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OfflineAnthony917
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Friends and girlfriends :facepalm:
    #14229334 - 04/03/11 12:36 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Okay, so two of my best friends are in very similar situations.

Friend #1 - He has NEVER had a girlfriend before his current one. He is 21 years old, very successful college student studying quantitative managerial economics (that's a fucking mouthful). He works at a bank, makes a lot of money, drives a sick mercedes...and is basically going to be the most successful person I've ever met.
Anyway, his girlfriend is a cheerleader at his university, and although I've only met her once, I already know what type of girl she is. Fake tanned, ditsy, only with him for his money type of girl. The problem is that since this is my friends FIRST girlfriend, he is absolutely CONSUMED by it. They have been together for less than 3 months, and he is already moving in with her!! :facepalm:
I already KNOW that this relationship is going to crash and burn, and he's going to be out the ass for $$ considering all the furniture he's bought & rent he will have to pay. Ugh, I want to try and talk some sense into him, but I know that he's already too wrapped up by her, and won't realize what I want him to until it's too late...

Friend #2 - Ok this is the tricky one. He is pretty much my best and closest friend. He's currently dating this girl who he works with, and they've been together for almost 6 months. She's 20, and has a 2 year old daughter. I actually kind of like her, too. She's really nice,cute, smokes weed, likes to chill & watch movies, all that good shit. Anyway, I've heard my friend say a couple times that he think "she's the one..."
My friend has been single for a while, at least, for as long as I've been friends with him he's been single, so, like friend #1, he is VERY consumed by this relationship. We used to hang out a couple times a week, and recently he's been a ghost. I've seen him once in the past week. I don't really have any issue with him spending a lot of time with her, but he told me that he's going to move in with her!! :facepalm::facepalm:

I think this is a horrible idea! They've been together for such a short period of time, AND they work together. I don't think he realizes what it's going to be like to wake up with her, go to work with her, and come home with her EVERY DAY. People get sick and tired of each other when they don't have time apart, and I don't want to see my friend get fucked over.
I just think they're taking the relationship WAY too fast. He's talking like he wants to marry this girl!
The father to her daughter is basically non-existent, which is good...but what happens in a few years when the father decides he wants to see his daughter? Ugh, I just see so many problems arising...

I used to live with my ex, so I'm speaking from a bit of experience here.


What should I do?? I want to talk to my friends and try and talk them out of their pre-mature decisions, but I don't want them to think I'm trying to insult them! I honestly think that both relationships are destined for failure on their current paths, and I don't want to see my friends get hurt and fucked. How do I tell them that they're retards without being condescending and rude??


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Anthony917]
    #14229391 - 04/03/11 12:47 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Sounds like you have already made your mistakes now its there turn but tell them all this so you can say i told you so when there shit comes crashing down:shakefist:

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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: stuntmanmike] * 1
    #14229397 - 04/03/11 12:48 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

nothing teaches a person like experience.

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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: stuntmanmike]
    #14229401 - 04/03/11 12:49 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Well they are young aren`t they? Let them have fun :laugh: They will probably get sick of each other after a year or so :laugh: The guy with money will realise he spent waay to much with that chick, and the other one might consider leaving his current job . :heart:


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Anthony917]
    #14229402 - 04/03/11 12:49 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

mind your own business its clear you aint no ron jeremy yourself so let people live


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Damkina]
    #14229436 - 04/03/11 12:59 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

No they aren't young, you're right, but they are young in terms of dating years...you know? They are both very inexperienced with the ladies...
I guess I normally wouldn't say anything but in the case of friend #2, it's not like he's got a lot of cash, you know? I don't want to see him move into an apartment with this girl only to have it explode in his face, and have him stuck somewhere and working with her...

