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TrustYourSelf
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Registered: 04/13/11
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Last seen: 12 years, 8 months
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Anonymous said: I think you're insecure and should seek therapy. Or find a girl not to be insecure about.
I played the "you can see you ex card". While we were together she never cheated. But if she's talking to her ex that means they're closer than if they weren't talking.
When we broke up it was obvious she wanted to get back with him. She lined it up, but he ex wouldn't go for it.
Its awkward as fuck for your girl to still talk to her ex. Generally they still feel something. I feel something for the chick that tore my heart out and ate it. Chances are your chick feels something for the last asshole she met.
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The Lions Mane
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Registered: 04/14/11
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TrustYourSelf said:
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Anonymous said: I think you're insecure and should seek therapy. Or find a girl not to be insecure about.
I played the "you can see you ex card". While we were together she never cheated. But if she's talking to her ex that means they're closer than if they weren't talking. ..... Its awkward as fuck for your girl to still talk to her ex. Generally they still feel something. I feel something for the chick that tore my heart out and ate it. Chances are your chick feels something for the last asshole she met.
I was pretty close to the the girl mentioned above in a past relationship, and my views are pretty much the same.
I didn't cheat, and after our breakup I didn't want to get back with him - but I was confused. I never really gave much chance for healing to occur because I had already moved on to numb the pain. I was excited though, the new relationship was more passionate than anything I had experienced. However, each relationship is magnetic in the beginning and some people are perpetual daters. They fall in love easily and chances are, they'll move on if you confine them. It's not a good trait to have, believe me.
Anyway, point: most people have to figure out on their own that it's not healthy for them to talk to their ex right after a break up, and sometimes this is experienced the hard way.
The best advice that I could offer is to maybe slow things down a bit. Give her space to figure out what she wants. If you two are hanging out and he comes up a lot (or calls, etc) hang out with her a little less. The more sure she is with you and the less she's talking about him then the more serious it can get. You don't have to let her know that it bothers you - she will get the hint that it's disrespectful. The more she forms these opinions on her own the better.
Major risks doing this? She'll get back with her ex and leave you. But then you'll know if it was all true anyway. And, likely doing this will mean less time spent together (while she's confused and not totally into you) which = more confidence and happy times with the time that she is spending with you. Quality over quantity.
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