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JonnyOneNut
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Trouble moving on
#14237355 - 04/04/11 05:21 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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My girlfriend and I broke up about a year and a half ago. The first few months were hell for me and I was very depressed b/c I couldn't stop thinking about her and how much I missed her. I was OK during the summer and then I relapsed for some reason. I flat out asked her if any part of her wanted to be with me and she said no.
Every once in a while she would text/call or Facebook me, probably to keep me just close enough for whatever reason. Christmas came and I finally told her to delete my number, she said some pretty harsh things and she's only texted me once since. Yet, I think about her every single day, multiple times and I still miss her. I even dream about her..
There isn't a shortage of girls for me, but I rarely develop feelings for a girl because I'm very picky. What can I do to stop thinking/dreaming about her and missing her?
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Mad River
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Date. Develop a hobby.
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Zardos
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Re: Trouble moving on [Re: Mad River]
#14238209 - 04/04/11 07:59 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Mad River said: Date. Develop a hobby.
-------------------- December 1960: "They took the drug one evening at Leary's house and had a profound experience, during which Ginsburg prophetically realized that it was a time to start "a peace and love movement". He then ran naked around the house, attempted to get Kruschev and Kennedy on the telephone and announced to the operator that he was God."
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shimishimiman
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Re: Trouble moving on [Re: Zardos]
#14238264 - 04/04/11 08:08 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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you'll never get over her dude. every time you think about her you will always be left with the painful memory of rejection. all you can do is move on and try other things. i have been through similar shit and i have done everything in the book to get over "the one that got away," but no matter what you do you will never be able to erase that shit. just keep your life going and eventually you will learn to cope with it.
beautiful naked women that want your cock are all over the place - you've just got to find out where.
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Do everything you didnt do when you were seeing her. Have hobbies. See old friends. Do whatever you want because you're FREE.
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dshow
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you'll never get over her dude. every time you think about her you will always be left with the painful memory of rejection. all you can do is move on and try other things. i have been through similar shit and i have done everything in the book to get over "the one that got away," but no matter what you do you will never be able to erase that shit. just keep your life going and eventually you will learn to cope with it.
wow yea.. op just move on. put it in the past and live a better life.
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Re: Trouble moving on [Re: dshow]
#14240378 - 04/05/11 06:14 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Get a telemarketing job, fucking works like magic.
How I know? I just broke up with my fiancee the day before my first day at a new job. Charity call center. Mate, its not a very fun job, but it feels better then thinking about your ex non stop. I talked to about 600 people today and I dont have the mental capacity think about mine right now.
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irie.one
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You have to find a way to think back on your relationship and view it in a positive light. There are two ways you can do it: Look back and get sad, or look back and see how the relationship has helped you grow.
Re-connecting with your pre-relationship identity can do great things to make you feel better about being single.
The concept of acceptance is a big one here too; if you're stuck in the past you'll never move forward and if you're stuck thinking about the future you'll never enjoy the present. The present moment is the most important one, if you learn to live in it you'll find you are able to appreciate life so much more. The present moment for all intents and purposes only involves you and nobody from the past is in your present moment. Try to think about it like that, if you can...
Love is an amazing, fucked up thing. For me it was more amazing than fucked up and those are the moments I focus on when thinking about my last relationship, and that I'm so much better off with the freedom to choose my life's path.
Good luck man, I know how you feel and I've even had the relapse you mentioned, it sneaks up out of nowhere and is frustrating when you think you've moved on successfully. But that will pass too, in a few years she'll just be another special memory from a different phase of your life.
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JesusGoneRogue


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Re: Trouble moving on [Re: irie.one]
#14242431 - 04/05/11 03:14 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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hearbreak hurts. bad. but you know what you have to do? same thing i did.
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JonnyOneNut
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Re: Trouble moving on [Re: irie.one]
#14242851 - 04/05/11 04:42 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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irie.one said: You have to find a way to think back on your relationship and view it in a positive light. There are two ways you can do it: Look back and get sad, or look back and see how the relationship has helped you grow.
Re-connecting with your pre-relationship identity can do great things to make you feel better about being single.
The concept of acceptance is a big one here too; if you're stuck in the past you'll never move forward and if you're stuck thinking about the future you'll never enjoy the present. The present moment is the most important one, if you learn to live in it you'll find you are able to appreciate life so much more. The present moment for all intents and purposes only involves you and nobody from the past is in your present moment. Try to think about it like that, if you can...
Love is an amazing, fucked up thing. For me it was more amazing than fucked up and those are the moments I focus on when thinking about my last relationship, and that I'm so much better off with the freedom to choose my life's path.
Good luck man, I know how you feel and I've even had the relapse you mentioned, it sneaks up out of nowhere and is frustrating when you think you've moved on successfully. But that will pass too, in a few years she'll just be another special memory from a different phase of your life.
That is some solid, helpful advice. thanks
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