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breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me
#14255230 - 04/07/11 07:50 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I suppose I should consider myself lucky that this is, legitimately, the worst thing that has ever happened to me... I know people out there have to put up with abusive parents, poverty, hunger, mental illness, etc. None of that for me, really. Just the crushing agony of being separated from my rock in life, my one true love, that has slowly bled my heart dry over the past six months.
I've been sleeping around, generally fucking somebody a few times a week (multiple partners), trying to distract myself, to make myself feel valuable, to feel independent, but none of it really works, and in the end, I feel nothing but a gaping hole in my heart where the woman I love no longer exists at one with me.
I tried calling her today, and she wouldn't talk to me. She said, "What do you want?" I said, "I want to say hello, and find out how you're doing." She said, "Hello. I'm fine." And that was the end of the conversation.
WHEN IS THIS GOING TO STOP HURTING FOR THE LOVE OF GOD
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Sophistic Radiance] 1
#14255236 - 04/07/11 07:51 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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dont try to contact her. you just ripped open your healing wound
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: JesusGoneRogue]
#14255244 - 04/07/11 07:53 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I'm sorry man, I wish I could smoke a blunt and chill with you, that usually helps a little.
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Sophistic Radiance]
#14255246 - 04/07/11 07:54 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Fucking random chicks makes you feel valuable?
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Caine]
#14255250 - 04/07/11 07:54 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Caine said: I'm sorry man, I wish I could smoke a blunt and chill with you, that usually helps a little. 
I appreciate the thought. I actually just hit up one of my homies to chill and we will undoubtedly get faded and have a few beers, so I bet that will help, at least for tonight.
JesusGoneRogue, I feel like how Mickey looks in your avatar.
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: robbyberto]
#14255251 - 04/07/11 07:55 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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robbyberto said: Fucking random chicks makes you feel valuable?
Not really, but on some level I expect it to.
Sad, isn't it?
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: robbyberto]
#14255255 - 04/07/11 07:55 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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no substitute for time
just dont kill yourself
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: dr_gonz]
#14255256 - 04/07/11 07:56 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I hate to be cliche, but time does heal all wounds. I actually just broke up with my boyfriend today. I feel terrible about it, because it hurts so bad to have your heart ripped out and stomped on.
It's hard to force yourself to do other things, but just being with friends and family and people who care about you can help alot, just knowing that you are not alone. You will be better eventually, but it always takes time (at least it has for me).
I'm really sorry to hear that though, breaking up is hard to do
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Ballerium]
#14255266 - 04/07/11 07:58 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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think i know somewhat how you feel op, it sucks but just gotta keep on i think
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Ballerium]
#14255277 - 04/07/11 08:01 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I suppose time is indeed what I need, but in the meantime I find myself literally in physical pain whenever I think about it. It makes my whole body hurt.
If I try to think about the future, I just can't imagine being happy with anybody else. Nobody can be to me what she was, and I never even realized exactly how important that was until it ended.
And it was mostly my fault that it ended. I suggested we have some type of "trial separation" thing because we were drifting apart into our mutually-exclusive responsibilities, and she suggested we simply broke up, and because I took it for granted that we were perfect for each other and would always reunite, I agreed without hesitation. I now regard it as the worst mistake of my life.
I'm not the self-killing type but I am feeling incredibly about it.
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Sophistic Radiance]
#14255283 - 04/07/11 08:02 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Tchan909 said:
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Caine said: I'm sorry man, I wish I could smoke a blunt and chill with you, that usually helps a little. 
I appreciate the thought. I actually just hit up one of my homies to chill and we will undoubtedly get faded and have a few beers, so I bet that will help, at least for tonight.
JesusGoneRogue, I feel like how Mickey looks in your avatar.
their their man. when my and my ex broke up, i felt EXACTLY how you feel. no matter what i tried to do to think ohterwise. fortunately for me an acid trip opened my eyes to a different perspective. and i've been better since.
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: JesusGoneRogue]
#14255288 - 04/07/11 08:03 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Nordique]
#14255290 - 04/07/11 08:04 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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/metalocolypse
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Sophistic Radiance]
#14255294 - 04/07/11 08:04 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Sorry if this sounds harsh, I don't really care if it does because this is my opinion but on these sorts of topics I'm told I come of harsh.
People need to man the FUCK up. You have to understand that you do not control her. A relationship is between two people, if it doesn't work out you have to respect that. You can't change her feelings and emotions, you have to let her be her and you be you. I never got upset over a breakup like this.
