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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Maverick]
#14343530 - 04/24/11 01:37 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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ive been waiting to see what happened for almost 2 weeks now
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: MushroomTrip] 1
#14347964 - 04/25/11 08:25 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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The relationship wont ever be the same.. Somone that loves you with all there heart dosent need anybody else but you.
I am sorry you got cheated on and that someone you trusted and loved decided to fuck with your trust in them, but from that to saying that when someone loves you they need only you is a VERY long way. Is it possible for someone to honestly love more than one person at the same time, or simply feel attracted to someone else. Thinking that someone who loves you should only constantly want and need only you can bring a lot of suffering into your life because it's not how things happen in reality and it also doesn't give you the opportunity to be in a real relationship with the person you love.
i agree with you mushroomtrip. I don't think it's sane or healthy to seek emotional/mental/spiritual fulfillment from another human being. find that sense of well being and wholeness within yourself first and then perhaps you can have a healthy relationship with a partner. cheating happens so often and i don't think it's necessarily because the person is bad, mean,evil or an asshole or whore. it's because they are not honest with themselves or their partner. perhaps if we all talked more openly and communicated honestly about feelings and desires, there would be less cheating and deceit. furthermore i don't know if i believe that there is ONE person who will always and forever satisfy me. this is not a disney movie, folks, it's real life.
the desire we have to experience closeness with another human beings is dangerous in that it causes us to stay in relationships past their expiration date, and with people we sometimes don't even really like because the alternative of being alone & lonely is such a hard pill to swallow.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: llevitron]
#14350078 - 04/25/11 04:38 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Seconding these two bits:
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pyronym said: Sorry drugs are not an excuse to cheat. Getting fucked up does not equal - losing all control. It makes it EASIER to do stuff / lowers inhibitions but you still have free will. She WANTED to kiss him back, she WANTED to fuck him. Sure she was drunk, I have made a lot of stupid sex decisions drunk. But the fact is I still made that decision. Its a lot easier to do when drunk, but in the end it all comes down to her
I've blacked out, so I know what it's like to wake up and have no recollection of actions you took the night prior. But, not remembering murdering someone doesn't make me not a murderer (not that I am, just an example :p). The choice to consume as much alcohol as I did, around the people I was with, that was my choice. Anything that followed was also my choice.
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pyronym said: Tell her that if she doesn't file rape charges against him its just going to happen over and over again to other girls. If she won't file it's because the sex was consensual. That should tell you all you need to know.
TBH I would like to know why they haven't been filed already?
This. But, like the other guy said, she's not off the hook yet. You guys will still have to work through this. "No getting trashed around people who won't look after you", or maybe simply "No getting trashed". If she is truly sorry for what happened and cares for you, she should want something to ensure it doesn't ever happen again. You shouldn't have to force it out of her, either; it should be of her own accord.
[Edit: Oh hell, I didn't even notice this thread had 4 pages. Doh]
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: p_walter]
#14350193 - 04/25/11 05:00 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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do people even read the threads???? ive seen like 5 people post when its already been 2 weeks and no answer from OP.. read the ENTIRE THREAD BEFORE YOU POST
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: dshow]
#14350222 - 04/25/11 05:06 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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yeah OP has totally left us hanging.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: yogabunny]
#14350480 - 04/25/11 05:50 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Trolled........
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: joe666]
#14350717 - 04/25/11 06:31 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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i read this whole fucking thread damn it!! bitch flaky RP
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Micawber]
#14357838 - 04/26/11 09:25 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I want to know what happened now. I hope you broke up with her OP. Like so many people have said that trust will never be where it was. That taint will always be on your relationship. Deal with the sharp pain of getting shit on and then heal as we all do instead of staying in a withering relationship. Some people can make these things work but I think those people are either super evolved creautres (which I doubt in 99% of the cases) or they just deal with that taint everyday for the rest of their lives which is totally unnatural and toxic.
I can commiserate with your story quite a bit too OP at least from the ones in this thread who have shown you a different perspective, the one that your girl made a conscious choice to do what she did regardless of alcohol intake. Too many things brought up smack strongly of covering up her actions with lesser lies.