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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Anthony917]
    #14229443 - 04/03/11 01:00 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

u can only help someone if they want help

live and let live


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Anthony917]
    #14229452 - 04/03/11 01:02 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

how is there life going to be any worse than if they didn't move in with these hos?


where is your sense of humor

what if there shit is all together and these hos are damn fine hos for life and they are happy ever after

there are too many problems in the world for you to fret about your boys relation to pussy


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Anthony917]
    #14229456 - 04/03/11 01:02 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Oh well we all screw it up sometime with ladies.. Most of us do it in teenage ..around highschool. Remember messing with girls smoking one little spliff of weed and doing all sorts of troubles :smile:) You can`t force them. As a friend,it is your duty to warn them about the dangers,and let them decide. If they will give it a try,support them :tongue2:


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: pfxtc]
    #14229461 - 04/03/11 01:03 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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pfxtc said:
u can only help someone if they want help

live and let live





Its true. One of my friends was concerned about my ex girla and I. He said that girl is probably going to break your heart and crush your soul. And wouldnt you know it... he was right.

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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: stuntmanmike]
    #14229467 - 04/03/11 01:04 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

The only thing you can do is talk to them about it. Now just bringing it up bluntly will not work. You can only influence a conversation in that direction and then ask questions that work in the same way. And that way is to lead them to look and question there situation. It sounds manipulative and I guess it is but you really have no way to break someone apart. You can only subtly bring up ideas that make the person think for there own good.

Now the problem you have is what is, for there own good? You might now one of them "well" but you only have an observational knowledge of the other(talking about #1 here). I have friends that I have known for over 20 years. No way in hell could I tell them that bitch is bad and run. I mean unless there where other facts cheating talking behind his back kind of thing. Do you really know what is going on behind closed doors aside from sex?

With number two, you have no idea how two people can actually coexist through work and home 100% of the time. I lived with my ex, so I speak from experience. I also worked with my wife for a long time, then later in I carpooled and had lunch with her all the time. I f you actually love someone being around them does not suck. Yeah I get annoyed with my wife once and a while but it is nothing sobriety or a moment apart can't fix.

Don't try and be cupid.com

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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Cherk]
    #14229481 - 04/03/11 01:06 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

good thing you posted before saying anything. do everyone a favor and keep it to yourself. watch it crash and burn and they'll all learn and then they'll be on your level. until then, let them make their mistakes. life goes on. be there for them.


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: 4runner]
    #14229492 - 04/03/11 01:08 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

I don't know about your buddies and their collective situations but it's not always bad to move in together quickly when you're in a solid, well-connected, trusting, mutually benefitting, and truly loving relationship even after only 3-6 months. I know people who moved in together rather quickly and ended up being together for 10+ years, got married and had children...so it depends on the people the most if you ask me...

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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: thelivingfreekshow]
    #14229493 - 04/03/11 01:08 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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thelivingfreekshow said:
nothing teaches a person like experience.




This. EXACTLY.

I don't think theirs anything wrong with telling him your opinions, but if he disagrees, let him be, let him come to his own conclusions, personally, when I make a decisions with someone else input, I tend to think "but..but if he was wrong...but if."


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Anthony917]
    #14229510 - 04/03/11 01:13 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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Friend #1 - He has NEVER had a girlfriend before his current one. He is 21 years old, very successful college student studying quantitative managerial economics (that's a fucking mouthful). He works at a bank, makes a lot of money, drives a sick mercedes...and is basically going to be the most successful person I've ever met.
Anyway, his girlfriend is a cheerleader at his university, and although I've only met her once, I already know what type of girl she is. Fake tanned, ditsy, only with him for his money type of girl.




Seems like a good match to me...

Friend #1 works in a fake bank for it's money, and girl is fake tanned, and only into him for the money.

Match made in Satan's eternal fires!


PS: You never know, some people really like spending most of their time with their lady, like me. 

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You're projecting negative vibes! your fearful invocations could be something that manifests in your friends' consciousness and subliminally alters their relationship.

In other words, be mindful of the effect your thoughts can have when projected on your friends. 