I mean yeah, it fucking sucks but only for like a day. Falling is a part of life, get the fuck back up. People need to understand that you don't get it your way all the time in life and shit changes at a rapid pace. You have to keep up with it and prepare to deal with the change.
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Sophistic Radiance]
#14255298 - 04/07/11 08:05 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Tchan909 said: I suppose time is indeed what I need, but in the meantime I find myself literally in physical pain whenever I think about it. It makes my whole body hurt.
If I try to think about the future, I just can't imagine being happy with anybody else. Nobody can be to me what she was, and I never even realized exactly how important that was until it ended.
And it was mostly my fault that it ended. I suggested we have some type of "trial separation" thing because we were drifting apart into our mutually-exclusive responsibilities, and she suggested we simply broke up, and because I took it for granted that we were perfect for each other and would always reunite, I agreed without hesitation. I now regard it as the worst mistake of my life.
I'm not the self-killing type but I am feeling incredibly about it.
yeah dude, i know what you mean, same thing sorta happened to me 'cept i got the silent treatment back and i also feel like i kept too much distance, didn't really appreciate it as much at the time, i mean it wasn't that long a thing, but i'm just switching my perspective to just kick more ass at this point........ i don't know- emotions are fucked up and things change.
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Sophistic Radiance] 1
#14255306 - 04/07/11 08:06 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Tchan909 said: I suppose time is indeed what I need, but in the meantime I find myself literally in physical pain whenever I think about it. It makes my whole body hurt.
If I try to think about the future, I just can't imagine being happy with anybody else. Nobody can be to me what she was, and I never even realized exactly how important that was until it ended.
And it was mostly my fault that it ended. I suggested we have some type of "trial separation" thing because we were drifting apart into our mutually-exclusive responsibilities, and she suggested we simply broke up, and because I took it for granted that we were perfect for each other and would always reunite, I agreed without hesitation. I now regard it as the worst mistake of my life.
I'm not the self-killing type but I am feeling incredibly about it.
I think it's perfectly normal for you to feel that way. Breaking up is a traumatic thing, especially for the one who didn't want it. I have felt exactly how you did. I went several years after I was broken up with by my first ex before I got together with my boyfriend, and I felt so hopeless, like I would be alone for the rest of my life. I felt like there was nobody else who would ever be perfect for me, but you find people when you least expect it. There are so many other people out there. You WILL find the one for you, you just have to be patient.
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Sophistic Radiance]
#14255307 - 04/07/11 08:07 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Shit takes time.
Do everything you didnt do when you were with her. See old friends.
Stop fucking random people thinking that will replace her. That can just make things more depressing.
When enough time has passed you can find a girl who will fill that void. Just remember what this relationship taught you. If you forget what it taught you then the whole damn thing is in vain. But if you remember the lesson next time things will be different. The fact is we are compatible with many people. There wasn't 1 girl crafted for you. If you guys were drifting apart there was a reason. Things happen for a reason.
Remember what you learned, burn one with your friends, let time pass & get on with life.
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Funguspants]
#14255308 - 04/07/11 08:07 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Funguspants said: Sorry if this sounds harsh, I don't really care if it does because this is my opinion but on these sorts of topics I'm told I come of harsh.
People need to man the FUCK up. You have to understand that you do not control her. A relationship is between two people, if it doesn't work out you have to respect that. You can't change her feelings and emotions, you have to let her be her and you be you. I never got upset over a breakup like this.
I mean yeah, it fucking sucks but only for like a day. Falling is a part of life, get the fuck back up. People need to understand that you don't get it your way all the time in life and shit changes at a rapid pace. You have to keep up with it and prepare to deal with the change.

Yeah you're fit to comment on this for sure. You obviously know a whole lot about life and relationships
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Re: breaking up is the worst thing that's ever happened to me [Re: Funguspants]
#14255312 - 04/07/11 08:07 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Funguspants said: Sorry if this sounds harsh, I don't really care if it does because this is my opinion but on these sorts of topics I'm told I come of harsh.
People need to man the FUCK up. You have to understand that you do not control her. A relationship is between two people, if it doesn't work out you have to respect that. You can't change her feelings and emotions, you have to let her be her and you be you. I never got upset over a breakup like this.
I mean yeah, it fucking sucks but only for like a day. Falling is a part of life, get the fuck back up. People need to understand that you don't get it your way all the time in life and shit changes at a rapid pace. You have to keep up with it and prepare to deal with the change.
It's been six months. I'm not trying to control anybody, I'm just trying to cope with my own pain. And fuck you too, thanks.
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