to hunt people down and because of the trouble it would land me in. However, I pushed to have her press charges, but she was so ashamed and felt so stupid that she didn't want to pursue it. She didn't want her name in the paper and to bear the embarrassment of everyone in her small town knowing she'd been raped. That and this guy was her best friend all through high school. Maybe she wanted to spare him the legal problems, maybe she felt too betrayed and confused, but she let it go. She just eliminated him from her life. Well, if that's the way she wanted to handle it, then I decided to respect that.
But fuck, it makes you realize how many fucking sleez bag guys there are out there. She never partied without me present again, and that was about 6 years ago now.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Anonymous #8]
#14856101 - 08/01/11 11:56 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: memes]
#14856164 - 08/01/11 12:13 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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My gf, too, was raped in high school. That was before we got together. I never met the assailant, but she didn't pursue the matter at all then for the same reason. Too ashamed. That, and he threatened to kill her if she told. I think it even happened to her multiple times by him because he was a neighbor and her mother was a drunken, negligent asshole who cared nothing for the safety and well-being of her children. That time really seemed to scar her because I didn't get too many details from her about it. The second time by her former best friend didn't seem to impact her as much. Maybe she was hardened as a result of the trauma of the first incidence(s). She is quite afraid to do anything on her own anymore, though. And I can't blame her.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: memes]
#14856168 - 08/01/11 12:14 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: She didn't want her name in the paper and to bear the embarrassment of everyone in her small town knowing she'd been raped. That and this guy was her best friend all through high school. Maybe she wanted to spare him the legal problems, maybe she felt too betrayed and confused, but she let it go. She just eliminated him from her life. Well, if that's the way she wanted to handle it, then I decided to respect that.
But fuck, it makes you realize how many fucking sleez bag guys there are out there. She never partied without me present again, and that was about 6 years ago now.
The same reason my girl didnt press rape charges when she was in HS. The same reason so many women keep quiet and let their abusers live on and continue their horrible deeds.
Which is why rape laws need reformation. IT should be illegal for police to report on any open investigations, it should be illegal for papers to publish the names of those involved. You can't stop word of mouth, but rumors are rumors until someone is in jail - and by then its more than apparent that they belong there.
It usually is official policy to not comment on open investigations. Unfortunately it's human nature to talk and things get around fast, and by the nature of investigations anyone they interview about at can pretty quickly figure out what they're asking even if it's phrased discretely. If I remember correctly Canada does have laws against publishing victims' names in sexual assaults, would actually be nice to have that here.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: pwnasaurus]
#14857588 - 08/01/11 05:19 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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withoutawire said: Your girlfriend cheated on you.
That guy is not a good friend. He is not accountable for ANYTHING and you shouldn't blame people who have NO blame.
Intoxication is not a legal excuse for any crime and it shouldn't be an excuse for cheating. I hope you work it out, but she did it. Not the guy. You have to work it out with her, and I hope you do.
I don't know about the States, but in Canada intoxication IS a legal defense for I believe everything except for murder.
That's great, and I will look into that more. If you rob a liquor store with a gun in Canada but you are heavily under the infulence... that's a pretty sweet law. If you are intoxicated you can use it with legal defense to rob banks and rape woman.
I doubt it's that simple.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: memes]
#14857870 - 08/01/11 06:13 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: She didn't want her name in the paper and to bear the embarrassment of everyone in her small town knowing she'd been raped. That and this guy was her best friend all through high school. Maybe she wanted to spare him the legal problems, maybe she felt too betrayed and confused, but she let it go. She just eliminated him from her life. Well, if that's the way she wanted to handle it, then I decided to respect that.
But fuck, it makes you realize how many fucking sleez bag guys there are out there. She never partied without me present again, and that was about 6 years ago now.
The same reason my girl didnt press rape charges when she was in HS. The same reason so many women keep quiet and let their abusers live on and continue their horrible deeds.
Which is why rape laws need reformation. IT should be illegal for police to report on any open investigations, it should be illegal for papers to publish the names of those involved. You can't stop word of mouth, but rumors are rumors until someone is in jail - and by then its more than apparent that they belong there.
