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JackthaTripper
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Celibacy
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I have been celibate now for about six months, that includes no sex AND no masturbation. It's been something I've wanted to do for a while but had never been successful in the past, but something happened that was a great motivator.... My toddler daughter was hospitalized, she would have these fits of great pain that would render her hopeless on the floor contorting and wrenching with pain rolling around screaming.... it was a really tough experience to see my baby girl in so much pain and the doctors couldn't tell me why, and all they could do was give her morphine injections when the extreme pain came. I was willing to do anything to help her, and I prayed to God for mercy and for help, to relieve her of the pain and help the doctors figure out what was wrong.... but there was one problem, I was still having sex before marriage and jacking off and this hypocritical quandary ALWAYS came to my mind when I was praying and knew I couldn't pray to God to ask for help with my daughter while not being right with his wishes. The other side of this is having my daughters (had another baby girl 2 months ago) has made me really reconsider the way I perceive women... how can I watch a porno and lust after these girls when I would be deeply saddened to find out my daughters had ever been engaged in such behavior? So with theses two things on my mind the solution was clear, I needed to stop my sinful sexual ways so I made the choice then to stop all deviant sexuality. I knew it would be hard as I've tried to stop before but I had greater motivation this time, this was my first 'high' I ever had (aside from a doctor overdosing me in a hospital when I was a kid which caused hallucinations before I passed out) and I've been 'addicted' to this 'high' for over a decade, also this was probably my first big sin all those years ago and the behavior has stuck with me... but I was deeply motivated and had success and have been celibate for about half a year. Well after doing every test available they were stumped but one doctor theorized that it may be abdominal migraines and gave her some medicine and she hasn't had a pain attack since! Aside from the theological benefits, I have been more focused, and my thought processes have become enhanced, oh and it's freed up a lot of time for me to ponder things other than sex! Any of you ever try to give up sex and/or masturbation? Were you successful?
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Is a celibate life more stressful?
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Re: Celibacy [Re: sk8fast]
#14267170 - 04/10/11 01:42 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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i did one time for a summer and a bit more than that actually. I was largely unchanged outwardly. My inner thoughts were the exact same, minus sexual ones. Everything was pretty neutral. It eliminated my bad habits that involved sexuality by eliminating it all. Over net benefit was good, but I can't quit being sexual if I wanted to now. The few FWB's i have acquired would rape me lol. I wish I was a crappy sexer, then they would just tell me to GTFO and I could flip a coin to as what I should do again.
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How completely foreign it is to me to see sexuality tied up with religion.
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knew I couldn't pray to God to ask for help with my daughter while not being right with his wishes.
That's like saying God would punish you for whackin' off by giving your daughter terrible pain.
I can't get into this thread without debating the rediculous nature of religion so I'll just say this...
The only time I have chosen celibacy was for three months after I split up with my ex-wife. I wanted three months with no dating and to figure out some things. I still whacked it, though.
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This thread may be of interest to you.
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Re: Celibacy [Re: WScott]
#14268098 - 04/10/11 05:34 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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sk8fast said: Is a celibate life more stressful?
Quite the contrary I would say. Thinking back there was actually more stressn about trying to hook up with chicks and rejection and all that, now I just look at them all with a new eye (and I think they sense that and truthfully I think with this I could probably pick up more chicks, wierd how that works). Adding to that when I would start a new relationship I would get the same vibe, somehow they can sense I am unavailable and they want me more.
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automan said: How completely foreign it is to me to see sexuality tied up with religion.
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knew I couldn't pray to God to ask for help with my daughter while not being right with his wishes.
That's like saying God would punish you for whackin' off by giving your daughter terrible pain.
I can't get into this thread without debating the rediculous nature of religion so I'll just say this...
The only time I have chosen celibacy was for three months after I split up with my ex-wife. I wanted three months with no dating and to figure out some things. I still whacked it, though.
Yeah this thread really isn't about religion except for indirectly but I can defend what I believe because really I spent about a decade figuring it all out...organized religion like Catholicism have extremely corrupted the word of God and they themselves are corrupt. My religious stance centers around a personal relationship with God and living by the principles laid out by him in the Holy book.
I know God is both loving and wrathful so I don't know what God would do or not, but the point was for me to come to him and ask for his help I felt I needed to be doing the things he has asked of me.
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WScott said: This thread may be of interest to you.
Thanks! I'll read through and comment.
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do you have wet dreams? do they not count?
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sacred sex - science this site has a wealth of information on scientific chastity.