As for my story I was dating this girl for 4 years and we had a pretty good relationship for the most part. We both go home for Christmas and we go our separate ways to our families for break and we are on the same flight back to Cali at the end of break. She breaks it to me in the middle of the flight from NY to San Fran that she cheated on me on New Year's with another guy. She of course blamed the insane amounts of alcohol and drugs and other things but she didn't try and hide behind a blackout story. I still had TWO AND A HALF HOURS of being stuck sitting next to her on a goddamn plane having to endure the heartbreak with nowhere to escape to. aljfda;oj ao jaoi;jals jois; ajaojifaswitjkdlaj irhqw uqh uiqbh uighnqiulgnrjing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Words cannot describe the agony but you know, OP, you know. I didn't make the mistake of trying to patch things up. As soon as I was clear from her and that plane ride from hell I dumped her immediately and kicked her out of my place. I was with her for 4 years but I was so shattered at the news I lost all emotion. I was floating in a void able to make the decision without regret because I could no longer feel the pain I was just resolute in my decision to get her out of my life. I'm so glad I did. Don't stick around. You'll hate yourself, grow to hate her and you'll never regain what's been lost.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Bipolarbear]
#14358068 - 04/26/11 09:59 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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You'll hate yourself, grow to hate her and you'll never regain what's been lost.
This.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14360645 - 04/27/11 11:24 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Personally - If a girl ever did that, I'd leave her and never look back.
When this kind of thing happens, it's not all the guys fault.
I've been drunk as fuck and knew exactly what I was doing and had complete control over my body. I know that I'm not allowed to fuck girls, or let girls touch me or that I shouldn't touch girls.
She has boundary issues and they are just more pronounced when she is drunk. This will not be the last time this kind of thing happens.
I've done different drugs, and none of them ever turned me into some kind of zombie that cant control myself.
So I say unto you. Leave this drama causing "I was raped" bitch in the dust.
You'll thank me in the future if you do.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Anonymous #6]
#14375595 - 04/30/11 12:24 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Hey everyone....... No, I'm not trolling.
I'll update you all tomorrow. All is well.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: llevitron]
#14375631 - 04/30/11 12:36 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Dejavu. holy shit 
I actually saw that. that was crazy. anyways. yea. cool hope to hear from you sometimes this week.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: dshow]
#14375657 - 04/30/11 12:45 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Wow man that really sucks, I hope you're ok.
To me it wouldn't be a big deal, past couple relationships I had were slightly open ones but if I were you I'd be thinking about the fact that she was up alone drinking with this guy and that's what aloud it to happen. I'm sorry but it doesn't sound like an accident to me.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Mr. Anderson]
#14375697 - 04/30/11 01:04 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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To me it wouldn't be a big deal, past couple relationships I had were slightly open ones but if I were you I'd be thinking about the fact that she was up alone drinking with this guy and that's what aloud it to happen. I'm sorry but it doesn't sound like an accident to me.
yo omfg. read the whole thread before you post. fucking stupid brahhhhsky. Otherwise you look kinda
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: dshow]
#14375736 - 04/30/11 01:18 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Man I read the whole fuckn post.
And who the fk r u?
Ok so you've been waiting 2 weeks to see what happened, so fkn what.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Mr. Anderson]
#14375755 - 04/30/11 01:28 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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when you wait 2 weeks... it gets annoying seeing people post when the discussion was over awhile back lol
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: dshow]
#14375759 - 04/30/11 01:29 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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So fuckn wat, I said what I felt wtf's it to you. I wasn't talkin to you.
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: Mr. Anderson]
#14423235 - 05/09/11 06:10 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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9 days later and still no update!
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: AUX]
#14423254 - 05/09/11 06:22 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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AUX said: 9 days later and still no update!
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Re: She cheated on me... Not exactly "willfully"... [Re: memes]
#14423269 - 05/09/11 06:28 AM (12 years, 8 months ago) |
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Maybe he's in jail? lol
if it were me I'd kick his fucking ass Seabass 
Goodluck
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