I once had these 2 friends. Well the girl got drunk during school lunch hour in highschool (was open campus) she later went on to press charges against the guy saying he raped her. He lost all his friends including me. 4 years down the road i started hanging out with him again. And i hung out with some friends that hung out with that same girl. They invited her over to my party. I mentioned he was going to come as well. She was ok with it. He told me fuck no, that stupid bitch ruined my life, i wont fucking touch your property while that bitch is there.
The lesson i learned was she didnt get raped, she got too fucking drunk and he was drunk as well. They did some shit and half way or more through it she figured she didnt want it anymore, So she called rape.
What a fucking bitch. I know now she was the liar. He was scared to come around her, and she was totally cool with it? Yea he didnt rape her, she ruined his life.
On top of that. YES some guys are sleez bags. But women can be fucking stupid as hell. Dont fucking drink and get trashed to where shit can happen to you. On top of that they are still trashed when they wake up and they call "rape" Thats bullshit.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: withoutawire]
#14858285 - 08/01/11 07:53 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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withoutawire said: Your girlfriend cheated on you.
That guy is not a good friend. He is not accountable for ANYTHING and you shouldn't blame people who have NO blame.
Intoxication is not a legal excuse for any crime and it shouldn't be an excuse for cheating. I hope you work it out, but she did it. Not the guy. You have to work it out with her, and I hope you do.
I don't know about the States, but in Canada intoxication IS a legal defense for I believe everything except for murder.
That's great, and I will look into that more. If you rob a liquor store with a gun in Canada but you are heavily under the infulence... that's a pretty sweet law. If you are intoxicated you can use it with legal defense to rob banks and rape woman.
I doubt it's that simple.
I'm sure it's not that simple, but I'm just pointing it out. I'm pretty sure you need to be intoxicated to the point of not remembering anything kinda deal - obviously this would be very difficult to prove in a court of law.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: pwnasaurus]
#14858638 - 08/01/11 09:01 PM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Forget the advice I gave before, I would cheat on you too
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: dshow]
#14860308 - 08/02/11 06:54 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: memes]
#14860412 - 08/02/11 07:31 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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I once had these 2 friends. Well the girl got drunk during school lunch hour in highschool (was open campus) she later went on to press charges against the guy saying he raped her. He lost all his friends including me. 4 years down the road i started hanging out with him again. And i hung out with some friends that hung out with that same girl. They invited her over to my party. I mentioned he was going to come as well. She was ok with it. He told me fuck no, that stupid bitch ruined my life, i wont fucking touch your property while that bitch is there.
The lesson i learned was she didnt get raped, she got too fucking drunk and he was drunk as well. They did some shit and half way or more through it she figured she didnt want it anymore, So she called rape.
What a fucking bitch. I know now she was the liar. He was scared to come around her, and she was totally cool with it? Yea he didnt rape her, she ruined his life.
On top of that. YES some guys are sleez bags. But women can be fucking stupid as hell. Dont fucking drink and get trashed to where shit can happen to you. On top of that they are still trashed when they wake up and they call "rape" Thats bullshit.
I Love how every time theres a thread talking about countless stories of women NOT going to police because they're ashamed, some dickhole with no empathy brings up one of the MUCH LESS FREQUENT instances where some stupid bitch cries rape to get out of something. And guess what ----- false cries of rape RARELY lead to prosecution. Unreported rapes ALWYAS lead to years (if not decades, as with the lolve of MY life) of bad dreams, bad body memories, feeling terrible any time the word 'rape' comes up casually in conversation, etc.
So, dshow, I appreciate your side of the argument, but its shit.
lol really? This is not sometimes. This happens all the time. Tons of stupid bitches getting incredibly shit faced with guys who are also incredibly shit faced. If a chick had a stick instead of a hole you would see rape left and right. NOTE dont be a dumb little bitch and get wasted around people you dont hang out with on a regular bases. The fact that it DOES happen does not excuse it. Stop ignoring the truth.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: dshow]
#14860450 - 08/02/11 07:43 AM (12 years, 5 months ago) |
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I simply state a story like you did. Any you FLAME me for it? lol what a joke man. Grow up and accept that it happens both ways.
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