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: 4runner]
    #14229521 - 04/03/11 01:15 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

anunnakian said:
The only thing you can do is talk to them about it. Now just bringing it up bluntly will not work. You can only influence a conversation in that direction and then ask questions that work in the same way. And that way is to lead them to look and question there situation. It sounds manipulative and I guess it is but you really have no way to break someone apart. You can only subtly bring up ideas that make the person think for there own good.

Now the problem you have is what is, for there own good? You might now one of them "well" but you only have an observational knowledge of the other(talking about #1 here). I have friends that I have known for over 20 years. No way in hell could I tell them that bitch is bad and run. I mean unless there where other facts cheating talking behind his back kind of thing. Do you really know what is going on behind closed doors aside from sex?

With number two, you have no idea how two people can actually coexist through work and home 100% of the time. I lived with my ex, so I speak from experience. I also worked with my wife for a long time, then later in I carpooled and had lunch with her all the time. I f you actually love someone being around them does not suck. Yeah I get annoyed with my wife once and a while but it is nothing sobriety or a moment apart can't fix.

Don't try and be cupid.com





See, I guess I've just been in his shoes before...and you're very right, I don't know what goes on behind closed doors. I base what I say off of what I've seen of them, and how they interact with each other. If you're 22 and you've been with a chick for 4 months do you think you would be ready to marry her? You just don't actually KNOW a person until you've at least spent some time living together. And who really knows her intentions? She's a single mom, she's really poor...you know she could be hella manipulative idk. Women are tricky bastards.

I'm not gonna try and talk him out of the relationship or anything, but I feel someone needs to talk a little sense into him.


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Friend #1 - He has NEVER had a girlfriend before his current one. He is 21 years old, very successful college student studying quantitative managerial economics (that's a fucking mouthful). He works at a bank, makes a lot of money, drives a sick mercedes...and is basically going to be the most successful person I've ever met.
Anyway, his girlfriend is a cheerleader at his university, and although I've only met her once, I already know what type of girl she is. Fake tanned, ditsy, only with him for his money type of girl.




Seems like a good match to me...

Friend #1 works in a fake bank for it's money, and girl is fake tanned, and only into him for the money.

Match made in Satan's eternal fires!


PS: You never know, some people really like spending most of their time with their lady, like me. 

R U JEALOUS?!!






Hahah, I'm glad someone else sees it like that.

PS: I know, I'm not complaining but yeah he's my best bud and we always chill so it's a little lame.


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Edited by Anthony917 (04/03/11 01:17 AM)

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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: chopstick]
    #14229526 - 04/03/11 01:17 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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I don't know about your buddies and their collective situations but it's not always bad to move in together quickly when you're in a solid, well-connected, trusting, mutually benefitting, and truly loving relationship even after only 3-6 months. I know people who moved in together rather quickly and ended up being together for 10+ years, got married and had children...so it depends on the people the most if you ask me...





I don't think you meant to quote me but I knew my know wife for less than 6 months before we moved to Oregon and leave leave California to start our new life. Best decision we ever made 7+ years ago, 6 years married in a few days. Less fights than I have on one hand. Only once did we not sleep in the same bed from one of those fights.

Granted my good friends drilled my now wife back then. With questions you sickos...

Ya just never know how something will turn out. All relationships are a gamble. The only way to never cry for pussy is to actually cry for it a few times. Learn some mistakes. Experience pain, love, heartbreak.

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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Anthony917]
    #14229540 - 04/03/11 01:22 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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Anthony917 said:And who really knows her intentions? She's a single mom, she's really poor...you know she could be hella manipulative idk. Women are tricky bastards.




I won't disagree, but some black car jack people. :shrug:


I had something else to say but that edit you made really screwed me up when I was trying to quote a small section. So stoned and sick I jumped a mental track.

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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: Anthony917]
    #14229547 - 04/03/11 01:24 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prenuptial_agreement

tell him to go for it just in case


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Re: Friends and girlfriends :facepalm: [Re: dummy]
    #14229597 - 04/03/11 01:39 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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dummy said:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prenuptial_agreement

tell him to go for it just in case



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