I have been conserving and transmuting the sexual force for about 3.5 years. there are a lot of other people out there doing the same.
Celibacy is a phenomenal first step, but you have to do something else with the energy or it will be wasted.
A good intro book, "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow"
that website is where the information is at though. Good luck to you.
I hope your daughter's condition has improved. I can imagine it must have been heartwrenching to see your child in so much pain.
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schmoopy said: sacred sex - science this site has a wealth of information on scientific chastity.
I have been conserving and transmuting the sexual force for about 3.5 years. there are a lot of other people out there doing the same.
Celibacy is a phenomenal first step, but you have to do something else with the energy or it will be wasted.
A good intro book, "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow"
that website is where the information is at though. Good luck to you.
I hope your daughter's condition has improved. I can imagine it must have been heartwrenching to see your child in so much pain.
i like cupid's poison arrow, but that first site... seemed largely an extreme lie. Yes there are chronic masturbators in asylums... but that doesn't mean one will enter one by doing the first.
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Re: Celibacy [Re: Lennyk]
#14271644 - 04/11/11 10:53 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I would just encourage discernment when reading and taking in new information. We live in a place where we are inundated with lies on a daily basis. Don't accept it or reject. Just some food for thought.
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The Buddha believe moderation was key.
Sex is no exception.
In excess sex is largely disgusting and wasteful. When you make it something special it can be very beautiful. Its 2 lovers coming together.
Orgasm means tiny death. When i had great sex there would be that brief moment staring into each others eyes where it seemed there was no separation between us.
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holy shit man, i'm really sorry anyone has to go through something like that. though i can't relate at all as i don't have a youngster of my own, i can imagine that it must be something i can't even imagine. that being said, i think you're wrongfully punishing yourself. i understand you have some women of your own to bring up and so objectifying them as one might during masturbation may be off putting, and i agree the porn industry is to some extent ruining womankind's imagine, but i still don't see how depriving yourself of bodily functions is necessary. i've recently heard some anecdotal info about regular ejaculation preventing (statistically speaking) prostate cancer.
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I went celibate from the age of 18-22.
It was a mistake, in retrospect, but my motivation was different and circumstances moreso.
Cannot agree with methods based on 'theology', or 'theological gain', but if you are finding the effect positive then all power to you.  
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JackthaTripper
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Anonymous said: do you have wet dreams? do they not count?
Yes this is something I am "struggling" with... I do have wet dreams and since it is a subconscious experience I don't think it is something I can control. I'm not sure if these are sinful, I would think not but IDK....
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schmoopy said: sacred sex - science this site has a wealth of information on scientific chastity.
I have been conserving and transmuting the sexual force for about 3.5 years. there are a lot of other people out there doing the same.
Celibacy is a phenomenal first step, but you have to do something else with the energy or it will be wasted.
A good intro book, "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow"
that website is where the information is at though. Good luck to you.
I hope your daughter's condition has improved. I can imagine it must have been heartwrenching to see your child in so much pain.
Thank you for the info I'll check them out! I am focusing my energy on my work and more specifically my thesis which I am working really hard on right now. When I graduate this next week I will switch my focus to chemistry and other basement science (all legal of course due to me having children), I have such a thirst for science and knowledge in general and think this will consume my energy so that the excess will not be wasted.
To the others that had kind words and comments, thank you!
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Re: Celibacy [Re: sk8fast]
#14564411 - 06/05/11 12:06 PM (12 years, 7 months ago) |
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sk8fast said: Is a celibate life more stressful?
i don't consider myself celibate because i do sometimes masturbate. However, i have not been sexually involved with anyone in any cpacity in almost four years!!! (i'm heterosexual just so you know.)I screwed a lot in high school... a lot. I got to college, took some good L, and it dawned on me that i was wasting precious time chasing pussy when i should have been bettering myself physically and mentally. And so i did. I quit having sex and started backpacking frequently again. The main reason i quit though, was to give myself more time to explore the depths of my own consciousness, and im still only just beginning. You'd be amazed hom much less stressful life is when you aren't trying to score every couple days. I dont have to work to get into my hand lol, and that way is a lot quicker too. 10 minutes and the desire is quieted for a few days. i wouldn't even masturbate if not for potential adverse health effects (check the "vow of celibacy" thread from 2010, it has more info on this.) It's believed that if one stops climaxing all together it can adversely effect the ability to procreate and i guess i MIGHT want to do that eventually so i'm not gonna risk it. good luck to you and especially to your daughter.
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