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#14235781 - 04/04/11 11:53 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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So I met this girl and we hit it off super well. Spent about 40 hours together the last 2 days. I have a problem where I become attached extremely quick. I like to sayy good morning and good night and talk throughout the day. How can I avoid being clingy? Like when were together she's in love with me but I feel like I ruin my relationships " in between " our face to face meetings. I really really like this girl and don't wanna screw it up, it sucks because I feel like our relationship is on a swivel for some reason, guess that's just my awesome self esteem kicking in.
-------------------- koods said: Young male going by the name "Bassfreak" entered Worcester General complaining of a sharp pain in his buttock region after attending EDM event. Attending physician considered a possible diagnosis of acute rave anus, but upon further investigation it was determined there was nothing cute about patient's anus. Life-long trip report
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Re: clingyness [Re: pfxtc]
#14235789 - 04/04/11 11:55 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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just make sure to still spend time with the other people u normally spend time with and do the other things you normally do.... not saying shut her out, just make sure to balance the time you spend with her and the time you spend without her.... dont want to smother the flame before its lit and all
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Well we only see each other once a week because she's an hour away so I guess I try to overcompensate by talking. I do it with good intetions lol.
-------------------- koods said: Young male going by the name "Bassfreak" entered Worcester General complaining of a sharp pain in his buttock region after attending EDM event. Attending physician considered a possible diagnosis of acute rave anus, but upon further investigation it was determined there was nothing cute about patient's anus. Life-long trip report
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Re: clingyness [Re: pfxtc]
#14235814 - 04/04/11 11:59 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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i understand... im the same way when i first start dating a girl (even though that hasnt happened in forever... been in this relationship on and off for the better part of a decade)...
just make sure she as into the frequency of interaction as you are and its cool.... make sure she knows shes still free etc. and shell want to not be even more ... if that makes any sense
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Re: clingyness [Re: pfxtc]
#14235833 - 04/04/11 12:03 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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be yourself. don't change for anyone. do not inhibit your natural inclinations for her approval.
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badlydrawnboy said: be yourself. don't change for anyone. do not inhibit your natural inclinations for her approval.
thats how i feel about it
she made me so sad yesterday lol, i asked if she wanted to come on a road trip to see my family for the weekend and she's like "oh yeah I'd love to go.. but i dont want it to be weird"
so i tell her they'd love to meet her and it wouldn't be weird at all,
then she's like "no i don't wanna go"
damn playing with me 
sorry im venting
-------------------- koods said: Young male going by the name "Bassfreak" entered Worcester General complaining of a sharp pain in his buttock region after attending EDM event. Attending physician considered a possible diagnosis of acute rave anus, but upon further investigation it was determined there was nothing cute about patient's anus. Life-long trip report
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Wait for her to hit you up. If shes doesnt maybe she doesnt want to talk so often?
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yeah i've tried that before
usually ends up that our relationship ends 
problem is most girls i date demand that i make the initial move, whether it be talking, planning a date, or especially sexual advances.
it's a lotta work
-------------------- koods said: Young male going by the name "Bassfreak" entered Worcester General complaining of a sharp pain in his buttock region after attending EDM event. Attending physician considered a possible diagnosis of acute rave anus, but upon further investigation it was determined there was nothing cute about patient's anus. Life-long trip report
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Re: clingyness [Re: pfxtc]
#14236228 - 04/04/11 01:48 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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if she doesnt respond for awhile then hit her up. Doing it all the time can be annoying.
But some girls are attention whores and love you txting them all the time.
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badlydrawnboy said: be yourself. don't change for anyone. do not inhibit your natural inclinations for her approval.
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i think in a long distance situation it's important to keep the momentum going through cute texts and emails and stuff.
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badlydrawnboy said: be yourself. don't change for anyone. do not inhibit your natural inclinations for her approval.
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i think in a long distance situation it's important to keep the momentum going through cute texts and emails and stuff.
Definitely need to keep in contact. Because if you aren't there in person and you aren't talking, well you just aren't there.
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yeah its working well today
she seems genuinely interested to keep the conversation
we're talking through 3 different mediums
-------------------- koods said: Young male going by the name "Bassfreak" entered Worcester General complaining of a sharp pain in his buttock region after attending EDM event. Attending physician considered a possible diagnosis of acute rave anus, but upon further investigation it was determined there was nothing cute about patient's anus. Life-long trip report
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Re: clingyness [Re: pfxtc]
#14240955 - 04/05/11 09:59 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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For me, it was never the clingyness that worried me. It was what the clingyness implies. It usually means that they're batshit crazy/have nothing going on in their lives.
If you're not batshit crazy and you actually have a healthy life OUTSIDE of her, then you should be fine.
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ahh that makes sense
i think im just worried because i dont want her to confuse my enoyment i guess from talking to her with like.. needing her, or something
we talked about 5 hours straight last night though
-------------------- koods said: Young male going by the name "Bassfreak" entered Worcester General complaining of a sharp pain in his buttock region after attending EDM event. Attending physician considered a possible diagnosis of acute rave anus, but upon further investigation it was determined there was nothing cute about patient's anus. Life-long trip report
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